Come one, come all: hop onboard the penis dragon bus and hold on tight for your BFP in April! PART 3!!

[MademoiselleG]

Here we go - for as soon as Part 2 is fully full. Enjoy the ride!

Oh dear...Sister in Law, who already has 2 DC and is 7 years younger than me, b*tch just announced that she is pregnant. On Skype.
She knows we've been trying for months. Their whole family + other SiL were all there on screen and we were just about to sit down for dinner, so I really had to act normal.

She is not even 4 weeks pg. Not even 4 weeks. WHAT THE HELL WAS THE RUSH TO MAKE AN ANNOUNCEMENT?

Am just so friggin' irritated. And blatantly envious. I know. Not very commendable.

They tried once.

Once.

And then she rang me 10 minutes kater saying: 'I know how hard it must be for you no you don't, you don't even have the faintest idea, you just need to look at DH to be pg, I am so sorry, I feel really bad!...". Do you?? Why announce at 4 weeks pg then?

I know I am being unfair. Just need to vent.

Oh no, I feel for you Mademoiselle-4 weeks really is too early and I would secretly feel that they were arrogant in thinking all was fine, so early on. These threads and my own experience tells me that until 12 weeks, well, don't count your chickens and all that. Especially as it is probably only 2 weeks since conception. A 4 week announcement to me, especially when they know you are TTC, smacks of tactlessness-on all counts. They could have waited.

Thank you Kitty, my feelings exactly. It's almost like: HA! In your face, we did it and no-one even knew we were going to.
And then 10 minutes later, that pity-phonecall: "Oh...I'm so sooooorry"...Aarfff shut it!!!

Still doesn't make me feel better though.

[And I do hope their bean sticks. I am not quite that evil!]

id hope it sticks too but would prob have told her to go shove her pity with my mood at mo. why does it seem that everyone is getting preggers apart from the ones who really wany to

Well I tested and it still says no guess im out this month then.

I'll wait for AF then jump over to the may bus.

There must be something wrong with my stomach the amount of pain ive had this month

Oh and sorry mademoiselle 4 weeks is wayy to early and she could have at least warned you first before putting you in that situation

I can feel a familiar pattern arising here..... Before my (early) mc I always had a 'high' reading on cb opks on cd 12,13 &14 and then it would go to peak. Since the mc its been all over the show, last cycle didnt ovulate at all. Today is cd12 and had a 'low' reading again today. Hope it's just a blip. But can't help but feel another anovulatory cycle is upon me. My question is.... I'm coming back to the UK for good next month going to book a dr appointment - Do i mention the mc or not. It'll be a year off birth control & i'm worried if I mention it they'll tell me to come back a year after the mc. Or because I have temp charts showing no ovulation will they take me more seriously??

Sorry you were smacked with the 'unexpected pregnancy' announcement Mademoiselle. 4 weeks is VERY early & I hope everything goes well for them but we all know that early miscarriage is very common. I know that WHEN i do get my sticky bfp, nothing will be said until 12 weeks!

If it was me, English, I would tell them as I was under the impression they would consider how long you have been trying and not 're-set' as it where.

I've been doing a bit of reading and most of the hospitals with maternity wings, have an Early Pregnancy Unit, which acts as a 'drop in'. If you have had an early mc, they will scan you, partly to check on the early mc, but if the early mc was a while ago, they will check that they are no blockages/cysts on the ovaries.People seem to report that they are a lot more sympathetic and knowledgable than some of the GPs/Nurses we read about. If I am unlucky to have another early mc, I'm going to give them a visit.

Oh, and more cheeryer news, flashing smiley for me . CD15. Best wake up DH

Yay kitty, exciting! I'm about to piac as I type.

Thank you all for your support. I always have to try and remember this helpful little phrase I read before (on this thread?): she's not having MY baby, and her having a baby does not play any part in us having one.

I just wish, like you suggested blueberry, that they'd handled it a little more sensitively and that maybe she had warned me that they were trying. Bloody pity call. Hate her. (Well, not really but you know what I mean).

Fx for all of us today

I'm unsure... There's a few women on the mc thread I'm on who we're told told to come back a year after the mc, because technically they can get pregnant.
Unfortunately there's no epu here in Amsterdam, I went to the doctor here and was told in the nicest possible way to go home and let nature take it's course & only to go back if I had a lot of pain/prolonged bleeding. I was 5+4.

That's the exact reason if I do get preggers that I won't be telling anyone until 20 weeks this time !! In fact if the family could just turn up at Christmas and find a baby under the tree, id play the, Father Christmas brought it tack! I

I've been overly sympathetic to others needs in the past, whereas they have been extremely hurtful and rude to me if I have been pg. my sisters reaction has always been particularly hard. It's such a special time. I don't think anyone's need is any greater, but if we could all try and be more sympathetic to each other it would be a much better place. But then I'm an idealist and that's probably not going to happen in the real world.

