April TTC girls head into September - Autumn and BFPs here we come

[iamdivergent]

Stats so far (you know me, probably wrong! Argh!)

Steph1204 TTC # 1, 2nd cycle, BFP 12 june, EDD: 20/2/15
lillamyy1 TTC #1 cycle 4 BFP 11/8/14 EDD 18/4/15
Ducky23 TTC#2, cycle 1 BFP on April 17th EDD 25/12/14
Cupcake92 TTC #2 Cycle 4 BFP on July 22nd 2014 EDD 05/04/14
LuluJakey1 Age 35 TTC#1 Cycle1 BFP Late May?? EDD 04/01/15
bearsinmotion ttc#2, BFP 26 June, EDD 25/02/15
Poppet85 ttc#1 cycle 3 BFP 5th June EDD 10/2/15
Kitkatkaty87 ttc #1, cycle 1, BFP 7th June EDD 15/2/15

iamdivergent ttc #3, heading into cycle 8 (BFP/AF around about 24/08)
MrsPopple29 ttc #1, cycle 5 (August)
Me624 cycle 4 (?)
21questions ttc #2 (cycle 1 august) Age 30
ToriB34 Age 34 TTC #1 (mmc July)
bradders
Siarie, TTC #1, cycle 2 not sure when AF due as last cycle was irregular
LenaW2109 cycle 6
CP1299 I am 35 TTC1 cycle 1
Tylastar TTC #1
Macmissy Age 34 TTC#1 Cycle3 (+ cycle 3MMC Aug 14)

The successful list is getting so much longer - fx for the rest of us!

Baby has gone :'( stopped growing

Oh no! I am so sorry Cupcake. You must be devastated. Bodies are so cruel- all that MS.

I am so sorry. What happens now?

[Flowers]

Are you by yourself? What awful news to get.

Oh cupcake how awful what happens now?

Hope your DH is looking after you for once

Really sorry to read this I was sure everything would have been ok

So sorry to read this cupcake it would be my worst nightmare . Hope you've got supportive people around you . We're all thinking of you xx

So sorry :( . Are you with DH?

Very sorry cupcake, hope you are being well supported and looked after. Thinking of you xxx

Oh cupcake I'm really sorry! Can't believe that jerk in the car did this! I really thought it would be ok for you xx

Support? Ha. That's funny. He walked off as soon as we got out. Left me to struggle with DS and try and pay for the car park ticket. He's not spoken to me at all.

I have to go back a week today to talk about options. I've asked to be scanned again next week. Baby had grew a bit. There wasn't a baby last time but there is now. But it's only measuring 5-6 weeks and I should be 8 weeks. They said it's stopped growing. But I just want to see before I have to make any decisions. Because what I will have to do is completely against my religion. I just don't want to get rid of my baby :'(

I think you are right to wait. If there has been some growth don't lose hope yet. There are lots of examples on BabyCentre of this with good outcomes because dates were wrong or cervix was retroverted and affected scan. Last time they could not see a baby, this time they can so that is still hopeful. I understand that you want to be 100% sure before you make decisions.

Your DH just can not cope with anything! He opts out or protects himself by cutting off. It leaves you to deal with everything alone.

You are having an awful time

Can they let nature take it's course one way or the other? Rather than you having to actively decide? Xx

Cupcake your DH has just made me feel physically sick! What a tosser

As lulu said, hold on for another scan as baby has grew

Do they think it was due to the crash or unrelated?

Yeah I agree with the other ladies get another scan next week because baby had grown just not according to your dates , gives you a chance to tryand get your head round all different possibilites .
Your 'h' clearly cant express his emotions or handle ANY difficult situation xx

I have no hope at all. They did basically tell me today the baby's stopped growing and that I need to start looking at my options.
I just hope they offer counselling of some sort, as I don't feel I can do this by myself. And it will be by myself. My DH is useless and no support at all from him so far.

Aw cupcake this is awful . I know theres lots of websites and lovely ladies on sites like this who I am sure can offer support and I would hope the hospital will tell you about 'real life' support

Oh cupcake

Cupcake Im so sorry. I have been thinking of you all morning.

I hope you get some real support to get you through this.

I'm really sorry cupcake, and to know that you must face all this by yourself makes me sad... I wish your DH would be more concerned!!
I totally agree with what the ladies said :(

So, so sorry Cupcake
Will you be able to see your mum later? I imagine she'll support you.
As for your 'h', he doesn't deserve you at all. What an inconsiderate bastard!

Oh cupcake, I'm sorry about your 'D'H. As others said, you really deserve more than this :(. I hope you find some RL support. Look after yourself x

Cupcake I am so so so sorry. I have no words.

I've just been lurking for weeks because I've had nothing positive to add to the thread, but shit love, I'm sorry.

There's been some growth, and you've had some wicked symptoms, why not wait it out a little longer?

I do hope you have some RL support, I've hated reading about your 'D' H for some time now, and I do think you need some love and support from someone that isn't him!

Go give DS the longest tightest cuddle, and if there's anything I can help with do let me know.

Thanks so much everyone. Honestly thank u :)
DS has also cheered me up. I'm so lucky to have him. Such a beautiful smiley little boy :)
I'm off to see my mom at 3 as she's just at work atm. She's said next week she's coming with me not DH.
I guess I'm still in shock really. I had one pregnancy which was all fine, I just thought this would be the same.
I've had my cry and got it all out now anyway :) I'm still young and I will have another baby that's for sure. It'll happen again.
It's just the next step I think ill struggle to deal with.

Sometimes things just work out the way they do, but as you said you've got plenty of time it will happen. However I do wonder if you are considering whether you should be TTC with "that man" after everything you'e said, perhaps something to consider once you've had some time to come to terms with everything?

Glad you can get some support from your mum at least and that she will be with you for the next scan xx.