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Newbies TTC #1 gather round :)

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patienceisvirtuous · 16/03/2014 12:01

Anyone want to join me?

I'm 36 yo, ttc #1 and very excited about it. It's something I have wanted to do for a long time but it took me a while to find mr right!

l know I am no spring chick so I have some anxieties around that but I am trying to do everything right (eating well, exercising, cutting out alcohol/caffeine etc) and I want to start off optimistic :) am a seasoned pessimist/worrier!

Have been tracking my cycle for a good while. My periods are pretty regular and I thought I could feel my ovary twinging (strongly) when it wad supposed to. This has synched with positive opks so I guess I will soon be starting my first 2ww.

OP posts:
April1984 · 16/06/2014 09:38

Congrats! I don't know what's going on with me. I did two frer tests, one last week and one the day before af due. Both v clearly negative. Had bad af pains but now af is officially a day late. Not like me to be late but I'm on hols and guess that can sometimes mess your af timings up. I can really feel it's on the way tho as af pains v strong and boobs aching. Sure it'll be along soon!

oliveobsessed · 17/06/2014 13:07

Hi
Can I join the TTC #1 please. Implant came out two and a bit weeks ago had a massive hormone rollercoaster since then with a mini teary outbreak a few days after and apparently rather grumpy for a few days. Now have a massively bloated belly and falling out of all of my bra's so everything has swollen.
I refuse to POAS until the last monday of the month so still have another two weeks to wait. Thought a fixed date of the month would stop me from going POAS crazy.

efilbean · 17/06/2014 13:43

Hello. May I join in? We've been TTC for about a week now. I had to wait a while for my implant to be removed and was already in mothercare, price checking xD

oliveobsessed · 17/06/2014 14:00

haha efilbean am exactly the same DP already has a DS who lives with us the majority of the time and I think is beginning to despair that I have (in my head) sorted the nursery contents already. Whilst in town only just managed to avoid looking at prams 'just in case'

Mrspinnegar2014 · 17/06/2014 14:15

Hello everyone!

Another newbie here, I'm 25 and my soon to be husband is 31 and we have decided to start TTC #1 I'll be taking my last pill tomorrow and I'm sooooo excited!!! The only problem I have is that I'm terrified that I am infertile, I have no reason to think this as everything has always been normal etc but I can't seem to stop myself worrying!

Xxx

impatientlywaiting14 · 17/06/2014 20:18

Hi Ladies
I have taken a breather from Mumsnet. It has been a bit of roller coaster the last 6 weeks. I got a positive digital hpt test on the 7th of may. I didn't share on this thread as there was a couple of sad losses. sadly I sufferd a miscarriage/chemical pregnancy on the 19th of may which was confirmed by scan on the 21st of may. Was in a bad place but feeling more positive now and awaiting AF to arrive although think i will wait a little while before trying again and focus on a new job. Will just be good for AF to come back so i can start getting back to normal xxxx

Clare1710 · 17/06/2014 20:51

Hi everyone, can I join as well? First month so not many expectations but been having quite bad cramps today and yesterday.

NewLeafExpat · 18/06/2014 09:40

hi impatiently i actually name-changed so remember you from the beginning. I am wishing AF upon you so you can feel better and back in swing of things.

good luck to all.

efilbean · 18/06/2014 10:29

Thanks for the welcome, oliveobsessed. I've been making so many lists on random bits of paper and used envelopes: conception vits, diet, pricing up essentials that we'll buy new or second hand.. I was looking up local nurseries yesterday too! DP is being very good about it. A bit of eye-rolling here and there but he's used to my random list making ayway ;)

Now we're actively TTC, I think that will all settle down abit in any case. I want to switch off from it as much as I can and just let things happen as they will. Well, that's the plan.. ;)

oliveobsessed · 18/06/2014 11:18

Really bad stomach cramps last not sure if that is a good or bad thing

efilbean · 18/06/2014 13:40

Got everything crossed for you, olive, and for every one on here TTC.

bakingmad83 · 18/06/2014 15:15

Nice to have some new members on this thread, welcome :)

I'm glad to hear you're feeling a little better impatientlywaiting, I can only imagine how hard it must be, though I had prepared myself in case they told me I'd had a missed miscarriage at my scan.

