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The Berries: On knockerwatch, sniffing willies and clinging to the coat tails of the continued clusterdiff (thread 21)

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barkingtreefrog · 30/05/2014 10:20

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 12+ months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and definitely no mention of baby dust or baby dancing).
Those not abiding by the rules may be escorted from the premises.

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greatbigbushybeard · 21/06/2014 23:14

Don't watch it barking so rant away! is it some cutesy, this is how you were conceived bollocks?

FeatherFeather11 · 22/06/2014 03:00

Just got out of A&E. Started bleeding while having dinner with friends. In a bit of shock and not really sure what's happening. Been advised to wait and see. It's not mega heavy, but it's there and dark red. I don't know that this is going to work out.

Tallyra · 22/06/2014 05:34

Oh no feather. You have my fingers firmly crossed for you. Xxxxxx

BlindKitty · 22/06/2014 05:52

feather offering a hand to hold. When will you get a scan?

tigerdog · 22/06/2014 06:01

feather you poor thing to have to go through this. Keeping everything crossed that it all turns out ok. xx

winohhh · 22/06/2014 06:39

Oh feather. Hand holding. Will they scan you? Fingers firmly crossed all is okay. Xx

Barking, still thinking of you. Xx

lumen · 22/06/2014 06:40

Thinking of you feather, fx all turns out ok xxx

MotherOfCleo · 22/06/2014 07:36

Thinking of you feather!! Hope all is ok! I know it wont stop you being scared but my friend had unexplained bright red blood throughout and now has a healthy 3 year old.

CatsCantFlyFast · 22/06/2014 08:27

How are you doing Feather?

happylass · 22/06/2014 08:39

Thinking of you Feather Thanks

FeatherFeather11 · 22/06/2014 08:53

Thanks all. Sorry to stress you all out. I've just woken up and it seems to have stopped aside from when I wipe - then it's just on streak of red. The doctor in a&e last night went to see the epu to see whether they would scan me and they said no - just keep an eye on it and go to epu on Thursday for a scan. I want to ignore that and go today and insist they do a scan.

winohhh · 22/06/2014 09:09

That's ridiculous feather. Why have they said you have to wait till Thursday? Surely they can see what's going on now? I think I would probably ignore what they've said too and try and get one today. You poor thing. More hand holding.

FeatherFeather11 · 22/06/2014 09:15

I agree wino - might just turn up and shout until they scan me. The doc last night ended his sermon with "and if you're miscarrying, there's nothing we can do about it anyway" Sad

Anyway, sorry to worry you all and be so me-me-me. I was a little delirious when I posted last night, but just needed to say it as it felt like a dream/nightmare.

barking hope you are as ok as can be. Thinking of you. Flowers

berries you really all are the best. Flowers

barkingtreefrog · 22/06/2014 09:15

feather does your epu scan at weekends? Ours doesn't so there might not be much point going in. When was your last scan? They should be willing to scan you a week after the last one so they can look for appropriate growth, you shouldn't have to wait until Thursday.
I'm so sorry you're going through this but bleeding does not mean it's all over, hang on to hope my lovely, we're all thinking of you. Thanks

Just as another option, if the NHS won't help, a private scan round here costs about £70-80. If you can't cope with waiting it might be worth looking at for peace of mind?

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FeatherFeather11 · 22/06/2014 09:20

Thanks barking. Will def give the epu a go and failing that will go private. It's a week since my last scan - it was on Friday 13th June. Just think epu couldn't me bothered seeing me at 2am so I was sent away. Seems ridic that they don't scan you as a matter or course though.

How are you doing?

winohhh · 22/06/2014 09:25

It does seem ridiculous feather. It is so unhelpful when doctors say 'well there's nothing we could do so there's no point scanning you'. Like our emotional well being means nothing. They've no idea what it's like to 'just wait till Thursday'.

barkingtreefrog · 22/06/2014 09:31

I'm just going to start the new thread, anymore changes needed to the list before I do?

