ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

Aww NewEra that's amazing congratulations hun!! Wishing you a happy healthy and extremely uneventful pregnancy!!

Thank you. I'm not going to believe it till I miss a period but just trying to work out what to do now.

Think I'm going to take 75mg aspirin a day and high dose folic acid still. Hopefully Brummie might see this and tell me what she is taking. I'm trying not to freak out but I'm scared.

So confused had a faint BFP but now 2 bFN what is going on ?? ??

Congrats newera xxx

newera!!! That is wonderful and amazing and fabulous!!!!!

Newera you've just reminded me a Q I needed to ask- I've got folic acid tablets but the methotrexate has obviously completely stripped every last bit of folic my body had. I'm hoping to fall preg Feb cycle and don't feel like it's "enough" and that I might just mc again. Can you overdose on folic? Should I just take 2? It says 1 is RDA. I'm aware that with folic any unabsorbed will just be expelled by body.

Nic.. which tests have you used and what dpo?

Hi chasingtherainbow I've used asdas own brand always had negatives with these apart from the BFP a few days ago, I'm 2weeks past ovulation and due Christmas Day, ano it was very early to test but get a little bit obsessive these days. Xx

Chasingtherainbow this was the pic of test

I can definitely see it, and it's definitely pinky. Did it come up in the time frame? Do you know what mui these are? Perhaps use a FRer? Don't bother with a digi yet as they are 25mui and if your getting bfn then your hcg isn't high enough for them.

Is it possible you got ov day wrong? Xx

chasing I'm no expert but they talk about 5g being good for women with various issues. That is considered a high dose. 400mcg is the amount in most folic acid suuplements, i think you can get the 5mg tablet from the doctor. I think taking two tablets a day would be absolutely fine.

Argh i have less than great news after my fanfare earlier. Excitedly went out and got a twin pack of Clearblue digital tests with weeks indicator. Held my wee for a few hours, came home and it told me 'Not Pregnant'. So i have no idea. Could be too early or I suppose the Tesco test was faulty, I'm sure false positives are possible. Its so fucking clear as well on the Tesco test, almost suspiciously strong a line seeing as I am so early.

I don't think i'm going to waste the test by testing tomorrow, AF is due on Christmas Day so i shall see if she turns up. Sorry for getting every one excited

Meant to add the test do you can see I'm not being a fantasist!!

They are only the cheap ones asdas own , it came up straight away! Just odd as I have used the same tests, no my ov days are correct, I had a (sorry for graphic info) but a small about of brown discharge 9 days past ov only lasted a day and has now gone and was wondering if that was implantation bleeding, that was the day I tested x

Looks like it's a waiting game for both of us! ??

Newera, you without a doubt have a fertilised eggy in there. AFAIK the only false positives possible are ones caused by medication or illness (like certain types of cancer) or evap line's, which will show no pink.

I believe that nic you too have a little bean in there, but if the digis aren't picking up yet it's just because it's too early/hcg isn't high enough. Clearblue digi have a higher mui and so it can take a while to show. Don't panic yet.

Nic It's possible yours is just down to the pink dye not being strong in the new ones.

Keep faith ladies. I'm praying this is sticking bean for you both xxxx

P.s thank you.. I'll try to get hold of the dr!

As far as I know you can't overdose on folic acid, it is water soluble so you just pee it out. Obviously don't go crazy though!

Also with regards to taking it months in advance, I wouldn't panic. Before the nineties, women didn't take it at all and our previous survived! Folic acid is taken to prevent an rare spinal development problem and former have anything to do with early miscarriage. As fast as I'm aware.

Fuck you autocorrect. A prize for anyone who understands my previous post.

Eeek!! Gorgeous bfp!! How exciting!! Congratulations

The vicar from last night has just emailed me with this - it was written by a dad whose daughter was still born. I don't know if it'll help anyone but I think it's pretty special. Oh and I forgot to mention the vicar used to work at the local nhs trust and so counselled many parents and conducted many a funeral for tinies - explains why she was so understanding yday.

A Cradling Song
We cannot care for you the way we wanted, or cradle you or listen to your cry; but, separated as we are by silence, love will not die.

We cannot watch you growing into childhood, and find a new uniqueness every day;
but special as you would have been among us, you still will stay.

