TTC After MC: The home of hopeful nipples, ovulation eyes and the most determined Mummawannabees around. Chin up, tits out!

[Parsley2506]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

holly sorry about the bfn but if AF is not here yet, you should not count yourself out as yet. Hopefully you are enjoying Mother's Day today and not thinking about this.

cake it is hard not to test. I think 2-3 on the digi depends on various things: concentration of hcg, so if it was not FMU then the levels would not be high enough, also You need min of 200 hcg to register 2-3 weeks. You may not have reached that level just yet. So I would quit worrying. Even then the digis can be off as I got a 1-2 wks on digi, implying i had less than 200 beta hcg, but when I had my blood beta hcg taken 2 hours later, my level was 344!!!

Thanks got reassurances guys. I feel like a right twat for getting worked up about it now! DH agrees!! Must chill out

Actually, happy Mother's Day to all of us, whether you have living children or not. After going through the MMC I don't think motherhood begins at birth - I made plans for my bean the second I knew about her. I might not have the baby to show for it come June, but as far as I'm concerned motherhood starts the day you know you're pregnant. So, I hope all of us ladies without our take home babies have a lovely day too. Xxx

parsley that's got me in floods...I feel the exact same way. Hope you too have had a lovely day xx

carly, what a truly wonderful mum you have. Her message - although tear jerking - shows what complete and utter understanding she has of the devastation of mc and how it's affected you. Incredible role model there. Hope you and the rest of the ladies have had a good day. Or at least got through it xx

parsley you're right re mummyhood starting the second you discover you're pg. You change, somehow, instantly. Amazing really.

broody yes my mum is totally amazing and equally as heart broken by the loss as I am. She was the one who was with me (drove over 2 hours to get here) from the minute I started bleeding, spent the night in a+e and emergency gynae with me and I can honestly say I don't know how I would still be standing if it wasn't for my truly amazing, wonderful, special mum x

Beautiful words parsley

One of friends had a very difficult journey TTC - multiple MC, eptopic resulting in her loosing a tube, failed IVF. Then she had a 5 month career break to relax and have more IVF. It worked and she had her much awaited DC at the end of last year. Today she posted a photo of her, her dm and DC on Facebook. It said "if your dream is to become a mother and it hasn't happened yet, never give up because dreams to come true"

And the most special thing she does is refer to my baby as Joshua :) we didn't get as far as finding out if we were having a boy or girl but all the way through to us he was a boy and would have been a Joshua :) my mum is the only person Irl who makes my baby still feel as though he really happened, where as apart from here with you ladies everyone else never mentions it x

Omg I need to avoid here this evening lol holly I am now in flooods over your friends fb :) I hope she had the amazing day she deserves :) x

Hi all haven't been on here too much still getting my head around this limbo land I'm in!
Those messages were lovely made me very emotional!!

I've always wished my period not to come when I was TTC it feels very strange now wiling AF to come so I can start the motion of trying again!

holly, I'm so moved by your friend's story. I feel so deeply for anyone who has gone through so much, I'm so glad she got her baby.

Mostly just been distracting myself all day-and helping my elderly neighbour look for her teeth! The poor lady can't find them anywhere and neither could I. A girl needs her teeth!

seasides bless! That's a good deed for sure! Did you check her glasses case/handbag? I used to work in a care home when I was younger and many missing items would turn up in those locations!

It's my first day back at work today. I've had 6 weeks off with the MC and stress and don't feel in any way ready. I have a stinking cold, an arthritis flare up in my hip, and ovulating today, with pain.

I would love to have more time off but I need to get back. I'm down to half pay and am worried that I won't ever get back if I don't now.

It's been the shittest of times for well over a year, and for all the pain and stress, I'm in no better place than I was.

Sorry for the sob story. I'm feeling very sorry for myself.

And it's all about me.

Oh, good luck today tanny. I know it probably doesn't help at all, but I've been going to counselling for worry and stress, and some of the useful things I've learnt is that though we might not think we do this (I certainly didn't), subconsciously we think that worrying will benefit us in some way, like playing a difficult conversation we have to have over and over in our minds makes us feel like we are preparing in some way for it - but the conversation will go differently to how you expect anyway, and all that worrying was for nothing. As you say - you've been stressed for a year, and (I'm so sorry to hear) that it hasn't helped - nothing has changed. Also I've been trying taking micro-mindfullness breaks, which seems to help, and writing a um...gratitude journal. I hate calling it that! I just write 3 things in a draft email each day that are good when i remember to which isn't very often and save it, so I have a short,because I keep forgetting list to look back over. Anyway, if you want I can email you all my worksheets from my counselling sessions? I can't remember if you said you'd been going yourself, but the waiting lists are so long, and you can really just work through them yourself.

Morning all, I hope everyone had a nice weekend! I have been lurking at times but didn't find the time to post, so sorry if I can't reply to what everyone's said over the last few days.

holly I'm sorry you got a BFN, has AF got you yet? If not there's still a glimmer of hope.

I hope your first day at work goes well tanny, not the best conditions though if you're feeling ill.

Cakes I too would advise to step away from the pregnancy tests, unfortunately they can't tell you whether you will have a sticky bean or not, but so far everything is looking promising right? I can only imagine how hard it is not to panic after what we've all been through, but try and find something to distract yourself with. Have you got any early scans booked at all, either private or NHS?

