wannbe , coggy pussycat, anyone else from ttc jan thread whos not got there bfp

[trace2]

just though i would do this for us, as all new ones come and go (not meaning to hurt anyone) but its hard trying to keep up when were still left here

coggy I think it's hard, and I think that we always have that feeling that maybe it will happen this month/next month/one day. I think that for me, if we didn't have a diagnosis of there being a problem then I would still keep going, after all if there's no issue then it must happen some time right? But given my dh's result, he's been told he only produced 20% of the quantity of sperm he should, and those he produced had low motility, although some were normal it wasn't nearly as many as should be normal. I think given that diagnosis I am kinda silly to even think i might ever get pregnant, and like you I could never go through IVF etc.

Trace if I really thought I was going to get a bfp then I would keep trying, but I really don't think it's ever going to happen, and how long does one wait,a year? 2? 3? my ds will be 4 in November, so even if I managed to get pregnant this month there will be a nearly 5 year age gap. ... brb

I think I get a couple of free IUIs and then IVFs if I need them.

Very pleased if that is still the case as I thought as I had my ds i wouldn't be eligable for any on the NHS.

I am worried about the stress of them but want to try (if I have to - bit scared really!!!)
But I agree - I certainly wouldn't want to add to that stress by needing to finance it as well.

Okay bit of a personal question but if you ladies would not go for IVF etc would you adopt? I have no idea how far i am prepared to go for a child but i think at the moment i would consider ivf etc but that is way off yet as am only just on the first step of fertility clinic stuff, shame they can't make it all less stressful and less costly.

LOL!!!
I had to look up 'brb'....thought wannaBe had some excess gas she wanted to share on our nice sofa!!!!!

wannbe i know loads whos dh had very low sperm count and still got pg, im not telling you what to do, just a little worried you dont make the decision thats right for you.

I have to go for a bit. I might be back later
bye for now!!

See you later Peachy.
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Natty...my DH mentioned adoption twice about three months ago...I was really surprised as I thought he'd not consider it.

So I guess we would think about it in the future if nothing is happening and I'm not allowed any more drugs!!!!!

...... coggy you get worse lol

natty its only because am too old for ivf if i was younger i would go for it, it has enterd my mind, because to tell the truth i dont know if i vcan ever cope with not having another, but at least i have jack hes my world, but if i didnt have any children and couldnt, i would consider adoption, also even fostering

bye peachy, chat soon

Me and DP have not discussed it yet but think i would consider it but think in a way it is harder than the ttc lark.

anyway i gotta go now, might be back on later. x

bye natty

Like rats deserting a sinking ship!!!

I'm off too....really ought to get a bit of work done this afternoon!!!!!

ok bye but am going to ,to do the ironing

see you later.
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Just popped in to see if anyone is about?

looks like no one is around so i am off to watch Lost that i have taped.

Mind if I join you - this thread is a good read! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you coggy - we have met on another thread. I am intrigued by your discussions about IVF and adoption etc. I got pg with my DB on my 10th attempt at IVF, and yes it is stressful, but not half as stressful as the adoption process esp when they tell you at 34 that you are too old to adopt a baby. I don't know about age but I am now 37 and next year I will doing my 13th and final attempt of IVF in the vain hope of having a sibling for my DB. I know We should be trying naturally now but I actually can't bring myself to, after seven years of trying There's not a lot of sex drive left - any tips?!

Thank you Suss.....only seems a couple of weeks ago that people were crossing their fingers for me last month??!!!

It does all get very un-spontaneous (?!) after so long trying doesn't it??!
I do sympathise, as I think we all have experience of this!!!!
I hope this IVF experience works for you and that, if we need it, our adoption agency is slightly kinder age-wise to us!!!!!

hiya all

wow suss too old to adopt at 34? That's outragious, how can ss departments possibly hope to place children if they set those kinds of age limits - I mean most people decide to adopt once they find out they can't have a child naturally, so if they set such upper age limits then surely they are vastly limiting the numbers of people able to adopt. I think though it does depend on where you live which is what is so crazy, and the process is very burocratic. I know for instance that I would be unable to adopt because I have a disability, despite the fact that I have a child of my own who is not deemed to be at risk or anything like that, and I have never had any dealings with social services. But the disabled are not allowed to adopt - that's where the discrimination act has not yet caught up - surely people should be judged on their individual abilities as parents, not just under a broad banner. I know a couple who were told that they would be unable to adopt because they were visually impaired, but they were told they could foster, but only other disabled children, because if parents of non disabled children found out their child was being fostered by disabled parents this could cause trouble, uh.. surely if your child has been taken into care you forego the right to ahe decision on who is best to care for that child? Suss will keep everything crossed for your IVF cycle - I do agree with Coggy, after so long sex does lose its appeal.

Coggy am hoping there is still no sign of your af this morning? Think we're cycle buddies aren't we - I'm on cd24, and as yet have had no sign of the pre-af spotting which I've had on previous months, so I'm taking that as a good thing. Last night dh said we should sort out all ds' baby things to put on ebay, but I can't bear to part with them yet.

Morning all

Suss really hope this attempt is successfull for you.

too old to adopt at 34 and unable to adopt due to disability - what is this world coming too!!

Hope AF is staying away for you coggy.

Completely understand about the lack of sex drive i have been with my partner 9 years this october and have to admit it all seems such an effort some days/weeks when all's you want to do it go home from crappy work, eat and sleep. If only we could get pregnant through cuddles and wanting it so badly.

Oh well i am off to the gym for my re- assesment, and think i may invest £100 in new bed time underware later this week ready for when AF has come and gone.

hi everyone

Suss i really hope it works for youxx

wannbe and coggy fingers crossed for my two cycle buddies, i will be out some time today, as i said yesterday my temp dropped again today, and rally bad pains, just hope it comes early enough to take clomid to night.

natty £100 on under wear

Well i thought i might get 7 nights worth for that.

Hi everyone.

Just popped on to check whether AF stayed away coggy

Also, hope this isn't AF Trace.

Wannabe: read your post about your DH's sperm-count. Just wanted to pass on the wisdom of my DH's consultant: he's the world expert on infertility (specifically endocrinology): on the telly quite alot. (Dr Boloux: affectionately known as Doctor Bollocks).

He said that a low sperm count doesn't make you infertile (as the NHS are so fond of putting on their test-results: including ours), it just means it's likely to take you a long time to get pregnant.

The question is, I suppose: are you prepared to keep waiting? I for one totally understand the desire to throw the towel in.

Have you considered feeding him on on zinc- and selenium-rich foods (brazil nuts, liver, red meat) and then throwing yourself into something completely different and see what happens?

I know this kind of advice sometimes drove me mad, but a low sperm count is actually less of a barrier to conception than you'd think (especially if you lisen to some doctors).

Just wanted to say something, as I know how it feels being with a partner with a low sperm count and the mutual guilt it engenders.

Feel free to tell me to mind my own business.

hi boo, so glad you came on and give wannbe some hope,

how are you??

Hi Trace!

Much better thanks. Still sick every day, but much more cheerful. Trying to tear myself off MN and get on with my work, which is definitely an improvement on the summer when I couldn't even look at the screen without chucking (sorry: tmi).

How's things with you?

glad you are a bit better at one time we was all worried for you!

am ok, well i think i am, just keep trying,