TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Hi Emily and Bon. So sorry for your losses. The pain will never go away but you learn to move on. Emily your experience is very similar to mine in regards to my mc. Hope you get through this and get up suffer soon.

Bon I waited one full cycle, I didn't test at all after D&C, and my AF came on cd35. Long wait but it saved me a lot of confusion.

My AF is due today if my cycle is back to normal after AF, I'm scared.

officelady i'm sorry to hear about your mum. As you might have read I lost my dad in July, four years ago for me. You learn to live with it don't you but nothing will change the total and utter crapness that they aren't around any more. Big hugs for you

emily and bonbon welcome and sorry you are here. We are all nice though and the graduates from this thread prove there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I guess I am technically in my 2ww, three and a half weeks post erpc. Not sure I have ov'd though. I've actually convinced myself I am pregnant again already, which is extremely unlikely, this is going to end in tears ladies.

Has anyone else experienced crushing tiredness after a mc? I am so so so tired at the moment (part of what is convincing me I am pregnant), no amount of sleep seems to help. Is it hormones? Or maybe just emotions making me tired.

Ooooh hope good luck! Will you be poas-ing tomorrow if AF doesn't arrive?

Monten if AF doesn't arrive I will wait for it to turn up, I don't want to be disheartened by seeing a bfn.. I'm such a whimp!

Monten I've never been as tired as I have been the last few months! Tiredness was one of my first signs of pregnancy as well, so I feel like I've sleep-walked through most of 2014 so far!

Have you tried iron tablets? I found these helped a bit.

monten im tired most of the time and its been 10 weeks since my mmc.

in fact I was just coming on here to have a moan, my boss decided it would be a good idea for the kids to scoot to school, so my school run this morning was a 45 min walk there and a 45 min walk back. The journey there involved walking down a really steep hill and up a steep hill with horse steps then obviously reversed for the journey back, in temperatures of 26 degrees and I had to carry 2 scooters back because they arent allowed to be left at school! Im now exhausted. Its things like this that remind me that 2 months ago I was pregnant and had surgery, my body hasnt quite returned to normal.

Oh and monten I seem to be convinced im pregnant too, but Im only 7dpo so even if I am its to early to have any symptoms. The only 'symptom' I have is sore breasts which is unusual for me. I woke up sunday morning certain I was pregnant and cant seem to shake this feeling no matter how much I tell myself im being stupid.

I'm going to be devestated when af comes

Can I join in the 'I am convinced I am pregnant' chat.
Dreamt about it last night, convinced myself 100%. No idea how many dpo I am as I reckon cbfm didn't pick it up right. AF due one week tomorrow and considering blowing my holiday spends on frer tests.
Funny thing, I KNEW this is how I would behave after my erpc.
I also went to the toilet three times last night. Clearly pregnant right???!!!! Slap me with a fish!

Oh god lou dont get me started on the going to the toilet thing I seem to need to pee every 10 mins so of course its because im pregnant, cant possibly be the big glass of juice I drank

ive got a salmon, ill slap you if you slap me back

Oh and I have been really sensible. Knowing I will be gutted when/if AF arrives I have already thought about how I can ease the blow. I am focused on positive things. 1 - cycle is getting back to normal 2 - there is always next ov 3 -

smiling SLAPPPPPP

Tired, sore boobs, heartburn, 'twinges'..........arrrgh

(passes round fish)

I think we need a fish gradient. A slap with an anchovy and a slap with a tuna are not the same thing. And the records should reflect that.

I think mine are at least marlin worthy.

Ladies I've been getting bfn's for the past couple if days. I don't want to get my hopes up. AF due today. Still hasn't showed up. I've run out of first response preg tests.. Shall I by some more or wait.. I'm getting fed up with testing but want to know if it's still bfn. What would you do?

hope id wait a few days my periods have been a bit all over the place since my mmc, I used to be regular as clockwork 32days but ive been 1 or 2 days off either way, first month was 2 days late this month was 1 day early.

but thats me, do whatever makes you feel better, theres no right or wrong.

Smiling my cycle is between 30-32 days. So I will wait. I am having cramps so I think it's on it's way. Hate the wait!

Thank you for your lovely messages ladies.
Looking forward to being neurotic with you all trying to get upduffed again!
Just had a little cry as I'm not sure what to do with the little man and his resting place. I just keep thinking that I shouldn't be having to do this and then feeling sorry for myself
Treacle do I recognise you from the December due date thread? Life sucks don't it!

Another due in October... And last June...

I agree with the ones that say we are happy for the ones who know how hard it is to get pregnant and stay pregnant... but the ones that just have to look at a cock and have a child are consigned to the hidden button...

having mixed feeling recently though as I discovered someone is pregnant - she had her first by ivf and thought she couldn't get pregnant naturally but hasn't miscarried so while happy for her, i have my feelings all mixed up... ahhrgh

Hello to the new faces sorry you're here but it can be kind of entertaining in a black humour way!

Emily course you shouldn't be having to go through this and I think a cry is healthy. I wish there was more I could say....

In the fish slapping club for cramps/nausea/tiredness. Think 11dpo, AF due sun so might test tomorrow. DH birthday so BPF would be a nice start to the day.

Hey hope smiling and Monten and everyone else

I'm 6 days dpo and I'm convinced I'm pregnant!!!!! Although I know that is just in my head.

I'm soooo tired, lots of CM, peeing lots and a horrible taste in my mouth and my boobs are a bit of sensitive side oh and I feel v v bloated.

I'm being crazy aren't i? Fish slap ahoy!!! When can I realistically POAS if I'm 6 dpo? Next weekend maybe? I think AF might be due around Monday 14 th / Tuesday 15th

Daren't test too early

Joining on with the "I feel pregnant" thoughts.

Bloating like crazy, cramping (worrying about this, right in the middle where I had my mc pain), tired, emotional...
I'm going to be so upset if I get a bfn.

*in
Oh and my skin is terrible!

Brummie I suggest you wait until you miss 1 day off your period. Poas before that is torture, but I know you'll probably end up Poas'ing anyway haha

I just did those cheapy cassanovum ones right now.. I thought they all finished but had one left and it's a bfn. To avoid disappointment don't test early, it does break your heart.

Is there still hope? I still haven't got my AF today, maybe my cycle is messed up. It's gone longer? That sucks.

Oh bloody Nora! The wait is unbearable, the questions re has my mc messed up my cycles, to not test early v blow the budget on test. Disappointment, terror, fear, sadness.
I would say before going through what I have, by day of AF for me (and only me) I would have a bfp. But who bloody knows?!?! None of us which is why we are driving ourselves crazy!!!!

I'm due on the 14th too brummie
That's also the date of my 12 week scan.
I am so pleased I'm going to work that day so I can't sit at home.
I have been a teary mess today. 4 children at work asked me if I was pregnant today. I am never wearing a tunic dress again!
I'm just waiting for AF I can't imagine I caught this month. Fuck knows if or when I even ovulated and if the calculator is right we only dtd 2 days before OV.
This afternoon's swear word is 'fuckity-bye'. Fuckity bye to the Wtf cycle and general waiting.
Normal service needs to be resumed minus tears.