TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

[Parsley2506]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Ah broody, don't be too hard on yourself love. My BIL and his partner are also expecting and have the same due date I had

I've not actually seen SIL as they don't live close to DP and I, but I have spent time with BIL who, understandably, is very excited and keeps showing off the bloody scan photos. It's incredibly hard. Be kind to yourself

Just checking in.

Feel a little calmer. Not hugely optimistic but I'm trying very hard to make some positive external plans and am really hoping they will take my mind off of the TTC journey.

Lots of fingers crossed for the girls in their 2ww xxx

Fish slaps and hugs all round as well as everything crossed for some more bfps. It should've been my dating scan yesterday too jet For the first time I'm also thinking about if I might be upduffed before my due date but first of all need to get this old body working sort of normally again and hopefully the mind will be too....

I'm 8 days past the erpc and still bloody bleeding, wish it would just fuck the fuck off now as I've pretty much been bleeding for 3 weeks now and the mc itself probably happened 6 weeks ago. Daren't even poas yet, I'm sure it will still be positive and that will make me even more grumpy and sweary.

Met with a friend yesterday who'd mc'd twins like me, I never knew until now though that she was basically sent packing by her gp and not even offered any options apart from just 'let it happen'. Poor thing bled for weeks and weeks, she wishes now she'd been tougher and gone back to get another opinion but was in too much of a state to think clearly. So I actually felt incredibly grateful to have a gp that actually cares and was good enough to refer me to gynae for scan etc. Just a good reminder and a slap round the face with a haddock that there are plenty of people worse off than me.

Sebs

Aww holly I hope you have success this month. You must poas tomorrow!!

Sorry for those who had dating scans coming up. I hope we can all get into TTC with renewed zest and not think about these dates eg scan dates and due dates.

Apparently there was a c4 dispatches on mc. Was anyone brave enough to watch it?

In other news one year and 2 mc on, I packed up ds's newborn clothes to give away. Sigh. Really feel there is no point in storing up so much stuff when the possibility of it happening soon or ever is low. Whenever I get upduffed, that baby will come after a lot of effort and probably deserves a new wardrobe. The cot and changing table are going to go on ebay next!!

I don't think there will be any need to POAS tomorrow as my continued rummaging has revealed some pink tinged cm fuckity fuck fuck fuck

I think I'm in need of fish slaps, no real symptoms other than still having a metallic mouth, should I POAS tomorrow just to check? Now making myself crazy that if I do it'll be a BFN, no spotting/blood yet, still don't really believe it

triple I watched the dispatches on mc. Very sad. Mainly about how they treat the remains of miscarried babies, shocking. A lot of the ladies on there had still births, so although terribly sad it didn't upset me as much as I thought as I have no other children and only my early (10 wk) mc to relate to.

As for getting rid of all your baby stuff that's a sure fire way to tempt fate...fingers crossed for a bfp as soon as you sell your last bit :)

missH don't know what to say as I know I was a wreck before I had even had a mc so if I am ever lucky enough again god help you lot lol! Poas if it will put your mind at rest, today you are pregnant, and we are all rooting for you :) x

Maybe it's all fine, your reply have my eyes a weepy twinge!

I could not get through all this without you lot!

I started watching the dispatches thing, turned it off though, thought it was going to be about miscarriage and informative, just a bit too depressing

Triple that must be a really hard decision to make, but I agree that the law of sod surely means a bfp will follow. And you'll be delighted to buy new baby stuff when it does

cake is it strange that I take some comfort from the fact we are at the same stage post-mc/erpc? It somehow helps to know others are having the same experience, though sad too.

MissH I'm sure we all understand the sense of panic and anxiety - and we're all hoping so hard that this is a sticky bean for you. But chucking a sardine your way, if it helps.

Hugs to you Holly.

How's this for tempting a BFP

I don't recall if it was this or my other thread but someone recently very eloquently said that life becomes very small when ttc, constantly avoiding situations/experiences 'just in case' and even more so when you've been at it as long as some of us on this thread have. Add in the fear all us Posifrickentive ladies have of it all going tits up at a moments notice and it's amazing we manage to get anything done at all, ever.

So, MrP and I are going to book a really nice, really bloody expensive holiday with some of our IVF fund savings, all inclusive (so lots of ), for later this summer. Fuck all of this, I want my life back, even if it is just for a week!

MissH have a ruddy great tuna, although I know I'd be cacking myself daily with anxiety in your shoes so YANBU to be stressing out. As Carly says, we are all rooting for you and your bean.

