TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Good lord, this isn't related to MMC or TTC but I need to vent! A (not close- I know her fiance, not her) friend is getting married in Sept, hen do in August. I was happy to be invited, so said I'd happily attend. Her maid of honour has just emailed the 13 attendees asking for payment for all the stuff she's booked- £220 apiece, for random activities that were never discussed like life drawing!! Not quite sure what to do; much as I like this girl, £220 is a big chunk of cash (which they want in the next month, I've recently moved house) to spend two days with people I don't even know... argh!

Ooooh ladies, all your symptom spotting and 2ww - so exciting!

Now, I may also be in need if a MASSIVE fish slap. Finally stopped bleeding yesterday, 10 days after ERPC. If I were to treat date of ERPC as 'first day of period' then I should ovulate over the weekend. DH is on a stag weekend so I am considering jumping him tomorrow morning and/or Sunday evening just in case. I'm still getting very faint positive tests (well at least I was yesterday) so am I completely mad to consider dtd under 2 weeks after ERPC, not waiting for first AF and still showing mildly positive poas?!! Of course I'm hoping I'll be one of the lucky ones who conceives before a first AF but I'm also really looking forward to being intimate with DH again after months and an obviously rocky time.

I think I know the answer to my question ...

greysar there is absolutely no way I would spend £220 on a hen do of non close friends and I think is SO rude of them to even expect that! I wouldn't go.

oneday I totally understand the desire to dtd and just feel normal again. I would personally wait until I had a definite bfn. Just in case it takes a while to disappear I would hate to have a tiny question mark over whether it was maybe a new pregnancy. Also, if you are still bleeding and still showing faintly positive then I would think its probably unlikely you'll ovulate this weekend. I think it takes a while for your hormone cycle to kick in again after erpc so not sure it really is CD1? It's all very confusing though.

Oneday, I'd completely scrap charting this cycle. You won't ovulate until at least a few days after a negative hpt, when you're ready I'd just starts shagging and hope for the best. Don't expect to much, it's not called the What The Fuck cycle for nothing.
I'm at a similar stage. 8 days post erpc, although I didn't bleed at all. Desperately hoping for a negative hot soon

greysar this is a perfect distraction!!! I'd rather spend the £ on preggas tests!!!! No WAY would I be going to that. Life drawing. No ta. And since when did we all need more than a few drinks and a pat on the back. I say politely decline. Strained finger injury so can't paint???
Currently on tube. The preggas brigade are in full force. Think I'll pretend to be asleep.

Can I just add that waiting for first AF post erpc is unbearable!!!! I wanted to get on it straight away. Glad I didn't and had AF as it settled my mind. I focused in wine, shellfish, cheese, rare steak and just tried to not think about cycle stuff too much. I stupidly didn't do hpt for negative - only done one a few weeks back to check.

Oneday I think I agree with what Monten's saying- how much might it stress you out if you are still showing a BFP in two weeks' time, and you don't know if it's real or not... That said, we agreed to wait to TTC again after my MMC until we'd moved house, three months later, and I really wish we hadn't waited that long- so I totally get that the waiting and the not-actively-trying-to-get-pregnant is really really hard!

Monten, thanks- was starting to psych myself out that I was just being a tight bitch! No idea what I'm going to do about it- I like the girl and all, love her fiance, very happy for them, but... I have social anxiety issues at the best of times, and spending a rather large amount of money to stress myself out isn't the most appealing prospect!

Ha Lou strained finger! I like it! And the preggas Tube brigade can JTFO. Deffo.

greysar I too have a hen party in August that I am invited to. It's in London and I don't live there, was going to stay with a friend but they've since moved out of London. So I am faced with train to get there, hotel and the cost of what we are actually doing - I did have the perfect excuse with being upduffed but unfortunately that is no more.

It's at the stage where I have to send money but desperately trying to find an excuse not to go - any advice??

Foxtrot, dude, I would appreciate any advice you have!!! We need to think something up together! (Incidentally, mine is in London too- hopefully not the same one...)

Hello again all, trying to catch up frantically here!

Monten - I hope you have a fabulous holiday and enjoy your brie!

