TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

All positive so far virgo, can understand your fear but fingers crossed it will all keep going the right way. Happy thoughts your way.

Sorry you are having a glum day mrsbee, it's shit but its bound to happen sometimes. Breaking down at work is hard to deal with though, were they understanding? Hope you are feeling better tomorrow.

I've been prescribed clomid by my fertility clinic which I start once the WTF cycle is over. Anyone had this?

Fx virgo
Crikes, just flicking through tv thinking what to watch and even just seeing 'one born every min' on the display made me teary. I feel for us all

I was just about to post asking if anyone else has stopped watching OBEM :(
I can't bear it since the miscarriage.

I have OBEM on series link but have not watched a single episode this series - avoiding it at all costs!

It's too hard to watch isn't it.
My closest friend is due in august. No idea how I'm going to cope.
Selfish I know.

Used to watch it before. Couldn't even consider it now. Can just about make it through a pampers advert without breaking down!

treacle am so sorry af came x

Thank you Monten.
I feel so pathetic. Really upset tonight. Had a good cry to DH.
Dreading work tomorrow :/

treacle my counsellor told me to be kind and gentle to myself and that means going with the emotions, not trying to hold it together or striving to be the person before this happened. I believe I have changed and will never be the person I was before this and part of the new me is the sad person and that's ok to be like that. Being upset because of AF is normal for us now so don't feel bad about being upset x

Fingers crossed virgo!

treacle don't feel bad at all for being upset. Hope work tomorrow goes ok.

lou I felt calmed by your post!

I geeky shocking this evening and have the temperament of an utter irrational. I imagine this is run up to AF with added fluey achy body.

I really don't see how I will move on from this. If we stop trying then I'm no better off. Does that make any sense?

Thanks lou, you're right. I need to be more kind to myself.

I completely understand marmalade. Was talking to DH earlier about not trying during August so we can pay off the credit card (I built it up after the miscarriage) but that upsets me just as much.
Gah. Everyone thinks I'm fine now but I'm not. I just try to hold it together. If I have a bad day people are like "oh, why are you upset?".
Ummm. Because I miscarried??? I think because it was most likely a blighted ovum people think it's not so bad.
I still lost the whole future I had planned. Ugh :(

I'm still obsessed with OBEM. I'm obsessed with all things babies.
It's ridiculous.

Wise words there Lou. Don't be afraid to cry and let it out. It's good for you. It will help you to heal.
I feel like I've changed too. Not massively, I just view things differently.
Time is a great healer, you will all look back at this time and wonder how you got through. But you will get through it.

English I agree time is how we will get through it as cliche'd as it is. A few years ago my brother died in a car crash, he was 17, 8 months later my dad died unexpectedly, 2 mcs later and some days are so hard but we are all stronger than we think. Heads up, keep going and we'll all get there xxx
P.s sorry for the splurge, having a hard day today x

I'm so sorry bythesea, you have been through so much.

Ive just woken up suddenly with a nightmare about work ugh. Now can't get back to sleep because of prod pain. It is so intense it reminds me of the miscarriage. Ouch :(

Sorry about your nightmare treacle, perhaps your brain is on overdrive a little bit.

You make complete sense marmalade, I think that's why people start trying again so quickly, you still have a goal to achieve so you jut plough on!

I've still watched OBEM. I didn't the week it happened but have since. I have managed to separate it from what has happened to me. The thing that does get me if I think too much is I can't imagine me getting to that stage. Hopefully I'm wrong though.

Been cramping quite bad since last night but not sure what it is...

Morning all,
AF here this morning so out for another month

bythesea bfn today for me, I have a feeling AF is on the way. We are in it together! Here's to next month xx

Virgo it must be worrying for you but please try and relax as much as you can. I really hope you have an uneventful pregnancy.

Ladies I tested again with clearblue digital and I got a bfp. I'm still in a shock. Got doc appt today.. I'm so scared

Cd35 I got bfn and cd37 I got bfp. Don't lose hope! I lost hope but was in a complete shock yesterday my knees were shaking

Congratulations hope lovely news

nothing to report here, af not due till Monday

Keep us updated smiling I hope you get a bfp too. I actually only had cramping, I never get sore boobs etc except when AF going to start. Sometimes only cramping can be a big sign. Wishing you all the best

Huge congrats Hope!

Congrats Hope that's wonderful news.

treacle am so sorry about your AF I know I was really worried about how Id feel about mine.

However I took Lou's advice to POAS so if it was a negative I was almost preparing myself. Am pretty shocked, it's a BFP. Wasn't expecting that.

I feel very strange about it, apart from bricking it!! I'm only 3+1 and I miscarried at 4+3 last time.

So scared the same thing will happen again - I was so naive last time and knew it could happen but never realised it would happen to me.

So with that knowledge - I don't feel excited yet.

But saying to myself, today I am pregnant. Each day is a milestone

Wow ladies bfp's are great!!! Good luck to you both xxx

Ahh BFP's for you ladies! How exciting. Keeping everything crossed for lovely sticky beans.

What lovely news to read when I've not been on for a while.

Thinking of you too Virgo and hoping everything goes smoothly for you.

Really hoping anyone else with AF just round the corner receives good news. All these positives means there is hope. How exciting!

Sorry AF fif rear her ugly head treacle here's hoing next month is your month x