TTC First Time - Anyone else?

[HippyStar]

My husband and I are TTC! I have been off the pill for a month now and have started taking folic acid and calcium with vit D to ensure if anything does happen I'm as healthy as possible. Limiting caffeine and alcohol but not cutting it out completely as you never know how long it will take! All my friends have just fallen pregnant really easily, but I have a feeling this will not be the case for me. I can't remember when my last period was either which is annoying as will need to wait for the next one before I can chart etc. Is anyone else out there TTC now? We could all share our stories and encourage each other!

[Gemerama82]

Hi Katy, good that your body is getting back to normal.

I am now on cd31 and as yet, no AF....trying not to get too excited as I know with Dh's sperm test its unlikely...but as my cycle is usually around 28 days I can't help but hope. Over the last couple of days I'm running to the loo every 30 mins to check. I have ad one 30 day cycle this year so trying not to get too over excited. Did a test on cd29 which was bfn.

I think if AF doesn't show by tmrw I will really be getting excited!!! Fx

[Katybear123]

I have all crossed for u gem. The witch got me in the end cd5 here now and cbfm starts tomoz. Have started epo 2000mg as well c if this helps me ewcm. Af is longest has been since off pill which I am taking as a gd sign that the pill is coming out of system but not sure if this is anything other than my opinion!

[Gemerama82]

Cycle 6, CD28 and period should be due today or tomorrow. Fx and baby dust please everyone.

I know it's a long shot for us but I can't help hoping!

Katy has AF showed up yet or still waiting?

[Katybear123]

Hi mrsk

Welcome to the group. Sorry to hear about pcos and irregular cycles that sounds horrid.
The symptoms I describe I believe can b signs but is to have had all these been convinced I'm preg and sadly af has arrived or I have tested and got a bfn.
I hope they r symptoms 4 u.

[Mrsk0305]

Hi Everyone, am new to Mumsnet but enjoying reading through all discussion as, like some of you have mentioned, it makes me feel better knowing other people are in similar situations.
Myself (28) and hubby (31) have been TTC since May 2013. I have PCOS and very random periods but I started tracking them and there is a shorter pattern emerging, except last time we went back to square 1, of a 112 day cycle instead of the more normal (for me) 45-60day cycle. Annoying. Anyway we have an appointment with local NHS fertility clinic next month just to see what they are saying.
Meantime I'm hoping we are successful in conceiving...not asking for much am I?
Main reason for this post is, the last few days I have been feeling very tired (could be down to a very good but hectic weekend away in London with some girlfriends) I am experiencing some lightheaded/dizziness whilst sitting doing nothing or moving about, bit of a sore head but the dizziness bothering me more, and today have developed a wee bit of a sore lower back. Oh and I am VERY irritable. Looking through some articles these COULD be symptoms but just wondered if anyone else had felt the dizziness thing and could relate. If I am pg I think it's too early to test.
Thanks for reading :)
Laura x

[Katybear123]

Hi gem I'm 31 days and still counting, cycles are over the place since coming off pill at 51 days then 25 days and this one still counting at 31..... It's a pain!

[Gemerama82]

Thanks Katy.

So where are we all currently? I'm on Cycle 6, CD19

My cycles have been between 25- 31 days since I came off the pill at new year, but seem to be steadying out at around 28/29 days.

[Katybear123]

Well done gem keep it up. Every day u mange is a day on the road, u just gotta keep at it and I know u will.:-)

[Gemerama82]

Hi all, thanks for all the support and kindness. I have been feeling much better the last couple of days as I have been making sensible choices, eating well, been gym and I am trying 'mindfulness' which is basically catching negative thoughts and letting them go rather than dwelling on them (I'm really bad for that!) and enjoying the present and simple things rather than worrying about the past/future. That said, DH and I are also looking at booking a hol for our anniversary in a couple of months, so that's something lovely to look forward to!

[Katybear123]

Hi freckle and mrs g welcome along to the thread. Your more than welcome ma g I'm on a different thread with you to so I'm waving..

Gem how you doing? Gem and kitten I am so sorry you have to go through this depression sucks. I don't have anything as significant as you guys describe but I am as very erratic person always have been, up have ups which are great and downs where things are awful and I don't want to do anything.

I'm fortunate that I now have a routine of exercise and eating healthy and this has made the last 6 years much easier for me. I do know exactly which you are saying Gem on actually making yourself do it, I found that bit hard now I find to doing it hard :-).

[MaGratgarlik1983]

Yes, me too! TTC for the first time and would love to join in!

[FreckleBee]

Hi all, I would love to join if you'll have me?
I'm also TTC for first time, just finished ovulation/fertile window according to my ovia app so now on my 2 week wait to poas. it can't really be 2 weeks can it??
I'm 29, married for just over 2 years. I was so nervous to start trying but now we've started I'm desperate to get a bfp!
Wishing you all the best of luck!

[DurhamRed]

Kitten, I wear the belly band as I find it so comfortable. I can't do any of my trousers up so I find that the band makes it easier to wear clothes I already have. I've had to go out and buy some maternity leggings though... I seriously have a belly on me now and I definitely can't put it down to eating too much!!

[kittenmamma]

I'm 9 and I'm struggling with my high waist skinny got work trousers already. Not really sure what to do as maternity clothes would be silly and wouldn't fit this early but I don't want to buy size 16 work trousers for the few weeks before I fit into maternity. I've looked at these belly band things with the buttons, like just waist expanders but I don't like them and I've three buttons on my work trousers so I'd have to buy new trousers anyway. Any ideas?

