Struggling to conceive No.2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[Metalhead]

Still here, still struggling on, still hoping to get there in the end. Come on ladies, we'll all get our BFPs in 2015 (if not before)!

Just thought I'd pop on to see how everyone is doing. Thanks for your kind words ladies. I still want another baby so much but I just can't bear going through it all again! OH won't agree to give up but I've told him I'm not monitoring my cycle & will not be telling him when right time! At the back of my mind hoping that we have sex randomly because we both want to & it happens to be in my fertile window! Highly unlikely though.

I'm having the mother of all periods too! So heavy, well more heavy than normal! Thought maybe my body is having a good clear out, probably needed it. Didnt start properly on Boxing Day like I should & boobs were still really so of course I got stupid ideas in my head that I was pregnant grrr!

lovemyboy good luck

Crispie good luck too & hopefully not the menopause.

Af got me today! Grrrrr!!! Xx

Oh no -sorry crispie. Rubbish news. x

Thanks littlelittle. I was expecting it. The longer cycle would tie in with the fact I only ovulated two weeks ago so guess cycle still working fine if a bit variable.

Ps I love lindor too!!

(I've just finished the rest of the box)

My cycle was a bit odd and long this month too. I'm glad I do test for ov because otherwise I'd think I was due on today and would have my head in a spin. But actually, I'm only 7dpo according to the sticks so I know I don't have to think about it just yet. No idea why I ov-d a week late, but never mind. Just another of the joys of ttc. Hope you're doing OK. Even when I know I can't be pregnant, there's still something particularly mistake about the days around af. Have a lovely new years eve blow out and make the most of still being able to drink. x

Af got me too. Gutted as we managed SMEP this month which was hard work. It also makes checking CM almost impossible as there's always jism everywhere!!

Sorry to hear that goodegg! Though lol at jism!

We std about 10 or 11 times so feel a bit gutted but I did at least enjoy it this month.Previous month it felt like a bit of an effort!

Hi ladies, I haven't been on for a little while as I'm trying to chill out this month, which so far seems to be working! It's only CD7 though.

bobsy I'm sorry you feel like giving up,but I can see where you're coming from and I think at least having a break from it all will be good for you. Who knows, maybe in a few months time you'll feel like giving it another go, and hopefully things will get better between you and DH.

My poor SIL came round last night pretty shaken up as she had to deliver a stillborn baby at the hospital where she works. Just makes you appreciate what you have when you hear things like that. I honestly think I'd rather never get pregnant again than have to go through that.

I didnt really want to end the year on such a downer though, so let's hope that 2015 is our year and we all get our BFPs and healthy babies at the end of it! Happy New Years Eve everyone!

Happy new year to you metal and everyone else :)

Your poor SIL I sadly had a friend who had a stillborn at 37 weeks when I was pregnant with DS it is horrific and made me appreciate all the good things in my life also.

Bobby I'm so sorry to hear your down, I hope you get some peace with whatever decisions you make very soon.

Hope you don't me still lurking here? I want to hear all your good news when it comes x

Hello guys. Sorry for the rubbish news goodegg. Hopefully smep will pay off soon, despite its... erm...shall we say technical issues?! I think it's pretty much what we do most months (so I know where you're....erm...coming from), and I'm still hopeful it'll work out one day. Don't think this is my month though because I've got hideous pmt ahead of the inevitable. Ah well. On a happy note though after metal's poor sil's day, my friend who had a stillbirth at 8 mths last year is just about to give birth to the result of her second pregnancy and all appears to be perfectly well. Thank goodness. Must have been a terrifying 9 months though.

Anyway, happy new year to you all and here's to a new year full of healthy, successful pregnancies all round. x

Happy New Year everyone hope its a good one for you all & brings you all your BFP's.

Thanks Metal & loves I'm certain that giving up is the right thing to do even though I still want a baby so much.

We've just moved house & it has been so stressful more stressful than I could have imagined, far more stressful than when I've moved before & that was bad enough.

Oh metal your poor SIL, I can't imagine what that must be like to go through and it does make you appreciate what you have.

sorry the af showed up fir you ladies. im due af on 4th, no symptoms for it yet but that doesnt mean alot as it was late 5 dayslst month. xx happy new year ladies. onwards with bfps. xxx

Hi everyone, I'm still lurking in the back ground and catching up with you all.
Happy New Year to you all!
loves and New just wanted to say a MASSIVE congratulations to you both!! I am so so pleased for you, I hope you both have a totally unremarkable nine months! How are you both feeling? I joined the July ante-natal thread for a bit but have had to step away from the pregnancy and month club pages as they were not helping with my anxiety levels, which have been at an all time high these past few weeks. Don't blame you for not wanting to go near those threads! I've just been taking each day as it comes and appreciating getting to the end of another day unscathed.
metal I hope this year brings you so much more than 2014 did, you sure do deserve that BFP after all you have been through. I'm confident this will be your year
Bobsy I am so sorry lovely you are still feeling so shitty about the whole thing, and still not getting much help from DH. On top of moving house as well!! I think giving up, while it may not be exactly what you want and what you had hoped for, sounds like a pretty sensible idea, if only for a month or two just to give yourself a break and try and let your body and mind have a rest. Maybe take up a new hobby or exercise class? hopefully a bit of refreshment will be just what you need.
Hi to everyone else, looking forward to seeing more bfps rolling in!

