Struggling to conceive No.2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[Metalhead]

Still here, still struggling on, still hoping to get there in the end. Come on ladies, we'll all get our BFPs in 2015 (if not before)!

Great stuff emperor - really pleased for you. I am feeling much better today thank-you and even managed to resist poas this morning, which might be a first... I almost don't want to do it at all this month as I don't want a bfn to burst my bubble, yet again. But I'm sure my resolve will crack in the morning. No symptoms, no more spotting and only really minimal pmt symptoms. Who knows.

Hmph. Definitely a bfn. I am so bored of this!

Oh little, I'm sorry to hear that. Could it be too early still? Big hugs for you.

Thanks metal. I don't think it can be too early - I'm due Monday ish and if I ov'd any later then we definitely didn't dtd at the right time (it was a lean month....) so it'd still be negative. And it was fmu with a First Response so presumably that's accurate enough? Very annoying. x

I'm doing ok thanks Emporer, just trying to keep a lid on it at the moment until I know a bit more otherwise my brain will be running away with all sorts of scenarios. Glad the darker line has reassured you.

Sorry about the BFN Little, hopefully it's a bit too early?

AF got me today, 5 days late! I didn't poas as with Mondays news I really didn't know how to feel about it. Also I usually have a short lp of 8 days and this month took me to 13dpo which is the longest yet. I took B-50 complex this month so either that has worked on my lp or it was just down to stress - who knows?!?

Hope everyone else is all ok too - Metal, Crispie, Love and CHendy and anyone I've missed. Xx

Sorry Little and Goodegg. This is all just so frustrating. And as an extra kicker I got my booking appointment for the midwife through the post today from the same hospital who confirmed I'd miscarried- was so upset this morning, do they not update their records???? Even knocked the wind out my husband and he's been great. Pah. Still in window, AF due in 9 days. Any implantation would be around Monday but not really feeling that hopeful, not sure my body would be ready for it yet. Might go crazy and dtd just for fun, who knows?! X

CHendy - that's outrageous from the hospital! Unbelievably insensitive. You ought to call up and give them an earful. But yes, do keep up the dtd and with a bit of luck you'll be booking in for real very soon.

Any sign of AF today little?

Congratulations Emperor really wonderful news.

Chendy that really is shocking form from the hospital. It would be fair enough to complain might make them rethink their procedures.

little fingers crossed AF doesn't show today for you. Isn't good stuff (BFP's) supposed to happen in three's?

Well, I'm certainly not the third of three I'm afraid this month - af right on schedule with not a care in the world. Grrrr. You're all really sweet to check though - more than my insensitive dh seems to be able to manage. Not a good day here! x

Sorry to hear that little. Have some and to cheer yourself up tonight. (And don't be too hard on your DH, I'd say mine is pretty supportive all told but even he doesn't have a clue when AF is due!)

Well I am not very positive today. Clear blue now showing 1-2 weeks when it was 2-3 at the weekend. Those tests predicted my mc as I never got above 1-2 weeks despite the fact I should have been 7.

Tempted to buy another. I really felt so positive about it this time as well. There aren't so many stories of dropping weeks/hormone and a good outcome. Pad on today just in case! Boo

Oh crispie - it must be such a worry, but please don't buy any more tests! They're just not accurate enough for the sort of analysis you're trying to do and will just add to your stress (and take from your bank balance). Sadly, all you can do is hang on and hope for the best - we're all rooting for you too.

Thanks so much little! I know I fell into the trap of testing tons before (80 quid down the loo) so I guess what will be will be. What a ride this is!

Xx

little is right crispie, I've read so many stories on here from ladies agonising about these tests and everything turned out fine in the end. I'm not saying that this will definitely be the case for you, no one can tell you that, but there are so many variables as to why this test might be showing a different result that you just can't rely on it to tell you anything.

