April TTC girls head into September - Autumn and BFPs here we come

[iamdivergent]

Stats so far (you know me, probably wrong! Argh!)

Steph1204 TTC # 1, 2nd cycle, BFP 12 june, EDD: 20/2/15
lillamyy1 TTC #1 cycle 4 BFP 11/8/14 EDD 18/4/15
Ducky23 TTC#2, cycle 1 BFP on April 17th EDD 25/12/14
Cupcake92 TTC #2 Cycle 4 BFP on July 22nd 2014 EDD 05/04/14
LuluJakey1 Age 35 TTC#1 Cycle1 BFP Late May?? EDD 04/01/15
bearsinmotion ttc#2, BFP 26 June, EDD 25/02/15
Poppet85 ttc#1 cycle 3 BFP 5th June EDD 10/2/15
Kitkatkaty87 ttc #1, cycle 1, BFP 7th June EDD 15/2/15

iamdivergent ttc #3, heading into cycle 8 (BFP/AF around about 24/08)
MrsPopple29 ttc #1, cycle 5 (August)
Me624 cycle 4 (?)
21questions ttc #2 (cycle 1 august) Age 30
ToriB34 Age 34 TTC #1 (mmc July)
bradders
Siarie, TTC #1, cycle 2 not sure when AF due as last cycle was irregular
LenaW2109 cycle 6
CP1299 I am 35 TTC1 cycle 1
Tylastar TTC #1
Macmissy Age 34 TTC#1 Cycle3 (+ cycle 3MMC Aug 14)

The successful list is getting so much longer - fx for the rest of us!

Thanks Tori ill do a test after 20 days to check.
And yes emotionally it'll take me a long time. I've been crying a lot. Just out of the blue. And also when my stomach aches I cry and when I change my pad I cry as it reminds me of not being pregnant any more.
It's hard.

That's true Tori, I have a lot of blessings too. I'm greatful to already have my DS and I'm also greatful that I can actually get pregnant.
But, I know I never met my baby, but I miss it so much already :'(

Heard someone In the waiting room who had just had a early scan come out and say "I'm much far gone than I thought got to go have a proper dating scan!" N her mom and dad said to her "better stop smoking and drinking then!" To which she said "nah should be alright, I've done it up till now not knowing n baby is alive"
It made me so so angry!!!! Why does she do everything wrong but her baby survives yet I did everything right to care for my baby but they never made it :(
I honestly never expected this to be this hard. I know ill have my baby one day. Just got to treasure the moment when I do

This stuff is never fair cupcake

Are you having any follow up appointments cupcake?

Nope no follow up appointments Ducky, they advised to do a hpt after 2 weeks then if it was positive to call and id have to go back to see if any pregnancy tissue has been left. But taking Tori's advice I'll wait 20 days.
Thinking about calling one of the helplines to see what support there is in my area as I'm really struggling atm. It's so hard, my baby didn't deserve it and to be removed the way it was is horrible.
I'm sorry for all the negative talk, just not sure who to talk to.

Cupcake, it is going to take time. Can you talk to DH. or your mum? Have you been on the miscarriage association website. I think it is www.miscarriageassociation.org
Or the threads on here about miscarriage. They might be helpful.
It must be a scary feeling- things you can't control are always scary I think.

It is absolutely pouring here. It got out nice earlier on but it's tipping down now.

I made DH's favourite tea. We have had a nice day together and he's been very funny and sweet. I have remembered why I married him.

Thanks lulu. I feel a bit better this morning. Probably because DH went out for the first time in 2 years last night! And DS went to bed early and stayed asleep till half 7 this morning!! :D but also I think I'm feeling better as my bleeding a stopped so I'm not looking at that anymore as that was hard. I've had some support as well that's been amazing :)
And lulu bless u! That's lovely u had a great day :)

I will be back with all u pregnant ladies soon. Just u wait.

