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The Berries: On knockerwatch, sniffing willies and clinging to the coat tails of the continued clusterdiff (thread 21)

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barkingtreefrog · 30/05/2014 10:20

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 12+ months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and definitely no mention of baby dust or baby dancing).
Those not abiding by the rules may be escorted from the premises.

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WildflowerMarmalade · 18/06/2014 23:01

Aaw, thanks everyone for being nice. I went to my meditation class and someone had brought flapjacks. I felt entitled to have two.

barking I can't believe your BM defriended you on Facebook, so did mine! The annoying thing was that everyone assumed it was me who did it in some sort of bridezilla attack. Weddings sometimes really show you who your friends are.

Who is this rainbows lady and what does she do?

barkingtreefrog · 18/06/2014 23:21

I think sleep tonight is going to be evasive...

wildflower google chasing rainbows Grin . Quite a few of us have gone for a personal plan now.

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greatbigbushybeard · 18/06/2014 23:32

Love animal programmes too so may need to I player!!

wildflower love flapjacks!! Damm straight you should have 2!!

barking tell us your bridesmaid story again. Was this the one that got stroppy because you weren't gushing enough when she 'announced'. Can't believe she defriended you.

barkingtreefrog · 19/06/2014 00:14

Yes, bushy, despite telling her repeatedly I was very happy for her (and I was, she'd been trying almost 2 years and it was a clomid bfp) I didn't gush a second time when she came up to do bridesmaid stuff for the weekend, even though the other bridesmaids were there and she asked me not to tell them.... When I said it was a bit tricky to talk about something that no one else was to know about, she said there was time to talk about it when the others were out of the room.... But given the mc was still very raw and baby talk made me cry, how would I explain to everyone else why I was upset when they came back in?! Anyway, she uninvited me to her birthday because she 'wasn't going to be made to feel guilty for being pg on her birthday'. When I said I couldn't help being upset about losing a baby and it had nothing to do with her pg she said 'well there will be lots of baby talk, it's not fair for you to ask me not to talk about it on my birthday weekend'. Just for the record, I hadn't even considered it, let alone mentioned it.
She then said it was probably for the best that she didn't come to the wedding. I replied if that was how she felt I wasn't going to beg her, I had enough on my plate. Haven't heard from her since and noticed the other day I'd been defriended. DH's reaction was to tell me he'd always hated her, she was so needy, emotional and hard work every time we saw her. He had a point. When I called to tell her about the mc she ended up crying down the phone at me over something that had gone wrong in her life that day. Hmm

Anyway, can honestly say the wedding was lovely without her, and stress free, which it wouldn't have been with her there as she's so highly strung.

Off to attempt that sleep thing again. DH just snoring next to me.

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winohhh · 19/06/2014 07:02

Barking, thinking of you today. Really hoping for a good outcome. My scans on Tuesday. I'll be 9w1d. Nervous doesn't even come close. It's so hard after a miscarriage. :(

RP I can't remember if I posted or just thought it, but woo!! Amazing news on you scan. I hope you're managing to feel a big more relaxed now? (Unlike me!).

greatbigbushybeard · 19/06/2014 07:41

Sounds like you are well shot of her barking,sometimes our dh's have a finer sense of these things and it sounds like dh had definitely got the measure of her. Also when things come to the crunch it does show us who our real friends are. Best of luck for today x

Bunnygirlie · 19/06/2014 08:26

Thinking of you today barking and good luck for Tuesday win

otter I may be the exception to the rule but at my first FC appt when we were told it was ivf for us I was kind of relieved! I felt like the pressure was off us! it was in the hands of the experts! does that make sense?

tigerdog · 19/06/2014 08:28

barking wishing you so much luck for today. Xx

Hey win thinking of you too. Every day is a step closer.

