TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I'm with you marmalade.
We've made up but he's suggested a month off trying.

Yeah that Charlie Simpson haha. I've followed his career from Busted (I was young), to Fightstar to his new solo stuff. Boo hoo hoooooo.

I'm just waiting for DH to say the same!
Ah good old Charlie! We must be of a similar age

He says he will leave it up to me but as I'm so stressed out he doesn't think it's a good idea.

I'm 24 marmalade. I've seen Charlie at every show he's done as a solo artist. So gutted he's married because obviously he was going to run off with me before!!! :p

Hi Tori of course you can join but I'm so sorry you're here. I'm sorry it's not looking like good news. Know that you're not alone and things really do get better with time. I personally had an ERPC so can't advise re the medical management but there will be ladies on here who can help.

I was exactly the same as you, focusing in ttc again was the only constructive thing I could do and focus on.

Thinking of you tomorrow x

hope hoping you get a scan date soon and can get some reassurance

boozle how are you doing today? I've been thinking about you.

Hope you're feeling better treacle sorry to hear you've fallen out with DH. Emotions are so high for you both and we take it out on those that are closest. I remember having the most horrific argument with DH the day he went back to work and I was still off after the ERPC. I was screaming, telling him to leave me and hitting out (so out of character for me) It started over something silly that I can't even remember now but soon escalated because of course it had nothing to do with the silly thing but all my upset about being left alone came out. You'll work it out, be kind to each other.

Thanks oneday. We're ok now but he is really suggesting taking some time not ttc.

The whole thing hasn't affected him as much but he can see it's destroyed me.

Hi tori, so sorry you're here. Look after yourself. I miscarried naturally so can't really offer any advice.

Hi Tori,
I went through a similar situation, but I had a blighted ovum ( pregnancy sac but no baby). Had to have 3 scans before I then had an erpc (which I would thoroughly recommend). It is so hard, but take time to look after yourself and grieve. It does get easier. I hope you find some support in these pages, the ladies are all wonderful.

That's hard Treacle. It doesn't make the stress any easier holding off for a month either! I really don't think the boys know what this yearning feeling to be pregnant again actually feels like.

I'm ok thanks oneday. It's just a massive waiting game. No more bleeding just a pin prick of pink on tissue this morning and more aches than cramps in my abdonim. I did a quick check and lots of creamy white cm (sorry probably tmi) but nothing suspicious looking. Fingers crossed it's just a blip but we're not going to celebrate until we've got at least the next week out of the way. Up until then I'm kind of just pretending I'm not pregnant yet, it's the only way I can deal with it. I've done a lot of praying today!

Boozle, you're right. They have no idea.

Glad you've not had much today. I so have my fingers crossed for you!

Hang in there boozle we are rooting for you!

Ah, I'm a couple of years older than you treacle still love a bit of busted mind.

Hi tori I'm so sorry. I'm also sorry I also miscarried naturally so can't advise.

I think I'm going through the angry phase? I am seriously not a happy bunny.
And just because I'm venting, I want to see my doctor on wed, (if I get an appointment) DH won't take a half day because he has too much on this week. Which means I have to ask my mum to have DS. This is fine and I'm sure she will but it's the explaining to her why I'm going etc. she is not in any way supportive. It's just the way she is. It's fine but it makes it more difficult.
Please remind to leave FB!

I know exactly what you mean marmalade. My mom is the same. We have no children though so I don't have to explain anything to her.

Be angry though. It's better out than in. In my opinion :p

treacle I'm a few years older than you too but never got into the Busted thing, haha! I'm glad you and DH made friends. I can see the reasoning for a month off ttc, to give yourself the time to get over what's happened and a bit if time off dtd with the pressure of ttc. But I can also see why you wouldn't want to have a break and you're desperate to be pregnant a again like all of us on here are. It's a tricky one.

boozle that all sounds very positive! I'm glad you've had a better day physically though I'm sure emotionally it's been really hard.

I'm doing the better out than in thing.
I've also cried a lot over the last 24 hours.
I was nodding along to your earlier post about feeling destroyed. That is how I feel. A weird tunnel vision of grief.

Haha, it's just Charlie. Yum.

Feeling much more normal tonight apart from this stupid uti. Wondering whether to attempt to dtd tonight or not. And also if DH would let me due to a) uti and b) him considering a break.

Oh marmalade, it is so hard. Sending big hugs. I thought I'd have lost track of weeks now but I know I'd have been 18 weeks Wednesday coming and it's been 9 weeks and a day since i started bleeding. Gah.

Hi girls can i join ur thread? Had a natural misc in june and ttc as soon as bleeding stopped, waiting on af now or a bfp would be fantastic, hard not knowing where i am in my cycle as no af since misc! Am symtom spotting to the point of driving myself mad!!! Does this get easier i so just want to be pregnant again, hate this feeling of emptiness, any advice would be very welcome x

Hi lola, sorry for your loss.
Have you done a test already? Did you test to see if your hcg levels had gone down?

Thanks for replying Treacle did a test this morn an got a BFN!! Had scan a week after misc and uterus was empty and hpt was neg!! Think i just need af to arrive to know where i am cycle wise

It's good that you know you had no hcg left.

Fingers crossed you get a bfp rather than af :)

Thanks treacle really appreciate your support :)
Uti and dtd you are a braver lady than I! Although I always had hideous uti's.

Hi lola so sorry for your loss, everyone is so lovely here.
I believe you are in the WTF cycle. I am also in it as are few others I believe. Sorry I can't remember who!
I wish I had advice for you, I think we are all hanging in there. I'm knockers and knickers checking!

It's not too bad atm marmalade. Shouldn't risk worsening it though really.
I remember the first one I had ended up as a kidney infection. I swore never to have sex again haha.

I should add that wasn't because I'd dtd after getting the uti, it just spread!

Totally understand! I was hospitalised with my last kidney infection. It wasn't pretty, passing out, vommit and a slow heart rate...all in front of really good looking doctors. Great!

Ooh marmalade not good :(

I'm really cross. I so want to dtd. I even have lots of cm!!!
:(

Welcome lola I hope you're stay here is short! I had a mmc and subsequent ERPC 23rd June and am still waiting for first AF too. Should have been due today if cycles were as before but typically I'm having a WTF cycle I suspect! We also dtd once I'd stopped bleeding but no idea if it was at the right time and I don't think I've ovulated yet. Hop on the bus and joint me, marmalade and some of the other ladies as we not so patiently await our AF ... Or even better BFP!