TTC way longer than 10 months past & present

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A group of lovely ladies who've seen it all

Welcome Natasha! I have pcos too, it's a pain, isn't it? So frustrating not having regular cycles. Was your first baby conceived with clomid? That's great that you've ovulated though. Are you doing IUI or timed intercourse? Will they keep trying the letrozole and follistim or move onto IVF soon do you reckon? Your story sounds similar to mine up (5 or 6 rounds of clomid, then a cancelled injectables round before going on to IVF).

Oh sorry euro - don't know yet. Back to doc on Thursday and should have a clearer idea of what the plan is then. So much bloody waiting in this crap as I know you all know!

Cos - the same amount of time as secondary school TTC - . I'm sorry sweetpea.

Ray hope you're ok lovely girl.

Joy sending you a huge tail feather fluff. I know you must be so disappointed and frustrated now. Am thinking of you. Every day is another day closer to this being sorted out. Little goals. But it's miserable and I am so sorry you're having to go through it.

How's everyone doing? Fox, sending you positive thoughts!

joy sorry about the cycle being cancelled it doesn't rain but it pours shit doesn't it :-(

foxy any news on your donor ???

critter fingers crossed for you for you on Thursday

natasha welcome :)

My lining is 'plush' so I'm good to receive. Need all ten plussers old, new and graduated to do collective positive thinking. Transfer will be next tue-sat depending on what happens next. I so hope I get to bring an embryo home.

Fox that is fabulous news! I'm so excited for you honey. Yay! I foresee a spring foxlet.

Natasha I don't know about IUI - when I was on clomid it was TI too, although I only ovulated on it once. I reckon if your DH is fine and you have a little guy already, you'd be in with a good shot. The whole thing is a pain though.

Buzz how are you doing?

How's everyone else?

Fox great news, a great scan! Your body behaving! It's a good sign. And only next week, that's not far away, I have everything crossed and more. Keep us posted.

Euro how's things, how's the little lady doing?

Critter lovely how are you, are they going to test you again for hcg? Gosh you'll be going again before long.

Natasha welcome. We do try to be welcoming to newbies to the thread but everyone has been chatting for years now so inevitably the conversation reflects that. Sounds like you're in good hands - I think having a correct diagnosis and a proper management plan is half the battle.

Joy how are you doing lovely?

Afm I think I must have ov'd last tues ish. Had light pinky spotting on Sunday and light brown spotting yesterday and today. It is lighter than what I used to get pre-op but still inevitably my head is flip flopping between 'this could be it' and 'same old, same old'. It doesn't change does it, same old routine. Gah. Af due mon.

foxy yay to plush lining :) fingers crossed for you my lovely

cos hope the bitch stays away and this is your month :)

Delurking to wish fox all the best for next Tuesday. joy so sorry to read of cancelled cycle. What a disappointment.
Thinking of you all.

Ah fox that's lovely news. Plush is great and to be told something positive for once! Hoping praying with all might that this is it. Do you get regular updates on where the donor is at?

Cos - you must be going mental. It's bloody hard for you. I hope these spotting signs are something different. Goodness I just want you to have a proper break now. Really hope you don't see AF next week.

Euro - how is centime?

Critter - hope you are doing ok lovely and hopefully you can crack on again soon.

Thanks for your kind words ladies. I am fine. I am pleased I am off the synthetic drugs although not quite sure they have worn off yet (was sent a sickly email and some pics of my cousin's new baby today by my mother and I rolled my eyes, muttered bugger off and promptly junked them . Not the time to hear about the joys and blessings of parenthood!

Rabbit - plush lining sounds wonderful. I imagine this to be like the plushness of the new cruise liner Queen Elizabeth - ready to set sail with a stonking embie on board.

Cos - I can't help but think something might be happening - sorry not helpful I know. Pre -op I occasionally had mid 2ww spotting alongside 'symptoms' and I'm pretty sure I was conceiving on a regular basis (except for me the dodgy tube fluid was causing havoc too) so there is every chance my lovely. You can and do get pregnant! Just hang on in there.

Joy - oh crap bags! Can't believe a pesky cyst has thwarted this cycle. Oh honey you must feel fed up. Will you be offered another cycle? I was impressed to read the new ideas the consultant flagged up. Hope is a very good thing......and you still have so much to be hopeful for.

Hello to the new ladies - tis a great thread. Hi to Nellie, Ray, Euro, Free and Buzz etc

Aw lovely to see you sar how's mini sar doing?

Cos I really hope these are good symptoms. Are you taking progesterone at the moment?

Joy I keep thinking of you. Big fat boo to baby photos right now! Does your mum know?

Thank you free

Critter how are you doing, do you have any clearer sense of dates at all?

Wave to new folk who have joined us too.

Can I ask how long is normal to stim? I have no sense of this as I took years. My donor will be on day 11 on Saturday at her next scan. Is this ok do you think. For some reason I thought it would be super fast in someone young.

Excellent news on plush lining fox, I'm imagining a velvet cushion. Your donor is young, isn't she? So I reckon you'll have some top embies to choose from. How are you feeling?