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TheRainDrops · 22/06/2014 09:52

feather ffs, this is when the nhs really fucks me off. Absolutely go and make a scene if you want a scan (which obviously you would - wait till Thursday - what fucking planet are these people on???). I am so sorry you're going through this frightening time but as others have said it doesn't have to mean bad news and I will be keeping you in my thoughts today.

barking hope you're managing to keep busy this weekend and feeling ok (obv not 'ok' ok - you know what I mean).

Food poisoning is finally leaving the building - I ate an egg this morning and it's not haunting me! Haven't eaten anything apart from 2 slices of plain toast in the last 48hrs. If nothing else, at least I've lost a lb or two this weekend!

rosie, bushy Germany are my sweepstake team so no particular loyal affection there (I think that would still be treason in footballing terms??!)

New thread already, this has to be a record!

barkingtreefrog · 22/06/2014 09:54

New thread located here. Took the liberty of going for my own theme as we were in danger numbers and had no room left to discuss it. Also, I'm an angry woman holding a sawn off shot gun so didn't think anyone would dare to disagree mind.

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barkingtreefrog · 22/06/2014 10:15

feather give the epu a call first, I know it's not just where I am that doesn't do scans on a weekend as I've seen rants on mn about it before when people were turned away until Monday as they didn't have the staff at the weekend. Might save you a trip in if you know it's not a possibility anyway. See if you get a more sympathetic person who will move your scan forward.

I'm going to get my how I met your mother rant out of the way on the old thread as it's too negative for the new one. Watched Friday's episode last night. For those who don't watch bear in mind that this entire (drawn out) season is building (slowly) towards Robin and Barney's wedding day. We're on the day of the wedding. Robin, in a past season, found out she was never going to be able to have children. We were reminded of this in the current season when her MiL to be makes a comment about her future grandchildren and Robin runs out crying. The key plot in this episode is that Lilly is keeping a secret. Turns out that she's pg. This was a kick in the stomach anyway (even on a tv show) but then her husband's reaction of excitement and hugs and 'we're going to have a baby' just KILLED me.

Point 1 This is their second child, it hasn't been mentioned that they're trying so we assume it's just happened without difficulty, but I just wanted to scream at the screen 'No! It doesn't fucking happen like that!' Your husband looks at you and says 'let's not get our hopes up' and you both start on the next very stressful period of waiting and not daring to hope. You certainly don't dare to believe you're actually going to have a baby. A bfp is no longer able to be a happy event, it's just the potential delay of more devastating disappointment.

Point 2. It is the wedding day of your best friend. She is infertile. This is not news to deliver to her on her fucking wedding day Angry.

Point 3 The bride doesn't even react to the news. Shock. Come on tv people, there is an opportunity here, someone please tell Lilly she's being an insensitive prick and show Robin sobbing at the lack of thought from her friend.

So, as you see, coping very well over here...

I did everything I could yesterday to get the bleeding going, but it's reduced to spotting. Basically, history is repeating itself exactly. I start bleeding, I think it's happening, then it stops. God knows how long this is going to be drawn out for again. At least this time we know there's no hope, last time we'd been told it could still be ok and it wasn't until I passed the sac before the second scan I knew for sure it was all over. I just want it to be over so I can try and put the pieces back together. I can't stand the way it just hangs there, constantly threatening to start but not doing anything. Yet I'm waddling round in massive night time pads as a constant reminder of what is about to happen because I can't risk not being prepared. ARSE Angry.

Ok, moving to the new positive thread now, can everyone please clear up my mess please?

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lumen · 22/06/2014 10:33

barking 100% agree with you on HIMYM storyline. See you on the new thread.

RosieintheAlps · 22/06/2014 12:33

Oh, barking, I really do feel for you. And yes, the HIMYM story line is rubbish. Have read the review of the finale so already know what happens there (I am very, very impatient).

Am in tidying mode so will start packing up Berrie HQ, too, so that pouffe of possibility and duvet of comfort can make it to the new place.

Feather, am keeping fingers crossed that all will be well. Hope you managed to get a scan one way or the other.

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