TTC First Time - Anyone else?

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My husband and I are TTC! I have been off the pill for a month now and have started taking folic acid and calcium with vit D to ensure if anything does happen I'm as healthy as possible. Limiting caffeine and alcohol but not cutting it out completely as you never know how long it will take! All my friends have just fallen pregnant really easily, but I have a feeling this will not be the case for me. I can't remember when my last period was either which is annoying as will need to wait for the next one before I can chart etc. Is anyone else out there TTC now? We could all share our stories and encourage each other!

We're just about to start. Just finished pill pack, then we're off!

Hi everyone,
Glad I found this thread...I'm ttc #1 as well cycle 3 now.
AF due today/tomorrow (as apparently my body has decided to move me from a clockwork 27 day cycle to a 30 day one in the last 3 months...hurrah!)
Had a few signs AF is on it's way, so preparing myself for cycle 4.

Finding I'm getting really wound up with my friends who were all ttc #2, succeeding quickly (3 of them, 1st cycle each!) & then whinging their way through pregnancy. feel like such a bad friend, but I just want to slap them & scream at them for how lucky they are to have one, let alone a 2nd on the way so quickly.

I know there are people who've been ttc much longer than me, and I'm already getting annoyed with myself each month - so hats off to all those ladies who've been waiting longer.

Some women just have all the luck eh?

Having an issue. DH was never one to have regular sex, regularly going 3 weeks with none. I hated it but figured it would change when we started TTC as he is as enthusiastic about having a baby as I am, but lo and behold he's slipped back into rejecting me when I make a move, which not only stings like Hell but also there's not a chance we will be getting any BFP's without DDT!

Feeling rather put out

Hello! New to mums net and ttc #1 and very nervous. Dtd last weekend as that's when i was due to ov. I am not due on until a week today. Yesterday though I felt very irrational, on the verge of tears (although had been like that since Thursday) sore boobs and really bad crampy stomach. But today I feel fine again? What could that mean?

Kitten-try not to feel too put out, it is hard though! Think DH was under too much pressue this month and also v tired form work so he was refusing advances as well! It is hard to not take it personally huh plus then we have the nagging knowledge than no DTD means no bfp! Gah men huh!

Have been tres naughty today and POAS... BFN. And have a nasty tummy ache - I think I can feel AF arriving!

Hi kitten and rainbow, I'm in the same situation. Hubbie not great at regular dtd and I think the pressure isn't helping the situation so is rejecting advances, I am due I think to ovulate this weekend but have only managed it thur and hopefully tonight. Grr these men! It's hard though as I don't really know when will ovulate as this is first month ttc after being on pill for 17 yrs, plus not sure it would be helpful to say 'we have to do it I'm ovulating'! As you say men!

Katy and Rainbow - seems so backwards, the men not wanting it! At least we aren't alone though eh. Feeling a bit better today, but have spoken to boss as I think there's too much going on and I'm over emotional. So might be cutting a few hours to give myself space to breathe! Should increase chances being less stressed. DH and I are both off on Wednesday and thusday and I'm due to ovulate on Friday though not sure as likewise it's my first month off after 2 years. But as long as there's some DDT over our 'weekend' I think we've a good chance! Thanks for the kind words ladies, feel much better!

Men indeedy! Trying to persuade OH to have a cheeky one this weekend was not happening! Miserable get! I'm sure everything will fall into place soon kitten and you'll get your bfp soon!

So nice not being alone on this stuff. I according to my app ovulated yesterday and we dtd thur and yest so hoping that was good enough. Who knows. In theory period due in June -june9th so will have to wait and see.

It is so nice to know other people have the same issues. Hubby has high libido but not always for dtd, particularly as he is working really long hours at the mo. He likes variety and also doesn't do well with pressure so if I was to keep asking for it, it would probably have the opposite effect after a while.
Although he is just as excited at the prospect of getting a BFP as me I'm trying to keep the baby talk to a minimum and keep things fun. His idea to go with the flow and hope for the best.
I am looking at my calendar and working out our best days and I will put lots of effort in around then to get him in the mood but trying not to build it up too much with him. He says once we get a BFP he is gonna be 110% excited but until then he doesn't want to think about it too much.
I think it is important to remember that dtd should be fun even though for us girls are minds gets slightly clouded thinking about the elusive BFP.

That's true BabySalt. We do put on the pressure. Hope hubby succumbs to his libido for you soon.
TMI alert, but we were going to (and even began the process of) DTD last night as friend has gone home. Was totes not in the mood, but felt I had to do it anyway. Thankfully OH caught my 'don't touch me' vibe and left me alone.

Felt sick as a dog last night and AF was due yesterday, but still no sign. Not even got AF symptoms (except for the munchies, but I always get them in 1/2 term). Too scared to POAS in case its another BFN.

Are you usually regular? If it is odd that af has not arrived then I think you need to poas again!! Maybe it will detect more now that af is late? Maybe it was the type of stick you peed on before?
Fx for you!

2 days now, but just POAS and it was a BFN. But that is using internet cheapies. So we shall see, especially as I still feel rotten. I would go to the docs but I'm sure I'll feel better in 3 weeks

Nothing wrong with a nice snuggle Gem.

TMI alert, sorry! Gem we were exactly the same, I had been in a relationship when I was a bit younger that was all sex and not a lot of just getting along with eachother where as now with my DH it's always been an issue between us, I have a higher sex drive, he doesn't, I get upset, he gets annoyed. I thought it must be my fault somehow, but I've come to terms with it and actually don't mind at all now, however as you say I've explained to him all the biology and how timing is important and I'm due to ovulate tomorrow, so we DTD yesterday, but for the rest of the week I'm on nights and he is on 6am starts so we will struggle to find time. Hes really enthusiastic now I've explained it all though!

Been using Ovia app which looks pretty good!
FX for you lancashire :)!

Hi kitten and Gemerama wow snap to you both, I to was in a dysfunctional relation before hubbie and I met and couldn't understand not having more regular sex, it used to really upset me but I had got used it. We are managing every 4th day on av I'm not sure that this is going to work but since I have just come off the pill I can't say when I'm fertile so can't have the we need to dtd regularly around these times as not sure when they are. Would be great to fall this month, but I'm guessing it's quiet unlikely dtd a couple of times in what I think was the fertile window (fertile friend thought so) but we will have to wait and see. Af due 9th June so I guess have to wait till then

Katy, same with me, not entirely sure when I am fertile although all the signs are there right now which is CD16 or so, so that's about right. Been having a bit of cramping this evening, which feels different to normal ovulation pains where I can usually tell which ovary it's coming from! However, could just be a confused uterus from coming off the pill. My best friend had her 2nd DS 2 days ago and my other is getting her 20 wk scan tomorrow so I'm properly aching for it to be this month!

I bet you are. Well I'm on day19 according to app, and based on cm it thinks I'm passed fertile so I'm just waiting to see. I hate waiting but no way a test would show anything this far out and I'm not sure that we dtd enough if I have ovulated to have been successful though I guess it only takes once! :-)

I know, that's the thing, these people that do it once and end up PG straight away! Just crossing everything!