[DurhamRed]

Kitten I am 10 weeks, I think the bump is more to do with bloating than baby at the mo...

[kittenmamma]

It is, and it makes normal things like getting out of bed and going to work an absolute nightmare. I think that because I have had treatment in the past I am good at catching myself just before I get too bad, so I've never been back to get professional help. Ocd lingers also, so I sometimes find myself stuck in the house and almost being late for work because I can't stop checking on things. But I cope.
Things with DH and I are better, as I said about 9 weeks ago, we stopped 'trying' ... Now I'm 9 weeks pregnant, it's true what they say about 'it will happen when you least expect it'
But yes, the last couple of months we've concentrated on us, we are in a better place and absolutely flabbergasted, but in a good way!
I have to tell my boss tomorrow, luckily I'm very close with her and she has known that we were trying and that it was a strong possibility. I have to tell her because of my job, but I hope that no-one else at work will click so soon, and just think I'm being lazy!
I imagine October seems like a world away right now but it sounds like he's doing all the right things!

[Gemerama82]

Thanks kitten. Sorry to hear you also suffer with depression. It's a real bitch isn't it? I feel so free, light and liberated when I'm not going through one of my 'phases', just a shame it doesn't last a bit longer.

How are things with your man? I remember you were having some issues. Hopefully all is well now and both very excited I imagine?

Yes, we hope his results may be a fluke or because he was poorly in the spring. He has also massively cut back on caffeine and no longer takes baths. He is eating more fruit and veg and taking vitamins too. He will be retested in October as they leave 3 months between the tests.

[kittenmamma]

Durham how far on are you now? That is so sweet that you've got a bump! I doubt I'll show for a whiIe as I'm fairly curvy anyway, and I seem to have just ballooned rather than gone into any nice bump shape.
Gem, I understand to an extent how you are feeling. I suffered with extreme depression 7 years ago which took me 2 years to overcome, with much medication and a nasty bout of OCD which is often coupled with depression. Since then I dip in and out of depression much more than the average person and as recently as last week told my closest friend that I felt like I was drowning in it.
I can only sympathise with your bad news concerning fertility, but with feeling down i imagine its very difficult.
Will the issue be reassessed at all soon? I remember there was question as to whether it was because of your DH being I'll not long before the test.
Lots of sympathy and good thoughts your way.

[Gemerama82]

sorry to vent and possibly tmi

[Gemerama82]

and I intend to do exactly as you say: no booze, limit caffeine, exercise, eat well and get out in the fresh air. I just have to make myself do it as I'm in a horrid rut right now.

[Gemerama82]

Thanks katy. I have never been to a GP about how I feel but all I could describe it as is that ever since I was 16 I have been through periods of severe depression on and off, some lasting for weeks, some lasting for years.

I used to self harm when I was younger. I don't do that anymore, but I think the drinking and eating rubbish is a form of self harm if you get me? I have contemplated ending it all more times than I could count unfortunately. The last bout of depression I suffered was for about 8 months last year. That was caused initially by period of illness and a bereavement I think. I got so low I thought I would have to go and get some help finally, but then I came out the other side. I've felt so well all of this year until we got this news.

I know I always feel better when I treat myself right, but I'm back in a self destructive crappy cycle at the moment which I badly need to break.

[Katybear123]

Hey Gemerama I am so sorry to hear ur pain. This isn't fair it really isn't.

If a can offer some advice u r doing 100% the right thing. Not sure what mental health issues u suffer with, but I find the only way I can deal with extreme stress and from time to time feeling very low is exercise, a healthy diet, limiting caffeine and limiting booze. It seems hard to being with but once u get a routine I promise it's easy.

I know it sounds boring but I now have as trick no booze rule on any days but fri and sat, I eat v healthy mon - thur but let myself treats at weekend and I exercise 5+ days a week. It's helped me to try and stay as calm as poss it doesn't always help but it does generally work.

Try to be kind 2 yourself it's ok to feel down after what u have discovered. Have u tried speaking to ur gp at all 2 c if there is any counselling they can offer?

[Gemerama82]

Hello, I am back after a break to try and preserve my sanity. It hasn't worked so I thought I may as well come back.

Sorry to hear you're suffering Durham, hopefully it will ease off soon. Massive congratulations kitten.

As for me: Cycle 6, CD 13 and completely lost the fricking plot.

Really not been dealing well with the bad news on DH's sperm analysis last month. Been trying to focus on being positive, but in truth the last month has been dominated by arguments, unhappiness, severe depression and drinking far too much. I have also managed to gain more weight and now gone from a fairly toned size 14 to a bloated 16 through drinking way too much and eating utter rubbish. Feeling incredibly sorry for myself that this thing that should be so natural and a fun time in our lives has become a source of devastation and strain on our relationship.

I have a history of mental health problems (which I have never sought help for). I have been feeling very well this year, but this latest blow has really kicked me back down.

Moving forwards, I am planning to start eating better, stop drinking, start exercising again and have ordered a book on 'mindfulness' which I hope will help. At the moment I am disgusted with myself and embarrassed by the state of how I look and the foggy, confused state my mind is in. I just need to stick to my plan of action...

[DurhamRed]

I wish I'd put on some weight, I've lost almost half a stone with morning sickness...though you wouldn't notice with the belly bump I have!

[kittenmamma]

Thank you :) just did a second test with the stuff I handed into the docs (split it in half to make sure I didntcross ccontaminate) and got another strong positive! I can't believe this is actually happening! The only difference I've noticed is I've put on like half a stone, thought I'd just over indulged in dominos that one time :P