ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

Thank you x
I'm back off to the doctors this morning as my sinus pains got worse.
Just glad I'm off work.

Also, I agree. Just have a glass of wine if you want it. Baby won't take anything from you until after you find out.
I've been trying over a year now and miscarried despite not drinking or doing anything wrong. I can't live every cycle as if im pregnant.

Ugh treacle sinus pain is absolutely grim. I find coedine helps a bit. Big sympathy.

Mmmmmm codeine

Thanks for the kind comments! I ended up having to get a new contract phone which will come sometime today. I'm far too dependant on the bloody thing!

North Me too, I don't know what to do. My dad has us all round on boxing day and was over the moon with himself buying bottles of shots to go with games he has bought yesterday and I didn't know what to say.

My head is all mashed up atm and I can't remember how soon I can test? I am 99% sure I ov'd last Sunday... so when is the earliest I am able to test? Silly question I just can't think straight sorry!

I'd say 10DPO, that's the earliest I've ever tested.

eggs yep the June thread. Difficult to see it pop up in active but can't bring myself to hide it!

treacle I hope the doc can help.

Im with DPs family over Christmas and rumours will be rife if I don't drink so I plan to have a glass of wine, I'll regret it if I'm not pregnant. I drank heavily before I realised I was pregnant with DS and he's perfect (not that I'm saying you should get wasted!!) so don't beat yourself up about a glass. I'd be due to test 2nd of jab (if I wait for 14dpo).

amyy you could test tomorrow as you'd be 10dpo but be prepared for a BFN as it is early. Neither of my pregnancies showed up until 12dpo.

I had faint lines at 8DPO and 10DPO and got a BFP at 12DPO with a Clearblue digital. As much as I don't want to test early, as its Christmas Day I can't think of a better time to discover I'm pregnant if I am so I will probably definitely buy a Clearblue digital to do that morning.

Back from the doctors. He's given me a different spray to use.
Dreading work calling to see if im going in the rest of the week (not the they should as I'm signed off by the doctor this week).

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Treaclepie I'm sorry to hear work are so rubbish. I know how you're feeling.

I'm at work now. Want to know what I'm doing?! Wrapping presents that have been donated for the children in care on our borough whilst listening to the two other women in the office talk about rosters for all the other pregnant women on my borough who didn't miscarry

My line manager is pressurising me to go back to my team, working shifts and wants me to carry a piece of equipment that only a few other people are trained to use. I told him yesterday that I didn't feel up to it anymore and he said that if I didn't do it I would be inconveniencing other people! Today, in front of everyone, he's given me some phone numbers to call if I feel stressed at work, I feel so ashamed.

My gp said she would sign me off if I need it but then I'm scared people will just laugh at me. No one seems to understand that I'm just really deeply, painfully sad inside and I'm really not up to being in aggressive, confrontational situations yet.

Changing topic to TTC. My GP said there would be nothing wrong with taking a baby aspirin a day if I get pregnant agin just in case. What does everyone else think about this advice?

Snoopy, it sounds like you're in a similar place to me. Although I've done the silly thing and left it so long without being signed off that now nobody realises why I'm off ill.
I'd say go and get signed off. You can deal with them when you get back and you'll feel stronger for it.

My worry is that I'll be worrying over xmas that people are watching me thinking oh she's not ill. They haven't really understood that I'm off with illness caused by stress.

I'm not sure about the baby aspirin, ive not looked into it myself.

Hi all. I hope you are doing ok.

Treacle I'm thinking of you - big hugs. At least you are off work now and hopefully your counselling won't be too long.

Purple glad to hear it's going well with you.

Guy you are absolutely right, there often is nothing anyone can do. My sister once said "it's a million step process to make a little person and if one of those steps goes wrong, the whole lot falls apart"

Really if it's going to stick, it will stick. I tortured myself thinking I was doing something wrong and it breaks my heart to see others do the same. Treacle is absolutely right, you can't live your life thinking "I might be pregnant", you have to get on and pray the magic is working on your behalf.

Anyway bit of an update. I'm 6+ 5 and I had an early scan at the hospital today and I saw a heartbeat. Couldn't believe it. The sonographer was so kind and when she said "Merry Christmas" to me, I just broke down.

