ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

daisy I can see it too!!!!!

Fantastic

Well done Guy I am glad it is over for you and you can start to recover. Also that it wasn't too bad although I'm sorry you had to go through that fear. I completely identify with what you are saying about the natural part of the mc as that was exactly what I thought - with DS I was induced, then failed to progress so had a CS. In the weirdest way it was good to know my body does know what to do. If I am lucky enough to have another baby it gives me hope that I might be able to have a VBAC.

Amyyy I thought maybe that's what the wtf cycle was - good name. I think we will 'try' this cycle but in a casual way. I know I run the risk of disappointment around Xmas time but it's got to happen some time. And I could be lucky. Who knows.

Eeeek!! I am so petrified but so glad you can see it too north thank you!

Guy Pleased its all over with for you now, hope you're feeling as good as you can be.

Well my friends seem to think that if I don't get pregnant in the wtf cycle then it will be a blessing in disguise and then try again next year giving us a break, however it just doesn't feel like waiting is gunna help me personally but we will see, if its not meant to be this year then it won't be!

Daisy!!! I deffo see a line! Congratulations honey x

MsJupiter That's what we agreed too... we wouldn't go back to protection however we wouldn't track OV etc etc (easier said than done I am so impatient! lol) But overall idea was we would just see what happens this month and try properly next year. It's rubbish though I don't know whether to drink or not drink or what. Anyway yes you're right you could be lucky! Fx :)

I can definitely see it too Daisy congratulations!

Thank you :) now just gotta hope for a sticky bean!

Everything crossed for a super sticky bean Daisy! :)

Oh gosh scared myself silly reading about ovulating while still having a small amount of hcg in your system. Apparently you can ovulate if it is a small amount.. however one of the stories was of a lady who fell pregnant before getting a BFN and she lost that baby too! Well I know the time I thought I ov'd was inbetween a BFN from cheapy tests the week before and a BFN on a frer the week after... so I am assuiming that is still classed as low hcg? I now feel like such an idiot for not being careful around that but I wasn't told any of this at the hospital :(

guy glad oyu took something positive from the experience, you sounds like you have a really good attitude. Take care of yourself for the next little while xx

daisy that looks like a line to me... you going to do another tomorrow FMU?

I haven't read the previous replies. I'm kind of taking a back seat right now as I'm quite emotionally fragile.

But I need to ask a Q. We had sex once my first mc was finished quite quickly. It was enjoyable and fine. (This is when we caught again) 3 wks later they discover I have an eptopic.) We had no sex from then as the drs said the pressure could rupture my tube.

I'm now coming up to 2 wks from my last round of methotrexate and hcg is dropping so yday lunchtime ..Well, ya know.

Except it literally hurt my ovaries. Like the pressure. And i couldn't :( my hips were agony by the evening, had to beg the receptionist to squeeze me in with my chiropractor this morning.

I need want to have sex! :-( did anyone else have trouble post mc?

Ahh Chasing sorry you're having such a crap time :( Sorry I can't help there.. I was desperate after waiting a couple of weeks! But everything was OK no pain. Hope you're alright x

Daisy!!!!!!!

Afternoon ladies. Room for a small 1?

Had my 2nd mc at the beginning of the month. Dunno how to describe it... I've definitely blocked a lot of the experience out of my head already. Started naturally, excessive blood loss, hospital, passed sac with consultants help but still ended up with emergency erpc. Anyhow seem to be having a possible AF now so despite intending to have a break until after Xmas, we'll be starting the game all over again.

Have 21 month ds. Natural mc April '14. Have been trying for dc2 since oct '13.

daisy there is definitely a line. Congratulations! Fx for you.
Big wave to mrsC hope you're surviving ok? Dh will be bringing me my bottle of on his way back from work.
Big wave to everyone else

Congrats daisy I trust others eyesight to be better than my own!
Regards testing for BFN. I was advised to do after 3 weeks but did it after 7 days and again at 11. Personally I considered them negative due to having very clear BFP previously. In retrospect though I think they may have been faintly positive. We have DTD since but if its still not fully neg next week would ask for another scan or bloods.

chasing I sometimes get ovary pain. Have had a lot of left sided since mc. I originally thought it might be ovulation but been like that on and off all week so may be related to the mc in my case or everything you else you've been through? Tinsiest bit worried I could be like you and possible ectopic but think thats highly unlikely. Right?
Welcome mrsdiddlydoo sorry you've had to join us.
Im still having the occasional glass of wine despite not not trying. I know the current guidelines are against it but equally it feels like life's on hold not too!
guy I hope you're feeling a bit better this evening.
I too, like previous posters (sorry I'm on phone so not sure who said it) take a small consolation in that my body did the 'right thing' with my mc.

And hows this for coincidence. .... my OH is a copy writer and has been approached about working on literature for research into swabbing for infections in pregnancy due to association with miscarriage and premature birth. This was implicated in my loss. He told no one of it (whereas I tell the world). I really hope it comes off. I am struggling knowing there is a chance the miscarriage could have been prevented and it would be great to raise awareness.

Daisy check you out!!!! Congrats!! A line is a line and there is defo a line there!!

Guy I'm so glad you are feeling ok and that you've got something positive from such a horrible experience.

Welcome MrsDiddly am so sorry you find yourself here but these ladies are fab

Hi all, please can I join you :-)

I had a mc early this month, it all came away naturally thankfully! My last hospital appt over a week ago showed hcg at 32, it was over 5000 to begin with and they wanted it to get below 5, but I was discharged this week after doing a negative HPT so we're now trying again!

Think I'm on cd26 today and DTD on and off since cd17, no idea if I've ovulated yet though! My usual cycles used to be between 30-32 days but have no idea where I am now :-/ still at least it helps to be trying again as feels like we're doing something constructive! Only trouble is I don't know when to stop DTD as really don't want to miss our chance this month! I used to see this thread pop up before and never dreamt I'd be on it but it's not so bad, you're all so brave! Wishing us all lots of luck and BFPs :-)

Congrats Daisy!!! :)

How are you brummie?
Sorry I've not been on, work has been hectic.
Had a baby bomb aat work today. Came home and cried my eyes out. So much for thinking I was coping :/

Congrats Daisy - such awesome news. Here's to a happy and healthy nine months.

Enormous hugs Treacle. Baby bombing sounds hideous. The last time it happened to me it knocked me for six so I can totally identify.

Sorry to mrsdiddlydoo and letsdothisthing that you find yourself here but it really is the best shit place to be! Hope you are both feeling as well as can be xx

Well miss impatient here decided to work out if there was a chance of a new pg... So goin off when I thought I ov'd I would today be 17dpo. So I took a frer this morning as we are out tonight and didn't want to drink if there was any chance as well as being desperate to know! But a big fat BFN! Nevermind at least I can have a drink tonight guilt free.

Or should have said big fat negative! Lol

Oh sorry for the bfn amy, hope it didn't spoil your night out!
Hope you are feeling a little bit better today treacle

Oh and congratulations to you daisy, I hope the line continues to get nice and dark for you, and you have a happy 9 months (and more) ahead of you!!