Oh and holly get your fingers where we can see 'em! You're not out till the fat witch sings (hug)

MissH if it makes you feel any better I have done 3 tests in 3 days

parsley so very true and I'm with you there on holiday booking - thinking of buggering off somewhere lovely on what would've been my due date.

jet good to have you there too, definitely helps somehow xx

missh totally understandable to be stressing, we're definitely all rooting for you.

Evening ladies, hope you've had posifrickintive days!

MissH, with everyone else - rooting for beany Hobart to stick!! I know it must be so bloody hard, but try not to think about what could happen and enjoy that today, you are upduffed.
Parsley, that sounds like a bloody marvelous idea....must mention this cunning plan to Mr English! Where are you going to go?
Sebs, glad you're feeling a bit better, take each day as it comes. There'll be brighter days, I promise.

Sorry if anyone is feeling low, sending you hugs. And if anyone requires a fish slap... Have a heap of herring!

missH lobbing a lemon sole in your general direction but totally understand how you're feeling.
parsley ooh! holiday! Lovely idea

Not much to report here, AF in full swing, hoping she buggers off soon.

Morning all. Miss H really really hope it sticks and all works out.
Holiday idea is an excellent one, we are kinda doing the same, my first due date was 26th April and we'll be on hols til just before - constrained by Easter as I'm a teacher.
Also my last chance for a bfp before my due date. 4 dpo, had a horrible breakout of spots yesterday, would be worth it if I was pg! Unlikely though.

Lacey that's a lovely idea, may go for something similar in September. I'm almost 4 weeks post ERPC and have had the strangest and quite painful cramping for the past 24 hours. AF on the way already (which for once would be great) or just one of those random post mc things? I had signs of ov over the past week or so and we've been tying to time things just in case, never had a positive opk but haven't tried that hard with them either. Feel like there's a crazy amount of guess work where it comes to my body at the moment.

Oh and one more question for you knowledgeable ladies - ok to take hayfever pills when TTC? Perhaps I'm being overly cautious? Have been sneezing for two days and basically can't see

Morning all, happy Friday to everyone! Any POASers on here today? If so, good luck.

Also fx for everyone tempting fate with expensive holidays and getting rid of baby things, surely that warrants some more BFPs soon.

As for me, I've got my job interview on Wednesday and am actually starting to brick it a bit. Will have to have a good chat with DH tonight over whether we could actually make it work if I were to get the job as its full time (I'm currently only doing 3 days). And he'll have to give me a quick Excel refresher course as there'll be a test on it and I haven't used it in aaages.

Little sounds like it could be AF on her way. As for antihistamines, I think it's fine to take but if you're worried maybe check whether they're suitable for pregnant women. I imagine the only downside for ttc would be that it might dry up your cm a bit.

Sorry if I've forgotten anyone, it's hard to keep up when you haven't posted in a couple of days!

little I use beconase, apparently you'd need to be sniffing it 24/7 for the medication to build up on your blood so it's 'safe'

metal exciting! I hope you get it if you decide to go for it.

english ideally Mauritius. I just want white sand, blue seas and someone to bring me fruity cocktails!!

Any lucky POASers today?

missh fx for you. I know it's difficult to enjoy being pg at this stage. But hopefully you will soon be over the hump this time.
parsley excellent idea. Maybe you should bring it forward as a holiday is the best time to get upduffed.

little I am 2 wks post mc and got a positive on opk, so probably you might have had as well by your symptoms. I was excited to see the positive but dh wants to wait for his dna frag test results so we are going to skip this cycle. I hope this isn't his way of making an excuse as he hasn't really been fully convinced about TTC and I have mostly had to "force" him that we need to do have another dc.

lacey I had a horrible breakout of spots before I got my bfp so this may be a positive sign. My skin has miraculously cleared up 2 weeks since mc! Lol. Thinking of getting a chemical peel though, does that affect TTC?

gail sorry to hear that AF has arrived. At least you can have some wine over the weekend.
Any poasers today?

metal all the best for the job interviews. That is another way of tempting fate!! Ooh excel is v. annoying, good luck with the refresher.
I may also be putting my cv in for a job. Came across something I liked and given i have postponed this for do long on the notion of "what if I get pg", I think it is time to just go for it! I may need to buy a new suit though if i get an interview as I last bought one 6/7 years ago and the trousers are those super wide leg ones which look bizarre now!

Hi everyone, I poa FRER this morning and, no surprise, huge bfn. 11 dpo and AF due Monday so it should've shown if I was upduffed

Getting pretty pissed off with all now. Moving into my 9th round of Clomid. Sigh.

Sorry to hear that Otters. For what it's worth though, I got a BFN at 11dpo last time followed by a BFP at 13dpo...