Going Clucking mental? Old birds gather round.....

[Gingerbreadlady1]

A thread for the older ttc'er. Join us in the chicken coop for support, advice or just somewhere to rant.

Here's the old thread for those wanting to do serious lurking:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1978730-Old-birds-wanna-join-the-coop?msgid=47008448#47008448

Aaaaah thanks for the welcome back. I think this is my natural home now as the TTC after MC thread is full of ladies much younger than myself and I've found myself feeling ridiculously jealous that they have acres of fertility ahead of them and I don't

Great news for the over forties thread

Good luck in the 2ww inshock, hopefully all your hard work will pay off

Welcome lucie, nice to have a newbie, been a while.

sebs lovely to have u back, that's great about your lp, all helps.

How lovely is it hear about the 2 bfp's on the 40's thread.

Cat is good again & my mums was moved out of high dependency to a normal ward very quickly so all good news. How's everyone feeling? I wonder where all the other lovely ladies that joined us over the months got too? Like to think they're all over on the a\n threads.

Still lurking on here and reading all your updates
Still no AF will POAS again tommorow..prob to get a bfn, think my cycle is messed up after the mc have been really restrained to wait a week! But can't stand looking at the negative test!
Hope your all doing ok welcome back to those who have been away and the newbies
Bet AF will show as soon as I go on my holiday!!!

Hi everyone, I'd like to join this thread too, I'm 38 and we've been TTC baby 2 for 18 months and no luck so far, feeling very disheartened. I conceived without trying first time round but I was 33 then.

We need a BFP on this thread now :) fx for you Tilly

DP has offered to get some viagra for next month so we can dtd everyday all month! Not sure how I feel about that. Think I'm meant to be pleased but all I can think is oh god really? every day?? :)

Lol inshock, I must admit when I got my bfp, we did say to each other thank god ttc is over, was such a relief.

tilly step away from the pee sticks!! Testing early leads to madness, it's official.

bob you're very welcome here, it's a great place for support.

I've been using my time at work tonight to write my list of questions for the fc tomorrow. Dp is currently stuck in London due to problems with his flight, hope he gets back in time!

Hi again everyone and thanks for the welcome I have been using OPKs for the past few months. I have a relatively short cycle around 24-25 days although the past month or two it has got a little longer and was 26 days this month. I normally ovulate around CD 12-13 and try to time BD around this as much as possibly but nothing as of yet. We are not finding conceive plus much use either although it has some good reviews. Keep trying I guess!

Welcome to our thread Bob I understand your frustration (as do all of us on here!) I conceived first month of trying aged 39, sadly ended in a mmc and have now been trying for a year (can't believe it's now a year) with no success at all.

Lucie 24/25 day cycle is fine, still within the 'normal' range. I was told regularity is more important than length as it shows regular ovulation.

I've decided to give acupuncture another try, I enjoyed it and found it lengthened my LP but struggled to fit in appointments around work.

I seem to be struggling with the mc I had a year ago at the moment, I think it's because I've just reached the one year anniversary of ttc. I keep thinking over everything, I had a couple of evenings out before finding out I was pregnant and drank a couple of glasses of wine on both occasions, now I keep wondering if that caused it. I continued to drink tea and coffee and eat chocolate, so I wonder if that caused it. I know I shouldn't mull over it but I can't help it. Anyone else done/doing the same?

Sorry if that last post is a bit depressing but it's one of those questions I can ask you ladies...

Inshock, I totally understand as I saw my September antenatal thread in Active posts last night talking about 'the final stretch' and that was a stake to the heart. Woke up feeling really depressed and now can't shake it.

Some glasses if wine would have had no impact on your pregnancy btw. It's easy to blame ourselves but unfortunately mc is higher at our age and is a regular occurrence across the board so unfortunately it 'just happens' and it's total bullshit when it does.

