Chloebee I have read the other thread and have not seen any reference to the apparent perceptions you refer to, so I can only assume that this is your own opinion, which you are entitled to of course, but if you feel so strongly about it then at least have the decency to put your name to it rather than feeling that you have to hide behind a name change.
With regard to why we started a different thread, in January a thread was started for support for those who wanted a positive in January, on that thread was myself, peachygirl, Trace2 and Pussycatmomma. Obviously there were several other people on the thread as well, and as time went on some got their bfp?s and moved on. And so as the months continued we did similar threads for every month, and every month some people joined, some got instant bfp?s and left, and some continued on to the next months. When you?ve been ttc and have been talking to the same people for 9 months, you form strong friendships with those people because you can identify with what they are going through. It is very demoralising when month after months you get a bfn or your af arrives and you have to say ?off to the next thread?, so the thread was created so that those of us who have been trying for much longer than the majority, can stay together, without feeling they have to move on and chat to a new group of people while their friends stay behind in the hope of their own bfp?s/af. That doesn?t mean we wouldn?t chat to other people, it simply means that we want to stay with our friends, the same as others on the positive September threads have formed friendships which we are not a part of. When you?ve been trying for as long as most on this thread, it becomes hard to read ?I?m going to test next week/I?ve got sore boobs must be pregnant/I?ve read the fertility book and I had sex on the right day?, from people who have only been trying for a month or two, and who, quite frankly, have absolutely no idea what it?s like to have been trying for 1, 2, 3 years without any hint of success.
There was no intention to exclude anyone, but a lot of people on this thread have felt that they were excluded from the other threads because there were so many newbies who have joined at the same time and who have identified with one another and therefore a lot of us who have been on there for a while have felt somewhat pushed out of that thread also.
I make no apology for the fact that we are friends and have been through a lot together. Every bfp is wonderful, but I will be absolutely extatic if trace2 or coggy, for instance, get their bfp, in fact want that more for them than I want it for myself, but if someone comes on the thread and tests a week later and hey hoe it?s a bfp, I simply do not feel as strongly about that because they?ve been lucky in falling first month.
Think I?ll shut up now.