Struggling to conceive No.2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[Metalhead]

Still here, still struggling on, still hoping to get there in the end. Come on ladies, we'll all get our BFPs in 2015 (if not before)!

Hello mountain. Welcome but also sorry you found yourself here. A few bfp on the thread recently so there is hope for us all!!
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Congrats loves fab news!!

I'm on cd22 of usual 35 day.app said ov around cd 20-24 (& had pains) but have only dtd twice in that time so not holding out much hope for this month. Will be onto cycle 8....

Maybe TMI but I have question re CM. I had LLETZ procedure in 2012 to remove abnormal cells in my cervix found during a smear. Before that surgery I used to get a lot of CM and since I have got very little. Has anyone else had any experience of this? I'm not sure whether it's anything to be worried about.

Goodegg I don't know. I had the same treatment about a decade ago. I'd I stopped soon after there could be a link. You could try preseed. That an internal lube that mimics cm. I used it last month (didn't get bfp but others have used it!)

Hi everyone, and welcome to the newbies although it's shit to have to see you on here!
I had my 12 week scan today, everything is fine and there is only one!
Hope no one thinks I'm being too insensitive letting you know how I'm getting on, it's just this thread really helped me in the 18months it took to get my bfp, and I hope I can provide a glimmer of hope that there is another side and you will all get there somehow! I had convinced myself it was never going to happen, and had the same feelings some of you have mentioned too about whether you even want another one.
Congratulations to lovemy too! Wonderful news to get another bfp, hoping it means a positive start to 2015 for everyone else.

alien stay possative. we only did it 3 times last month and I got bfp. xx
goodeggI also had loop treatment 7 years ago. I have never had much cm since that. could just be voincidence thouhgh.
gingerbread thats brilliant news on scan hope you afe feeling well. xxxx

Ahh, that's lovely news ginger, so happy for you! x

Lovely news ginger! We definitely need happy stories to keep us positive. Hopefully all the bfps will pop in with progress reports!!!!

Fab news gingerbread how exciting!! Thanks lovemyboy but with my low fertility I've really got a fight on my hands. Am consciously upping dtd but it won't make a difference as my eggs are crap??/non existent. Least I now know I ov later around cd20/21 and I'm getting obvious signs. All it takes is one egg and that's what I'm hoping my body can produce one month soon and I can dtd to catch it. Doc said if no pregnancy by jan/feb she ll run some tests but not sure how I feel about that as I think it may make me worry more if I know for sure that the chances of no.2 we very slim as at the mo in going on my results From when I was younger.

Oooops sorry for the long post!

Hi ladies,

Lovely to hear some positive stories! I hope everyone is well. I've a horrific start to the new year but that's another story!

This was month 4 of "properly" trying, as in using ovulation tests & having sex plenty of times in the fertile window. Hasn't worked again! Just done an early test & it's negative, plus I have period cramps. The thing that worries me is that I haven't been on any contraception for 5 years, we simply avoided the fertile window & used condoms most of the time, so it's not like I have hormones in my body from the pill or anything.

This month is the last month of trying, we will then take a 2 month break as we are booking a holiday in November or December & that would be when i'd give birth if I carried on trying through February & March. This is making me feel more desperate! Just don't understand how it can't happen when you are doing everything "right" especially when DD was conceived the one time we forgot contraception!

I know exactly what you mean village, we've been having perfectly timed sex now for 9 months and I just think how can I not be pregnant?!

I'm struggling with the positivity today, pobably because I should be in my fertile window now but don't seem to have any ewcm, and as I'm not using opks this month I don't know whether I'm even to close to ov yet or whether my body is being crap again and giving me a long cycle. I took soy again CD4-8 and am now on CD17, last time I took it I got a +opk on CD16... so much for taking the relaxed approach!

Back in the gang this morning after miscarrying at 5 weeks. Feeling very sad. X

So sorry to hear that chendy. Hope you've got lots of support at home. x

Gingerbread -lovely to hear all is well with you but so sorry to hear chendy's news. Really tough -I hope you're doing kind of ok?