Ginger I'm so very sorry to read your news. I'm still away on holiday and just checked in quickly. Gutted. This journey is just that bit harder for some of us. You sound strong and I hope you recover quickly. bonus that you kept appt today with FC. Is this for IVF referral?

AF turned up for me today after I'd got my hopes up so it's definitely IVF for us now.

Cuts me to the core but I'm trying to focus positively on the stats and gather up the strength to just get through this. (I am on the beach right now surrounded by pregnant ladies in bikinis with babies. I want that!!)

I'll catch up with all the old birds news and welcome the new old birds properly when I get home - I'm supposed to be switching off from all this X

Hi annie! Now get off your phone & order a pina colada.

inshock absolutely nothing you did would have made any diff. I regularly see drug addicts through my work who are pregnant, think of the abuse they are putting their bodies through. It's just a lottery (a f'ing unfair one at that). Up till 12 weeks its in the gods hands, after that what we eat/drink etc has more of an effect, something to do with when the placenta is formed.

I also worry that I was doing too much leading to my loss but logically I know that wasn't the case. Doesn't stop your heart breaking. Big hugs, we do understand xxx

For those who are going to embark on IVF can I recommend this blog I started reading and got totally obsessed by. It's this ladies story about her loss, then unexplained fertility, IUI and subsequent IVF. I will start the link at th beginning and be prepared to read it like a novel and not get off the sofa for hours.

rainbowbabymaker.wordpress.com/2012/04/

I think I have decided IVF isn't for me, not at this point anyway. I can imagine if the cycles don't work it would be a very quick way to rack up debt based in desperation and hope. I am going to keep plugging away naturally and if we never have another child just be very grateful for the one we have.

Thanks sebs, will check it out. Apparently nhs waiting time here is nearer 22months!!!!!

sebs, you're so right. 1.5hrs & still reading!

Oh no I've started reading this too!! 22 months? You wot?!

annie lol! What you doing here, you're meant so be having a break crazy lady!

Yes, 22mths, f that. Private we go. Just need to convince dp. Gri or gcrm.

How's the holiday? Menorca?

Majorca. On the Rioja!!! Was on cava this afternoon. Marvellous for nbing the pain of infertility. How sad eh? Checking mumsnet when I'm blootered! I am a totally clucking mental bird. Totally clucking mental. Did they say anything else at your appt? Anything useful?

Oooo, I like a bit alot of Rioja, however prefer prosecco to cava. We had blood taken for chromosomal tests which was a result. Getting treated for prolactin then when that stabilises there're gonna try letrozole for ov induction. Joy. I had 3 pages of questions they answered so I'm sure there was more!!!

I remember you discussing buying royal jelly, I'm gonna get some, can you remember where you got it from?

Tell me all about your hol, weathers crap here today. Are you brown? Done any nice trips? Hotel or apartment?

Good work. They seem to know what they're doing.. I don't seem to have any "in between" treatments myself for Clomid to Ivf which is strange but may be due to my great age. Oh god yeah prosecco better than cava but when in Spain.... Royal jelly here www.royaljellyinhoney.co.uk . I loved taking it all month. A little quarter spoon full from the fridge. So luxurious!! Cliff Richard swears by it for eternal youth so I heard. Made sod all difference though Right DH is mad with me for deserting him now so better go!!!

Enjoy!!!

Sorry to hear that everyone is having such a mixed time. Were waiting for the rest of the results and hopefully we will have an idea what is happening. Bonus that its three weeks till our anniversary weekend away.

Nice to hear that there are some progress in other people's journeys.

Hi patch, did you ever get to the bottom of the possible PCOS diagnosis?

Dr doesn't think it's pcos, she said I have small ovaries which being 5foot isn't as surprise (everything in proportion, I kept having comical thoughts of massive ovaries following behind me in a sledge). There were a few cysts but she wasn't worried. Changed my diet though and doing more exercise. Not sure what to think now just waiting for dh sperm results.

Thanks for asking stubborn