ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

stocking I've no idea on opks but sorry you're upset. Conflicting emotions are shit.

chasing glad to hear you've been signed off and feeling a bit better.

Stocking I have used those (and just bought a new bundle). It says on them a faint line is no good but I think that just means you've missed the actual moment of ovulation. If it has changed from nothing one day to a faint line the next then I would think ov has or is just about to take place.

Do you test at different times of day? Apparently the most likely time for a strong result is the afternoon, not FMU. But lots of people test two or three (or 5!) x a day on their likely days.

Oh Sasha Big hugs. UMNetty ones, obvs.

So... Heres the OPK I have just done. I've never had one that dark before usually barely visible. Cervical mucus/position/texture all indicate fertile time.

Well and truly threw caution to the wind last night by the looks of it!

Stocking, I never even get a line that dark! I've never had a pos OPK cheapy and the cheapy pregnancy tests where barely showing a line even though I knew my hcg was really high. I just think they don't work for some.

Sasha :( I'm sorry. X

mortified It took a Clearblue Digital to get a BFP last month, I don't hold much stock in cheapo pregnancy tests, did 3 different ones before Clearblue.

Totally at how dark that line is!

Hi ladies!

I am so far behind on the thread so sorry, I will have a proper read through when I get enough time. I have had a super busy weekend! I had my works night out which I was dreading as I was so looking forward to having a bump and being able to get away early :( nevermind.. it didn't go as bad as expected.

I've started using an app called 'My Days' and according to that I should be ovulating Wednesday, although I feel like I had ov pains yesterday so we DTD. I'm not so keen on the app though, does anyone use another app that would track ov?

Anyway hope you're all well. I'll have a read back through later on and hope I see some BFPs! And hopefully no newbies :(

x

I have My days. I find it quite handy. --because I don't understand fertility friend!

I love FF - until I paid for the Premium Version and now I just sit looking at it like this

Hi Ladies

stockings that looks like a nice clear positive to me. I found that the time of day made a big difference for me - early evening gave the best results

I'm now in the 2ww again, Not feeling too hopeful this month but strangely not to stressed about it.

I do have a question though.
I have a constant ache - not really pain, but always there, in where I'm guessing my left ovary is.
I've realised that this is something I notice every month from just after I ovulate until AF arrives. It was there in my latest pregnancy up until about 8 weeks but I can remember ever noticing it before ( then again I never really paid as much attention as I do now!!)

Has anyone else noticed anything similar? Trying to refrain from Dr Google cause there are bound to be lots of scare stories

Hi all! Like SashaKerr I'm warming my seat for 2015.
1st pregnancy, 1st MC over the weekend at 7weeks5days. The wind has truly been taken out of my sails. But looking forward to joining you all in the highs and lows of TTC soon!

Quick question - I opted to go home and let the MC take its course rather than pills or surgery, scan in 2 weeks to make sure all is well. When is sensible to resume trying again? I've read conflicting things about doing it soon. I'm no where near mentally ready yet, but in terms of physically - do I have to wait a whole cycle? Or can we dive on in there as soon as I feel ready?

UpNorth So sorry I have no answers re physically waiting, its only been 2 weeks since I had a MC at 4/5 weeks. Bleeding very heavy for the first 3 days and then tailed off over the next 2 days after that. I'm sure one of the lovely ladies on here will be able to advise.

DH & DTD last night I had no intention, mentally, of having unprotected sex any time soon, yet last night we just... Did. I feel very silly, being a married woman of 28 years old, surely I should be able to control myself?! Apparently not though MAP not an option, OPK shows clearly that I am ovulating/have ovulated (will know more with tomorrows OPK) so I guess we're on the 2WW now to see if anythings going to come of it.

I definitely did not want to be doing this till at least February, I just thought, if the Mirena naffed up my womb lining so its not strong enough to hold an implantation, that we should give it a few months to "recover" (as suggested by my GP and a quick Google confirms as much) and then try... Now I am crapping myself and kicking myself. It might be sticky, it might not. Sigh. What an idiot.

UpNorth sorry you're here. As far as I know you can ttc as soon as you're ready. Only thing is you must make sure you have had a negative pregnancy test to avoid the hideous doubt you might experience if you get a positive in a month and don't know if it is a new pregnancy or still the mc. I've decided to just wait one cycle to ttc just so I can feel sure that my body has healed properly. There isn't any evidence to suggest you should wait, or any to suggest you shouldn't do just see how you feel.

Guy ... That makes sense! That would be too cruel to think I was testing positive for something I'm hoping I can put behind me.

