TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh and I have some ewcm today.... cd36... maybe my body has skipped the bleed as I didnt ovulate and is now working its way up to ovulation again. God knows. Its all a bit of a guessing game.

Ooooh, go Metal! I'm hoping new job = BFP

You mean nobody else has to drop off weekly samples of frozen pee English? Just me then There is an explanation, it's not just for the laughs At my fertility clinic they get you to take weekly pee samples in to monitor whether you're ovulating on Clomid. The cheap skates don't scan you, just ask you to freeze said pee and drop it off each month so they can measure the hormones. Fun isn't it.

This has been my 8th round with Clomid in total. That's a lot of frozen pee.

9dpo for me and not a whiff of a symptom. I'm not going to bother peeing on any sticks until at least Friday Sunday I think. It's all just too bloody depressing.

broody my SIL is also pg and less than a fortnight behind where I was. Haven't seen her since early feb - I think she's avoiding me as much as I am her! Hoping once my EDD passes in June that I'll be diffed it'll get easier.

cake as others have said, your completely within reason feeling as you do and I also agree that men a) process things a bit differently and b) feel duty bound to try to jolly us along. I also had a good chat with MrP about it and he accepts I have crap days now and let's me get on with it. He still keeps his pretty well hidden tho.

otters I hope you're right. I am scared we'll either get rejected for an appt or go and she'll say she can't do anything for another bloody year.

triple it's a low dose - just 30mg a day.

metal good luck with the recruiter! Hope it tempts a bean into your womble

gail so sorry the witch got you. Hope you're ok.

Thanks all, yes I think dh just processes things differently to me, I should know by now having been together 19 years! I think it's partly that he doesn't see me during the day, being all cheerful and making a massive effort so that dd doesn't see me sad and we actually make it out of the house. So by the evening I am just glum, a bit silent too, so he probably thinks I'm like it all day. I'll have to set him straight later, in a non confrontational way, wish me luck.

Good luck metal, sounds exciting

Otters, that's a lot of pee for sure, hoping you won't be needing to do it for much longer once you're upduffed

I'm off to visit my friend this afternoon who also had an mmc with twins, it will be great to talk to someone about all this, just like I can here.

sebs if you're lurking, hope today is a better day x

Was anyone's first af post mc extra painful? Arghhhhhhh!

Carly mine was pretty bad! But I do tend to get quite painful cramps anyway. Get yourself some painkillers and a hot water bottle if you haven't already. Hope you feel better soon.

Triple I counted first day day of proper bleed as cd1. I prob passed main sac on day 2. But like my period, first day is just prep, the second and third are the main event.
Yuck! Sorry if tmi ladies

Carly my AF was really painful in the morning of cd2. I had to take pain killers and I'd say 80% of my AF blood loss was in those 6 hours. It started about 2 hours after getting up. While I was on a train between London and Birmingham so it was really awesome for me ;-)

Thanks viper. I got some red tinged mucous today so still not really out of the woods yet.

Yes my first AF after previous mc was extra painful too. I have never needed painkillers and I did that time.

cake I will echo the same as others. Second day after mc my dh was complaining that "I need to stop moaning and get over it!". So you are not alone.

Hope everyone else is ok. Haven't had the chance to catch up on everyone's news fully.

Thanks ladies I have shitty painful periods usually as well so don't know if this feels worse because I haven't had one since nov or because it's first since mc. I have had a lovely snugly afternoon in front of the tv with a water bottle :) now going to venture out and treat myself to a small bar of chocolate ;) x

Oh throw a fish at me please. I was bored at home so I poaic. Obviously it was totally negative. Why did I do that?

I'm going to have a beer to celebrate. Cheers.

Otters - I did that last Saturday and treat myself to some codeine for my back You're not out yet!

Oh and have a large trout

Evening ladies!

I've just watched the most amazing poem on the www.sayinggoodbye.org website. Be warned it's a tear jerker but really really lovely. Go to the videos page and it's the first one.

I'm thinking of going to one of their services actually. I'm not religious at all but feel it would be nice to remember all my duffers in a proper way!

