ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

[chasingtherainbow]

Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

Great news brummie x

It looks like I can have plenty of Brie, pate and wine this Christmas. No BFP for me this month.
Strangely I don't feel nearly as gutted as I did the last time AF arrived.
This was my first proper cycle after my wtf cycle and MMC in October.
Just thought is post to let other people know that it does get easier. It definitely is the first AF following a MC that is heart breaking and makes you realise that you really aren't pg.
I know it's partly my fault that we didn't get our BFP this month as we didn't try enough this month, I just wanted to take a more relaxed approach.
I know that I'll be cuddling my new baby by this time next year.

guy I had an erpc as I had an mmc at 10 wks but things had stopped developing about 6 wks. I was offered all the options but consultant did say erpc would be best as my body was doing nothing at all to do things naturally and I too told them to jog on about medical management as really didn't like the sound of that, but each to their own. In the end as it was a twin pregnancy it was felt erpc was best as there was quite a lot to come out, sorry for tmi. Very glad I had the erpc, was quick and for me I was glad it was physically over.

Sadly, here I am having lost my son at 27 weeks nearly 7 weeks ago. So I'm lurking here wishing you all sticky bfps rather than ttc'ing.

I've just read your post Cakebaker I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I cannot begin to imagine how heart breaking it must have been for you to lose him.

fifi sorry AF arrived, but glad you're not feeling too bad.
cakebaker I've just seen your post. How sad.

So dr called and my hcg is 11 so not considered negative and I need to go back for another. How have I had a period if I can't ovulate FFS? So much conflicting info! On a plus side they fitted me in today to check my cyst.

Called emergency gynae to update them and they would have signed off with a hcg below 25. Also I asked if I got pregnant again what to do and she said GP can refer there for early monitoring. Thats made me feel a bit better! Just to sort out the cysts now.....

Ah right, thanks treacle I shall do that tomorrow morning. Flying visit to the board as I have 23 month old DNiece here and my DD who's almost 4 and they are a combination of whirlwind/hurricane this afternoon DNiece is the main reason I am/was broody - DH and SIL are the double of each other and DNiece looks like them both. She's currently stood looking at my tree saying "Pretties"

Morning ladies!

Feeling really positive at the moment, think I might just be turning a corner. Work is mental, in fact I'm up and working already but loads of fun family stuff going on. Spent last night baking a birthday cake for my dd was a lovely way to spend time with my DH. Lots of giggles and fun is taking a bit of pressure off.

Positive OPK on Thursday so fingers crossed

Maybe I should try baking a cake today northdownmummy because we cracked under the TTC pressure last night and got a positive opk this morning .

We've managed to hold it together this far but now my head is spinning. Got a busy day so hopefully that will help me get through today. Just feel like such a bloody failure.

Morning ladies, hoping everyone has a good weekend.

Af got me yesterday, and a member of staff announced their unexpected bfp, sigh. That actually upset me more than I expected it to.

Works Xmas do tonight, will have to watch my vino intake! I am in the mood for a drink but probably best not to tonight as I will no doubt start crying.

What's everyone else up to?

So sorry allthequeens :(

I went to my Xmas meal yesterday. I was 8dpo so only had a few drinks.
There was a colleague who is about 13 weeks pregnant there. Gah.

I haven't got high hopes for a bfp to be honest. Probs get af tomorrow.

I didn't either really treacle but it's the small part of you that hangs on isn't it. I'm trying to be positive. Have a little bit of time off over Xmas so can be more relaxed and less tired. I do wonder if stress is a huge factor for me. I have had a really hard year work wise, like when you can almost feel your blood pressure going up. I don't suppose that helps at all.

My DDs are at their Dads this weekend. I am supposed to be sorting various household things out, doing some baking (which I am crap at and have brought stuff do it with this weekend to keep me occupied) and general Christmas sorting.

Instead, however, I am in my pyjamas with my robe on, watching Elementary and scoffing Lindt truffles.