After having 2 previous scans that broke my heart. Today was a shining light. Clearly not safe yet but it's a start.

I'm thinking of you all and hope you get your sticky beans soon!!!! xx

Awe brummiegirl I'm so pleased, congrats!!!

Awhhh brummie so very happy for you

Oh Brummie, I'm actually in tears for you.
I'm so pleased. At least you can enjoy christmas knowing your little bean is in there xxx

As for me, I reckon my body has been waiting for this cycle as my due date would be 20th September. Which is my dh's birthday and his brothers too. It's a tradition obviously :p
My SIL is also ttc and we reckon we will both fall pregnant this month haha.

brummie YAY Those early scans with that tiny thud thud are amazing, I had a 7 week private scan with my second DD and it was fascinating, especially when compared to the 12 week one - such a huge change in 5 weeks, here is hoping you get the same! DH has said he wants us to have an early scan when I get a BFP again, and for £99 to have that early reassurance will be money well spent.

treacle I can't relate to your work issues as I've been a SAHM for almost 7 years now, but please don't feel like you have to explain yourself to anyone. Including your superiors - your GPs note is explanation enough and you shouldn't have to go into personal details about why. Anxiety is a bitch, and she does horrible things to us.

If I catch this cycle my DD will be early September, around the same time that DHs son was due (he was 12 days late) so I am a tad worried about that as I don't know how DH will react/cope with a new baby born at the same time as his DS. I'm trying to practice a lot of mindfulness right now - what will be, will be.

Please can I join?? Had first mc at the end of October. I already have an 18-month-old DD. TTC again but not very actively so far with illness being constantly rife in our household!

I'm actually finding it more sad as I get further away from when the mc happened and further towards the due date. Meanwhile, nobody ever mentions it. Some friends didn't even mention it the first time they saw me after I texted them to say it happened. Did anyone else find that? I'm also noticing that 1) everyone seems to be pg and 2) I swear a few of my friends are but haven't told me yet 3) I could just be being ultra-paranoid!

Big hugs to you treacle and stocking. Everyone is right. Fuck work and the people who don't understand. It's time to build a bubble around yourselves. You choose whose in there with you and just focus on you you you.

Currently sat having coffee in tescos with a group of nct mums with sleeping babies one side and a heavily pregnant women the other side. When will it stop catching my throat and taking my breathe away?

Ah thanks everyone, I worded that badly though it was Sunday just gone... so Christmas Eve would be 10dpo! Gah. I doubt it anyway, I'm having sharp pains down in my tummy today and they don't feel like good pains. Its so horrible what MC does to you I can't even get excited at the thought of poas now as my mind wants to stick to 'don't get your hopes up' :(

Brummie Fantastic! Over the moon for you hun! :D

brummie I had a scan at 6 weeks and I remember the little flickering heart well. Congratulations lovely lady.

Amyy. . I'll be crossing my fingers for a Xmas bfp cc

Great news so far brummie

Hugs chasing

A sad welcome to our group BB01 all those things are happening to you! Its perfectly normal. We're here for you to rant at when the rl people think you should have moved on!

What Treacle said about baby aspirin, I made decision to take it. 75mg a day from Boots. It's £1.79 for a month.

Now I have absolutely no idea if the aspirin made a difference or if it was better luck this time round and I guess we'll never know. But I felt if I had a 3rd mc I would kick myself for not taking something that I could buy in Boots.

As it happens for my ERPC they tested the tissue and there was nothing genetically wrong with the baby, it wasn't chromosomal. Therefore had to be me.

My doc wasn't too bothered by me taking it and just said it's one of the first things they look for after 3 mc's but obviously as I hadn't been tested I could still have an mc if sticky blood wasn't the cause.

Thanks for all your kind words though. I think it will seem more real in 2 more weeks when hopefully everything is still ok and little one has grown. Then of course hanging on until 12 weeks

Hey ladies can you help ? Is this a faint BFP ! I look so hard I think I'm seeing things!

I'd say so nic89. Congrats! Wishing you a thoroughly uneventful 8 months.