Struggling to conceive No.2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[Metalhead]

Still here, still struggling on, still hoping to get there in the end. Come on ladies, we'll all get our BFPs in 2015 (if not before)!

Thanks all! Trying not to pee on all the sticks in the world.

Metalhead, you definitely deserve some .

Jassy-I struggle not to pee on all the sticks in the world when its negative so good luck with that one! I can't remember your stats -have you been trying very long? If you're actually 25 and only been trying 2 months, then could you make something up so we all feel a bit better?!

Metal - I'm having a downer too. I blame the weather. I've been pretty down on everything the past few weeks which isn't really like me. We've all had a run of viruses too which doesn't help. I would say roll on spring, but my birthday which must not be mentioned is early March. Actually, that's probably what's bringing me down -the imminent end of my thirties and entering the decade of minimal fertility..... Hmph.

Hey all I have an unopened pack of the clear blue dual hormone ovulation kit with twenty sticks. Happy to post to anyone that would use it.

Hey crispie. If that's one where you just use the sticks on their own rather than needing any extra kit then I'd happily take them off your hands. How are you doing? x

Yeah its a kit in itself so you don't need anything else! Want to pm me your address? I'm good. 7 weeks now and hanging in there. Tempted by an early scan!!

Thanks! I'll do that. I'd also be tempted by an early scan. I had two (on the NHS given my previous history) with ds-8 weeks and 10 weeks. Kept the stress levels slightly lower for sure.

Welcome Tweej, Brindler and Oneconfusedchick but sorry you've ended up here.

Congratulations Jassy, what wonderful news. Did you do anything differently this cycle which you feel may have helped?

I think you should just do anything that might help keep your stress level down Crispie and Jassy. I had early scans too with DS due to having some heavy bleeds and it definitely helped to keep the emotions manageable.

I hope you're all doing ok Metal, Little and CHendy.
I went to the gym on Tuesday for the first time in months, I kind of let it go thinking I would be pregnant at some time soon , and totally threw myself into it, I really enjoyed it and feel so much better about myself already. Only problem is my fitness had deteriorated so much that I spent Wednesday and Thursday walking like John Wayne, had to keep sending my colleague to the printer for me .
Cd 14 here so expecting to ov next weekend. Have got on the SMEP again this month a it stops DH knowing when ov is so we don't have the performance anxiety issue. Xx

What's SMEP goodegg? I'm not due to ov till next weekend so will be joining metal with a big fat or three tonight. Hoping stress levels will come down this week as it's half term and going to try being all zen and go with the flow...... see how long that lasts!!!!!
Goodegg the gym is very impressive, in my efforts I bought a yoga dvd. It's still in the cellophane. Woops

It's sperm meets egg plan. You basically dtd every other day until you ov then do 3 days in a row, miss a day and then do one more day. We have done it the past couple of months. It hasn't worked to get me preg obviously but DH was having trouble finishing when he felt under pressure as he knew I was OVing so it's better if we just dtd all the time.

Lol at the unopened yoga DVD. I have a Pilates one still in the cellophane. It is really hard to get yourself to do it the first time but I feel so good about myself afterwards it helps with carrying on.
Like lots of us I'm sure I put off so many things thinking I was going to be pregnant quickly and I've decided its time to put a stop to it.

Hi

Also new here :(. I have not been on the pill for almost 3 years and we have been AT for almost 18 months. We have a DS who will be 6 in March and I feel that if it doesn't happen soon its never going to happen.
I feel more reassured having found this thread, as I didn't realise that people could struggle TTC with no 2.

Hi and welcome brandon, but sorry to hear your situation. You've come to the right place for some sympathy, empathy and a good rant....

We have tried the smep for three months with no success either. Found it really hard to stick to, really exhausting so inevitably missed a day each month we tried. Attempting a quality rather than quantity approach this month. Got an appointment with consultant who delivered my little girl in March. She specialises in infertility too so it will be good to get the ball rolling and see what's happening. Spent day with three kids under three and loved it. Really want another baba. How's everyone else getting on x

Ha! I'm 37 and counting it all up it was 10 months, but we had a couple of months off and the first couple of months we didn't perhaps apply ourselves as much as we should have done.

So not hugely long, but enough to make me paranoid about being past it after DS was super quick.

Not sure if we did anything different but I'd say we enjoyed ourselves a bit more. Post-Christmas, a bit less stress maybe? Don't really know. Sex every other day (every day for 2 days up to ovulation and day of likely ovulation).

Crossing my fingers for everyone else. And buying tests like they're going out of fashions while still feeling pessimistic about everything that can still go wrong..

How is everyone on this dreary Monday morning? I'm slowly but surely losing it again, CD20 and still no +opk... the last two days I've had pretty dark lines so it shouldn't be too much longer, but I'm just so pissed off that this month seems to be shaping up to be another long cycle! The soy is clearly doing fuck all for me (if anything it's probably delayed ov this month), and as for the acupuncture I think I'll knock that on the head too, after all it's bloody expensive and what have I got to show for it?!

Maybe we should just save up for our one and only shot at IVF now, get it over with and if it doesn't work we can give up and move on...

I'm definitely in the quality over quantity camp tweej! SMEP was just too much for us, especially the 3 days in a row bit.

Ah Metal, I know, I shudder to think how much I've spent on vitamins, opks, pregnancy tests etc. CD 7 here and have enjoyed my week off baby making, planning, worrying etc. Gonna embrace a new less focused baby plan this month and try have a life too. Not sure how it will go but fingers crossed. So sex eod starting cd 11-20ish. Any thoughts?