Oh and YYYEEEEHHHAAARRRRRR to missh and penguin!

Hi all, I probs need a slap too, symptom spotting at 2dpo! Boobs feeling a bit sore. I know this is nothing to do with being pg or not as it's waaaay to early. But I'm hoping it might indicate a decent level of progesterone, which with my 9 day lp I guess I've been lacking....wishful thinking probably!

Otters, you never know, you could still get a bfp, here's hoping you do

Oh sal that's properly done me in, I am going to have to swim to bed. I am tempted by one of these service too, I read about them a few months back but I don't think the website was properly up and running then. It's such a lovely idea, but I don't know if I might just lose the plot what with all our general ttc woes heaped on top of it.

otters you did it because we're all obsessive nut jobs here, so I shall just wang a small smoked salmon parcel in your general direction.

Broody sorry for the unexpected baby bomb from close quarters. I hope seeing them today wasn't too upsetting. My sil is due a week before my old due date so I know it's really hard. Hugs.

Otters I think I officially handed in my right to fish slap anyone this Tuesday. You're not out yet so keep that chin up and those tits out.

Lacey show me the woman who has never symptom spotted early in her 2ww and I will show you a big fat liar! Hope the symptoms lead to a big fat BFP.

Right, who's got the bucket of fish - pass it over here please, I need a good slap!
I seem to have developed some sort of maternity radar that homes in on any comment, TV programme, website blah de blah that revolves around babies or pregnancy or conception and it's making me a little bit mental! Seriously in danger of becoming obsessed - tell me it's normal and it will wear off .... anyone?
Oh and will my ovulation or my period hurry the fuck up! Thankyou please!!
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You are not alone office! There seems to be this whole world of stuff I never even registered before but now it's everywhere!!

I'm also desperate now for af to appear. I reckon she's hanging on til tomorrow so I'll get my hopes up a POAS in the morning then she'll show up in the afternoon. Witch.

Office - you don't need fish slaps for that, we were watching SVU the other night and the detective thought she was pregnant, I loudly announced "for Fucks sake, not her as well, I bet the actress is already pregnant, that's why she's wearing a massive coat and her face does look a bit puffy" , five minutes later it turned out that she wasn't, I had to eat my words!

Watching the first series of Game of Thrones last night and I had to at one of them being pregnant and not knowing until her slave pointed out she'd not "bled in two moons"

It's everywhere!

cd29 officially known (in my crazy ttc brain) as spotting day. I am on frequent trips to the loo for knicker watch duty with a bit of rummaging thrown in for good measure. Nothing to report so far. I did have a teeny blob of brown on tuesday night but not feeling too hopeful. This is my last chance to be upduffed before my due day

Holly I really feel for you and hope the bfp is imminent. Although I've only just had my mmc, the thought of not being upduffed again before my due date is a real fear already.

Today right now, not that I'm counting should have been my dating scan . DH and I have a night away booked, which was supposed to be a celebration, but actually still feels like a nice thing to do, just to get away.

I am 9 days post-erpc today and the bleeding seems to have nearly stopped. I poas this morning and was annoyed to still see a bfp (how things change) as I really want my body to work out what the hell is going on and get me fertile again - someone knock some sense into me with a sturgeon, I am waaaaaaay too impatient!

jetpack I was just the same, desperate to see the bfn for once! It only came earlier this week, 3.5 weeks after my mc. Think I still had the hormone for so long because I was12 weeks when I mc. Now I want to know if this bleeding and cramps I have is AF so, like you, we can get back on the horse so to speak Its 4 weeks today since my mc and feels like a mini milestone if this is proper AF, after a bit of bleeding earlier this week.

Thanks for your support yesterday girls; it was very difficult seeing SIL at dd's party and I couldn't bring myself to hardly say two words to them. I know I was a bit mean and very selfish not congratulating them, especially as they're so lovely, but I'm not ready to be happy for them just yet and I'd rather not be false about it. It's stupid thinking like this but I felt almost betrayed that they could've got upduffed! Hate myself really but I have to be true to me because I am, if nothing else, very honest.