I'm feeling in good spirits today. Grin

lumen · 19/06/2014 08:32

batking wanted to first say best of luck this afternoon, will be sending you Berry vibes at 2pm. Also belated birthday wishes. This tread moves so fast and although I manage to read everything on my phone app, as soon as I go to post all bar the last thing I was thinking goes out of my head, I think I have the memory of a goldfish. Anyway, this time I am on a computer so can scroll back. Can't believe about your friend on FB but it sounds like you are better off without her. Glad you feel more reassured in your acu lady, I still feel like my reflexologist is a bit woo sometimes, as she does reiki before each session, who know if it is doing anything but the plinky plonky music is nice to listen to and relaxing.

bushy I hope you are now recovered from your bug and feeling better, not long until school holidays.

tiger you sound very positive at the moment, obviously your choice about the interview has sat well with you and you can now concentrate on your rainbow lady plan and finding yourself a new hobby. Since starting ttc I have taken up sewing and jam making. Did you have your stitches removed? Are you feeling more comfortable?

rp and feather I hope you are both ok and that you are not feeling too nauseous (yes I have been stalking the chopper)

win glad to hear from you and that things are ok, will have everything crossed for you on Tuesday for your scan.

kuma when it your OTD if you are now in your last week of 2ww? Did you test and see if your trigger is out of your system?

rain I understand being scared about FC appointment but I found it actually very nice to have something positive being done, as other people said to otters it is a way for them to find out more about you and your cycle. I am the same as you, wild and tiger in being unexplained. I am hoping that even if this cycle does not work for us we will find out more information about the quality of our eggs/sperm/embryos. Also a belated happy birthday to you too rain.

wildflower sorry AF arrived but am impressed that you go to a meditation class, I always thought that was something you do at home on your own.

otters it sounds like you have a lovely BM.

funky did you call your FC to action your IVF referral? Is it on the nhs or private? If nhs how many cycles do you get?

nolly as a fellow train commuter I love your train related rants, keep them coming.

beaky I also adore Beckham but not when he is talking! Better if he keeps quiet. I was watching something we recorded last year and it had the Sky Sports advert with multiple Beckhams in it - had to rewind and watch for a second time.

chloe I hope you have a lovely relaxing holiday in Sardinia. Was your OHSS bad after EC? I am quite concerned about that.

rosie and otters sorry you have missed your shag weeks, we have missed quite a few over the past 3 years due to my DH working shifts that sometimes mean we don't see each other at all for a week. Talking on the phone each day is lovely but no good when you are ttc.

happy, serenity and any other berries I have missed hope all is good with you?

AFM, I have been stimming for 8 days now, I have my scan tomorrow morning to see if my follies have grown to the right size and to find out when EC will be next week. On Monday I had cramping and 'heavy' feeling ovaries, but that has now gone so I am scared it has not worked. Did any other IVF berries feel like this?

lumen · 19/06/2014 08:38

Ps sorry for my epic post, loads to catch up on Wink

TheRainDrops · 19/06/2014 09:29

wishing you the very best possible scan this afternoon barking
Will be sending you lots of Berry vibes at 2pm.

lumen fx for your EC. Hopefully the heavy sensation is just a stimming side effect, I am sure an IVF Berry will be able to reassure you. Thanks for your kind words - I am feeling a bit less scared about FC now. Going to write a list like barking suggested and make sure MrP has it too (as I am 100% going to cry, and I am one of those ugly criers who can't talk at the same time. I just sit there and blub)

kuma I hope this week is going quickly for you!

win thinking of you also - not long to go now.

wildflower mmm flapjacks! I've tried meditation a few times but I am hopeless at switching my brain off. Got any tips for that???

tiger I miss spot and stripe already! Those giant paws! I really wanted to reach through the TV and rub their tummies. There's a similar tiger breeding programme in Mauritius where you can go and hang out with the tigers. I am sorely tempted.

I have booked my first acu for the 5th, the Saturday after the FC appt.
I am also going to dig out my Rainbows plan and get back on it properly, there's been a lot of defeatist procrastination in Rain HQ recently.

