ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

Hopefully i can follow suit if we miss this cycle purple :) those symtoms all sound really positive x

charlie different st marys then! I may still look into whether transferring care is possible
haribo I'm like you - had BFPs 3 times within a month of trying (thus the username OH gave me) and now have an immense fear I won't be so lucky again
envious I too was excited about my May/June baby and am really hoping I could squeeze into August.

Phew. Have had appointment with consultant through private healthcare. She is scheduling me for erpc on either Thursday or Friday. I'm really scared but so relieved that there is an end in sight. Still hoping it might happen on its own in the next couple of days but if not, at least this won't be prolonged any more.

Glad you've got things moving guy

Ok - this morning I'm getting pains in my tummy and sides when I sit/bend. 2 weeks since actual mc probably only a few days of no bleeding at all. Any thoughts? Just wind?

Monten I felt the exact same way - worrying how I'd cope if I wasn't pregnant again. I fell apart each month but then had to pick myself up.

Eggs I caught on my 2nd cycle first time, and second time. This Tim was my 4th cycle - but I found that really hard. Even though I know it's not that long it seemed a lifetime.

I'm crampy and twingey this morning. Scaring the shit out of me. I know cramps are normal but my last mc started with pain.

Plus today is my actual due date for AF so I just have fear running through me.

I just can't stop being frightened - and I feel really fragile and really vulnerable like one wrong move would dislodge it all - which I know is stupid!!!

brummie it's so scary, take it gently, be kind to yourself and remember we've all got fx for you. I totally understand how hard it is to know what's normal or not - and how hard to trust your body - but be brave. Big hugs x

guy so glad you've got things booked, being in limbo is so hard.

eggs I've had random pains this morning then had the runs (TMI sorry!) so who knows. I think our bodies are all mixed up and trying to sort themselves out. Hope it settles down - if not, give doc a ring in case infection (I had one after first mc)

Brummie I have had so many cramps this time round, especially at about the point you are out now. I know you must be petrified but it is so normal.

Brummie I think I'll be walking with my legs shut for the duration next time i get a bfp :-D

Aww Brummie Hope you're ok! I would try not to worry about the cramping and twinges, mine were quite bad when I was pg and the midwife told me its all totally normal. I know it will be hard not to worry though! x

Willpower failed this morning and I took a test which came up negative. Trying not to give up all hope because AF isn't due till tomorrow. But earlier said than done, I'm sad grumpy and unfocused this morning.

brummie my (very healthy) pregnancy with dd started with lots of cramps and twinges. This mmc involved no cramps (so far).

I know it's scary though. The thing is, if it's a healthy one there isn't really anything you could do to make it go wrong- you could run and jump and shag and climb Everest and it will still all be ok.

Hi girls, have been quiet as I have nothing to report and firmly ensconced in the 2ww. Not expecting anything as I have no positive symptoms at 10dpo and a thousand BFN cycles behind me!!

Just a bit down as I did a soy cycle this time and it gave me some renewed hope stupidly

Have told work today. Been given disabled parking so don't need to walk from our car parks and risk falling over on the ice.
My colleagues have rallied round to help me with some events so I don't have to do them by myself and I've been told whatever I need for docs appt's etc just do whatever I need to do.

Feel very lucky to have great work colleagues and employer generally!!

I'm glad Guy though that you are starting to get things sorted. The only advice I can offer post is that before you start TTC to take a test and make sure it's bfn.

It's hard to see it say negative but it does mean you can start again. Big hugs x

brummie I'm 5w today and have had terrible cramps for the last 2 weeks. Have been freaking out completely, DH keeps having to remind me I stressed about them both the other times (prior to MC2 I was CONVINCED I was having an ectopic as the pain was in one place but that wasn't the isssue for that one)

Aah thanks Charlie I'll be 4 weeks on Friday so only a bit behind you.

Told my sister today about my aspirin consumption (she's an obs & gynae registrar for those who wonder why I've mentioned her!) and whilst she's not particularly impressed she did say that there is evidence it does reduce miscarriage it can also cause bleeding in some cases.

She said it's swings and roundabouts - she wouldn't but she understands in my position why I want to and that it's my body, my choice and ultimately my responsibility.

If she said oh my god don't be so stupid then I may have re-thought it.

That said, she will almost certainly complain to my Mum about it. She might be a registrar my baby sis. - but she'll still complain to my Mum!

guy & chasing ~ how are you both doing today?

charlie must be really hard not to panic over every twinge

Still here gr33dy, still in limbo. Bleeding more every day- now like a moderate period. Still no 'gush' though. Have a scan this afternoon and then surgery will be confirmed for Friday. Still hoping it might happen on its own but happy to have a definite end in sight. Thanks for asking.

northdown & newera FX if you are testing again today.
brummie its great how supportive work are being. Hope aspirin does its job!
guy big hugs.
mrsconfusion thanks for the advice. I've just finished antibiotics and thrush treatment because I had an infection (the dr suggested it may have contributed to the mc). Really hope I'm all cleared up now! But trying to get an appointment with the nurse for a swab to check is proving tricky!

Thanks eggs. 11dpo but no point testing as I have not one positive symptom. If I had creamy or milky cm I would immediately throw myself at the nearest HPT. As it is I am dry dry dry.

Another BFN for me, just waiting for AF to arrive and confirm

God I am in such a bad mood. I am thunderous . I am just so sick of TTC and all the emotions that go with it, it would try the patience of a saint.

We are waiting for the results of DPs sperm sample and he is now convinced the problem is with him. I think it's probably just age generally but he is on a pretty strong medication for life so there is a good chance his sperm has been compromised. If that's the case I have absolutely no idea what we do.

Hello I've been reading through this thread the last couple of days. I had a mc on Saturday and am still bleeding so not quite at the ttc stage but you all seem so supportive and I feel very alone at the moment.

My history is that I have a DS (2) who took a year to conceive. This year we started ttc #2 and it only took a few months so we were delighted. I have very long cycles so it's hard to pinpoint ovulation. I had bleeding on and off but 6w scan was fine so hoped it was old blood. However at 9 weeks (after booking appt) I had a lot of blood, clots and cramping. Went to A&E and basically ended up having contractions for an hour and then having a full miscarriage. I was kept in for 2 days for signs of infection and then came home on Monday. Scan showed uterus was clear apart from a few clots which are coming now.

I am coming to terms with it all and feel relatively calm apart from a few cathartic tears. This pregnancy seemed too good to be true really - the ease of getting pg and the timing was perfect. I am 38 so taking nothing for granted.

I do have some questions:

At the hospital I was told to abstain from sex until I have my next period. However reading this thread am I right in thinking others have started ttc again immediately? As my cycles are so long I don't want to wait a couple of months if I don't need to.

Has anyone tried the soy isoflavins talked about on another ttc thread? Again would you recommend waiting until my next cycle to try anything new like this?

Thanks to anyone reading this and I'm sorry for all your losses. I thought the thread title was genius - the best shit place to be.

So sorry to see another June 15er here MsJ We were told by the dr to wait until bleeding had stopped but no reason to wait for a cycle if we felt emotionally and physically ready. My MC was 2 weeks ago and i finally stopped bleeding friday and have not been using contraception since, so are tentatively TTC I guess.

newera I hope you get some answers soon. Has your OH never been offered sperm banking due to his medication? Is it advised he come of it for TTC?

jupiter so sorry you find yourself here, but your right about it being very supportive. It's helped keep me sane and able to look to the future.

I waited till my first period before ttc but that was just preference to give us a bit of grieving time. It's different for everyone and as I understand the only issues are with being able to date a future pregnancy.