TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Good work Sebs!! I'm afraid to say i've been pretty demanding of dh in the past. The eod part of smep we can handle.. its the 3/4 days straight that kills it for us. But bless, my DH he is a trooper. And the i've fallen twice using Smep so it does work.

OH is keen to make amends and keeps trying to dtd tonight and i am refusing lol as i think the EOD part could be important re. keeping the sperm at its best. We've done the shag everyday thing an awful lot and it hasn't really paid off. I think once you are advanced of age less is possibly more. I did a cheapie IC opk this eve and the line is definitely stronger than usual so I think I will get a peak tomorrow or Friday. Friday would be better as we can DTD Sat am. Oh the romance lol.

Anyone POAS on Friday?

I'm glad from ready this that my DH isn't the only one who thinks this monitoring of cycles and specific days to dtd is something I've made up! I too have tried to explain in more detail but he just isn't interested. I massively has the piss taken out of last night when I came home from work saying we had to dtd as I had a sign (ewcm). He thinks I'm making it all up and waiting to tomorrow or the day after is fine. They have no idea!!

Same here English - this was our third consecutive smep cycle. DH is fine with the eod bit, but the 3 or 4 days in a row gets a bit tough going after the second night. The first smep cycle he threw a wobbly and we fell out over it. I got really pissed off that he was having a hissy fit over having to dtd one time when it wasn't top of his list of things to do, when I have done the same on many other occasions, like just when I want to go to sleep or when hungover! Anyway, he hasn't complained since, even though I know it is a bit of a chore just towards the end of the smepping.

Talking of spreadsheets, I have made an ace one of my cycles since coming off the pill last year, using the information I've stored on FF. I don't intend on showing it to DH though

It's funny how we are meant to accept sex when not really in the mood but when we try and jolly out partners into it we get all sorts of dramatics lol.

I am scared my monitor is going to give me another Low tomorrow

Whoa, lots to catch up on today!

Welcome sarahlou, I hope you are doing better now.

Bittersweet to have news of your boy hope. Understand why it's got to you completely - stay strong.

That is awful treatment allthefours, do complain if you can bring yourself to. I think comparatively my treatment was pretty good to some if yours. Main bad bits were getting the referral in the first place and being with all the pregnant ladies smiling.

Whatever tactics work sebs! I think we are all guilty of coercion tactics in this TTC. I know I am!

High on monitor today with two beautiful faint lines like the month I fell pregnant in January. Shows oestrogen has risen nicely and the timing is on track for my pre-mc 'normal'. Will be interesting if I ov cd13 whether my LP stays at 14 days as it has the last two months or goes back to 12 days. Of course I would rather get a sticky BFP and not know lol.

Ladies, I was here for a little while but then dropped off when my neighbours cut my phone line -no broadband!

Anyway, I'm going to be dropping off permanently now as we found out on Monday that the baby had died. We'd had good scans up to 9 weeks and so thought we were safe but the heart stopped a couple of days after this. We're devastated as we really thought we were out of the woods this time.

Much luck and love to you all.

Oh Daisy I am so so sorry to hear this, that's so unfair. I do remember you posting about your BFP and I'm so sorry the pregnancy didn't work out.

Are they planning on any testing or anything?

Oh Daisy I am so sorry xxx

Oh daisy am so so sorry. I remember you getting your bfp. How devastating for you and DH. Will they be doing any testing?

Im so sorry daisy x

Daisy I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. I hope you get pg again real soon. I was thinking about you this morning. we are all here for you if you need to talk x

Hello, just popping my head round the door.
I'm on day 2 of noresteroine to bring on a period.
Since I'm on CD68 since mc bleed.
Anyone had any experience of this?
I'm hoping it will induce a bleed then we blooming go for it every 2 days and hope for the best.
Otherwise, I guess I'm back to gynae :(
Clomid etc?

Daisy I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :(

Oh Daisy that must be absolutely devastating. Sending you all the love and hugs in the world. Hope you're doing as well as you can. Be kind to yourself xx

Sorry marm I am no help to you on this situation. I hope your AF comes soon so you can ttc again. Of must be a long painful wait, frustrating but hang in there.

