TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Last

*Last moan before my yoga. Friend I mentioned earlier is constantly moaning about being pregnant, when I ask how she is she says "feeling sorry for myself" and has also said she's jealous that I can go on a bouncy castle.

I would trade and have my baby back any day.
Do people realise how insensitive they are???

Yoga time :)

Hey everyone, just wanted to drop by and say hi, see how you're all doing? I agree the miscarriage care is pretty crappy - I ended up putting a complaint in I was so upset about it - something I've never done before. Anyway, I hope you're all doing ok, I've got a 6+5 scan coming up on Monday but have had no symptoms at all so not expecting great things. Miscarriage really is the gift that keeps on giving! Fingers crossed for BFP's for everyone super soon.

I've got my fingers firmly crossed for you boozle :)

Good plan Tori, that's what im planning also.

Oh girls you are going to chuckle at me this morning . I swear if I posted this on the main board I would be accused of sexual assault and people would be ringing the police on my partners behalf.

So we decided to do SMEP this month. All parties in agreement, fine. Now OH has a history of starting the shagfest very gung-ho, but by day four he starts getting a cough, feeling tired, having a headache etc. then when I test negative 2 weeks later he is contrite and says he will definitely try harder next month.

So this cycle we are having sex every other day until I get a peak test. First day done, all good. Last night I make dinner that drags out far too late and by 10pm he is wilting. I say let's go upstairs, by the time I clean my teeth he is in bed half asleep. We smile at each other, I go into the other room (I sleep in the spare room as his insomnia can be awful) and wait for him to come in and ravish me. 15 mins later he turns the side light off to fall asleep

I think 'sod him' and go to fall asleep too. But then I think 'noooo' he needs to stick to the plan so I go in, start kissing and stroking him awake, then he has a coughing fit and crawls into the foetal position and I think Dick and leave the room again.

So I lay there for 10 mins and think, hang on, it's this that means we never get fucking pregnant. He is going to wake the fuck up and have sex lol. So I march back into the room and tell him to wake up and have sex with me. He is all 'nooooo, I'm tired, I must sleep' so I grabbed hold of his ankles and wrestled with him lol!!! I honestly must be the only woman who has had to wrestle her bloke into submission at 11pm.

This morning we were laughing about it and I did ask if he wanted to call 999 and did he feel violated but luckily he thought it was funny. I bet you all think I'm a terrible person now.

Plus the CBFM is still giving me a Low reading but I can see the oestrogen line has got fainter so I'm hoping for a High tomorrow or maybe a Peak.

I will test this evening with a cheapie IC. I have had EWCM this cycle so it feels more productive than last months. Plus this time last cycle I jumped from low to peak on the monitor so this one at least feels more 'regular'.

Sebs you are my new hero. My DH is just the same too, and when this cycle eventually finishes I will be doing the same next month!

I have promised him that if I ever do get knocked up again he can go into retirement and I will leave him alone. Funnily enough he doesn't like that idea. Least I made you laugh, im still cringing.

Sebs that is too funny, am lolling at my desk really must stop checking mumsnet at work I know EXACTLY what you mean. I too have demanded sex before, funnily enough my DP doesn’t find that massively sexy. I have never actually wrestled him though . You missed the crucial detail though – did it work???!

It did work yes!! The SMEP people have a lot to answer to lol. If I get pregnant this cycle I am taking all the credit I tell you!

Hehehe Sebs!
I have done that too. Funny thing is DH has a very high sex drive but when it comes to ttc - Nope too much like hard work.

It's a frustrating process as no one wants to coerce someone into sex and in usual circumstances we wouldn't be fussed one way or the other.

I don't know about your partners but I swear mine doesn't believe that there is really such a small window of opportunity for me to fall pregnant. I think because it's left to me he thinks I'm just being a bit mad and actually any sex at any time of the month could lead to pregnancy. The amount of times he has tried to convince me that after a neg test on 10dpo we could go upstairs there and then and I could fall pregnant

So I have this sneaking suspicion that they think if they can't be arsed to have sex on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday would be equally as productive. Of course we know that by Wednesday the egg is probably dead

Excellent sebs I've tried SMEP in the past and found it exhausting, so good on you! Your DH should count himself lucky that you are taking such an initiative! All he needs to do is lie there, right?
I have often said to DH that he should bloody well do his research, as well as offered to sit down with him and explain my FF charts to him - but he has always politely declined... And this from the bloke who can spend hours on the internet to research something that he is interested in Makes my blood boil, every time we come up to the window, and it's always me who has to get things going. Men, hmph.
It's like everything to do with ttc is my responsibility, it annoys the hell out of me!

Oh yep mine likes a good spreadsheet too, just not to do with my fertility lol. I blame sex education at school. They drummed home to us all that you could get pregnant at any time of the month and were extremely likely to do so. Well if course if you are 13 and having irregular periods due to puberty hitting then yep, you could indeed ovulate at any point. But 25 years later that is no longer the case ..... Sadly!!