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FizzyFeet · 10/06/2014 18:29
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Fabuluce ·
24/06/2014 20:31
Well done Effin that's excellent news! Horribly jealous obvs, so to avoid this I shall rub myself around your ankles instead and hope the embie sticking aura rubs off on me as well 
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Did anyone else watch the news yesterday and the joyful announcement about women who were having their children taken into care straight after birth? Some women had had as many as FIFTEEN CHILDREN EACH?!?!?!?! Seriously??? This is proof that karma doesn't work. Women who are utterly incapable of looking after children they couldn't give a shit about are popping them out like smarties whilst we go through all this bollocks for what?? The hope against hope that it might just happen so we can grow just one precious little life.
EffinIneffable ·
24/06/2014 22:43
cheers hags, but it's a long way to go yet.
fab ta for ankle rubs, hope you're purring too
don't think we did anything different, must just be random lightning luck.
cunty I am def staking out a place in shitting it corner
I'm shaking my tiny fist at the world too. It's so frustrating when life is completely unfair and we have so little control.
barkingtreefrog ·
25/06/2014 07:30
It's sickening Fab. My parents were foster carers for years so I saw it first hand. 
erica hope you see someone and get sorted, keep us posted.
efiin!! 
congrats. Hope you can calm the menkul. Are you going to try and get an early scan?
blue tell me about it. 2.5 years here as well of sensible living, very little alcohol and living my life around ttc. It's fucking frustrating. It'd all be worth it for a baby, but there's no guarantee that will ever actually happen.
rain have you calmed your shaky finger yet?
I'm trying not to obsess over recurrent miscarriage investigations, where I can get them (I've only had 2 so NHS not interested) and how much they cost.... If I could get pg naturally then fine, I could put it down to bad luck and move on, but our chances are running out, and I don't want to get lucky once more only for that to end in mc as well - no point investigating if we're at the end of the road and have no chances to try again anyway. We're really lucky we get IUI here, but we only get 1 IVF, I don't want to blow our one chance if it might be doomed to failure before we begin.
barkingtreefrog ·
25/06/2014 13:19
blue I've had chinese herbs and acupuncture since December. My cycles improved (as in they finally came back post mc, but were still wonky) and my skin improved (proof that my hormones were balancing out) but I resented the cost and the time/hassle (which is also more cost, as my appointments were on the days I work my second job and get paid per hour, so cost me two hours pay once I've travelled there and back and been stuck with needles). At the moment I've ditched everything related to ttc in an attempt to get some of my life back, so no wheat free diet, no vitamins, no woo needles, no herbs, and as much alcohol and shit food as I want .
I've emailed the local private clinic to ask about the costs of investigations. Part of me doesn't want to pursue this while I'm 'taking a break' but I think it might help me relax and take a proper break before the next IUI if I know either A - there's a problem but we have a plan or B - they can't find anything, chances are I've just been unlucky so next time it could all be ok.
Went to see the counsellor this morning and talked to her for over an hour. Her advice, in a nutshell, was:
1: - look after yourself mentally and physically.
2: - it's ok and normal to have looked forward to happy times (in my case showing the in-laws our 12 week scan photo when we visited them abroad in October, being 7 months pg at Christmas when we see family) and it's normal to be upset when those happy times are taken away, don't feel bad about being upset just let yourself grieve.
3: - concentrate on spending time with supportive friends, not those that don't help for whatever reason.
I think I'll wait until after my scan on Friday, and when I've decided if to go for private investigations, and then consider booking another session if I'm still feeling wobbly. It helped to just talk to someone about all of it without feeling like I was burdening a friend. You know she's there to listen so you can keep talking about what you want to talk about without trying to balance the conversation with a different topic or making sure you're not being self absorbed and trying to remember to ask how they are as well instead of being me me me!!
FizzyFeet ·
26/06/2014 16:15
Hello hags,
Just popping in to say that I will probably be 'going dark' for a bit - starting new job on Monday and putting fertility shiz on the back burner until September.
Congrats effin ! Hope your bfp luck rubs off on us other hags
A bucket of prawns and a slap with a salmon for barking and fab; you are made of tough stuff!
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barkingtreefrog ·
26/06/2014 16:50
Ooo, ta for the gin and strawberries fizzy . Although I still can't decide whether to pursue private testing yet, we're also leaving the ttc until September. When I've got myself sorted I'll probably lie low as well, but at the moment I can't stop myself trawling the mc threads reading about what tests and treatments people are trying.... Not coping well since the counselling, I seem to have only just acknowledged what is happening . The fact that I'm on my seventh day of bleeding isn't helping, I'm physically exhausted and unable to start doing anything active that would make me feel better 
. I came home at lunchtime and have been sleeping. Was out of class today and had finished the meeting I dragged myself in for. The head said I could go home but wanted to know what work I could do from home, she was most concerned that I would have everything ready to hand over to my replacement 
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barkingtreefrog ·
26/06/2014 16:51
erica a trip to the gp sounds sensible. Please do pm me, that would be great 
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barkingtreefrog ·
27/06/2014 15:06
blue I do the same, I know it doesn't help but can't help myself. It also highlights what a nasty person I have become. Someone posted on the mc boards who had mc after an accidental pg. I was immediately 
that she got diffed without even thinking about it. She'd had a bloody mc and was upset, how screwed up am I that I have so little sympathy just because she didn't have a hard time getting pg?
Just back from the hospital. Again. Starting to feel like a routine. Scan was awful. They were running 25 minutes late, then the couple before us came out beaming. If that wasn't bad enough a nurse asked how they were and they started gushing unnecessarily loudly given they knew the possible circumstances of everyone else in the waiting room about how happy they were and looking forward to the next scan etc etc. DH reached for my hand and said he wished they'd fuck off. I luff him. My scan not great. Not all gone yet so I can expect the bleeding to continue. Good news was we've managed to get an appointment to see the consultant on 7th July, which was a lot quicker than either we or the nurses expected. The nurses didn't dismiss the idea of getting tests as readily as they seemed to last time, so we're hoping we can at least get the basics tested - thrombophilia, thyroid & autoimmune issues - before trying again. Still planning on a break before the next try though.
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