I don't know if any of you other commuter Berries feel this way, but I genuinely feel like I have no time/energy for hobbies, and I worry I am becoming a boring person! I am up and out of the house by 7.30am and don't get back in till 7pm. By the time dinner is sorted, I've got just enough time and energy left to mooch on the sofa and talk to you lot and then it's bed.
Rinse & repeat ad infinitum. Smile

lumen · 19/06/2014 09:47

rain I have to keep hobbies mainly to the weekends due to commuting. I get up at 4.45am and am out the door by 5.45am usually returning home about 6pm. I go to bed early due to the early starts (so I always miss about 20 posts on here a night). But I have lots of time to myself on weekends as MrL works shifts.

nolly3 · 19/06/2014 10:11

Sorry for the saga all. Just be grateful I wasn’t going all the way to Scotland

barking will be thinking of you this afternoon and refreshing relentlessly in the meeting I’m supposed to be chairing

Re unexplained diagnoses, I am completely with you rain, Wild and tiger. I was initially pleased because I assumed we’d get there sooner or later, but now, with the 2 year mark looming unpleasantly, I actually feel that I’ve given up somehow, and am resigning myself to IVF - Chloe, otters totally get the sadness about that too. I felt that just going to the GP the first time, knowing that after that I was in the system and that was that.

Wild sorry about af too. Monthly disappointment is v hard to bear, especially as, as someone said, it starts with 2 days of ‘is it, isn’t it’ spotting.

I’ve got woo needles later too. I like it – so relaxing. Probably the most relaxing thing I’ve ever done, actually. And as tiger said it’s nice to have an hour with someone focusing on you –for a change—. Re hobbies, I play in an orchestra but not v often. Music like meditation – you have to focus completely so it’s a good break from everything.

Let us know how you get on with the FC funky. Any news on your follies lumen? V impressed with your crazy early starts.

Hey win and RP and bushy* too. Have you guys ventured into the chopper yet?

tigerdog · 19/06/2014 10:28

rain even without the commuting I felt like that. I'd been so used to a stressful job and commuting that I had forgotten how to make the most of my free time when I finally had some! And instead of making the most of it I nearly jumped feet first into another mega stressful job!

Hey lumen gosh you are so nearly there! Fx for EC and your scan tomorrow. I am feeling more positive thanks and totally recovered from the lap. I have also discovered jam making and sewing - our apple had a bumper year so I made about 50 jars of apple and blackberry jam and spiced apple chutney!

lumen · 19/06/2014 10:43

Mmm tiger apple and blackberry sounds good. We went to a PYO place on the weekend so I now have 6 jars of strawberry jam and will be making another 6 gooseberry tonight whilst my dh watches the footie

nolly3 · 19/06/2014 10:45

ooh, we've got a gooseberry bush. I thought you had to wait til july to harvest, would you do it now?

happylass · 19/06/2014 10:46

Just a quick one to say good luck Barking. Thinking of you today.

tigerdog · 19/06/2014 10:54

Ooh lumen you've inspired me to find a pyo place this weekend!

Argh better get back to work! Slacking big time...

Enjoy your woo needles nolly!

Will be back later to check for news from barking!

FeatherFeather11 · 19/06/2014 10:57

Go batking go!!

lumen · 19/06/2014 10:58

nolly depends if they are ripe I guess?

nolly3 · 19/06/2014 12:56

well - don't you have to sometimes harvest things unripe for jam making? or did i make that up?

honestly, this thread is becoming my source of advice for all my life problems.

lumen · 19/06/2014 13:24

I think with gooseberries if they are slightly I ripe they will make green jam, if they are ripe they will make red jam Grin glad I can give advice on something

barkingtreefrog · 19/06/2014 14:12

Still waiting to go in. Feel sick and can't stop shaking.

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FeatherFeather11 · 19/06/2014 14:15

barking hang on in there. We are all here willing you on. Flowers, the waiting is the worst bit xxx

lumen · 19/06/2014 14:16

We are all here with you xxx