Boozle I am so worried about this pregnancy, I had my 7 week scan it seems okay for now.. Praying so much that it all works out. How you coping?

Hi everyone

I've taken a break from MN for the past few weeks (although have still been lurking occasionally) I've missed so much and it seems there are unfortunately lots of newbies to the thread. I'm sorry that you've all found yourself here. May your stays be very short. I don't think I can possibly catch up with everything but I hope we're all doing okay.

I'm on CD 18/5DPO of my first AF after MMC. Have been using the dual hormone CB OPK's which indicated that I ovulated really early this cycle, whereas I'm usually a CD14, 27 day cycle girl (almost to the hour!) We've DTD CD 6,7,8,9,11,12,13,15 so I'm hoping we've got it all covered! The urge to POAS already is unbelievable but I know I'd be an idiot to this early.

I hope all those that have had BFP's are doing well. I was explaining to a friend the other week that the worst bit (IMHO) about this whole thing is that I've been robbed of ever having that naive innocence and being able to enjoy a pregnancy ever again.

Anyone POAS tomorrow??

Marm poor you, that wait must have been excruciatingly long. At least you have the drugs now which will kick start things so your wait will soon be over. Big hugs for you.

Hi oneday! I’ve been wondering where you, broody, brummie have all been not in a stalky way Sounds like you have all bases covered!

I went for a smear today, long overdue. She asked why I hadn’t come in January and I told her it was because I was pregnant then. She smiled and said ‘Oh, how old is the baby?’. I kind of stumbled and said ‘oh, no, I err, had a termination’ and she looked at me surprised/horrified and I said ‘I, errr, the baby was very sick’. WTF?? I just wasn’t expecting it. This was at the doctors – you would think all of that would be in my notes?? She also reckons I have thrush, so that’s just dandy.

I’m completely confused about my ov-ing, would appreciate any advice/experience. I am using the Clearblue Digital sticks (but not the dual hormone ones I don’t think). I’m on CD19 and still just empty circles. If my cycles are 35 days again then I would only be oving in the next day or so, so I wasn’t too worried. But when you eject the sticks the second line seems to be getting fainter, not stronger. It’s always been really faint and now it’s almost gone. I’m so disheartened. Has anyone had it go from very faint to strong quickly? I have no other OV symptoms either. Really thought I was going to get away with it this time and go back to normal cycles quite quickly, no such luck it seems :(

So sorry to hear your sad news, Daisy. I hope that you feel able to return to this thread if you do decide to ttc in the future. I know I have had loads of support here after both of my mc.
marmalade you must be going mad with such a long cycle! I don't know how long the medication you are on takes to work, but I hope it is successful and you can move on soon. What were your cycles like before your mc?
Monten what a horrible situation at the doctors - it must have really caught you unawares. I find that I am now "fine" if I am prepared for situations like seeing pg women/babies etc or talking about pregnancy, but sometimes things just smack you right in the face and then the real feelings come out! Most of the time I manage to keep my game face on. And actually (touch wood) I feel like I am stronger mentally, especially these last few weeks. Saying that, I am now in the 2ww and obsessively symptom spotting! Can't say that I actually have any symptoms, but does my bra feel a bit tighter than normal? I'm only 10dpo so much to early to test with any confidence, and I'm down to my last 2 pg tests so trying to ration them instead of wasting them which is what I normally do!

Hi monten How are you doing? I'm still here, just felt like I need to take a bit of a break.( Plus I was busy with the DTD marathon! Ha Ha!) I'd also been thinking about boozle and brummie as I hadn't seen you guys post for a while. Hope you're both okay.

Will read back properly tonight with a glass of wine while DH is out at the pub.

I'm really confused now. Had EWCM yesterday and today?? Despite having 3 days of 'high' and then a 'peak' on Friday so assumed I'd ovulated on Saturday. Why now the EWCM??

Office I always got a pos if I was pregnant at 10dpo

Just saying.

sebs do not encourage me - bad girl! Although maybe I will POAS tomorrow, what with it being Friday

Daisy so, so sorry for your loss. Life can be so cruel. Come here for support whenever you need it