2ww has begun. This is last time of trying then I am calling it a day on TTC.

Hi ginger, glad to hear you're ok and everything's going well so far! How long until your 12-week scan?

Fx for you poco that this is your month.

Oh poco -hope this is your month. Well, and the rest of us. I'm getting pretty bored of this ttc lark. But then I'm in the limbo bit I hate the most where its a day or two too early to test but I'm 99% certain all my 'symptoms' are just regular old pmt. So most of me is miserable and despairing that I can't believe it hasn't happened yet again, but there's still that annoying optimistic 1% chirping in my ear ready to get all miserable and despairing again in a couple of days time when the 99%part gets proved right. Grrr. Actually, this month for a change I don't have any pregnancy symptoms at all, just regular sore boobs, grumpy mood and night sweats. Not like last month when I had funny taste and smell, cramps and peeing a lot and then still wasn't pregnant. Frankly its all just bollocks!

Ginger good to hear from you & glad you are well. I'm not having a short break from TTC it's a permanent break. I'm sad about it still I can't switch off wanting another baby & I'm hoping that we'll have a random night of passion & I'll get pregnant! I can dream can't I! I do believe everything happens for a reason & I'm probably not meant to have another & if I was it would happen. I just need to find a way to deal with it & stop the jealous I feel towards friebds & family who have got pg with their second so easily!

It's a good job I didn't get pregnant with the stress if the move & all the lifting involved. It's taken us 6 days to move & it's been stressful & emotional! Not strictly our choice to move but were better off where we are just need to get unpacked! Who knew you could collect so much kitchenware & equipment not to mention all the other stuff! We'd kept all DD's baby stuff as we assumed we'd have another & I'm not ready to let it all to yet.

We spent all yesterday collecting the rest of the stuff from the old house & didn't get finished till gone 9 so great New Years Day! Upsetting leaving the house for the last time!

Littlepoot good luck, I used to get all those same feelings, hopefully this will be your month.

glad you are getting on ok ginger.
Im cd35 and am due on today. no sign of af and not a symptom in sight of her arrival.
I have dry patches of skin on back which I had with previous pregnancy and Im dure my boobs look bigger. I was sick xmas eve all of sudden just once and have had heartburn ever since. I so know im getting hopes up here and that af will prob arrive in few days but im gonns give it till wed and poas if can hold off.

Hang on a minute love, you're telling me you're due on bit with no af, showing some pregnancy symptoms but still not planning to poas until Wednesday?! Wow! You have better willpower than me, that's for sure. I've started pre af spotting but still poas this morning, just to be sure! Can't have those damned sticks in the house without having to pee on them. I'm the same with chocolate (although obvs easy that not pee on it). Sounds exciting! Will keep everything crossed (but please don't make me wait until Wednesday!)

God, excuse the phone induced typos. Hope that still makes sense. Just to be absolutely clear, I eat chocolate and pee on sticks. Not the other way round.

Hello! I just came across this thread and it pretty much sums up my situation. I have a 2.5 year old son, and we started ttc #2 when he was 1. So it's been about 18 months and I've not had the slightest whiff of a bfp!! So frustrating. I've had various tests, but no problems identified - other than the fact that I am 44!! Anyway, it's nice to find a group of people in the same boat as I feel like I need to share and support a bit this year. Thanks.

little if I has any sticks to po then my will power probably not as good but I dont have any and thought I would try and wait for a def missed period as I was 5 days late last month. I was having cramping before hand though for quite a while then had painfull clotty short period. wondered if I may have had an early miscairrage. who knows. Your poas and chocolate habbit made me lol. def cheered me up funniest yhing I heard all weekend.
Welcome to the mad housejoey38.

Dropping back in to let you know I had BFP this morning, can't believe it! I did the 10 day nutriblast fertility plan, whether that made the difference or not I have no idea! natural-fertility-info.com/the-10-day-fertility-smoothie-challenge.html
Good luck to everyone and Bobsy I hope things get better soon xxx

wow chendy78 thats fab news. keep us poated how you get on and when your due etc. fingers x for you hun. x
I day 37 still no sign of af...

Congratulations CHendy, I hope you have a happy, healthy 9 months!

And lovemy, I probably would have raided every pharmacy within a 10-mile radius for a pee stick by now! Fx you'll get your BFP on Wednesday.

Welcome joey, you'll find lots of support on here and hopefully you won't have to hang around for too long.

We had a nightmare yesterday coming back from our holiday, some idiot took one of our suitcases by mistake, and of course it was the one with all of DD's things in! All her best clothes, her Gro Clock, most of her brand-new Barbies and her Anna dress - gone! It doesn't look like he'll bother returning it as we haven't heard anything from the airport today, so we'll have to go out and buy everything again. I felt so bad for DD I nearly cried, but she's been really good about it, bless her. DH and I are also trying to stay positive, after all it is only things that can be replaced, but it is very annoying.

Anyway, we started dtd last night, CD10. I'm planning on just doing every other day for the next two weeks and not track ov, (I'm pretty certain I'll know anyway when the egg has popped) and I've decided to take a more relaxed approach this year as I don't really expect it to happen anymore, so might as well stop torturing myself by obsessing over it.