Oliveobsessed, bloating was and still is one of my symptoms, though I understand you not wanting to poas too early - I waited till I was 8 days late to do that.

Good luck to everyone!

efilbean · 19/06/2014 11:46

My sinuses are really stuffy this morning and my nose is a bit swollen. I know this is just my silly sinuses playing up with the muggy weather - as they often do - but of course, now I'm wondering if every little thing is a symptom xD

oliveobsessed · 19/06/2014 12:28

Hi bakingmad83 one of the annoyances is that I don't know when I am late as my periods were between none existent and sporadic whilst on the implant. The technical term for how i feel today is sh*t (grumpy, teary, bloated, crampy and sick).

bakingmad83 · 19/06/2014 14:22

Sorry to hear you're feeling rotten oliveobsessed. It must be awful to not know exactly where you are with your periods when ttc. Hopefully the hormonal changes will settle down soon.

NewLeafExpat · 20/06/2014 06:18

hi olive have u tried a pregnancy/TTC app? I use Fertility Friend and although I don't chart my temperatures it helps chart CM and other ovulation signs...

And at least gives u a record of periods for when they do come around. my first AF post pill took over 50 days to show up, since then my cycles have been 30/31/32 days approx. I would never have known/noticed/remembered cycle length if I wasn't using the app and probably would have thought my periods were much more irregular than they actually are!
Wink

BrixtonBunny · 21/06/2014 23:43

Hello - hope you don't mind me joining in? I'm 26, had IUD out last month, seemed like I was fertile a few days ago (I use period tracker & did a few ovulation tests) so have been DTD every other day as DP and I have decided to TTC. Currently taking a cocktail of pregnacare conception & lots of omega vits, and trying to be a bit healthier. Really looking forward to sharing experiences with others!

efilbean · 26/06/2014 10:54

Welcome, BrixtonBunny!
I'm with you on the cocktail. I'm taking folic acid, vit. D and will start on flaxseed for the omega soon too. Shake me and I'd rattle ;)

acquiescence · 28/06/2014 16:16

Hello! Please can I join?

We have been trying for 6 months now - charting with FF - temps, cervix and CM. Using pregnacare conception vitamins, omega 3 and using mucinex and evening primrose oil for EWCM (really helps!). I'm 30 with no previous pregnancies.

Good luck everyone x

crazycatlady82 · 29/06/2014 09:38

Hi there,

Can I join?

I am on another thread too but maybe this is the right one for me. So confusing as I kind of apply to both...

I am 31. DH and I have been TTC since about Feb last year. Probably not paying that much attention to when I was ovulating etc.

This month it's weird but I had this overwhelming feeling I wanted to be a mum (not helped by the fact it feels like every woman I know is either pregnant or just given birth).

I am taking my pre-natal multi-vit. Plus Calcium and Vit D3 and Choline. Completely stopped alcohol - boo! hiss! And testing for ovulation. Which is now! Yay!

Just can't wait to be pregnant!

I also went to reflexology on Friday and can confirm, despite the initial scepticism, a total weird, yet relaxing experience... She asked me to tell her when she touched a part on my foot which is 'tender' so I say there - my ovaries and then again 'there' - it was my womb... Shock not thinking anything of it because it could be a load of old bollocks but, still very weird. Also a 'tender' bit was my bladder so I spent the rest of the day thinking I had a UTI Confused

I also met my cousin yesterday and she is 6mths pregnant. I am so happy for her, but wish I could be her wee pregnant buddy. Now living vicariously through her and throwing a baby shower for her - yay!