Joy. How are you doing? I've been thinking about you. Will you be getting a scan again soon? You'll still be able to have an nhs round won't you? I feel so frustrated for you because I know you'll have been all set up for this round and now the goalposts have changed, again.

Cos, oh I'm so hoping this is a good sign for you, I really do think it must be your turn now.

Sweep, were you a lot younger with your first two? I though the dr should at least do the basic blood tests to check thyroid, hormone levels etc.

Crash, I remember the 12 month mark being really tough. Have you had any tests yet?

You'll all be surprised to hear that the holiday duff didn't happen. Af has arrived this morning, and I'm currently battling the cramps. I'm sure I have a cyst again. It feels just like before. Heavy bleeding, cramps yuk! I got a wedding invitation in the post. I dread weddings because of the questions but also because I know it will be no time before the bride is pregant. I hate how ttc has made me hate what should be happy events.

That sounds normal to me fox. I stimmed for 12 days the first time and 16 the second so it can vary a lot.

Fox - that sounds normal. I don't think age makes them grow quicker, in fact they may have to take it slower with a younger person. Are you nervous? Is the donor just donating or having to do ivf herself to have a family? Oh my mum doesn't know about this round. We aren't telling anyone close. I just feel like our running saga should probably be kept to ourselves and I find no one can really help with matters.

Ray - argh , can you get a scan done? Will that be covered by insurance? It's worth looking into now. Have you got any frosties left you are going to transfer? Goodness I still get my round I hope! I have another scan next week to see if it is still there. Really rather annoyed as I am absolutely convinced it was the neothisterone. Trying to do some exercises to get rid of it.

Thanks Sar lovely to have you here still.

Thanks for reasurance. It's an altruistic donor joy with her eggs being shared between two recipients. If there are fewer than eight they all go to one person and the other person starts all over again. I am pretty nervous about it all. It's all feels high stakes now I'm seven weeks in

And ray, I totally hear you on the weddings. They are often a precursor to an announcement. My neighbour is having a baby as we speak. Flowers just arrived at her house and her husband just went off with baby carrier in tow. What a nosey cow I am!

Do you have any pain or other symptoms from the cyst, joy? We still need to have our follow up consultation, I've been avoiding it because I just couldn't face it. Dh is away at the moment but we will go when he's back and I'll ask the doctor to scan me then. We don't have any frosties left :( so it will be another fresh round. This would be the final one that the insurance will pay half of. After that we have to pay 100% ourselves, that's why I'm not sure if we will do a fourth round if the next doesn't work. We might have imsi but I think it's quite expensive.

:) at you curtain twitching. Thankfully our pregnant neighbour moved just before she was full term. She did come back to the street to visit other neigbours and show off baby when she was a few weeks. I spied her arriving but hid so I didn't have to speak to her and coo over baby.

Fox - fewer than 8 all go to one person? Goodness that is high stakes but I am sure a young un will produce a lot more than 8. I can't believe this has been 7 weeks so far. Is it normally this long?

Ray - you should look into IMSI and the costs. This has been mentioned to me on FF and by the doctor actually and it has made a huge difference to the quality of embryos for some people. It sounds like it is worth, if you can, throwing money at it whilst your insurance pays half because it would be good to get a good selection of frozen embryos again so you have a back up.

Love the nosey neighbours thing going on. I'm a terrible twitcher.

I'm still twitching. There are balloons now. It's the 'this could have been you show' they had their first the month I'd have had mine if is been an instadiffer. Not that I've noticed or anything! Ha ha.

Argh fox, the mood I am in I would go and pop some of those balloons .
It's difficult not to notice these things. I always wanted 3 kids and I know all too well I could have been having my 3rd baby by now if nature had worked. As it is i will be eternally grateful for just one now.

Yeah go pop the balloons fox. I dare you! I'd have loved three too, Joy. Now I have to accept that it will be one if I'm very lucky. I will be so grateful but I'm not sure the sadness of what might have been will ever leave me.

We will do imsi I think. Picsi was also mentioned at the previous round. We will throw what money we have at it. It makes me feel quite sick to think of the sums involved. It will be totally worth it but it still makes me angry to think we have to spend this to get what others take for granted.

Oh I know ray, I am sure when you have one you will want two. My friend's friend spent 8 year trying and 6 rounds of ivf and got lucky on their 6th. But it's not enough, they are going through it all again to try and get their 2nd. It's innate isn't it.
I feel resentful at the amount of money we have spent as well because we have got nowhere. I don't want to feel resentful if we get lucky. But this is just one thing money can't buy even though it gives you a better chance. When friends tell me the costs of nursery fees I don't blink because everything seems like a good deal compared to the costs of fertility treatment which is ultimately gambling.

I wanted three as well. But now I want one. Not sure if that is a 'real' want but I'm never going through this again. If I'm lucky enough to have one, I just want to live my life and be a little unit. We'll have to get a dog instead. I don't think I'd even go back for frosties. But who knows if I really mean that. They are home now. I hear tiny crying.