Stocking ... I'm sure it wasn't your intention, but I've just had a right giggle at your post. It warmed my heart that you and your OH did it just because ... And not because it's time to try. Gives me great hope

Think I'm ovulating. I don't track or do opks but keep aware of cm and things. I'm at 19 days past natural miscarriage and 17 days past erpc and I usually have a 35-ish day cycle so seems ok. Although we're not ttc this month, I'm hoping that means everything is in working order.
Still dithering about when to ttc.

Stocking maybe just a relaxed 'see what happens without obsessing' attitude is not such a bad thing? What do you think you want happen this month?

Stocking I know it probably feels stressful now but maybe it's a good thing as the decision out of your hands?
similar happened to me and I kicked myself but then I wasn't pregnant anyway.

Been signed off work this week with stress and headaches. Ho hum.

Re OPK's - they worked for me last time with the baby we lost. I have a pretty standard 28 day cycle, ovulate on day 14. I got faint lines for 4 days before ovulation (just got a faint today!) and then dark line day of (should be friday.) I test every day at the same time, 1pm (DS's nap time!) to get the most conclusive results. We'll DTD tonight, wednesday, thursday, friday and saturday (as long as ovulation happens when it should) and hope it works!

envious i'll be joining you, i test just after new year as long as i ovulate when i should. Cycle after MC so hoping it all goes back to normal!

Sorry to see more joining, the title is so right - the best shit place to be. Nice to 'see' you again chasing. I'm glad it's finally worked, i hope these 3 cycles fly by xx

purple how are you doing? Do you have a scan date?

upnorth sorry you find yourself here but its full of lovely ladies. Re how long to wait, the medical profession often suggest waiting ttc again for 1 cycle, but there's no proper reason for this... Just helps dating a pregnancy. At your scan you should get confirmation that everything is OK. I was just told to poas until it was negative first time round. Consultant after my erpc said there was no need to wait other than giving your body a break. Everyone's different. Some ladies like getting straight back to it where as others need a break.

UpNorth74 Glad to have made you giggle! My DSis did the same thing earlier when I told her "You're talking like you're a daft 17 year old, its not going to be a disaster if you do get pregnant this month! You're 28 and married and had the coil out, you're supposed to have sex unprotected you moose" Unless this one doesn't stick too

Guybrush & treacle My attitude towards life was, until last year, a very cavalier, shrug it off, let the chips fall where they may sort of thing. Then I got hit by panic attacks and major anxiety seemingly out of nowhere and we put off TTC all year because of it. Then my DFather said he was fed up of seeing me cower and could I please just bloody do something?! (He's actually a very understanding, brilliant father whom I adore but he is incredibly blunt with his words) It did work though I won't be telling him that cos he is also very smug

What do I want? I would love to be pregnant, I absolutely would. I got my past my anxiety (although I am still medicated for it and probably will be for a long time - none of the meds are dangerous to a baby though, I've had 2 GPs and a Psych confirm this for me) but then we MC'd and the last 2 weeks I've gone back to cowering in a corner.

I think if it happens for a second time I will not be able to continue TTC and DH definitely won't be able to. Because of this I wanted to give my womb time to heal, perhaps the effects of Mirena (thinning womb lining) are still affecting it and it hasn't recovered. Of course this is all very speculative but this is why I wanted to leave it a few months. The plaster has been ripped off so to speak and DH & I have decided to just carry on as we are.

According to FF my cycle is 26 days, OPK Positive today, so assuming that, I can start testing at 10 DPO which is Christmas Day...

and for reading my waffling.

I think we're quite similar stocking, i have bad panic attacks.
I just have to get through this week off sick :/
I have my fingers crossed for us all.

Is thinning lining a side effect of the mirena? I didn't know that.

Don't know if this is true but I would imagine if uterine lining is a bit thin, the fertilised egg just wouldn't implant that month. Never heard of it being a cause of mc.

The thing we have to remind ourselves is that most miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities. And it isn't surprising that of all the millions of sperm, that some of the resulting fertilised eggs don't divide or develop properly. In these cases, which is the majority something like (80-90%), it doesn't matter how thick your uterine lining is, how much folic acid you took, or if you got pissed and ate rare streak and raw eggs the night before your bfp. Those ones were just never going to develop.
Equally if you have one of the 4 out of 5 pregnancies which does develop normally, none of the above isn't going to make any difference either.

We have just been unlucky but will get lucky next time.

Sorry if any of this is insensitive. I know it's not the way everyone chooses to look at it but I find some comfort in the evidence-based belief that I didn't cause the mc because I had no control over whether or not those cells were right. And there is no more chance of it happening again that there is to any other woman in the world.