TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

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Hopefully we'll see more BFPs on this one!

Starting to get af cramps here too. Due on monday. And know 100% that it will arrive every single time now. Today I am in numb and accepting, hubby is apologetic, weepy and clingy.

Sorry, I know there are others here that need ivf and I'm not the only unlucky person in the world! I'll drag myself out of this pit of self pity in time. How long will you need to wait for ivf stepmama? Are you going private did you say?

Gone private yes, selling jewellery to fund it. Diamonds or baby? No comparison. I'm not waiting any longer it's destroying me and I don't want it to affect my relationship anymore. Going back to dtd when I want is better than following all these dumb rules.
Not too sure on time frame. Have first consultation on 12 June then from research I think it needs to start from first day on cycle then three months from that point.
Vic, going through the emotions is healthy, once you have your appointment and plan it will all feel much better

Good luck ladies xx

vic don't let DH apologise. It is so random. Nothing anyone could have done. You doing ok having to be the reassuring one? Thinking of you xx

Feeling very weepy this morning, my eyes are just leaking! I think its from the past 36 hours being strong! Me and dh are going to do nice things together all weekend, starting with breakfast at Frankie&Benny this morning. :-)

Hmmm that's odd, af just started. 25 day cycle. Last one was 31! Never had one 25 days before. No spotting before tho, just straight in. Don't know if that's good or bad. I don't want my body to start messing up too!

Hi guys. Sorry I've been mia. App not working!

Vic after dhs 2nd sa came back we got referred, even though 2nd sa showed some improvement in motility (4%-20% but morph only went 3%-4%). I think the official line is referral after 24m unless therr are indicators of infertility before that time. Our initial appointment came through in a few weeks, and about half the time Dr told us it would take. Its ground to a halt since then but that's partly because I couldn't book hsg last month. I hope you are both starting to feel better. I think once you get over the initial shock its actually nice knowing you are on the road now. You can focus on getting to the next appt and its not so crushing when AF arrives. We haven't stopped trying, I'm still using cbfm etc and we're still timing it for the egg, but if we miss a day I'm not stressing about it or upset. I symptom spot much less, and we're back to DTD becausevwe feel like it note than because a machine has an egg drawn on it! Hang in there.

blue sorry AF has been so awful to you. I always get terrible cramping on day1 but after that I'm lucky and they disappear. Fx its just a one off for you.

Hope everyone has nice plans for the long weekend!

Its gone awfully quiet in here. You lot must be having such a busy great bank hol weekend :-) x

Saturday was a bit crap for us. We went out for our cooked breakfast treat but then we both started crying in the car in the drive when we got back. We spent the rest of the day either crying or shouting at each other. The 'if its just going to!be the 2 of us for the rest of our lives, you'd better start/stop doing this that and the other!a' conversations. With that out of the way we are ok again!

Sunday we went out for carvery then to the garden centre we are well old before our time!! Today we are going food shopping then digging out the front garden flower beds! God we need to seriously get a life! What do you guys do as a couple on weekends? We are acting like we are in our 70's not our 30's! What do young couples do? Help us!

Hey lil I think your advice / comments were very helpful! Thanks!

vic your weekend sounds very like ours - I'm 30. As we've had trouble ttc, I've started to think 'is what we do enough?' And I think it's healthy to think about a few other things you could do ... Take up cycling, walking, photography ... Whatever. But I also think you need to be careful to only do / try things that you might / will enjoy. Do not overcompensate as that will only work for a while and will result in an explosion in the near future.

When's your follow up sa and follow up doc appt?

Vic when you get the answer to that question let me know! We are rubbish at doing stuff as a couple unless it involves chores or going out to eat!
Sorry you've been fighting with dh. Hopefully you will get back to a bit of normality soon.

Morning ladies,

Sorry ive been quiet now I know im not ovulating im trying not to obsess as theres no point if im not ovulating I cant get pregnant for now.

Lil I only normally get cramps on the first day aswell but this time it was a few days. Its slowly buggering off now I cant wait.

Vicky Im so sorry your having a hard time at the moment, AF probably came early due to stress.
As or couples things me and my dp only get one day off a week together which is sunday, usually it consists of snuggling on the sofa and sex when AF isnt here lol.
Were starting to cycle together but that mainly because im worried the gynae are going to tell me to loose weight before they will help me.
I know its hard but try to plan ahead things to look forward to, me and dp are planning to go to Wales in september just to get away. Weve also been planning things to do in the house literally anything non baby related

Dp is at work today so I am vegging on the sofa Ihave watched both vampire diaries and originals I do enjoy when hes not here sometimes and I can watch my stuff haha.

Hope everyone is good!

I don't think we were really fighting as such lil, we just had a lot of emotion we had to get rid of!

I'm glad we aren't the only couples who don't get up to much, I thought we were alone in that!

Note to self... Do not watch the supervet when already emotional! Me and Dh blubbing away like no ones business!

Hi everyone, sorry, went to visit a friend this weekend.
When it's just dh and myself our time is spent watching TV box sets/movies thank goodness for amazon prime! Walking/cycling our dog which usually ends up lounging in a pub garden and coming home. Very dull but keeps me happy. For now the dog is our baby, sad but it's why we got her until we were ready ttc who knew it would take this long! She is the best medicine when feeling low though and gives us a focus to go out.