I'm definitely with you all on the not being able to understand what's not working. And cross still that there's no deeper investigations possible to work out where the problem is so we might find a solution that doesn't involve ivf. Ah well. I'm about to get back on it with the ov sticks so will see if this month is any different!

So sorry to hear that Chendy
Another one here massively frustrated, was lying here the other night with my arse in the air after dtd, we're are going for SMEP again, thinking there must be loads of sperm up in there, I'm doing most of the work for them, how can this not have happened yet?!?

chendy i'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard it must be.

I'm not even sure I can try this month? According to my period tracker I will ovulate around 1st Feb. I'm having 2 wisdom teeth out on 3rd Feb. Wondering if this would be safe to go ahead if by some miracle I did get caught end Jan/beginning Feb?

My career is in a crap state, not sure where the hell i'm going, but luckily DH carries the largest load & alot more secure in work. I guess I should just keep focusing on work for now, but to be honest I have been doing that for years & it's not got me very far!

I'm so sorry chendry sending hugs x

So sorry chendrey. I had a mc at 7 weeks last September and its rotten. You must be gutted. Take care of yourself. Well I'm on about cd15 and no idea if I've ovulated already or if I'm about to as can be anytime within about 8 days and not tracking this month. Only dtd once though so far so not hugely likely. Have all been ill and have almost convinced myself We are happier with one. Where's everyone else in their cycle?

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Hi ladies, I'm popping back again as even though I've decided to give up actual TTC I'm hoping that I'll still get pregnant with random DTD.

That's good ginger glad all is well.

So sorry Cheney sending hugs. X

metal I hope you get your ov soon.

We ended up randomly DTD which was lovely & felt so much better as we were doing it for us & not because we had to. Although I've given up tracking my cycle I know that I wasn't in my fertile window. Anyway now I don't know what's happening as my boobs have started to hurt a couple of days ago like they do on 1dpo, which is usually a sign that I've ovulated, but it seems early for me, but I've also had a bit of spotting so my mind has gone in to over drive & I've started to worry. I always worry when something out of the ordinary happens. I've not taken soy either, but did take it for 3 cycles so I've probably messed my body up!

To be honest although I'm still hoping to get pregnant realistically I think its highly unlikely to happen for me as I tried for so long, & don't see many BFP'S on people who've tried for 2 years, it seems people are getting their bfp's before that stage which is good & I know a lot of ladies have tried a good few months (which is long enough). Plus now there's no way we'll DTD enough but I'm here still hoping.

crispie I feel like that sometimes especially at the moment as DD is being a real handful & feel like we're back in 'terrible two's' and she's 4, but I also feel guilty that she hasn't got a sibling!

Glad to hear you dtd just for fun bobsy, and as long as you keep having sex there's always a chance. There are some success stories over on the infertility board of people who've been trying for years and then got their BFP, and I personally know one lady who got pregnant at 40 after 2 years of trying.

I have to say I have been enjoying dtd a bit more this month as we've just gone for the every other day approach for about 2 weeks. It's still a little forced as we would never usually do it this much, but it's better than trying 3 days in a row based on +opk. I'm on CD19 now still haven't ov'd, but I think I must be about to as my cervix has gone very soft. It had better happen before Thursday when DH's parents are coming to stay with us for 2 nights!

GoodEgg I also had Letz and was worried would affect me. I conceived my DS (13 months) after 4 months TTC. I was told by all doctors only affect it can really have is slightly increased risk of a prem baby, but didn't happen to me. Dont worry

Why do hospitals make you sit in the same waiting area as pregnant women when you're attending a fertility clinic? Just why?!

Oh I know metal - just sitting for hours (because they're always late) watching happy couples going in and out for scans. Or even watching sad couples where there's clearly something not quite right. Still miserable. Hope you haven't had to wait long and hope the doc has/had something useful to say this time? Mine's next week so am watching with interest.... x

Thanks little, thankfully I was seen pretty quickly today. But although the consultant was very nice, he basically said we have two options: either continue ttc naturally or pay for IVF. He seemed to think that at my age and because I've already got a child the success rate could be around 40%, but of course there are still no guarantees. DH and I will have to have a long hard think about it over the next few months to decide whether we want to basically gamble away 5k...