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wannbe , coggy pussycat, anyone else from ttc jan thread whos not got there bfp

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trace2 · 27/08/2006 11:59

just though i would do this for us, as all new ones come and go (not meaning to hurt anyone) but its hard trying to keep up when were still left here

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trace2 · 03/09/2006 15:57

lol oh i do wish ds was going tomorrow hes so ready, but i would miss

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trace2 · 03/09/2006 15:57

when do you see him?

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coggy · 03/09/2006 15:58

Is he going in Jan Trace?

coggy · 03/09/2006 15:58

Seeing my cons. at the end of this month....only 3 weeks to go!!!!!!

peachygirl · 03/09/2006 15:58

when's Jack starting Trace? I thought you had picked a school but didn't get in, will it be Jan?,what ever happened with that?

trace2 · 03/09/2006 16:00

yes jan i stopped appeal found out out of 267 appeals for that school in 5 years not one child won, so i thought it best to get him ready for the other one

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wannaBe1974 · 03/09/2006 16:01

hiya all

Oh coggy i really have a positive feeling about you this month, am keeping everything crossed for you, just make sure you test before thursday morning though? as I'm on holiday then so will have to wait for two weeks otherwise to find out. otherwise I'll have to ~CAT you my mobile number so you can txt me and let me know, lol.

Trace sorry to hear your temp has gone down, although at least that means you won't be on too long on holiday. Maybe you can conceive on holiday then .

Am cd23 today, although not really counting, just waiting for af to arrive really, and kinda hoping it does before i go on holiday as well. Although this is my last month of counting. Me and dh had a long chat last night, and I've decided that when my af arrives I'm going to go back on the pill. When af arrives I will have been trying for 17 months, and given dh's results I know that there's little chance I will actually conceive, so it's time I was realistic, and although it would be great to just not bother with contraception and hope it happened, I know that I will still wonder every month, will still simptom spot, and will still be disappointed when af arrives. By going on the pill it's like drawing a line under it for me, saying that I know we can't get pg, and being on the pill will at least give me a regular cycle and I won't be left wondering whether I am or not. DH feels guilty and that's something else I feel bad about. If I take it all out of his hands, then he doesn't feel as if he's failed me, he feels he's failed and feels he couldn't even take the pills that might have made the difference, whereas I just feel that in my quest for another baby I have compromised my dh's health, and I never ever wanted to do that. As we would never go for assisted conception, i.e. IUI or IVF, I feel that there has to come a time when it's time to let go and face the fact that my ds is meant to be an only child. It's hard but I can't keep hoping any more because in my case, hope is futile.

I don't intend to leave this thread though, because I want to watch you all get your bfp's. and of course I am still hoping deep down that my af won't arrive this month and I won't have to follow through on my intentions.

peachygirl · 03/09/2006 16:03

thats a shame trace, is the school you have been given a good one?

coggy · 03/09/2006 16:04

I hope you don't have to give up either.
If your AF doesn't arrive before Thurs will you test?

I know your cycles have been quite (very) long sometimes so maybe you'll wait until after your hols.

coggy · 03/09/2006 16:05

How nice that lots of us are on together!!!!
That doesn't happen very often.

wannaBe1974 · 03/09/2006 16:11

na i won't test until i get back from hols if no af, given the length of cycle I have had in the past, although tbh I've only really had one very long cycle, the rest have been between 28/33 days.

trace2 · 03/09/2006 16:11

peachy second best after the one we chose, its just the boy who was buuling him at other nursery is going to that one too.

wannbe i hope she dont come than you carnt give up, surly going on pill will make it worse! i know what you about syptom spotting but you will still do this when you take the pill, so why take it?,

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wannaBe1974 · 03/09/2006 16:12

peachy how's bump?

trace2 · 03/09/2006 16:12

sorry wannbe for sounding harsh! but i think you should just carry on untill you get your bfp

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wannaBe1974 · 03/09/2006 16:13

cause i know that I won't get pg while on the pill, whereas if I'm not taking it there's always that glimmer of hope.

trace2 · 03/09/2006 16:15

yes yes thats what i mean (saying that i got pg with all my kids on the pill now i dont take it, i carnt bloody get pg

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Natty1806 · 03/09/2006 16:17

Sorry to hear you mught finannly be drawing that line wannabe, hope AF stays away for you.

Coggy - looks really promising. Fingers are well are truely crossed for you - when will you test?

Natty1806 · 03/09/2006 16:18

trace - ho wmuch should temp drop if AF is going to arrive and can it drop slowly over a few days or does it just suddenly drop?

coggy · 03/09/2006 16:19

wannaBe....would you feel ready to give up any hope though?

I guess that's the question.
I've been trying this month nearly as long as you I think haven't I?
I am NEVER going to give up!!!!!!

Well........saying that......(!).....I have decided that we would stop before having to pay for any treatment like IVF.....don't think I could handle the stress of having it and finding the money too.

I guess that's my cut off in a way...although I would still be ridiculously positive that it still might happen naturally!!!!!!

peachygirl · 03/09/2006 16:19

Hi wannabe everythings fine with me although as yet no bump! I had hoped to go back to school with one but I am taking great pleasure in the fact that it means my tummy muscles are in better shape than I thought.
I'm sory to hear taht you are 'giving up' but maybe it's what you need to draw a line under everything at least for a while.
are you off anywhere nice on your hols?
trace you maybe able to mention your concerns about the other boy to the school (the teacher will do a home visit or you could give them a ring) and jack may be placed in a different class

coggy · 03/09/2006 16:19

I guess I am just a sucker - although a cheerful one!!!!

coggy · 03/09/2006 16:20

Hurrah - Natty's here too.
This is good!!!

trace2 · 03/09/2006 16:21

natty it can do both! befor i was on clomid it droped on day of af, now it goes down a little day befor,

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peachygirl · 03/09/2006 16:23

natty mine was always quite a sudden drop

trace2 · 03/09/2006 16:25

peachy i will tell teacher but found out its a new one from this term, the schools not big enough for diffrent class rooms, just hoping the child as forgotten about jack now,

coggy i wont go for ivf, not because of money because i could cope with the stess of it, and i am to old

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