wannbe , coggy pussycat, anyone else from ttc jan thread whos not got there bfp

[trace2]

just though i would do this for us, as all new ones come and go (not meaning to hurt anyone) but its hard trying to keep up when were still left here

ah well I'm sure the right buyer will come up for it some day. there is a couple who are very interested but they haven't sold their house as yet, and the agent said they're having trouble selling it as it, now how did the agent put this diplomatically ... "well you know, they've tot a little one, and there are toys on the floor etc"... in other words it's a mess, lol.

omy god how cheeky

wannaBe....I can't believe you haven't sold your gorgeous house yet!
I assumed that was done and dusted AGES ago!!!!

PCM.....I teach part-time and also work from home as well as having several lazy days too!!
I am working this afternoon so I should be on here getting my notes and handouts ready!!!

Thought as DH was home this morning (he works shifts) that I'd have a nice lazy start to the day!!!

I have been off line for a few days and soooo Much has happened
Trace - Big congratulations - Fingers crossed for you honey , i know i hard but just try to relax and enjoy it.

SOSH - I am so pleased that everything is well and that you little one is well xx

Coggy - Sorry about AF arrival but other things look good!

PCM - Glad that you experience of that is all over , i cant believe it was the size of an orange!, Hope that you feel better

Wannabe - So cheeky about you house , seems like you have been trying to sell it for ages, hopefully soon

And hello to everyone else who i have missed out.
Its taken me nearly 1 hour on and off to catch up with this thread !

i was away for the weekend and on Saturday it was CD17, before M/c thats when i ov, so we BD then ( couldn't do it friday as a bit to drunk and sunday we was to tired , we bd yesterday ( cd 20 ) so if i did ov a couple of days later then maybe , but to be honest not hopeful this month as we haven't really tried!

any way thats my ramble over with ,

its good to be back home on the sofa xxxx

Hey Pinky......good to see you......shove up now and pass me a custard cream!!!!

nothing better then a Cup of Tea and a biscuit at 10pm!!!!

Here, here!!!!

budge up girls, just thought id pop on for a cup of hot choc to say goodnight - glad i did now, pass a biscuit
Really good to see you Pink, when i was looking for stats thread earlier, i noticed your name, and thought "hmm,that little minx hasnt been on for a while, whats she up to? "
But lovely to see you and have a bit of a catch up. I would like to say im feeling better but im not really. (get comfy cause im about to have a mini-moan)
I am, in no particular order: Sore, tired, achey, tearful, fed up of pain under shoulders, under ribs and on tummy, and a bit peed off in general. Why??? I dont know, i would love to be feeling back to normal, i never dreamt having a little op could make me feel so, actually , just not well. I just feel SO not myself. Im used to being busy and taking things in my stride (if not mentally, then at least physically) and i feel as if i have been completly knocked off my feet. My mother accompanied me to supermarket today and by time we'd nearly finished i was nearly in tears, cant move, cant stretch, feel like cant lift things without twinges.........
am so cross with myself.
And now here i am moaning to my lovely on-line girls when i should actually just be bloody well grateful there is nothing more serious wrong with me.
I am sorry.
I do apprectiate this will pass, i keep telling myself its only been a week. I am grateful for being able to have had the things done, and i know it is to help me achieve something me and dh want very much.
Someone tell me its alright to moan sometimes! I feel terribly ungrateful.
Mini-moan officially now over.
Pass a biscuit x x x

at length of self indulgent whingeing

anyone?

Sorry to hear your feeling so down PCM, it is fine to maon to us we all do it. x You probably feel out od soughts because you managed to do so much before the op, all that decorating, new wardbrobe, working hard at work and now nothing so you are bound to feel deflated.

Hug and a tissue from me. x

PCm - sorry wasnt around when join me on sofa ( had sloped of to bed)

So sorry that you are feely down but that is to be excepted , you have had such a ride of it latley!

Why not go and treat yourself to something very nice and indulgent !!

I had been down a few weeks ago, kept thinking about my m/c and how many weeks i would have been and all that, i went and had my nails done, and then spent £80 on a radley handbag which is very unlike me , but i strangley felt so much better about it all!!!

Sending you Big big Cyber Hugs xxxxxxxxxxx

Hi ladies, just popping in, and am sooooo pleased and relieved for you SOH.
Trace, hope you are doing ok too.

And lots of love to all you other lovely ladies -
HTH

xx

hi all sol i feel ok very tired and geeting lots of headaches at the moment.

pink i am so sorry i really do know how you feel and even though i am pg now i still hurt over m/c

pmc you know where i am, when you need me

wannbe how are you?

hiya all

Pussycat so sorry you're feeling so down, just remember that in a couple of weeks the uncomfortable feelings will have passed and you can get down to trying hard to make that little person you so desperately want. And when you're in labour you'll think "and I thought the pain of laperoscopy was bad, shows what I know", lol just teasing really .