Sorry to hear you are having an off day Metal, this ttc lark is a nightmare. I found last cycle very hard. Found myself sitting on the IPad googling every, sign, symptom etc and actually driving myself crazy. Not healthy.

Hope you feel better

Afternoon all...

Sorry you're feeling low Metal, this weather doesn't help does it?

We are now officially on the medical bandwagon, which sucks. Because we are stupidly competitive we are determined to get me knocked up before any results roll in...

I've tried a low dose of soy this month and will be starting on the opks tonight, though that's precautionary as me and Huzz will be apart over the weekend so I want to make sure we don't miss the window of opportunity.

The doc told me this morning that we ought to try to have sex around ovulation. No, really?

"we ought to try to have sex around ovulation" - d'oh, so that's where we've all been going wrong!

I tried the relaxed approach last month tweej - no opks, no temping, just sex eod - but it didn't really work for me, I just worried about whether I'd missed ov!

I've got ov pains now so should probably dtd tonight (despite -opk this morning), but really don't feel in the mood...

I've had a horrible day. On cd32. Not gone beyond cd29 in over a year so of course absolutely convinced myself (once again) that we'd finally done it. I must have gone to the loo about 30 times today to keep checking if af had arrived.

Caved in after work and brought a test. BFN. Beyond gutted. Again.

Sorry about your BFN brindler, that really sucks.

Sorry Brindler and Metal that you're having rough times. I am concentrating on fact I had a brilliant day with DS and if he's all I have then I'm still so incredibly blessed. I think it's the lack of control element that's so hard to take. One of my best friends tried for 4 years and eventually had her boy via IVF. She and her husband are still using contraception, and I couldn't understand why at first, but she said she couldn't go back to being the person who couldn't get pregnant again, and even if they weren't trying, if she wasn't on the pill she'd always be wondering. I get it now, it takes over everything, and as much as you try to put it out of your head it's impossible. I think DH and I need to put a time limit on it and if it doesn't happen then back on the pill and move on- I want a new job etc but at the moment I can't because I think no, you need maternity pay, but having life on pause indefinitely is not good. Am feeling philosophical ladies- probably the half bottle of prosecco I've chugged this evening. ... (not ov till next wknd!) X

Sorry about the BFN Brindler, why do our bodies play these cruel tricks?!?

Feeling good this month. Got appointment with consultant on Thursday which has actually come round quite quickly and I'm looking forward to so i can ask a real person some questions and hopefully get some proper answers.

Also found out I got the job I wanted as part of the re-structure at work so excited to get stared with that in a couple of months.

Having fun and games potty training DS at the mo, he's totally got the hang of it when he's naked but as soon as he's got something on his bottom half it all goes out the window for some reason. I've tried pants and just loose shorts or joggers but nope.

Pancakes all round tonight??

Still no sign of ov here, CD 22 now...

Good luck with your appointment tomorrow goodegg, let us know how you get on.

Great news about your swift appointment GoodEgg - hope it goes well. I'll be really interested if they say anything new. I keep wondering whether it's worth a trip to London to make an appointment with a more research based consultant (privately, obviously) - my consultant here was very clinical, and essentially fixed to the idea that IVF is the only intervention worth trying. Sorry about the ups and downs for everyone else and hope you ovulated eventually metal. I thought soy could delay ovulation, or am I remembering it wrong? Might be a good sign that it's having some effect? Fingers crossed anyway. I think I probably ovd yesterday or maybe even today based on stick positive on Monday, so will soon be back in the 2ww. DH is away next week (rearranged from this week as I had a feeling this would be the week of dtd) so that should keep my mind a bit occupied (as in I'll be so busy running round for 7 days doing work and childcare all alone that I hopefully won't have time to dwell on much else), but you can count on me being loopy end of Feb/early March. AF probably due on my 40th birthday, which is a kick in the teeth to look forward to on all counts!

So, to counteract the feeling of being stuck in this never ending rut, I've taken the decision to apply for a new job that's come up near me - a high powered promotion type job. Part of me is thinking 'but what if you get pregnant?' - as in, I wouldn't get mat pay if I hadn't been there long. But the other part of me thinks it's win-win - if I get pregnant, the extra salary in the meantime can be saved up to cover some mat leave and fuck it - if that's what it takes to get me pregnant then it's a risk I'm happy to take! At first, I was just thinking I should apply because its relevant and I could do the job, but I wasn't all that bothered. But now I've spoken to the woman who's leaving the post and I really want it!! Deadline was today but I only spoke to her yesterday (after seeing the ad Monday) and said I would have trouble meeting the deadline, so she extended it! That has to be a good sign doesn't it? She also thinks they would consider part time (I'm only 4 days a week and keen to keep it that way) so it's definitely worth a go. Wish me luck!

Sorry metal - cross post (because I kept getting interrupted!). Hope it happens soon? We'll be 2ww buddies.... x

Ooh that sounds exciting little, good luck with the application! I'm still trying to figure out what I want to do job-wise, I just know that I don't want to do my current one!

I'm just so annoyed that despite the acupuncture I'm having such a long cycle again, what a waste of money. I've been having nearly +opks for three days now so clearly my body is trying but failing to ov. On the plus side, I read an article earlier about a study which said that women with pco seem to have a higher IVF success rate, so that's given me some hope...