TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh Daisy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of love.

Oneday - I feel the same - I'm so sad that I'm never going to have a innocent pregnancy now. It will always be filled with worry.

Monten - the lines on the clear blue OPKs confuse me. Especially the dual hormone ones. I always do ic's along side now. Hope you are bout to ov as you would normally.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this again daisy. Life's just so unfair sometimes.

I feel rough today - had a work drinks do last night and got a bit carried away... then couldn't go back to sleep after I woke up at 5am! Only just starting to feel a bit more human again. Thankfully DD has been lovely this morning and has agreed to watch Frozen after lunch so I can have a little snooze on the sofa!

Hey one day how bizarre, I was thinking if you this morning! I'm just going slightly mental in my own little world and googling like it's going out of fashion - got an early scan next week so just praying all is ok. Oh for the carefree days of obliviousness...

Right there with you metalhead, i need to stop drinking so much!
Add the hangover to the period from hell and I may just curl up and cry.

Good luck with your scan Boozle x

Boozle I'm sure you will be ok chick xx

They weren't amazing about 40 days but I was ovulating.
3 tablets for 4 more days then I should come on 2-3 days later apparently.

How you doing boozle?

Hope the scan goes well

oh daisy I'm so so sorry. How devastating. Hope you are as ok as can be xx

Hi all, very, very cautiously joining in. I've just experienced my first miscarriage, it was very early - 6+4 and I have no idea what the cause was.

My Dr has been very supportive, she said that as it was so early it's safe to try again this month. My bleeding has almost stopped and I've put a sample into the drs to check that my pregnancy hormones have all gone.

Once that comes back negative, I'll be trying again. I don't feel very positive about things at the minute, a few friends have announced their pregnancies recently and I'm trying so hard not to be bitter and jealous.

I have a DS, I know I'm incredibly lucky and I don't take him for granted for a second. I just really want him to have a sibling.

So, here for some hand holding and to offer some hand holding to those in a similar position.

I'm sorry to those who have had bad news x x

oneday didn't someone on here say that implantation can cause a surge of oestrogen and ewcm? I'm sure someone said that. Fingers crossed.

Thanks office I just wasn't expecting it. Like you, if I'm prepared for it is easier.

Hi blinkandmiss sorry you are here. It doesn't matter how early it happens, it's still shitty. I hope your stay is short and productive

Hey all,
I'm ok thanks Marmalade - I just can't trust my body one little bit anymore, it takes a lot of the sunshine
out of what should be a very sunshiny thing!
I used the CB ov sticks Monten and they said not to look at the lines as they don't reflect whereabouts you are. Although they did tend to get darker / lighter depending where on the smiley cycle I was...
Blink so sad you're here - these ladies have got me though some pretty shitty times. 6+4 is still nearly seven weeks of loving and growing your baby, doesn't matter how short a time they are with you it still hurts like hell. Sending you hugs and swear words in equal measure xx

Hope everyone else is doing well and dandy and those BFP's are quickly heading in your general direction and you never have to dtd again!

Sorry you're joining us Blink, my first mc was at 5+4 and it was more devastating than my recent loss at 11 weeks. I was innocent back then, and just assumed my little bean would grow into a healthy baby. Second time round, I wasn't expecting an easy ride and prepared myself for the worst early on. I hope you're not here too long, but feel free to moan, rant and swear if need be.

Good luck next week Boozle, I'll be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for you.

Nothing to report here, except SMEP started yesterday.....

Hi

I had a miscarriage in May I was 6 weeks pregnant, it knocked me for six as my first pregnancy was perfect.
We are trying again and my period is due 11 Aug, I am having symptoms of sore tingly breasts and lower back pain could I be pregnant?

Hi Giraffe sorry for your loss. The only way to know for sure is to do a test, perhaps wait until you are due AF? Good luck.

Do we have any other POAS-ers today? Good luck if so!!

Still negative OPKS for me :( DTD anyway just in case! In fact, I think I deserve a medal, I was tired, had a sore throat, and needed to get up early for work today. You would never have guessed. Quite the performance. Oh the things we do!!

Hi blink and giraffe Welcome. So sorry you both find yourself here. As someone once said, it's the club that no one wants to join so may you stays be short and BFP's be winging your way soon.

