TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Big hugs oneday xxx

oneday I totally get the knowledge that a bfp doesnt = baby is shit.

when I saw the dr on saturday as I left he said so are you reassured, no I wasnt reassured I hate living with the knowledge that it can all go wrong, it didnt occur to me last time that I would lose my precious baby, especially once I saw the heartbeat and felt her move id got past 12 weeks, id never even heard of a mmc.

I am eternally grateful that ive been given another chance but It makes me so sad that this pregnancy is about worry and stress rather than the pure joy I felt last time.

Well I couldnt hold back the urge to test. AF is due on Thursday and the last 2pregnancies def didn't test positive till I was almost 5 weeks. Didn't hold out much hope this morning as I woke up bursting and couldn't hold it long enough to fish out a test or a cup for collection. Needed a wee just now n though sod it I'll do a test anyway. I got a very faint positive I've held it up to the light every which way and I'm sure I'm not seeing things. That's got to be good right? My hcg should be well up there if I'm getting bfp when the last 2 times I'd still be getting bfn at this point? I can't go off symptoms as that last time they were really strong and still ended up mc. Got at least another week to see if I can pass the 5 week curse.

I'm just hoping I can make it through the next week and a bit. 2 mc's at 5 weeks makes me twitchy.

Congratulations lauren

Hurray Lauren fingers crossed for the next few weeks for you.

That's rubbish oneday but I agree you're not out until AF raises her ugly head. Sending you massive hugs and positive pregnancy vibes xx

Congratulations Lauren. what lovely news to come back to this thread too. wish you a healthy and happy pregnancy.

So sorry I haven't been around to offer support, I have been having a really tough time at work (going through redundancy proceedings and have to reinterview for my job etc). So on top of the mc been pretty down in the dumps.

However I just got a positive opk which has really cheered me up. I'm in my 2nd cycle after mc and was getting really fed up of my body not playing ball. So fingers crossed that I actually ovulate!

Hope everyone is ok xx

Thank you everyone. Had a relatively busy day at work which has helped take my mind off things and I've got home this evening and thrown away all the ic's with their evil evaps so I can stop scrutinising each one.

I'm determined not to poas now unless AF doesn't come as expected. I really hope I manage it.

Congratulations lauren!

Congratulations Lauren, that's lovely news!

Oh oneday I'm sorry you didn't get the result you wanted, it's gutting but just wait a little while longer. If AF shows up then it's on to the next cycle, as hard as it is at least things are moving along. It's so hard, but we're all here to help pass the time. Well done for throwing away the ICS, you're stronger than I am. You're not out until AF show up. Fingers crossed for you.

Hooray for the positive OPK MrsBeeBee - get going!

I got another flashing smiley this morning, that's day 3. We've DTD after each one so far but I'm hoping, for both mine and DH's sake, that it goes to a solid smiley soon! I'm not sure I like the dual hormone one, but I guess the flashing smileys are showing me that things are going on, otherwise I'd be writing here that I didn't know what was going on! I can't win with myself sometimes, it's because I'm such an impatient person and I just wish I wasn't.

I've avoided anything to do with babies and pregnancy all day and I do feel better for it, I know I can't keep this up for the rest of my life though. It seems babies and pregnancy are everywhere, I had to change the tv channel 3 times in the space of 10 minutes this morning, then there's the new drama 'In the Club' starting tonight which could have been the kind of thing I would usually watch, but obviously won't be able to bring myself to now. It's also difficult with a toddler, but he's not into anything babyish anymore so it's just groups with babies that will be a problem once the schools go back.

I'm thinking of taking a facebook break but I'm scared of missing out! Has anyone else done this and actually found it to help? There are just too many reminders on there and so many pregnancy/new baby announcements for me to cope with right now. I don't enjoy feeling bitter about other people's good news, they don't deserve bitterness at all as I only have nice people on my facebook. I feel guilty about it.

Hi Ladies,
Sorry i've been awol over the weekend. Been MEGA busy.

Congrats Lauren - i know its hard but try to relax and enjoy being pregnant. Look after yourself. Today you are pregnant!

Sorry to those who've had bfns and af. It really sucks. Especially when being pregnant again feels like the only thing that will ease the pain.

I've had 2 'high' days on the dual hormone cb opks. But my ic's don't appear to be getting much darker. In fact hardly any line at all. I'm hoping it'll just spring from nothing to positive.
Sebs, i know you're a cbfm expert (I gave up with mine after the dodgy last cycle i had with it) - what should a 'high' and 'peak' stick look like??

hello to all you strong girlies!

I'm so sorry that I popped in a few weeks ago and then went awol. I was on holidays for a bit, then work was crazy and also, I still wasn't fully up to logging onto mn. But, when I did say hello last time I got such a lovely welcome from you all, it was so sweet and brought a tear to my eye.

English yes I am the girl who lives in Holland, I also remember you from previously. Hope you're ok?

I pretty much didn't work this afternoon and read back over the thread. Big hugs to everyone on here who's on this roller-coaster ride. Yay for bfp's and sorry to all bfn's. Your posts are pretty much the only thing that makes this process easier.

fingers crossed for everyone dtd-ing this evening

mrsbeebee - congrats on your positive opk! I hope you are taking full advantage . Can I check - did you not get a positive the cycle after MC? I'm on my first cycle post wtf cycle and don't think I have ovulated, however I have never used opks previously. Either they don't work for me or I haven't ovulated.

blink I never go on Facebook anymore and can't tell you how much I don't miss it!!

