TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :) new thread!!

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Hopefully we'll see more BFPs on this one!

Yeah why wait 3 months? On the info dh got it did say it often needs repeating but why so long? And slightly is better than totally anyway :-)

I thought it had to be 3 months as that's how long the sperm take to totally renew themselves?

crikey, gp's are useless!
Vic sorry they are being so fumbling and not treating you both as you should be.

Went to my private clinic yesterday which was absolutely lovely. Didn't feel like a hospital at all, more like a stately home with a very apt Stag head above the grand fire place lol :)
Scan went well with all looking as it should. Lots of eggs and a big one ready to drop in my right ovary.
Then it was the hycosy…… OMG never felt a pain like it, don't want to scare any of you; I'm a small girl which is probably why. Long story short, ended up passing out and having a fit , legs akimbo, all dignity lost, surrounded by about 7 nurses, oxygen mask, blood pressure monitor and to top it off was all on my own :(
So now I have to book it all again and hope they will give me general anaesthetic otherwise it's off to the hospital for a laparoscopy. Thankfully dh will come next time.

Omg stepmama, poor you. Must have been scary. I'm a bit of a fainter to be honest with you when it comes to hospitals and tests, on loved ones as well as myself i work in a hospital by the way I hope it goes better 2nd time around x

thanks vic :)

hello, hope it is ok to join in, i am very new to this. we have been ttc for 10 months with no success, i found out this week i am diabetic (just to add to the complexity of it all) my AF came yesterday so i guess its just a case of trying again, i feel like i am almost becoming obsessed (i hope it isnt just me) i have bought a clearblue advanced fertility monitor ready for this month and i have also considered a male semen home test from boots (has anyone tried these) just looking for support and if you have any advice ill be greatful as its too soon to see the GP and i am waiting to be referred to the diabectic preconcieve team. xxx P.s i am 25 my partner is 26

Got the print out, things are much worse than first thought. Having a little cry :-(

Vic - So sorry to hear your news, how's DH taken it? Really gutted for you both. Has DH made any lifestyle choices to help his sperm?

Since January my DH has lost over 3 stone, had cut down alcohol, started acupuncture and had been on Wellman pre-conception tablets for the past 12 months (plus Maca more recently). I honestly think had he had a SA 6-12 months ago his results would have been very different.

You'll have to see what the next test results are too. I know it's so hard when we've come this far and every month is so precious that the thought of waiting longer is excruciating.

Hi Chrissie, sorry af got you - none of us like her here!!

Vic big virtual hugs coming your way xoxo how bad is it? Don't forget the gp did say to repeat so it might not be as bad as you first think.

step sounds bloody awful!!! Hope you had a good bottle of wine last night chick x

Got my solid smiley today after dh wank and drive this morning so will be jumping him later :-)

Right, I'm back from Tesco with wine. Ready to tackle this.

pH, volume, concentration, total count, progressive motility all well into normal range. 2% normal forms when meant to be 4% plus. All not the end if the world yes?

Well in the comments box was this... Significant spermMAR indicates presence of antisperm antibodies which may impair fertility.

Looking into this further.... 100% bound sperm. Basically fecked

No idea what that means but at least when you know what the problem is you can fix it, or drink wine!! X

Blimey vicky what advice have they given you?

Af finally arrived today day 36 of a 28 day cycle abd my god the cramps are bad mainly on left side and sharp stupid body

chrissie welcome..can you not fib a bit on time frame to get seen quicker

stepmama my god sounds horrible im dreading having that done... I have a high pain threshold but hate seeing my own blood I tend to faint.

im starting to worry about gynae appointment I think they are going to tell me I need to loose weight before they will help, but no matter how hard I try to loose weight my body gets in the way. Ive got various issues including back, knees, shoulders and arms plus extreme fatigue. Just feeling like everything's againest me at the moment.

Hi all. No time to catch up fully and been away for a week so hope all is well but vic I'm so sorry. What exactly does that mean and what's next?

So sorry again.

I have my laparoscopy appt in for 5th June so no trying for us this month. I'll let you all know how it goes.