I'm sorry sorry daisy I hope you're doing okay xx

boozle It's so lovely to hear from you. Wishing you all the very best for your scan, you deserve some happiness and piece of mind so I really am keeping everything tightly squeezed and crossed. Is this a private scan or have you got a referral because of past MC? I hope you're looking after yourself x

English it sucks doesn't it. Like I said, I feel like we've been robbed of the joy and excitement of early pregnancy. I'm so sad that my only experience to date of pregnancy only lasted 10 weeks, and for a month of that my baby had died without me knowing it. Sorry that's so negative everyone. I (stupidly) took a look at my old January 2015 antenatal thread and everyone is starting to feel their babies move. That should have been me. But now, here I am in the flippin' horrid 2ww with my hopes more at stake than ever.

Monten i have been consulting Dr Google and that was what I had found too! I had loads more of it last night, there is no question it's EWCM. We haven't DTD since CD15 inspite of the second lot of EWCM as we're both shattered from last weeks olympics tbh. Good on you for DTD, what a trooper. Hats off to you!

treacle I'm sorry the witch arrived though I think you weren't too hopeful this month given your rough time with illness? Are you still planning on taking a break from TTC next month?

I was also thinking, has anyone heard from smilingthroughgrittedteeth?

Oh, and I forgot to ask. Last time I got a definite positive with a FRER at 10DPO. But I'm confused about when my AF would be due this cycle as I ovulated 2 days earlier than normal. Should I expect my period 14DPO or will I have a slightly longer LP and therefore should expect it on CD27 as normal? I'm desperate to POAS! Though I know it'll cause more harm than good. But it's partly because I want to know if I can have a mahoosive glass of wine (which has become a bit more regular than usual )

oneday your luteal phase usually stays the same, even if you ov late, so if yours is 14 days you should still get AF at 14dpo.

So sorry to hear that Daisy. Hope you're as OK as you can be.

AF has finally arrived here, after 4 days of spotting which started on 9DPO. I'm a bit confused by that- does it mean that my luteal phase is short? Or unsuccessful IB that turned into AF eventually? Random.

On the bright side, I will be rewarding myself for a week of misery spotting and symptom-spotting tonight with a big , and new cycle means a new opportunity!

Sorry AF got you greysar enjoy your wine! Fx for next month!

AF is due tomorrow, I had a few cramps last night but nothing major, still have no idea either way to be honest.

I usually wake up with AF as it starts in early hours like clock work (I know this thanks to night shifts!) so I'm thinking of buying a test tonight and testing in the morning if AF hasn't showed, but I feel like that's tempting fate!? Maybe I should just wait and see if i come on and if not then buy one! DPs a bit that I'm getting myself into a tizz about even buying a stick to pee on!

Sorry AF got you Grey! Bitch!

Oneday - do not look at the antenatal threads. I've not been on since the day I mc'd. It's too hard and a bitter reminder of where I should be. I find it best to just not know.

Hope everyone has a good day - nearly the weekend! And time for a glass of wine!

Oh oneday, I completely understand. I have taken a browse over to the January thread and I don't know why. If course it will hurt! My week has been topped our with one of my team telling me she is pregnant. Due in February. Obviously must be happy for her but was hard to hear.

Are there any other clomid ladies in here? Or anyone with previous experience?

Lutuel phase generally stays the same Oneday. Mine has seemingly gone from 12 to 14 but I'm not convinced it won't go back to 12 this cycle as I am still showing High and my opk sticks are also strong but not peak, so if I get a peak tonight my follicular phase will be good this cycle.

We have stuck to SMEP so far. Didn't have to assault my OH thankfully last night

I know, I know I just can't help myself. I fooled myself in to thinking 'Oh wouldn't it be nice to see how everyone's getting on' but it really was the worst possible idea. I do have a RL constant reminder too in that my good friend's sister is due two days before I would have been.

Thank you so much for the info re LP staying the same. This is good news as it means I can POAS 2 days earlier and AF (hopefully won't) rear her ugly head 2 days earlier. So by my calculations AF is due 17th August. We're going to a food festival on 16th so at least I should be in a good position to know if I can indulge in a few beverages, stinky cheese and other lovely things.

sebs I still haven't caught up properly with the thread but what does jump out is your ankle grabbing shenanigans. Really made me laugh out loud. I do feel sorry for these men sometimes. The pressure must be immense. DH coped very well during our DTD marathon and kept asking to see my FF chart/calendar to count the number of time we'd DTD this cycle and then looking very impressed with himself! I think he's grateful of the rest now as much as I am

oooh bitchpeas that sounds positive. If I were you I would have tested but I am a huge POAS addict.

Oh gosh ladies, another big gloop (sorry TMI) of EWCM. Did an OPK this morning and yesterday just to check I'm not ovulating again (is that even possible?!) and both negative/empty circles/faces. What is going on????