We cannot know the pain or the potential which passing years would summon or reveal; but for that true fulfilment Jesus promised
we hope and feel.

So through the mess of anger, grief and tiredness, through tensions which are not yet reconciled,
we give to God the worship of our sorrow and our dear child.

Lord, in your arms which cradle all creation we rest and place our baby beyond death, believing that he/she now, alive in heaven, breathes with your breath.

I had a shockingly bad night last night, very emotional, feeling crap, force myself out to SILs for her Christmas party, had a good day, come back to this and theres LOADS OF BFPS CONGRATULATIONS Santa better make those BFPs sticky ones or I shall be with him

Only skim read as the children are all still up watching Despicable Me... The amount of sugar they've consumed today I am expecting the littlies to be up till midnight Funnily enough the toddler is being the quietest - she found herself a felt tip and one of my bills and is stood at my coffee table scribbling all over it yer you stick it to the council tax bill

broody Quick reply - thats lovely. I've been away from my Church for a while - long story - but I am missing them so much right now, I am so glad you have them for support during this. I wish I could go and see them instead of just texting Especially when I know that, sadly, so many of the women there have experienced this.

Now, Clear Blues digital conception indicator - I got a BFN on the Monday afternoon from one and a BFP on the Friday evening 5 days later.

Aargh newera I'm sure you have a bfp on your hands there lady! Digis are notoriously insensitive. Get a frer tomorrow - I'm sure it will be positive.

Sorry have been very quiet ladies. I have been finding it tough. Hopped over to the recurrent miscarriage thread too to ask for some advice.

Af arrived yesterday and its very light again so am really worrying about the state of my lining. It's now been six cycles since mc no. 2. I'm really starting to panic I'm broken

Just found out my cousin who had number 1 in Jan is preg again and due in May. Why do some people have such an easy ride? Why couldn't I be one of them? My mum was wanging on about how sad it was that she was having to work on Xmas day and wasn't going to be able to spend it with her new baby. I just l looked at her in disbelief. I just wanted to scream 'but she has her baby!!! I should be having my first baby's Christmas too'. People just don't get it, they don't. Even mums

Sorry, not posted in ages and being really negative. Just finding this whole Christmas thing really hard. Thinking of you treacle I know it will be extra hard for you

monten This is the place where you can as negative as you want, because we're all feeling the same feels. I understand the resentment. I caught within 6 weeks with both of my DDs and caught within 6 weeks again this time, only to lose the baby a few days after discovering the pregnancy, and, as stupid as this sounds, I was/am just utterly shocked that my body has done this. My eldest DDs pregnancy was hard - a lot of complications - my second DDs pregnancy was fine barring some pre-eclampsia right at the end. I'm now resenting myself for not being able to carry this baby to term even though I know it was nothing I did or didn't do that caused this.

Monten ((hugs)) rant away.

Is there anything we can do to help our lining? The consultant said mine was very thin. . . Though she was scanning me during mc so I thought that was why. Now I'm wondering. ..

Thanks ladies. My arms are just rely aching at the moment. I want my baby.

chasing accupuncture and supplements can help I've heard so am going to give them a go.

No one in the NHS seems to want to take it seriously. I have had light periods since second MC (erpc). The doctor said it was 'normal'. I had an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic and she scanned my uterus (normal) but called my lining thin. When I quizzed her on this and explained my light periods she basically totally dismissed me, saying it was nothing to worry about. I read my notes afterwards and my lining was 6mm (on CD22). Dr Google tells me that is thin, and IVF cycles are cancelled for anything less than 8mm. I'm completely freaking myself out.

I went to see an ashermans syndrome specialist and he's recommending I have a hysterocopy (where they put a camera up there to see if there is scarring) - but it's £5k! A sickening amount of money. I just don't know where to turn next, the NHS just seem to a have a line that scarring is very rare and won't take it seriously.

I'm so sorry for moaning and will be back properly in the morning but been out with dh's family (who know about the mc) and spent ages talking about how it's my turn to have a baby and glaring at me.
I'm aware of that... and I shouldve been due in 5 (now 4) days time. Please leave me alone :(

Oh treacle I am on your behalf, what a bunch of insensitive idiots! I'm Just why?!