TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

5dpo today and fucking hell this week is going slowly. No POAS for me this cycle but I hate wishing the days away to see if AF appears. Only 7 days to go arrrrgh.

Sebs I read that "arrrhhhh" with a pirate's accent! Don't know what that says about my state of mind!

Meryl well done for adding to the ranks of women who join us just in time to get a bfp! You're welcome!

Cakes I can understand the over thinking thing, but like others, I think start slow, just have a good snogging sesh to get back in the swing of things. We tend to go for the "fancy a shag?" foreplay option, about as subtle as a brick

As everyone is cheating this week, I wonder if there's anyone left to poas tomorrow???

Congrats Meryl - hope those lines get darker and its super sticky for you.

I turned my cbfm on this morning whilst peeing - by the time it'd told me to poas i'd finished peeing!! Doh!! CD7 and a long way from when I normally ov, so not too worried. Must remember to turn pee in my pot first tomorrow!!

Hi all, sorry not been about as been dealing with a lovely tummy bug but will read back tonight. Quick question I've been doing opks but the test line is the same shade everytime, it's not as dark as the control line but it's been days of no change, it should get lighter or darker shouldn't it? I'm cycle day 35 and I did do a hpt to rule out pregnancy just in case even though i have no symptoms. Anyone have this before? (My cycles can go on for up to 3 months so guess I could still be due to ovulate?) hate my fucking body!!!!!

Argh!
I need to find a way to deal with DH's 'performance anxiety' issues. I'm on CD 15, so obviously keen to get plentiful TITH in this week. Hub and I had agreed to go for every other day between CD10 and 20 ish and had been going fine until last night. He came to bed late and tired, tried to get him in the mood but it all fell a bit flat so to speak. I was quite annoyed as we both know it never works if he's tired but he chose to stay up watching bloody football highlights or something on TV and was exhausted by the time he came to bed. I snapped at him that he needed to get his priorities straight which was obviously totally the wrong thing to do but I couldn't stop myself. He then lays awake all night stressing so is doubly exhausted today.
So tonight i want to try again but he really doesn't. I just want to shout at him that if we don't try tonight that will probably be the whole bloody month wasted! But I'm not going to say that as having an argument will only make things worse and him more stressed.

So does anyone have any tips for keeping up with TITH when you're really not in the mood?

Tea sorry you've not been feeling well. Hope you're on the mend now. I'm not much help with opks that are non digital I'm afraid. I never really got to grips with them.

Congrats on your BFP Meryl (love the name by the way) When you feel brave enough I have set up a pg after mc thread in ante-natal clubs.

Congratulations meryl! That was one of the shortest stays I've seen on this thread!

I know what you mean sebs, can't believe it's only 5dpo...

Tea I quite often get lines on the opks that stay the same colour for days, then one day I'll suddenly get a really dark one usually followed by a + the next day. So I don't think they're necessarily meant to get progressively darker.

No tips on how to keep the TITH magic going I'm afraid Gail, I quite often find it a chore to do it eod. Thankfully DH has never had any performance issues, but there have been nights when I could tell he wasn't in the mood and I've just let him be (unless it's right around ov time!).

Oh Gail I think you are talking for 95% of a long term TTCs. We've all been there. Nothing quite so soul destroying than trying to be all sexual and alluring and getting met with a flaccid willy lol. Poor blokes though. They have so much expectation heaped upon them and then feel really guilty if it doesn't go to plan.

Some guys prefer not to be told when it's a pivitol day, they'd just rather be leapt on. Other guys like it to be on the calender do they know when it's shag day and they can leap in you. For us I know that if I wait till bed time my OH will be too tired to bd. So we get my DS to bed at 8pm, do the shaggy shaggy then have dinner. Works much better that way. Also I try not to wear him out too early in the cycle as otherwise the really important days it all becomes quite difficult. So from cd 8 we bd every other night, then when I'm close to OV it's every night, but only probably for about three nights. Then a break, then one more.

If your OH likes porn then some women have been known to send them into the study to get nice and excited to a video and then come into the bedroom when the gravy is about to be poured. I did suggest that to OH but he isn't really into porn so wasn't keen.

AF arrived today! See all I needed to do we confide in MNers!

Hoorah Meryl! Fingers very much X for a sticky bean!

Friday tomorrow any more POASing?? Whilst I sit patiently waiting for AF to go ... all that time waiting for her and now I want her to leave pretty much like my own Aunt Flo really!!

Gail I often check when the football is on so I can judge if it needs to be morning, afternoon or evening DTD!