One of my friends has also had a 5 week old baby - so uber cute Smile

Yes I do think I may have lost the plot a little...

Anyway good luck to everyone else TTC and happy relaxing sunday

xx

acquiescence · 29/06/2014 10:36

Hi crazycatlady

I have just joined too. My feelings are similar to yours - everyone seems to be pregnant and almost all of them first time or when 'not really trying anyway'. One of my best friends is just about to have her first scan - we always hoped we would be pregnant together as we planned to start trying at the same time : (

Interesting to hear about reflexology - I have thought about trying acupuncture as have heard some positive things.

Are you charting etc now?

Good luck everyone!

crazycatlady82 · 29/06/2014 14:09

Hi acquiescence I am doing a bit of charting on my phone using an app but it turns out when I thought I was ovulating I wasn't, or at least not according to the ovulation sticks. I was ovulating sooner so potentially missing it every mth Sad

Are you charting at the moment? Or using ovulation sticks?

As I said I worked out on Friday I was ovulating so poor DH has been made to give me sex every day - tbh he isn't really complaining that much Grin thank god it's the weekend - it would have been more tricky doing all this mid-week!

I have heard great things about acupuncture too, but I haven't tried it. Have you?

It must be really difficult for you with your best friend being pregnant too. I think you reach a certain age and everyone around you one by one gets pregnant and if you are a person that wants children it just puts emphasis on the fact you're not pregnant.

I realised eventually that I was kidding myself when I said I wasn't that bothered.

LK amazing news! Delighted for you Grin Thanks

xx

Glados2point0 · 29/06/2014 19:51

Hi everyone, can I join?

We are about to start TTC #1, I'm 34, we got married last month, and bought a house earlier this year, so I finally feel we have everything in place for me to feel happy starting a family. He's fully on board with the idea as well :) we've been talking about it for ages, waiting to reach this point, but it feels a bit scary now we are actually here!

Bought some vitamins and folic acid today, which made it feel a lot more real. I've got an appointment with the nurse on Tuesday (registering with a new practice and they like to see everyone, seems a good time to bring it up). I've been using the mirena coil for the past few years and need to arrange to get that removed, but as soon as thats done its all systems go.

Prior to the coil I was on the pill for 12 years, so I have no idea what my body does naturally - I'm planning to start tracking my temperature and so on just to see if it helps - I'm a data nerd anyway, so its hardly anything unusual for me.

I've not got anyone irl I'm comfortable telling that we are trying, so I just need somewhere to be excited or sad.

Best of luck to everyone trying at the moment!

Glados

NewLeafExpat · 30/06/2014 10:08

glados yippeee congrats to u and DH. get that coil out pronto and join the crazy symptom spotting gang. Grin Wink
me: 30yo, ttc#1 since January after 10+years on pill. ...
AF currently 3 days late but bfn Angry Envy Angry

EMac66 · 30/06/2014 11:27

Hello all, room for one more?
I am 31 and ttc #1 with my lovely husband. We've been together over five years, married for one and had my copper coil removed early May this year.
I have been pregnant twice before - one ended in a chosen termination at seven weeks seven years ago (partner left me when he found out about the accidental pregnancy, turns out I had very poor judgement! Also I had been made redundant, had to move back in with parents etc); one ended in miscarriage a month ago at 5 weeks. We had fallen pregnant just 9 days after having the coil out.
Anyway, the miscarriage was sad but we're very realistic people, we knew the high stats and are just getting on with it. But I can't help feeling so thoroughly miserable that my period came last night! I should be thrilled everything has gone back to normal so quickly (it arrived 27 days after the miscarriage!) but I can't shake the disappointment.
I also can't shake the niggling feeling that it was punishment for having the termination. My DH is telling me I need to snap out of that frame of mind but it's not easy!
I know it's early days yet but it's so cruel, knowing we could have been going for our scan in a few weeks and now I'm back to day one of the cycle. Sigh.
So glad these forums are out here for me to vent! xx