The shoe on the other foot I was told because I had dc, mcs didn't really matter. I can assure you it mattered to me.

English I second getting yourself to the gp straight away when you're home. I know they can be rubbish but they are a starting place.

Sounds like we're feeling a bit low on here today!
Sorry to hear your SILocal has been so tactless mademoiselle.

Blueberry how many dpo are you now? I tested too but I'm only 9 as I am stupid.
I do worry though that if implantation hasn't happened for me by now it would fail as af will be here Thursday.

English-I won't pretend I will give better advice than the wonderful ladies on the MC thread but just wanted to write my thoughts-the treatment they may give you not knowing about an mc, may be different and therefore might not directly help. Maybe. Could be wrong, just hopeful that they would do the right thing and not send you away.

They may, for example, want to do 3 and 21 day tests to check if you are ovulating and may be able to explain reasons more accurately if they know about your early mc.
So sorry that you weren't fully supported over there. Seems to be a postcode lottery over here too. I was told pretty much the same as you, but I know of someone in Surrey, who was admitted to the EPU at 5 weeks for scans on ectopic etc. and was told to keep coming back every day for HCG levels tests until she was down to zero.

7 dpo and bfn no surprise just wondering about by odd 5 dpo test result . I should have not chucked the sample and tested again I guess it doesn't matter . I'm pretty sure this will not happen again although still having the same symptoms and waking up at night to go to the loo etc . Going to doctors today for what I think is a chest infection since it's not getting any better ( its been 2 w) and now cant hear in my left ear either . I think the steroids have compromised my immunesystem a bit since i seem to get things easier and stay sick longer than before . This was the last day to get app online at least before next week tue after Easter . Nearly left it last night now happy I did book .
Sympathies to those feeling down and sorry to those af got . It feels like a bloody slow depressing countdown again I just want over with . Af due in the next 5-7 d prob will be just in time for Easter Sunday am meant to spend with inlaws...

I appreciate your in put Kitty. That's exactly what's going round in my head. Dilemma dilemma! I just don't want to fuck my chances up either way. I think I will mention it though. Like you said, they may give things a better look. Why can't TTC be straight forward! grrrrr!!

Aaah you early tester, you

Thank you all for your king words. MrsE, I an with you: kindness and sympathy all the way. I'll just continue to spread the luuuuuurve and be nice. I'm sure ppl learn from others' positive behaviour.

English: good luck with making that decision. Any friends or friends of friends in the medical sector who could advise you?

Surely it's penis dragon o'clock, isn't it??

Am on the hunt for a penis dragon Easter egg. Or at least just a chocolate one. Google images is not playing ball...

And English my experience of epu was very good. Even if they did sit me next to a happy couple with a scan piccy of their baby while I was mcing. 18 mts later after mc I finally got pg was in acute pain, they thought ectopic and handled it very well and quickly. Was it the 3 day bloods they did, where your hormone level is supposed to double , I had that , internal scan, then more scans each week, until everything looked good etc. My bloods didn't completely double but then the 2nd blood test was done too early. I did have a doom and gloom convo with the dr about that, but all in all the epu was a good experience.

Some peoples experience is sometimes coloured by their emotions at the time. Mc is horrendous so some views are that whatever the hosp does it isn't good enough.

We will have to throw you a coming home party! We can all sit at home waving waxing strips about!

Somebody taught me links the other day, I accidentally posted a caravan, so fx this works:

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Happy Easter!

Couldn't find an apt penis so have an egg instead

Morning all

english that's a tough decision. I think I'd mention it but it really does seem to vary where you live on how you are treated.

I plan to tell as few people as poss when I get my bfp until as late as poss. keeping DO quiet is another matter though! !

mrsE I have a blood test on Thursday morning so can give you a nudge to remind you?

Haha! Love that dragon!! Cradling it's egg! That'll be me! Dragon protecting my bean!
Welcome home party! Yay! Everyone must get a celebratory fanny wax! That's an order!

Thanks genni, I'm such a scatterbrain! I forgot the last one which won't do me any good in the long run!

Can I opt for Immac sorry Veet instead? Complete wus over here

Did someone mention googling pictures?!

Not quite a penis dragon, although it might turn into one (currently just a chocolate dragon egg ATM)

And then this dude just looks cool! ("Did somebody say PENIS DRAGON?")

And then the closest picture google would offer for a chocolate penis dragon. Ok, so maybe the 'penis' could well be his pointy knees, but from that angle one could be persuaded to think otherwise...