Emergency bus for August! Penis dragons welcome, summer loving continued!

[MrsExtraOrdinary]

Oh dear we've run out of space! Hopefully somebody lovely will copy the stats over

Where you were ladies....

I'm wondering whether af is on the way. No spotting or cramping just manic cleaning! It always hits me the day before af a bit like nesting. All very strange! I'm just plain odd. But it's always been the same. Think it's like that coz i always seem to get so wiped out by af I'm incapable of standing up sometimes.

Sorry to hear af arrived hetty I hope your treatment goes well and you get a healthy bfp by the end of the year!

Aww treacle that must be hard :(

Just reading back and laughing at jizz dribble :D

Quick question - do any of you get spots on your chin around ovulation or af?
Im currently cd21 on 1st cycle after the pill, so not too sure what is happening. I stopped using the cb opk after 9 days of flashing smileys, then yesterday used a ic opk and got a strong line but not quite as dark as the control line. Did another one today and there is no line. Have had af style cramps for the last couple of days and have got a couple of spots on my chin - I have distant memory of this meaning af was imminent - but it seems a bit soon??

I have caught up on everything. Loads of stuff going on! Commenting on everything would take me forever (kudos for kuruma for doing that), but I'm thinking of you all.

lol fattycow as soon as I saw how behind I was I logged onto laptop so I could take notes then copy and paste!

I usually read everything, but I forget to react to most things...

I'm 10 dpo now and got + opk. Finding it such hard work with DH though. Last night I got a bit upset as wanted to DTD but I always feel like I am keeping onto DH to do it and the onus is always on me. He wants children just as much as me but it's always me that has to initiate things. I know that I know what's going on timing wise better than he does and sometimes I try to tell him that this is the week we need to be DTD but its just awkward and unromantic which he often comments on. How does everyone else manage this? We would be lucky to DTD once a week under normal circumstances so this is really upping our game. Any handy tips welcome please!

I've been really itchy for days. I know its a pg symptom but is it also just a pre af symptom? It's driving me cazy!

lucie, what I find that helps is:
going to bed early, so you aren't too tired.
Less tv/computer/tablet before bed, but spend the evening engaging with each other.
Give him a blow job from time to time (I do this at the least fertile times), so not all sex is 'just to make a baby' but just fun.
Dropping hints during the day seems to work as well. Not "I am fertile today, so I want sex tonight" but more along the lines of "you look really hot today, it's making me feel special WINK WINK".

Lolz, sorry for causing the spitting... there's an obvious joke there given the context, but I won't bother. He he

Hetty, all the very best for the next couple of months - at least you'll be in top condition for TTC after! Bon courage

Was it Surrey that mentioned the sperm issue? I tried to find the comment but to no avail. Just wanted to mention, the swimmers that come out on any given day were formed 3 months ago - so any changes to lifestyle now will show improvements in 3 months' time. Of course the test could have been flawed in the time it took to analyse/where it was done too... Best to do it at the clinic and hand it straight in! Just mentioning this incase there's another test in quick succession and the results are similar, don't lose hope. We had this ourselves on the motility front - the doc is waiting a good while before retesting.

As for the 'keeping it sexy' business, my DH has been on a mad exercise and health binge lately (in part due to above!), so all it takes is me complimenting him on his 'guns' etc and he gets all testosterony and up for it! Simple creatures really.

Am 9DPO today. Do not feel one bit pregnant! Every potential symptom has a rational explanation: my hot nights' sleep last week were down to the ear infection... The creamy CM is prob down to my progesterone tablets... The feeling of total exhaustion is because I'm hosting family... Boobs are totally normal, no implantation feelings/spotting, no nothing! Am going to try to wait til Friday before I test. We are flying down to Samui and Koh Tao that day (for the long Thai bank hol weekend with our family visitors) so that will be a nice consolation prize!

Argh!!! Just seen FB message from my cousin, "now the question everyone must be asking, isn't it time for you to be jumping on the baby bandwagon?"

How's this for a reply?! "I'd love to, but turns out my ovaries are fucked." That'll shut her up, lol!!

Sorry hetty Hope you can get back on the buses ASAP.

pikz I can kind of see something there but its a definite squinter. I agree you need a 'proper' test - a FR or something
(Ps I know you from another thread - I was k i r r i n)

chandler that sounds like a good response to me :)

So a question - what the earliest DPO you could test and reasonably expect a bfp. I am trying to hold of til next Tuesday, when I'll be 12 DPO - but I know I'll test earlier than that cos I'm like that! It would be a waste of a test wouldn't it?!

Morning

Oh Chandler, that sucks!! Tell her to mind her own business

Well done Katy

English good to see you and pleased you're feeling positive now af has gone.

