ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

Hi everyone. I'm melon age 27 ttc number 1. Miscarriage in August at 8 weeks, period only came back in November so were starting trying this cycle, CD7 at the moment eagerly awaiting the departure of AF so we can get cracking!

Anyone else still in wtf cycle? I think I ovulated last week (we're not ttc this cycle) so expecting period around 2nd Jan- ish.
How's everyone doing?

Congratulations envious, I wish you an uneventful 8 months :)

I'm 9dpo and just bought a test from Sainsbury's. I'll test tomorrow morning although I know I'll be gutted if it's BFN. Wish me luck! Hope everyone's had a nice Christmas.

Fingers crossed haribo :)

Hi all. Sad to welcome you melon sorry its taking a while for things to regulate for you.

guy my wtf cycle has been and gone. Feel like I'm in another though :-(

haribo glad you've tried to have a positive Christmas. Fx for tomorrow.

guybrush WTF cycle here too. Definitely ovulated 13/14/15th as I did an OPK on 15th that was so dark, posted it here, but not sure whether I'd already ovulated or was due to. AF due on 31st according to FF. Boobs hurt. I feel nauseous. Heartburn even though I'm barely eating. Putting it all down to antibiotics I'm taking. Did a One Step test this morning at roughly 11DPO which was BFN.

DH has just got back from the chippy so I'm off to try and stuff my face cos I am actually wasting away.

Will be back shortly!

Can you ladies help x I posted on here about 4 weeks ago as I miscarried. I bled for 7 days after miscarriage. A pregnancy test at the hospital showed negative as soon as I started miscarrying and by bloods were only at 19, 48 hours later my bloods went to 4. I thought I should have had a period by now so did s clear blue test which has come back a strong positive. Could I be pregnant again ???? I am confused

Envious I miscarried the 1st and bled till the 8th December so am very surprised at positive. Very confusing. I have been drinking and eating pate and cheese so worried now. Could it be positive from.miscarriage? Surely it can't be if bloods were 4 and urine test.showed negative at the hospital!! Will ring epac on Monday if they are back open

Hi everyone... My first post here, but have heard from the mc threads how lovely you all are so wanted to pop past read back a bit and say hello. On Sunday 14th, I was 11+5. In the afternoon I found brown blood in my underwear which turned red by evening. I went to a&e and waited 5 hours to be seen by a doctor who examined me and said my cervix was stilltightly closed. I was sent home with instruction to go for an early scan on Monday 15th. The scan showed a 12 week sized sac which had already started to collapse and a teeny tiny embryo in the corner. An MMC. Heartbroken and numb, myself and my OH returned home and I started to bleed quite heavily that evening. I finally miscarried naturally on Friday 19th and have to take another pregnancy test on Monday to ensure my hormone levels have dropped. Christmas has been especially difficult as we know three couples that all announced their pregnancies on Christmas Day which had been our plan. I've read AF should return within 4-6 weeks from day of mc so am now just trying to get on with Christmas and New Year then once am settled back to work AF should be due. Once that is finished, we plan to start trying again. We made the decision in June that we wanted a family and therefore can't see any reason to wait longer. Like most, I was advised to wait and have at least 1 period before ttc. x

Gosh mummy how confusing. I would assume it is a new pregnancy of you definitely had a negative before as I can't imagine that hormone levels would just pop up on their own. Give the epu a call and try and get some bloods one maybe. I wasn't too say congratulations but I'll save it for when you feel a bit more certain.

I'm feeling really sad today. Family situation is taking its toll. Dad has cancer and had to have his whole voice box removed last week. I'm really struggling to come to terms with what has happened to him and the fact that it is permanent. I love him and I'm angry with him and I'm terrified for him and I feel guilty that I had a fucking miscarriage a month ago when the thing my mum needs right now is happy news.
I should be 16 weeks pregnant. Most of the time I feel ok about the mc but today I just feel a bit sad. Our plan is to ttc after first post-mc period which should be this well. But I just don't know. Am I ready? Maybe it was a mistake to get pregnant in the first place. It was planned but it was the first month of trying and my reaction was mostly 'oh fuck'. Now I oscillate between desperate to make things right by getting pregnant NOW and maybe never doing it again. Although I know, I KNOW I want another baby so I don't know what I'm afraid of.
Sorry and welcome to the new people in the group.. Sorry for this mostly incoherent message.

Thanks envious. Yes, I recognise a few names on this thread, it's so sad and I'm so sorry to read everyone else's heart breaking experiences.

The last bloods they did the level was 4 and they did 2 pregnancy tests at that time and both were negative , I assume hospital urine tests are the same as home kits x I have my fingers crossed but am way to anxious to feel happy, I am already stressing cos I have back ache and I only did the test 5 hours ago :(

Teenie I wasn't advised to wait but wasent as far on as you x

Hi mummy, it was the mw that advised this and only because it is easier to date the pregnancy if you wait until you have had one period. The doctor told me to come back once I stopped bleeding and she would put me back on the pill!!!! Even at that point, I felt numb and heart broken, but I definitely don't want to go back on the pill, it was horrendous coming off it.

guy maybe just try taking each day as it comes. One at a time. I'm so sorry about your dad. But you aren't a failure for miscarrying. And your mum is probably very very grateful that you are ok, if that makes sense. And it is only natural to be feeling all over the place. All of it is a big deal. You. Him. We're all here if you need to get stuff off your chest. However crazy it seems.

I'm at my folks who know nothing about what we've been through this year. Don't see them very often. I just want to shout it out, but they have so much on their plates. I feel so rubbish and fake holding it together. Just got to make it through the new year now.

Hello to the newbies. Sorry you find yourself here. Here's to some cheerier posts and lots of good news in the NY.

Guy I am so sorry about your dad. I am in the wtf cycle and I think I ovulated last week too as I had ewcm but I was all over the place and just didn't even dtd in the end. I still haven't done a post-mc test to check it's negative although it must be if I ovd. I've also been drinking over Xmas and not taking vitamins so will use the new year to get back on the folic acid.

Hi all, sorry to see lots of sad news on here today.
Guy I'm sorry about your dad. You really don't need to feel guilty about the miscarriage. It's not your fault. I know that's easier said than done.

I've tried keeping off here a bit this month as ttc is driving me crazy. Currently on Cd15 and will probably ovulate in the next few days, not that I expect anything!

Sorry to see some new ladies here, I hope your getting lots of TLC in RL.

Rest this morning (10dpo) was a BFN on a Sainsburys cheapy. I know it's early and now I'm cross with myself for not waiting a few more days! My boobs are so painful and swollen that Iv convinced myself I'm pregnant. Hope I'm not eating my words in a few days. We're in London and driving home to Yorkshire tonight so will pick up a first response (are they the best ones for early detection?) for the morning. Fingers crossed for anyone else due to test!