TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Welcome to the new ladies, sorry that you find yourselves here but you will find this thread is an immense source of insanity support.
I'm currently on day 4 of my first period after mc, all I can say is OWCH The first 2 days were fine, normal, light to medium bleeding etc, but yesterday and today I've got horrible cramps and lots of blood. It's quite runny compared to my usual bleeding, no idea if this means anything or not! There haven't been any clots or anything that worries me, I just can't wait for it to stop so I can implement my shagging master plan. Mwahahaha!
P.S. I'm really very sorry for the TMI in my post

Littlemiss my first period after mc started about 23(ish) days later. Difficult to be more precise, I counted from the day I passed the sac, I had been bleeding for a few days before that - and it was a mmc so the pregnancy technically ended weeks beforehand. Sorry that's all a bit vague! I'm 99% certain I didn't ovulate before the period though - someone on here (sebs, I think?) suggested the period was triggered once my hcg levels had dropped low enough for my body to realise it wasn't pregnant anymore.
When did you miscarry? And have you had a negative POAS test?

little I got my first af 6.5 weeks after all mc bleeding stopped or about 8 weeks after I started to mc. Hope this helps x

My first af was pretty much the same as office's. Came as cd23, after anovulatory cycle. Was very light though.

My af this cycle is being very weird - normally have 3-4 days of medium to light bleeding. Now on cd 6 and still bleeding. Although its mainly in the morning, by evening it peters off. And its quite clotty. You think this is because it was a long anovulatory cycle??

I've just looked back and my first AF came at exactly the time it would have come if the first heavy day of my mc had been my last AF, ie cd26. Funny how the body works.

english mine has been like that too. I passed those three palms worth of clots last Thursday and then nothing all day, fri or sat. Then walking to the start of the marathon on Sunday, I passed a few more clots then bled a bit too (timing eh?!) so assumed it was start of AF proper. Nothing Monday or yday but today, I'm bleeding again. Totally fucked up body. I find this so hard to deal with.

thanks for the warm welcome x

littlemiss my first period came 28 days after my mc, which surprised me in a way as i hadn't expected my body to go back to normal so easily (I figured that a mc is such a major event psychologically that physically I need time to adjust from it but it appeared not!). My period was weird though, very heavy bleeding for 2 days then nothing! I normally bleed for 4 days during af

Meryl - same for me, exactly 28 days later (normal cycle 29/30) and really short, just 2 days (normally at least 5!)

It's very weird Broody. It started fairly normal.. but its dragging out.The clots aren't huge, but they're there. Hope it buggers off by friday (cd8) so i can start Smep. Not that a bit of blood would put dh off!!

My first AF post MC was weirdly normal! Spot on cd14 I oved and on cd28 AF started, and ov 14 days after that. It was very heavy and quite clotty and lasted for 6 days, although the last 2 were mostly spotting.

My acupuncturist is pleased that my cycles have become more textbook as before they were on the short side at 26 days.

AF is due on Tuesday, and the exciting news is that she wants me to start charting (I've never bothered before). Although I still have to get through a whole cycle without ttc, it feels like I'm tentatively starting to get ready...

Thanks ladies im on CD33 (counting from when I first started bleeding) so I think I'm just being impatient I just want to get back to naked upside down peddling, POAS obsessions and folic acid over dosing!!

Any one POAS soon? I need to live through others whilst I sit and wait

Feeling so guilty lol. My poor hubby has been away with work, had a 5am flight, then meetings until 7 in London and now I am making him prepare for a quick bit of tith! Poor mans taking one for the team but I know he would rather be going to bed lol. Bloody smep! (Well as close to as possible with working away and a parent visit imminent). I haven't even got a high on my cbfm yet! I WILL get pregnant in under 6 years this time lol x

Meryl I'm 10dpo as well, shall we POAS together on Friday? When is your AF meant to show? Mine varies from a 26 day cycle to 31, so of course I'm banking on a 26! Lol. Which will be on Sunday. Though I ovulated cd12 so that's not to unrealistic a date to get a trustworthy test result.

fish slaps coming my way I POAS this morning as well, bfn! I felt like I had to though as I had such nausea yesterday but a headache as well and felt like I needed to clear the air a bit lol. Any how no headache today or nausea, and I'm not going to symptom spot in future as if

Seriously though I do see the error as pms and pregnancy hormones are the same thing so doesn't make sense to jump at every symptom as they are based on the same hormone. I'll keep telling myself that and maybe one day I'll listen

Fish slaps for all the non-Friday poas-ers! but also hoping for some bfps on this thread on Friday

So it's 3 weeks post-erpc, have stopped bleeding and general brown sludge phase thankfully (sorry for tmi) but we're both still a bit nervous of tith, anyone else find it difficult to get things going again or us it just us being rubbish?