Hi mslad!

Can I just check - wtf cycle? Is this the cycle straight after mc without AF?

I'm awaiting ovulation too monten, if I'm accurate with wtf cycle then this is mine too. Feel like it's never going to get here. With previous BFPs it's being from DTD before ovulation. When we conceived DS I'd tested negative on an OPK on the morning, positive on the evening and negative by the next morning again. I think my surge is very fast, I would have missed it if I wasn't testing twice a day.

This time I'm only testing on a morning, last month when we conceived I wasn't even testing. I'm focusing on ovulation rather than conceiving IFKWIM. I just want my cycles to return to normal before I start stressing except I'm already stressed to death about it and wishing time away.

I'm going to try a 24 hour ban from facebook, starting now :).

Yes blink wtf cycle is the one before you get first af post mc. Named thus because the only thing you can be sure of is you'll spend a lot of time like this . I'm now on my first cycle after that, CD25 and not a sniff of a positive opk, not even a line really. I've never used them before and kind of wish I hadn't started. Very interesting what you said about your surge bring short, sincerely hope that is case for me. I think we're all just looking for reassurance our bodies are back to normal. How long has it been for you?

Good luck with the Facebook ban! I uninstalled the app on my phone which really helped, as I mostly looked on the train to and from work. Now I just come on here .

I never ovulated in my WTF cycle. Wasn't until after my first AF that I tested totAlly negative on internet ICs.

Can I ask a very simple question of people please? What is your cm like after ov? I have been increasingly convinced I am having anovulatory cycles because I get ewcm type cm in my 2ww. I get creamy but tacky/sticky cm a few days after and then kind if yellowy mucus on the tissue paper if I look at it on wiping. Does this just sound normal or is everyone else getting the very creamy cottage cheese type cm that is mentioned all over the web? Thanks xx

Hi Mslad. Hope you're feeling a bit better. When you're ready dive on in and join the gang.

I'm also in the cycle after wtf and and concerned that I'm either not going to ov or I have already... Higher temps today. Annoying because I forgot to take my temp yesterday so not sure if it's just randomly high or because I've ov'd.
Had a darkish although not nearly positive line on ic's on Sunday night. High on cb's Monday and Tuesday, but only VERY faint lines on ic's. Now wondering if I ov'd and had a very short surge. Or if going to at all.... Time will tell. Going to start soy isoflavones next cycle after reading some positive stories about them....

sebs after ov I get watery but milky (opaque) cm and lots of it. Lasts most of 2ww, then nothing, then af. I don't really get ewcm (I.e stretchy) just goes clear. Don't you temp? I thought that was much more accurate than ov sticks or cm, after all with cm what's normal is only what's normal for you.

Oooh, english what are soy ivoflavones? Do tell. Do you recomended temping? I'm considering starting but worried I might get obsessed as if I'm not already

Hi all :)
Sorry I've been a bit useless at replying recently I'm very down in the dumps.

Congrats lauren :)

Will you have caught it if you have ovulated English?

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time MrsBee x

Thanks monten. Well that would make sense, this > < is what I see when I look in the mirror! I'm in my WTF cycle and I'm on cd13, my dr said it was so early when I miscarried that it was safe to just keep trying. It's my first miscarriage and my first month of trying for #2.

I'm going to delete the FB app tonight when I've done a day without it, I think I need to for my sanity. I think it makes me feel more lonely and isolated.

I'm on day 4 of a flashing smiley , I know there is no guarantee of ovulation this cycle but I'm going to get some of the normal OPKs today so I can test on an afternoon. I've only ever got positives on an afternoon in the past, I can't keep DTD for the next 28 days! I'm not sure if I can use my dual monitor on an afternoon as well as a morning, I think it stores info so I'll probably just confuse it. I don't ovulate this early usually, so I know I have a while yet.

I hate this.

I hope everyone is ok, I'm on my phone and can't scroll back to check posts again.

Hi all

blink in this cycle (first after WTF) I got 3 days of flashing smilies before a solid smiley so do keep going.

treacle how are you? Has the T cleared up for you and finally buggered off?

sebs I hope you're feeling better and have made up with DH?

I'm so proud of myself - 11DPO AND I DID NOT POAS THIS MORNING! For the first time ever of this ttc journey! I've always POAS from 10DPO until AF arrives like the control freak that I am and today I didn't. It's very liberating I must say,

Well done for resisting OneDay!

sebs my cm usually does dry/sticky for a few days after ov and then it's all over the shop really, sometimes I get big blobs of yellow ewcm-like stuff, sometimes more creamy, sometimes cottage cheesy, and then a day or two before AF comes it goes all watery. Not sure what that says about my hormones!

Thanks for asking oneday, it's still not gone :( got to have a swab done next Tuesday to check it's nothing else. Thursday I have a blood test to check for diabetes.
Fed up of it now. Especially since dh's main reason for not trying this month is to help my thrush go away.

Well done for not POAS! :) I couldn't have done that haha.

Blink, dont worry about the 4 flashing smileys. I once had 9 before my solid.

Just wanted to let you all know that ive just had my scan and there was a strong heartbeat

thank you for supporting me over the last few days x