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time, I know how awful it is to be in that situation, but unfortunately there's nothing you can do but sit tight and hope for the best (or maybe pay for an early scan in a couple of weeks). Fx everything will work out for you. x

Thanks metal. I have calmed down a bit and had a fun morning with dd. I'll just need to take every day as it comes!

Oh FFS, some woman sitting opposite me in the office has been telling all her colleagues that she's expecting over the last half hour. I don't even know her, and in all fairness she is being as discreet as possible about it, but still... I'm glad I usually work from home!

Glad you had a nice morning with DD crispie, and I hope you can keep up the calmness!

Oh dear metal - just to rub it in for you. I've had similar today at home weirdly. I only worked a half day then put on the TV and looked at the 'recommendations' recorded by my cable TV and guess what they were?! One born every minute, and Call the Midwife! Ok granted its probably because I have a penchant for hospital drama rather than because my Virgin TV box is out to get me, but it was still quite unnecessary. Maybe February will be our month. x

Crispie as the others said try to go with it, am crossing my fingers for you. Metal and little it's everywhere isn't it? I have a good feeling about February. Positive thinking! Helped by lovely cuddles from DS tonight. He keeps reminding me how lucky I am already :) x

Hope you're getting on ok goodegg? Are you being looked after? X

Morning everyone.
Crispie I'm keeping everything crossed for you, I really hope this is the one for you.
Metal and Little it does feel like a personal dig doesn't it? There Is also a new pregnancy announcement in my office, thankfully we are going through a restructure so won't be working with her past the end of the month. But what a frightful bitch I feel!
CHendy what an awful mistake for the hospital to make. My DS is going through a very lovely cuddly phase at the moment which is doing wonders for helping me realise how lucky I am already. This OC possibility hanging over my head has made me realise that I would happily have everything taken out if it means I can spend my life with DS and watch him grow up.
My blood test came back very slightly elevated which is apparently normal in cases of endo. I was expecting to have had an appointment through by now but nothing so rang the GP office yesterday and the receptionist told me the urgency has been downgraded so my appointment is on 19th but wasn't able to tell me why so am awaiting a call back from the GP. I just want to know why it has been downgraded before I can relax a bit. If it's for a real reason like the consultant has looked at my scan images and isn't worried that's great but if it's just for some BS reason like I'm early 30's so it's unlikely I'm not so happy about that IYSWIM?

Fx it's good news and not just some admin cock up goodegg! Let us know how you get on.

DH and I had a great non-ttc shag last night! I actually just really fancied it for once; can't remember the last time before then where we did it just for fun... it was a good reminder that sex should be fun and not a chore, something that sadly seems to fall by the wayside during all this shitty ttc lark.

Everything crossed for both Goodegg and Crispie

Chendy what a shocking cock up by the hospital, a similarish thing happened to my friend. A couple of months after her mc an appointment came through from the Health Visitor arranging a pre birth visit. It was awful for her and her DH

Metal that was the best thing about having a break from ttc, shagging for fun! We kind of seemed to carry on in that mindset this first month back on it. I kind of wonder if that's why it actually happened this time..

Morning ladies. I've been reading this thread for a month, telling myself that there was no point in joining because I'd definitely be getting pregnant, but the incontrovertible evidence has arrived this morning...

I've got a 3 year old who took 4 months to conceive and we've been trying for a year now. I've just turned 35 so I think it's time to see the doctor but I keep thinking 'just one more month'...

Hi Burning welcome and sorry you have found yourself here. The support is wonderful and it's a relief to find people who are feeling the same way.
A shag just for the fun of it Metal?!? How outrageous! I might give that a try, it'd be nice to not have to finish myself off for a change!!
Hope everyone else is ok Little, CHendy, Emporer and Crispie - staying positive I hope??
I got a call back from the GP who said that each case referred gets reviewed by the consultant before the appointments are booked to determine urgency so I'm taking it to be a good thing. Just got to keep myself in this positive frame of mind until 19th now.
On another note, I think the B50 Complex has done something as along with the longer LP I am also having a heavier period with less days of spotting beforehand which I think can only be a good thing. X