ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

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Roll up roll up... onto a new thread. Keep those lucky bfp' s coming and unmumsnetty hugs all round.

envious
I had my ERPC on the 11th November, and just got my +OPK on 9th December.
I also thought you were unlikely to ovulate, but I have, although thats sounds a long time, it is 18 days after I got a - HPT (testing to ensure bHCG gone) so I expect AF or hopefully BFP in about 10 days, 28 days from - HCG
I hope that makes sense

snoopy
Sorry for your loss...
I bled for 3 days then not for 3 days then bled for 4 days, after that just spotting on and off.
I think your HCG needs to be back down

snoopy for me it was 6d of heavy bleeding, 5d of light then a few days of spotting. I would only be worrying if it's still heavy or if you have any pain

I was hoping to start TTC straight away but I guess I can't ovulate if I'm still bleeding.

I did take a HPT a few days ago and it was very nearly negative so I thought the bleeding would tail off.

But it's a good thing if you don't ovulate yet! You're not supposed to have sex while you're still bleeding anyway so just keep an eye on things and when it stops, your cycle will start and if you want to, you can start ttc.

I know it's really hard when it feels like it's still not over. But you're nearly there.

I spoke to DH last night as I really can' handle the thought of getting pregnant again just yet. We decided I'd go to the GP and ask for the Pill next week. I just can't wrap my head around anything right now. Yesterday I was bordering on a panic attack all day thinking about continuing to TTC.

Hmmm just back from the gp. I'm having a blood test tomorrow for thyroid antibodies so I'm pleased with that.

But the gp said I could ovulate when I'm still bleeding has anyone else had that advice?

Stockingfullofcoal, I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. If you're feeling this way it's probably best to take a break, do some non baby things until your ready. I'm looking at all the plants I bought last year when I was quite into gardening, I've neglected them for the last three months, maybe its time to sort them out.

Stocking, definitely take a break but I would say that I felt exactly the same and then suddenly changed my mind.
Don't feel bad about how you're feeling either.

Hi all,

I've been lurking for awhile. I had a MMC at the start of September and am on the TWW of my second cycle since then. Mostly holding it together but have spent part of this afternoon crying in the toilets at work because someone called to ask if I still needed free prescriptions. Still getting tripped up by silly things like that.

Also have works Xmas do tomorrow and am tempted to have a drink or two because it's Xmas and I don't get out much, but also scared to as could be pregnant and theres a good chance I'll get emotional and start crying into my turkey dinner :(. Will probably have to put with speculation as to why I'm not drinking to boot, argh!

Any advice on how to survive the works party much appreciated!

Sigh. Wrote a post at lunchtime and mn crashed. Kind of sums up my day. Work sucks. Tired and not feeling the TTC zone we are in. Dh's bike has been nicked from the station. And the house seems to be falling apart around me. Hooray. Not. Sorry for the grumble.

snoopy I thought you could ov whilst still bleeding, but that's with a regular cycle as opposed to a wtf or post mc one. No idea why I think that though. I know some ladies bleed a bit when they ov too. Good news about the blood test.

heaven knows the only way I know how to survive work parties is to have a drink. Maybe just see how you're feeling tomo. You aren't being tripped up by silly things in my opinion. Please don't beat yourself up about feeling emotional. Your mmc is a big deal and it takes time... More than you think... To recover. You shouldn't have had to deal with a call like that. Have an unmn hug.

stocking you're doing nothing wrong choosing to have a break. Don't rush feeling better. You're doing nothing wrong. We're trying to continue TTC. Again. And its tough. Almost regretting it. Try to enjoy the holiday season... Easier said than done but enjoy a few glasses of guilt free

Nearly the weekend. Anyone anything nice planned? I have 101 things to do. . . just wanna veg. And hide.

I feel the same heaven, af is due sunday and so I'm in a really tricky place. Do i drink or not? Can't deal with people asking me of im pregnant but I'd be worried if I'd had a few drinks then got a bfp.

envious i think since you've had a negative pregnancy test, i'd believe the OPK.

hey ladies, hows everyone doing?

Sorry I had to come on for a moan....