I had a lovely weekend, night out with DH on Friday, then went to a birthday party with DD on Saturday and had a nice day out on a farm yesterday. Now I'm starting to get very nervous about my job interview on Wednesday, but thankfully I've got a friend who works in the same field so she gave me some tips on what to say last night.

On the ttc front, I haven't got a clue what's going on this cycle. I'm CD15 today, a week ago I got two nearly +opks which would have been ridiculously early for ov, but since then they've all been really faint again. No sign of any ewcm yet either so I'm inclined to think I haven't ov'd yet and it will be back to my pre-mc 30+ day cycles.

I'm actually not that bothered by it all though, because if I get this new job we might take a break from ttc for a month or two so I can get settled into the new role before getting upduffed (because it will surely happen straight away then.... [tempting fate])

Morning Ladies,

Hope you had all had nice weekends. I throughly enjoyed the Backstreet Boys last night.... in fact i'm now sat watching all their videos on youtbe!!

Carly, you have an amazing mum there. Hope you're feeling better today.
Parsley - lovely words
Holly - what a lovely story. Glad your friend finally got her miracle. Its nice to actually see someone on FB acknowledge that for some people having a baby is not as easy as expected.
Tanny- i hope today goes well. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Enjoy a nice glass of wine as a reward!!

A couple of my pg friends got really cute mothers day card from their 'bump'. Made me a bit sad that it wasn't me getting cute bump cards... but hopefully next year i'll have a baby, not a bump!

Hey Guys,

Just checking in so you don't forget me :) but nothing to report here. ON CD5 ish and i thought AF had disappeared but then another little burst today. Wish she would bugger off completely!
Had a lovely day yesterday, went to Kew gardens and spent the day in the sunshine with DS running around picking up twigs and flowers and generally enjoying the fresh air.
Have a good week everyone!

Hope today goes well Tanny but really don't put too much pressure b yourself - it's bound to be hard. No idea what's going on with me - cramps clearly weren't AF as no sign although sore boobs are back, maybe she's on the way. Utterly confused by body, after ignoring this stuff for 32 years I'm suddenly obsessed.

seasides that's a great idea for your journal. I can imagine that really helping to get positive. My preggo yoga teacher told us that "worries are wishes for something to go wrong" and I think that's a great motto, even though I can worry for the country!

Metal, no scans booked yet but off to the GP on Wednesday to get the ball rolling. Feeling far more rational about things now and chanelling 'what will be will be' vibes!

Seasides, that's so interesting. I always rehearse conversations in my head, thinking it will help me prepare and feel calmer, but you're right, they never go the way they did in my head, so why to I put myself through that?! I read a great quote the other day (which I should really pay more attention to, clearly!) "worrying won't stop the bad stuff from happening, it just stops you from enjoying the good"

Tanny, I really hope today has gone well for you. Some very wise words on here from other ladies, but be kind to yourself, it's tough going back but hopefully you've done the hard first day now and you'll get back into the swing of it.

Interesting about worrying - I've become a terrible worrier since i had dd and sometimes I wonder if I've got a problem or if my anxiety levels are fairly normal. I think on the slightly higher end of normal maybe?! I do wish I could just enjoy what I have more sometimes, I like the idea of the gratitude journal - might be a naff name but the sentiment sounds great to me.

Fish slaps and hugs to anyone who needs either.

Just reminded me to write it!

... implantation littlelady?

That offer goes for everyone btw, if you want me to email you the worry/anxiety worksheets, just DM me I know it's the hardest thing to deal with at this time. I've always been a worrier, but the last year it's been off the charts. I am feeling much better no - got my final session tomorrow. Need to think of what I'll say...

Hello everyone.

I hope good weekends were had by all? DP and I put all this ttc crap to one side and spent the day getting drunk how mature of us on a most excellent pub crawl. It was brilliant just being daft and laughing and acting like teenagers! I am suffering a horrendous hangover today though!

And we booked our wedding! Take that TTC. Seasides it's not in the place you kindly suggested as we couldn't get the dates to work out. But it's in the CH So girls, put the 26th July in your diaries - you're all invited to Edinburgh

Congrats Otters and hurrah for the pub crawl too - although I've seen an article on the Telegraph website today suggesting that abstaining from alcohol while TTC might not be all is cracked up to be. Some (wonderful) doctor thinks that relaxing, having a few drinks and worrying less may help women conceive. I've certainly been going with that theory just lately! And re worrying - I spent my very short time being pregnant worrying about everything and everything and have vowed that next time I will relax, enjoy it, and quit obsessing about listeria. Seasides - I don't dare hope! Although all ov signs have passed so I guess I'm in the 2ww....

cakebaker yes my worrying only really started after I had dd. Now I worry about everything - why she's still not sleeping through, why she slept through on those two glorious nights, why she's gone off loads of food, have I done serious damage giving her tixylix and calpol just a short while ago... I'm a wreck!

I got pg with dd after being out on the lash. We were in Germany for the boxing and I drank waaaay too many champagne cocktails all three days just to underline the whole PR lifestyle, lol I'd said to myself and a close friend that if I didn't get upduffed that weekend, I was getting another horse. Got something far more expensive and high maintenance in my dd!! So yes, my rambling thoughts are get pissed up to get knocked up, mwhahaha!!