Cake it was tough for us, we ended up having a nice romantic evening out together to get that lovin feeling back. That way when we needed to start DTD with intent again we'd already reconnected. Alcohol also helps lol!

Cakebaker I absolutely second what Viperama said ... alcohol is your friend! We had not got jiggy for months, in fact not since before I got my BFP before the mc, and even though we were both very keen to start ttc, it was building up in my mind like some insurmountable Everest. But hey ho, a few glasses of zinfandel and I jumped on dh after we went to bed. It was great to get that first one out of the way, and actually lovely to be doing "it" again! Just relax and enjoy it
Day 5 of my wtf period today. Still bleeding quite heavily. I need it to disappear by the weekend - the SMEP rules say I need to get my first tith session underway on Sunday. Trouble is we are driving back from Wales that day, and dh has got a big night out on Saturday so he'll be fit for nothing. I need to plan a way of reviving him ready for when we get home on Sun night! And I'll be knackered after a 250 mile drive ... it's going to be the most half-hearted attempt ever!!
LittleMissSunshine sending you a "hurry up af" card - and fx to all those POAS tomorrow!

Ok ladies, I know I should be fish slapped for this but I did another POAS last night and the faintest of faintest lines came up (one that you have to hold in in certain lights to even see) so i did another this morning and the lines there again, still faint but more obvious! Sorry viperama I couldn't wait (far too impatient!).

I'm just praying now its a sticky. Not telling DH just yet just in case.

for Meryl!

Cake, we just went for it. Would it help you to have an evening of no sex but lots of, urm, heavy petting?

Thanks boba I'm trying not to get too excited in case it doesn't stick

cake we were really nervous of dtd again, and actually didn't do the 'inny outy' between conceiving for my mc and a couple of weeks ago. Like boba suggest, we just did 'other stuff' until we felt ready to take the plunge so to speak x

Congratulations Meryl

Cake we got back on the horse very early as I was hoping I might ov in my WTF cycle (I didn't) and it was actually very therapeutic to get that closeness and intimacy back again.

I think once you get the first one out the way you'll find it absolutely fine again. It's a mental block at this time as you are still in the process of healing emotionally.

sebs quick question for you as u are the cbfm expert on this thread. I am still on low, cd 16. However today there was a very faint second line. Does this mean I will be getting a high in the next few days? I used to know these sticks inside and out but been years since I used it. I think I remember having to wait for the first line to fade? And the second line to get stronger? Grrrr this looks like it's going to be a long cycle!

Carly I've only been using the monitor for a few months. First month I only got highs and got pregnant. Cycle after mc I hit peak, this cycle I hit peak but with only one day of high. So I am certainly not an expert unfortunately.

Some women have more LH in their system naturally and so always show a faint second line. I fall into that category. I assume you normally only have one line showing until you near ov and then the second line shows? If so then it does sound as though you are heading in the right direction.

I keep my sticks and found it quite useful to google 'cbfm sticks' and compare them to other people who had laid all their sticks out and photographed them, to see if mine were doing a similar thing. Could be worth a try if you have kept yours.

Otherwise it does sound hopeful, you've just got to keep POAS and fingers crossed you get your High and obviously Peak!! Xx

So DH is off to drop of his sample at the hospital for SA testing so we can get referred to the fertility clinic. Poor guy was really uncomfortable about me being in the house will be did the deed so I was dispatched to drop DD off at nursery whilst he knocked one out

6 days to EDD and feeling quite calm about it. Due to ov on the same day so perhaps that's a sign that I am clutching at straws

Anyone taking Zita West vital em or fish oil? I am taking both as recommended by acupuncturist. They seem to be making my wee bright yellow (think highlighter pen)

Congratulations Meryl!

I use OPKs from Amazon twice a day and stick them to a chart I've made each month, will continue to do this to track ovulation to show the consultant when I get to the rmc clinic.

Thank you all, I think I'm just making it too much of a big deal in my own mind, and as you all say perhaps alcohol is my friend for this! I'm away this weekend with a friend so perhaps I'll just jump on dh when I get back!

Fish slaps meryl but excited for you poas again tomorrow!