TannyLou - I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through, I'm not surprised you had a melt down, I would have completely imploded

Welcome RiverRocks, Emily and Thinkaboutit, I'm so sorry you find yourself here but this is a lovely group

Wilting - please come and join in properly, it is lovely here

Bloody hell Graysar, that's outrageous! There's no way I'd spend that much. My best friend is getting married in a couple of weeks (which will be 5 days after I find out this has gone wrong and probably 1 day post surgery - thinking positive here! ) and I'm griping enough about paying for the hotel and giving them vouchers towards the honeymoon.

Hope everyone else is ok - is anyone POAS-ing tomorrow, or are you all holding on for a while?

I had occ health meeting at work today. She's banned me from going out on site and doesn't seem to understand that not being able to do my job will stress me out more than being able to (if that makes sense). But then a friend sent me stuff on blood lead levels and miscarriage and that was fairly terrifying so maybe I'll just sit at my desk until it goes pearshaped again

Oh ladies, I know your right! I knew you'd have good advise and not think I'm bonkers for wanting to try again straight away. I've just done another test and it's definitely getting more and more faint. It's all so confusing!

lou I've definitely made the most of the wine - and the steak and prawns too, mmmm!

Re the hen do's. £220 is a lot of money! I really hate this culture of cramming in so many activities and having really expensive hen and stags. DH and I are at that age where a lot of friends have got married over the last few years and the cost of the hen and stags is huge! Could you fake a sickness? D&V is always good as no one wants to know the details!

Hey all! How's everyone doing on this sunny Thursday? I've got a JTFO - tour de bloody France! Nothing to do with anything other than we've been doing it at school FOREVER! It comes past school so everyone's in hyperdrive. Doing. My. Head. In!!
Other than that can anyone tell me why I'm symptom spotting when I haven't even ov'd yet?! I swear my boobs hurt! WTF is that about?! Think I must be loosing the plot! Think this deserves a salmon slap! I blame the Tour de France - that's what I'm blaiming everything on today!

Poor Boozle - we've got a campsite booked for tdf this weekend but I'm on the verge of wimping out. The weather's really bad tomorrow and I'm scared of trying to camp in it and then I don't know if I can handle the sheer number of people. ..

So ladies, posted a few days ago.....convinced I was pregnant, symptoms all over the show. Just got AF ..... I'm devastated! That's now 18 weeks since last MC! I feel like a crazy ass bitch! I am convinced every time that I am going to get BFP and even when I see blood ....I'm still optimistically hoping its implantation. I have been feeling sick, faint, dore boobs?!!!! Is it possible to just be bloody making that up!!!!!!! I've never been crazy now I'm just plain nuts!!! another month gone by so sad :-(

Where are you watching it Daisy? The weather is indeed due to be shit!

boozle my 'symptoms' started the day after we dtd. I'm so glad of MN otherwise I realise would think I was going insane. It's so easy to do though isn't it?!

greysar and foxtrot can you just be honest and say I'm sorry that is more than I can spend, can i just come for part of Iit and not spend a fortune on bloody life drawing?! I personally think it is really rude to expect people to spend so much. As lou say, whatever happened to a few drinks and a pat on the back?

I'm also going to camp but I'm due to ov this weekend I think! Do you reckon, as a teacher, I'm still allowed to shag in a tent? I'll be super quiet!

You do begin to feel slightly nuts don't you? I blame pretty much everything that happens in your cycle having similar symptoms to pregnancy - doesn't help us really does it! Oh, and I also blame TdF!

Boozle, I'd say yes! Haha.
I'm off out on a trip with my nursery class tomorrow. Should be fun :)
What to wear...

I am so convinced I'm pregnant its unreal. I know it's probably just me being hopeful though.

boozle haaaaaaa!!! Teacher shagging in a tent!! Oh you ladies keep me laughing!!!

lady don't lose hope. 18wks post mc seems like ages but in terms of ttc it's seems fairly normal. Try to stay positive

TdF can JTFO.

I totally endorse shagging in tents, even if you're a teacher. Just don't do it slightly pissed like I did, and wake the next morning a bit shamefaced because you're not sure exactly how loud you may or may not have been.

Even better, I'm pitching my tent in our school grounds...

Definite thumbs up for shagging in the tent. If it works, maybe we should all try it alfresco to get upduffed?!

DH and I are booked in for glamping for our anniversary in September- hopefully won't be an issue by that point!

Can I admit to a teenage-like snigger at Boozle pitching a tent for her OH to pitch a tent? Hur hur hur...