My car has died going to try and find something else today.

Af is finally here! Never thought I would be so pleased but it's cd40 today or cd1 if she arrives properly. Finally get a go at ttc cycle 2. Right cbfm is ready and waiting and DP has a few days off at what should be the right time x

lucie The difficult thing is, not every TTC "shag" will be romantic/spontaneous/rock your world and our DHs and DPs need to realise this Instead, trying to inject some humour or, as has been suggested, offering them little "treats" are usually the carrots needed to entice them. Early on, I had a good chat with my DH about expectations and he knows he has the easier end of the stick, I mean, it is hardly a hardship have regular sex over what we have to go through symptom/OPK/temping etc.-wise. Maybe a chat with your DH might help?

MrsE Can't help you with the itchy-ness or manic cleaning-only time will tell!!!

Chandlers A similarly sarcastic response would come out of my mouth as well to a frankly out of order message as that one. Please tell me it's a message and not a post on your wall??!! Oh how I wish it was that easy to get pregnant for some!

Chandlers that is a perfect answer.

Hi guys! :)

Finding this TTC lark confusing. I'm on cycle day 18 now, and not sure if I'm on ovulation day or one day after. I got a positive ovulation test yesterday. No temperature spike this morning though. What would you guys say if it was you?

Here's a question for you - lately I've been waking up at one of two times in the morning - either at five o'clock when the light/birds seem to wake me, or quarter past six when my alarm does. Will that kind of difference really have an effect on my temperatures? I can't hack lying around for an hour if I wake up early!!

Struggling to keep nookie romantic and non-chore-like too. My husband seems to think I ONLY want to jump him because of baby-making and he's really acting like he's doing me a damned favour. It's really getting to me actually.

Ahhhhh hi Shetland

Chandlers my standard response is why don't you tell me

Lucite as kitty says have a chat with DH. I'm our house as we had this chat with DS we have a code sentence....which is usually along the lines of fancy putting a smile on my face later....to the point but not as factual as I got a smiley so we have to!

Not full of confidence here. Like MrsE think AF is on her way. Will try with fmu tomorrow if still not here and I manage to get a test tonight

Teachermummy2b I isually get a spot the week I ovulate and as af is arriving.

Have you tried talking to him about how important it is to you lucieloos? He may be in the 'if it happens it's great but if not we're fine' frame of mind? I have a higher sex drive the dh anyway so we've learned over the years how to not upset each other. Time of the day is quite important for us and things like getting undressed and sitting on his lap tend to make him more interested! I agree as well about chatting and putting internet/tv away or go for a walk. I find the rare evening we get to go out together we eat too much and fall asleep as soon as we're home so that doesn't work for us. Or just don't mention it at all and be more up for it all month long?

Glad to see your back and ready to fight another day Englishgirlreturned!

I think that may be slightly mean to your cousin ChandlersFarang but I see why you want to write it!!

X loads of posts there!

Sorry to hear about your car Spinningirl10! Dh kind insisted on us getting 7 seater before starting to ttc and although our car was old and knackered it still worked and I found getting a newer one quite nerve wracking! So far so good though!

Chanlersfarang - I know how it must feel. As if living through a baby boom amongst my close friends and colleagues wasn't enough, even my parents have started enquiring about when we're going to start baby making - very frustrating indeed!

Lucie - We also struggle to keep things romantic at our house - to the extent that DH has started enquiring what the CBFM says each morning before deciding whether he thinks we should DTD! I was keen to start DTD at 8dpo this month but DH was tired and justified his reluctance on the basis that "the Monitor says low"

Luckily the Monitor is now saying "high" which is why I'm typing this whilst cycling upside down!

Oh, HERE you all are! Thought I'd lost you! Lots to read back and catch up on.

Update from me - about 10dpo (I think) and have woken up with a really dry mouth. I'm definitely not dehydrated and have been guzzling water for the past hour, but still like I've been sucking on cotton wool balls. Yeuch.

Oh, and of course I completely caved on the "not testing til 12 dpo idea" from about 6dpo Still BFN though. No matter how I squint at it! Still plenty of time though.

Lol - Cariad - do you think the cycling thing really helps? :D Congratulations on your bonking anyway.

I've got to ask..what on earth is a penis dragon?!

Blimey I don't come on MN for 1 day and we finish a thread and are 5 pages into the next, I'm going to go and read and check I've not missed any BFP.

I saw this quote that I agree with -

Tickle - Not sure about cycling specifically (perhaps someone else can advise?) but tilting the cervix (by propping yourself on a pillow) both during and immediately after dtd is meant to assist sperm on their difficult journey...