Glad your feeling better cupcake, you might be trying sooner than you think, I got a bfn a week after having dd

I know you will be pg again very soon

And I'm glad to hear you and DH are getting on better!!!

Cupcake, your DH sounds like he is making a bit of progress. I think you should be training him up very gradually all the time.
For example, today tell him you are exhausted this afternoon and need a sleep and say could he please take DS out for a walk for at least an hour, just to give you a chance to sleep. Say before that how great he has been- cooking, chocolate etc- and how much you appreciate it. Then he will start building a closer relationship with DS.
Then when he comes back make a cup of tea and sit down with him and DS and chat to him (DH) about where they went and what they did- more time together involved with you and DS.
Do you think that might work? He seems very amenable at the moment to being involved.

Ducky, is yours H at the. moment or DH? How is he behaving himself?

DH has been downstairs to make breakfast - he was making pretend coffee machine noises (we don't have a coffee machine)

He came upstairs with two mugs of tea - he won't have anything but Yorkshire tea- and 1 plate piled with toast and small odd shaped tomatoes and slices of emmental- sort of build your own toast thing- and two bananas.

You know I'm intentionally staying emotionally detached until my 8 week scan, I don't even think about it as my baby. It's just a thing that may or may not happen but I have to wait and see. I think that will make it a lot easier for me if the worst happens.

I actually have told my PIL that I'm staying detached and don't want to talk about it even though they had to know because were on holiday together. They've been fine about it and don't mention the potential baby at all just pregnancy symptoms.

I feel for you cupcake because you really weren't expecting this, I think i always assume the worst. I assumed we may have to have IVF before we even got pregnant. Prepared myself for the long journey and all that lol!

Thanks Siarie :) I hope everyone's pregnancy goes perfectly I really do. Enjoy every moment!

And thanks Ducky :) we just decided this month to dtd a few times a week and hope to catch it. If not, the next cycle ill temp and also do opks to check.

Lulu, surprisingly DH is getting ready now and is taking DS on his bike to the park for an hour!!! I'm very proud and surprised at how supportive he's been and how he's starting to click I to gear.
Ooo lulu ur DH is being lovely! :) sounds a lovely breakfast!!

Cd8 today and have started my opk's again a speech cb instructions. Hopefully catch my peak this month. I have 19 sticks so I am tempted to just keep testing and use them all until either I finish them (up to cd27) or until I get a peak. I got a low this morning but I think you always do on first day.

Glad you are doing ok cupcake - and do you know I only have to type the first few letters and my phone knows your names!

That is great. Don't let him slip. Keep encouraging him and praising him when he does good things (DH I mean, not DS). Keep building- I really do think he is growing up and you might win here Cupcake.

FX this month Iam Good luck!

Lulu, h has been very up and down recently! Has been ok some days and orrible the others!

Can't wait for you to get your BFP cupcake! Did you look at the site lulu put up.?

I am training up DH. I have found that if I mention something would be very good for a baby, he becomes very interested and starts to do it. It is amazing how it works.

For example, he is rubbish with dusting- thinks it is unnecessary. I have been telling him how worried I am about baby asthma and allergies and how babies are much less likely to be affected if they grow up in houses where dusting and hoovering is regular. He dusts now- told me we need to get into good habits now, especially with the two cats and their hair.

I've had cramps and some really red cm when I went to the loo there. Yak go away it's sex night lol

Don't think it would work with mine lulu.

Good luck Iam! :)

And don't sorry lulu I won't let him slip!!

Yes Ducky I've looked at that website. It's very good tbh :)
I'm eager to get my next bfp! Ill do it :)

But right now I'm so tired I could go to bed hahaa

Well me and h had another argument I can't talk to him about anything because he gets so angry. I think he has v serious anger issues

has he always been the same ducky or has this come on since dd was born? he could maybe be depressed or struggling with everything?

No tbh he has always been the same but it has got gradually worse I think, or maybe I just grew up a bit? I don't really know