But anyway you know where I am so feel free to email me any time you need to talk (((hugs)))

Hi Wannabe

Are you my cycle buddie? How you getting on this month?

as for me ... and please bear with me cause this might be long

Me and dh had a very long chat last night. Well in fact we started off having a row and then it led to a long chat, about ttc, about him needing to go for his next sperm test, and about our desire for another baby, and the fact that there isn't realistically going to be another baby. And also we talked about the fact that dh felt that I don't want to talk about the ttc issue any more, he's partly right, but not because I don't want to talk about it, but because I've resigned myself to the fact it's just not going to happen. Dh feels a failure because he's the one with a low sperm count, I explained that sperm counts can vary, that maybe when we move and he's not travelling so much and isn't so tired things might improve, but that for now I don't want to be having this discussion every month any more. I don't want to be simptom spotting, don't want to be wondering if there's a vague chance I could be pg, when I know deep down that there isn't. I need to be thankful for the things I do have, i.e. ds, instead of spending my life wishing for the things I don't/can't have. We discussed both being sterilised, but I'm not altogether comfortable with that idea, especially not for dh to have the snip - what if something happened to me and he found someone else and wanted to have more children, his circumstances might be different in years to come, so we've gone back to the decision that I will go back on the pill. That way I can't wonder any more, and I can start to think of other things than getting pregnant every month.

And so to confirm my decision, my af arrived this morning. So it really is over for me now. Who knows maybe I'll feel able to try again in time, although the age gap is getting bigger by the month, but for now I just don't know if I can do it any more. Am very sad that I've reached this point, it's one thing to say that you're giving up, it's totally another to actually go ahead and do it, but I really don't see any other way at the moment.

Oh but I'm not leaving this thread if that's ok? as I said the other day, it's futile saying you're going to leave as the thread has a calling power of it's own.

sorry for long post, and well done if you've read this far .

Sorry about AF but glad you and DH had a good chat be it that it started off as a row. Does this mean you start you pill today or have you got to see gp to get prescription?

Yes please stay around and when i am sat here symptom spotting i know your will remind me that AF symptoms are so similar to BFP's that there is not point stressing about it.

maybe in a few years you might decide to try again i read the other day on here i think that there was a 10 year gap between a ladies children and it worked really well so guess the age gap thing depends on your circumstances at the time.

x

well I have two packs of pills in the cupboard which I still have from the last prescription before I came off it to ttc iyswim, although don't know if they have a use by date? lol.

Mine have a best before date stamped on the end of the box, so maybe best to get a new prescription just in case.

Wannabe, not sure if this will help ...but there is an 11 year age gap between me and my sister and we get on like a house on fire and I always loved helping my mum look after her when she was a baby.

Good luck with everything.

Right.....................

PCM.....big hugs for you my dear.
Don't push yourself too much (mentally or emotionally).
Take this opportunity to rest and recoup. You don't get much time in this life to chill out.....get DH to run around after your every whim and enjoy it!!!
I would!!

wannaBe......probably not what you want to hear from me after making up your mind not to ttc but.....I have heard (rightly or wrongly someone will probably say!) that many women can be more fertile after coming of the pill.
My GP even suggested that I may want to go on it for a month or two when we were ttc before.
Something to think about if you're going to do it anyway??!!!!

SOL......you doing okay?

Hiya...Wannabe,(((great big cyber hugs to you)))
Im sorry i dont really have anything constructive to say. I do hope you and dh come to a point where you both feel comfortable with the situation soon. I know in life we all face lots of disappointments, but for something as fundamental as how many children you are going to raise...... My heart goes out to both of you, whatever you do, know that we are here for you no matter what. Are you still at college, pursuing your counselling career? And for what its worth, it may not have been your ideal situation, but a longer age gap? almost like having 2 stages of family? Your little ds, career for a bit, lady of leisure for a bit (in your big ol' house!) and then yummy mummy phase 2? nothing wrong with a bigger gap imo, but of course it will all depend on what scenario your mind will have conjured up before you even got a say in the matter.
As for me today, im feeling a little blue. Went to have stitches taken out and also got a 2nd med cert for next week. I still feel v. tired and "zonked" most of time, as am still on lots of painkillers from hosp. Someone mentioned pain of childbirth - exactly, can you see why i am so embarrassed!! I know what i have had done is only minor but i am feeling bruised and battered, sorry, thats just how it is....
Rl bf came round yesterday, and listened while i had my 5min moan and then told me off for being so hard on myself......."lets leave the big stick at the door tomorrow, the one you are using to beat yourself up with!"
So i have been told, so today am going to lie on sofa, watch midsummer murders (more ), and generally try not to worry about taking time to get better.
Still not had any bd yet though......hoping to start as we mean to go on next week
love to all ,
chat soon, x x x x x

1000 posts!

Caught up with the rest of the thread now...

Wannabe fwiw I think you are making the right decision. Going back on the pill will force you to at least have a break- permanent or otherwise- from the symptom spotting. It sounds like you and DH need it and I think many positive things could come out of readjusting your focus for a while. Take care and I'm glad you're staying.

PCM- you're daft as a brush sometimes. Silly girl- don't berate yourself for feeling poorly. Your body has been through a lot and I know from a lot of your posts that you are very driven and determined and probably never give in, but I think it's alright to step down a gear for a while. Get your feet up on the sofa, wrap up in a duvet, have my secret stash of jaffa cakes and give yourself some time. I'm watching you to make sure you don't start redecorating or organising or running around worrying about everybody else.

Pinkranger- welcome back, very good to see you back here you drunkard you!

SexOnLegs, ditto great to see you, hope the pg's progressing nicely.

Thank you everybody for thinking of me the past few days. Had another scan yesterday, baby is 13mm, heart beating strongly. And no more bleeding thankfully. I feel very blessed right now, to be healthy, pg and to have such great support online as we still haven't told anybody in rl.

Hope everybody else is well and has that Friday feeling. Crunchies all round methinks...