Hi, sorry not been more informative. I'd not heard of it either. Its quite rare. Basically his body is making antibodies against his sperm, treating them like foreign bodies. The antibody causes them to bind together in clumps so they can't fertilize an egg. Depending on the % of binding is how bad it is. He has 100% bound sperm. That means zero chance of conceiving naturally. We need to make an appointment with GP as a couple to find out what happens next. I'm not sure if with 100% normal ivf can be done. If all the sperm is clumped?! I don't know. I can't read up any more tonight. Hubby is googling away and feels like shite. Keeps appologising and saying do I still love him. Keep randomly crying. Dreading facing work tomorrow.

Sorry I'm being very self absorbed tonight. Can't see anything else around me at the moment. Gutted.

Oh god Vic don't apologise it's what we are here for! My advice would tend to be just both get shitfaced!!!! However your problems will just seem worse tomorrow and you'll be tired and feel even crappier. Try and get an early night and don't drink too much hun, process the info for a couple of days - looking after yourselves (healthy eating and exercise unfortunately) in the mean time. Boring I know but it will help your brain to process it all so you can refocus and work out a plan. Stay strong my lovely your dh needs you now as much as you need him xx

So sorry vic No need to apologise. Feel free to let it all out that's what we are here for. Now you know you can find out the options which has to be better than not knowing and being devastated each month? I know it is no consolation x

In defiance I refuse to take my frolic acid tonight, so there!

Vic I'm so sorry hun. Take some time to feel shit, but remember you need to support dh. They take this stuff badly! Definitely don't let them make you wait 3months for another sa. Try and get one for in a month. If there is a problem you need to get the ball rolling. They can't keep you dangling around like this.

Chrissie hi. We got a home sa test....it said dh was fine. Twice. He's not. I wouldnt waste your money. See if you can talk gp into testing anyway. In my area we had to wait 2 years for referral but after a year I got bliids for me and sa for dh agreed. As his sa was bad we got referred then. Its a long process. 3 months on we have only had an ultrasound for me. Hsg next month then 2more to see consultant. Its ridiculous!

vic thinking of you and your DH. Hang in there both you xx I really wish there was something else I could say xx

Lil, don't worry I'm clinging on to dh for dear life! We both need lots of cuddles right now. Just woken up feeling shit. Massive headache and didn't sleep well. I only drank one of those tiny bottles of wine that hold a glass. So I'm not hungover! Did you get referred before 2 years when your dh's results came back bad then? Sure my GP said whatever the results it would be 24months. Postcode health lottery strikes again!

I'm sure you must be able to get a referral earlier now, although they msy say you have to wait until after dh 2nd sa so they know for definite what's going on.

lil thanks for the advice, i was advised it would be 2 years as i am 25 and he is 26 so once i hit the 1 year marker i will be trying to get tests anyway. thinking of you vic, life can be so cruel sometimes. I have recently had a work collegue find out she is pregnant and wasn't even trying, is it natural to feel jealous? i am happy for her just sad for myself.

Of course its natural to be jealous. Since we started trying I've been surrounded left right and centre with pregnant ladies including 5 in work and a friend. Most of whom now have bouncing few month olds.

I've told my best friend, one work colleague and just now, my mum the devastating news. Don't know how I've kept back the tears all day in work, but it was better than moping at home. Joint doctors appointment booked for June 6th to see where we go from here.

Oh Vic my heart goes out to you and dh. Technology is amazing nowadays maybe they can do something? They have crazy treatments where they get sperm directly from inside and they can clean it. They even have in places a ninja microscope of 6,000x instead of 200x to see the sperm more closely and pick the 'perfect' one. Fx your appointment sheds some light and you both can be given a plan you're happy with.

Chrissie, feel jealous or angry whinge and get it out, keeping it in will only make you feel poo.

Decided not to make another hycosy appointment. Had a chat with dh and don't want to waste time trying artificial insemination; squirting it in hasn't worked the last 18mnths so why try with a turkey baster :) So knowledge of blocked tubes is irrelevant. Going to go straight for ivf. So now it's just count down for my consultation on 12 June then how quick it can all start….. I am so impatient.
Looks like selling some jewellery to fund it all is on the horizon……:(

Got my appointment through today for 19th June may need to change it though as im working and its 2 days before im off for a few days for my birthday. It came through quicker than I thought.

Been getting up early every other day to exercise and going to try to cycling on alternate days try loose some weight.

Af is really bad and painful this time never had it this bad before can't wait till its buggered off.

Hope everyones doing ok