We would so love a dog as our 'baby' step, but because we both work full time its impossible! When we had our baby and one of us gave up work/went part time we were going to get a dog too. Now we have to think about not having either! We've got our rat babies but its not quite the same huh?

im trying to watch a film and my rat babies are being bloody noisy behind me lol

Id love a dog but my dp wont let me grrr lol.

itll be okay Vicky im always here or you if you need to talk

Hello people would it be ok to join?? TTc for 17mths now and really feel like i could scream at this point! Not only is everyone around me preg or has just popped but a women that works for me who has three kids has just fund out she is preg (a thing which she said is unplanned and last thing they wanted and they are struggling to come to terms) plus my sis now feels the need to share little private jokes with her hubby in my present how they may try for another too. sorry for the rant AF arrived this am so feeling quite emotional and down. Great first impression ha!

vic Just read back, so sorry SA results weren't great. I am worried too because DH is to phone for his on Wednesday.

As for things to do as a couple, I don't think there is a right or wrong here! Just do the things that you both enjoy and maybe what brought you together in the first place? On Saturday we went to the gym together, then DH went off to his boxing club and picked me up to go for lunch after I'd had a wee lounge in the sauna for a bit. We like to cook together so we did that on Saturday night and made a nice Italian meal :-) Sunday we went to a country house hotel nearby and had a wander round the grounds and a few glasses of wine. Sometimes I worry too much of our free time involves wine! LOL! Today I'm working! :-(

cd16 here and still snow white OPKs. Definitely something weird going on this month, with the spotting at the start and now this. We've been quite chilled this month though and it's been nice to DTD for the sake of it... it hasn't been that easy in the last few months to try and turn the TTC mindset off, especially with the different tests and appointments looming.

Anyway, hope everyone did something nice this weekend! It's over too quickly isn't it?!

Welcome Blueeyes. You've come to the right place!

Vic so sorry you're having a tough time but tasty aired that your life sounds just like mine. The main focus for me is the garden and the dog and I'm only 32! We both work full time and someone's quite long hours but had wanted for years to get a dog - we just budgeted for a dog Walker to come in each day so she gets a break from the monotony of being home alone. It proved expensive and motivated us to finally move back near my mum recently so she can replace the dog wallet two days a week. Still expensive but she's worth it in every way.

Having done no exercise other than walking the doc for nearly 2 years I tested myself with a 5km run this weekend. Nearly killed me but actually better than I expected so going to try and manage at least one run a week now.

In the 2ww but feel totally beyond symptom spotting now. Have 7 dpo blood test tomorrow and dh had his first wank and drive on Wednesday so at least things are starting to happen now.

Hope the lack of activity on here is a positive for everyone this weekend. We are supposed to be all about the positivity :-)

Vic only thing we seem to do as a couple sometimes is argue!!! Seriously tho, we go shopping, take the dogs out, go out to eat, visit friends/family. Sometimes we go do tourist stuff and will have like a date day rather than night which is nice.

step my dogs are my babies although keep seeing how good they are with other people's kids :-(

blueb hopefully you will start to feel a bit better now you have come to terms with it and hopefully Vic won't be far behind you there

blueeyes yes welcome we all totally get the 'if one more person tells me they are pregnant I'm going to scream' feeling xx

can anyone advise or tell their experiences, myself and OH have been trying to conceive for 17 months now and still no joy, im 29 my partner is 32 we are both healthy, not over weight and have a relatively active lifestyle. All of both our siblings have all multiple amounts of children and have all concieved without any great waiting time but its just not happening for us, in the past i have been on yasmin up until deciding to come off when we decided to TTC, my periods are always extremely regular (apart from one time last year when they were 5 days late) i constantly use clear blue smiley face ovulation tests and every month without fail the smiley face appears right when i expect it to, my question is should the next step be GP or fertility clinic (we live in Ireland) and what in peoples experiences would be the type of tests doctors tend to carry out at this stage, also how long in the past has taken others to conceive, we are both feeling extremely low at this stage.

Welcome to the group blueeyes, we have 2x blues now! Maybe its time to see a GP just to check that everything's ok and put your mind at rest. First of all they'll give you a blood test for everything under the sun like thyroid, iron, sti's etc and then most importantly they'll test to see if you definitely are ovulating by measuring hormone levels on days 3 and 21 of your cycle (if you have 28 day cycles, the day 21 might be different if you havent). They will prob as your partner to produce a sample to check his counts.

We have been ttc for 18months, just started month 19. We have just got our diagnosis of male factor infertility which you might have already read. I'm 34 and dh is 36.
From here on in girls its positive thinking from me :-) well until the next bit of bad news! we have each other and our health, our rats, our house. We have more than some...

Good luck with the results on Wed may, and yours soon Lindsay x

Hi blueeyes! Yep, you should def go and see your gp. He will do day 21 tests to check to see you're ovulating - since you're getting the smiley on cb this will likely coma back positive - then get DH to do an SA where DH needs to do it in a pot. This can take anything from 3 weeks to 3months to get sorted. Then you'll get put on the list on for fertility appointment. Obvs if something comes back from your results you'll maybe get treatment in the interim.

Many of us have just finished that phase (though many only just so you're in good company!) and are on to the next stage which is, following our initial fertility appt where your ovaries are scanned, you get an hsg or a laparoscopy where you find out if your tubes are blocked. While this happening - at least in my area - I'm also in the queue for ivf as regardless if the outcome of any test, that's the treatment you get.

We've been ttc for 18months. I exaggerated a bit at my first appt and doc thinks we're 20months.

I hope this helps.

Oops vic cross post! Sounds like your head is up! Good for you. Glad we're all doing the same on weekends. I'm quite happy with it as it goes! :-) maybe you could revisit the dog possibility in a few months ... X

Btw blueeeyes I'm 30; DH 42. No health issues, few bad habits and both average weight.

Thank you all for advice and experience, gonna phone doc tomorrow, I suppose we've been putting it off cause of possible outcome but def needs to be done now, I feel the not knowing now is so much worse than I think a bad outcome would be, need to move forward not remain stuck in this rut.
Vicky so sorry to hear you haven't had the results you would like, fingers and toes crossed you soon get the outcome you deserve