Thanks guys! I like the early evening suggestion sebs, think that could definitely work for us!
I'd better prepare a full on seduction routine for hubster tonight!

can i join please.

bessie84, aged 29, ttc 2 years today, miscarriage at 9 weeks sept 13 (baby would be due this sunday 13th april)

i have pcos. children from a previous marriage - 3 children.
1st girl stillborn at 42 weeks (she would have been 10 this year),
boy emergency section at 36 weeks, hes 8,
girl planned section at 38 weeks, shes 4.

other half, low count/motility/morphology. no children.
our m/c bean was concieved on a clomid break last year. ive never felt as happier as i did then seeing that positive test. i fear i'll never experience that again. my oh was the happiest man in the entire world that day/them blissful few weeks

currently on last round of clomid cycle day 8.

on lap&dye list, then IF all ok, self funded iui or ivf (i get a feeling for some reason theres something wrong so looking forward to lap&dye)

BUT im lucky to have what i have, and feeling positive that I WILL give my lovely bloke a baby he so desperately wants. (and me too)

so thats me, sorry for the long crap.

xx

I got quite annoyed at DH last cycle for not really making much effort with tith. He did his job but left me feeling upset that our sex life had become so forced. I know it needs to be but it's horrible knowing that neither of you are particularly enjoying it.

Bessie, sorry you've found yourself amongst us. And so sorry you lost your first little girl. Stay positive, you will get there. I hope the lap & dye indicates something that can be sorted for you. Good luck!

Bessie,I'm sorry such a long and difficult road has brought you here and that you lost your first little girl and your little bean. Your positive attitude in your position is admirable and you'd be hard pressed to find a lovelier, funnier, more supportive lot of ladies than the ones on this thread. I hope your lap and dye provides some answers.

Gail I totally hear you with the TITH when not in the mood. There have def been a few times when we've been going through the motions. Not sure I have all that much useful advice but I know how you feel! If you want a laugh/ unrealistic expectations about sexy time when ttc you should check out www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2048177-TTC-advice-on-clomid-please?pg=2&order=
this thread.

Sample quote "we like to dtd every other day. It's our exercise"

Penguin, you forgot the lol!

I think for me, apart from the many obvious things like the complete lack of self-awareness , immaturity, inability to take advice, assertion that ovulation has nothing to do with periods and calling people over 30 old the worst thing was the fact that she used the word 'genuinity'. Well, I say 'word'.....

Oh penguin, thanks! After a shitty long day at work, that lightened up my commute home loads!!

Holy crap! I read that thread the other day! What a complete fucktard! I cannot get over her complete and utter stupidity and know it all manner! I'm also dangerously close to be considered 'old'.... She's a C**t! Sorry!!

at that thread penguin, my blood pressure is through the roof reading it! Silly girl.

The days are going soooo slowly, I swear time actually stopped for a few hours today. And pretty sure my colleagues think I've got a UTI I've been in and out of the loo on knicker watch so often.

Bessie, you sound amazing, I am so sorry for everything you've been through. I hope you get your sticky BFP really soon.

Good luck with the seduction tonight everyone, and for anyone p-ingoas tomorrow.

I'm not even going to look at that thread, I work with a moron and thats enough exposure for me thanks muchly!

So Tanny and Sunshine I am POAS tomorrow! it's only 12DPO so not sure i'll get a result though. I have a FRER which seems better than CB from what I've seen on these threads.

Meryl will you POAS with me to make it official? Any more for any more out there?

Hello ladies been away for a few days celebrating return of AF 5 weeks post ERPC which isn't so bad right? Welcome to newbies and good luck to all who will poas tomorrow, hoping for some great news. That thread is unbelievable by the way. But at my advanced age I'm probably senile too so what would I know?

I am ashamed to have part of the same nickname of that ignoramus. I came across her the other day on a thread about Peaches Geldof dying; she's an absolute joker and made some infuriating remarks. It's not like me to let ridiculous and insensitive comments wash over me but I just had to the other night because I was so shocked - Peaches has been quite inspirational for me in the last year or so as she's raised a great deal of interest in attachment parenting/natural parenting (what we do) and always came across as very intelligent and well read about the science behind it all. Such a shame for her boys and her family anyway, soz, went off thread a bit there!

sebs argh to the time passing slower than a snail feeling, we need a ttc time machine.

gail totally recommend the early evening timing for tith, we would never manage it at bed time, too knackered! We went for the every other day route when I got preggers last time, we both found that easier to cope with than daily.

bessie welcome and may your stay here be short.

viper keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow.

I'd better not read that thread, I will just get the rage and end up posting something and being banned from mn!

Viper I'll be awake about 6.30 so any time after that and I'll be on tenterhooks!

Fuck, how tempted was I to add a few choice words to that thread. What a complete fucktard! If 30 is old, I'd better start preparing my family for my descent into senility...

Morning ladies.

Is anyone else up yet? Any POAS results?

viper here's my official POAS photo, can you see the line? It looks darker today than yesterday which is a relief. Still not telling anyone yet!

Went to a wedding last night just me and my ds. He was a complete nightmare, running off into the kitchens, out the door, into the band tangling himself in the wires! I spent the whole time chasing after him and feel like I've done a work out this morning as I ache all over!