So a good friend of mine has announced she's 9 weeks pregnant and this is her second pregnancy since my DH and I got married last year (her DD is eight months old). Is it wrong that im really peeved off? I am happy and wish her and her partner a healthy happy pregnancy but im so upset. And the neurotic side of me is saying well 'cause you're jealous you'll never get pregnant.

On top of this I told husband tonight that i finally feel like im moving on and accepting, this is our third month off ttc since losing our little girl (currently 5 dpo) and i told him that if we do get a bfn this month im going to try to step back from the obsessing over peeing on sticks and ovulation kits etc. :( why is m/c and ttc so cruel?

thanks for listening x

snoopy My OU materials for my January module landed on my doorstep yesterday, I've set them out on the coffee table and I'm off stationery shopping tomorrow to cheer myself up yes I'm a stationery saddo and the DDs are at their Dads this weekend Fri-Sun so planning to get stuck into those whilst DH goes off with his siblings to watch John Bishop live. I'd be going along too, but last time I was in a crowded place - Cineworld waiting to watch the S8 Ep1 of Dr Who I had a mega panic attack and I really can't be bothered with the risk that will happen again so I am staying at home. At least that way I know DH will have a good time and I won't feel guilty for asking him to leave with me.

Hope you get good news from the GP re thyroid and other stuff. As for ovulating when bleeding that wouldn't surprise me one bit, I have a very strange cycle.

treacle I'm quite spontaneous reckless with major decisions such as this so it wouldn't surprise me at all if I chucked them in the bin after a few weeks. DH is the more careful thinker. Heres hoping AF does not arrive this weekend. Don't worry about a few glasses of wine, my midwife told me a few years ago that the baby is and I quote "still rolling around in its own sac and not attached via a placenta at that point so stop winding yourself up about the Baileys and cigarettes the weekend before your BFP." I liked her a lot! didn't stop the unreasonable Mum guilt but hey ho!

mrsdiddly Oh if only I could sink a glass bottle of wine, however the meds I'm on (anxiety meds & mega strong penicillin for a gum infection) mean I cannot. I had a small glass of Baileys at my Great Grans funeral this time last year and ended up passed out on the sofa 2 hours later with everyone thinking I'd sunk the whole bottle! As if I would I totally would and do have previous form for it

Heres to a better weekend for everyone on this thread.

Christ thats a long post!

elley thats totally normal, a lot of women I know are announcing their 2nd/3rd pregnancies at the moment and I'm but mostly and

Stocking, you and I sound very similar!
Thank you for that, I'll just have a few drinks and try not to worry. After all, ive been trying over a year and only got pregnant once.

Evening all.

elleybear that's a lot to have to deal with when you're going through MC and ttc. Completely understandable.

I was really good last pregnancy not drinking and reducing caffeine and still MC so I'm not completely abstaining, just not getting wrecked.

Today I had complete baby brain, despite no pregnancy or current baby, and lost my car. I had no idea the Trafford centre had 2 multi stories and had parked on the other one to my friend and was rather panicking until we worked it out!

AF still with me so no dtd yet. We've always done it b4, but now I've found out there's a slightly increased risk of infection with it so that's off the cards now too.

Nearly weekend. Woohoo.

Elley you are not being at all unreasonable to feel like that. I am know how lucky I am to have DS but now he is two, announcements are starting and I am finding that hard. There was a scan picture on fb during the time I was recovering from the mc and anyone announcing now will be due around the time I should have been. I am still pleased for them but I can't help feeling that stab of pain. Especially being older at 38 and feeling that time is running out, it feels so unfair.

I think my bleeding is at an end so I have ordered some pg & ov tests on Amazon. Not really looking forward to testing.

I was wondering about re-testing after MC. I haven't. Few friends said I should. Unsure why?!

Do you mean once you've miscarried? You should test to check it's negative. That way any future pregnancy won't be confused with the miscarriage.

Feeling a bit down tonight :( Still git brown dis charge (11 days after mc) and just generally feel wiped out and absolutely shattered :( really getting me down, is this normal? X

Yes mummytogoldie its normal, sadly. Try taking spatone sachets available from supermarkets to increase iron and a multi vitamin for a bit. It can take a few months to physically feel better.