Sigh. I want to jump my DH but every time the thought crosses my mind I instantly panic that I will get pregnant. It makes me because a few weeks ago I wanted so badly to have a baby and now I don't, and I know its not "being pregnant" that scares me but the thought of another MC that does.

Yeah im a very stress person and work is crazy atm. To be honest though when I conceived last time I was in the same state so try not to worry.

Stocking, i feel the same. The thought of mc scares me but I'm 7 months on now and so desperate to be pregnant again that I'm regretting the one or two months we didn't try very hard due to worrying.

Also, one of my most exciting symptoms this month is that I've gone off those lindt truffles! I normally adore them.

*stressy even

I've only recently discovered them and I am sure I am going to be putting on half a stone due to eating them

Another lindt chocolate fan here!

Glad you're feeling happier northdown and sorry some of us aren't Allthequeenshorses, stocking and treacle.
I definitely want to try again asap, but like stocking the fear of another mc is strong.

I have a great brave face but find myself crying a bit when I am on my own atm.

I love Lindt too! Especially straight from the fridge. I believe they also have medicinal properties

Bloody bfn and temp drop (not below coverline yet) at 10dpo.
Af should arrive today. So fed up :(

Hello everyone.

Sorry to see so many people feeling down. It's my work Christmas party tonight and I'm not going.

On the plus side I had a completely negative test today less than two weeks after th erpc, so at least this is a completely clean slate.

Has anyone used opks on their wtf cycle? I can't even guess what my normal cycle would be as the miscarriage was straight off of the pill, so when would you recommend testing?! I can't temp because of shift work

Hey all. Hope everyone's okish. Year from Hell gets worse. DFIL is waiting in A and E for a psych assessment. To be honest, I'm glad AF showed up this month. Starting to come to terms with the fact that it might not happen and it's not the end of the world if it doesn't. Whilst there's no such thing as a perfect time at the moment it would be not far off the worst time. So, I think I'm finally a year after the MC in the right place to actually calm down and try again without it being a BIG DEAL. It's not the end of the world whatever happens. Good luck all and let's see some bfps or happy endings of whatever type!

Hi all

Sorry I disappeared for a while there.
Welcome to the newcomers. Sorry that you find yourselves here. .. those who followed on from the previous thread, wave - I see a few of you are having a rough time. Big hugs. Hang on in there guys. We will get there.

Today I was discharged from hospital. At long last. HCG is 5. I am SO grateful that the 2nd round of methotrexate has worked efficiently. I am however finding it really hard right now. I am emotional and tearful.

We went away this week for 2 nights on our own to celebrate first wedding anniversary. We left 3yo dd which was so hard as we never do that! But we needed it and it was incredible. We had massages and drank wine etc. It was great to relax and escape our sadness.

When we got back my brother announced they are due no2 2 wks after ours was due. It was unexpected. Amazing news because they struggled to get preg with no1. I am so happy for them.

But when the words left his mouth I think I must have just stared at him blankly for what felt like forever. The emptiness just hit me. She has a beautiful healthy baby in her womb. I don't. I'm empty. I managed to hold myself together until I went to the loo and then fell apart. I am not sad they are pregnant. Just sad I'm not too. Is that ok? Normal?

I'm praying I have a proper period asap. And two more then a nice big BFP as soon as the methotrexate limit is up. I'm praying for a November baby. The idea that I might not have a baby in 2015 makes me feel a mess.

chasing and I think that is entirely normal and its good that you can differentiate - its okay, more than okay to feel the way you do.

I got so angry last week when DHs friend said she'd reported her exDH and his newDP for drug us, mcat to be more specific, and she is pregnant using drugs, hence friend reporting them. I almost Hulked out. How can someone be so bloody careless with the life growing inside them?!

Ladies: can I pick your brains re OPKs? I have a bag of them, One Test eBay cheapies. I only ever get faint lines on them. Never one as strong as the test line. Does this mean anything? According to FF I should be ovulating around now just DTD with no protection and well, one thing led to another this evening, its the first time since the MC and I'm lying in bed crying wtf DH is thankfully fast asleep and not witnessing my snotty meltdown.