About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Just back from scan. Strong heartbeat and measured 8w so right for my dates. Due 29th Dec!

Excellent news :-)

How are you feeling?

I've got a couple of jersey maxi dresses from Matalan which were £18 each, mrs. They're very comfy.

Hi Calling - What amazing news! Congratulations!! My DS's birthday is 28th December, your baby might be born on the same day. Gosh when I read that someone is only 8 weeks it makes me realise how quick this pregnancy has flown.
Hungry - your pregnancy feels to me like it's going quick too. Matalan dresses - were they maternity or normal but in bigger sizes? I can't stop eating so I'm worried on going to be big after the baby. I'm also wondering how big this baby will be because my bump is definitely bigger this time. DS was 8 pounds 3 ounces so I hope this one is not too much bigger.

Mrs, maternity dress: www.matalan.co.uk/womens/shop-by-category/maternity/maternity-dresses?page=1&size=36&cols=4&sort=&id=/womens/shop-by-category/maternity/maternity-dresses&filters[Womens%20Dress%20Style]=maxi_dresses

It's going quite quickly. Once I get my date I think it'll sail past.

My MW mentioned a 38 week section today. I'm wondering if that's possible as I was told 39 weeks before. I suppose we shall see!

Hi all!
Calling that is the best news ever, I am so pleased for you! 29 Dec, such a great date, maybe you get a New Years baby!

Glad to see all pregnancies are progressing well, can't believe it's almost due date for some of you. Exciting times indeed.

I am 19 weeks today, time really is flying with this one. Nervously awaiting my scan on the 12 June, anomaly scan. Just want reassurance that all is as it should be.

Countdown has begun for my return. Yesterday was exactly one month until I fly. It's certainly a mix of emotions but at the moment I am just focusing on getting there and relaxing a bit. I need to be able to focus on this pregnancy as at the moment i am just going through the motions.

When I went for my last scan at 17 weeks I was told I had gained 6 kg. Is that a lot for 17 weeks? I can't remember from last time but I am trying to watch it as I gained 25 kg last time (usually size 8 so looked rather enormous).

Anyway, home yesterday and today as DD has sinuses infection. Getting a bit bored although got lots of work done.

Sounds like you are having wonderful weather. We are going into winter here so nights are terribly cold.

That's great re the dietician hungry so do they think her intolerance will go away if they're suggesting introducing cows milk? Ooooh a 38 week section?! When will you find out? Dd is funny, that's the problem! She's not saying things to be cheeky, she's only 2 and 4 months so she just doesn't know that's not really socially acceptable! So you can't be cross at her. Yesterday in tesco she looked at a teenage girl (who to be fair to dd, didn't look too nice) pointed at her, and said, when the girl was inches away from us "mummy. What is that?" I said "just a girl" to which she replied "dats NOT a girl!! My not like it" we just made a quick exit!! But what can you do?! She's so little still and just very curious! I'm fine, tiredness is slowly starting to creep in, but suspect partly due to the heat. Generally feeling really well, although they told me I'm quite anaemic at my last appt. how are you?

Hmmm, yes, dubious re your sisters excuse mrs, even a text to say 'thrilled to hear from you, don't have time to reply properly' but I will' or something to that effect. I wouldn't any much more with 3 weeks left, I did because I have ten weeks left, then a few weeks after the birth so I didn't want to be feeling like I had nothing to wear everyday for that long! Especially in the heat! New look have some lovely things, but not in store, just online. It's not somewhere I'd usually shop really but they have a big maternity section at really reasonable prices and I'm not a believer in buying expensive mat clothes as you're in them such a short time! Yes, dh came back Friday, he's at work now for a few weeks before he's off again, then hopefully back for a few weeks until baby arrives. How long is your dh taking off when the baby comes?

What brilliant news calling how are you feeling? Will you wait until 12 weeks to tell people?

Wow not long till you leave swede will you look for work immediately over there? Or just go back after the baby?

How's everyone else??

Hi Hungry - when i go to your link, it doesn't bring me up any dress. I'll keep trying. How many weeks left at work for you now? I'm full term when it gets to Friday this week! Still no word from my sister so feeling a bit confused and feel it's a bit unfair as I don't know if she wants to sort things out or not. My mum says she does but why tell my mum and not even acknowledge my message. Just really wanted to sort things before I have my baby.

Crossed posts mrs!

Well I'm say here crying, I feel devastated . Had a response from my sister and although she wishes me well with my birth and pregnancy she clearly doesn't wish to resolve things. I'm so upset I can't believe it when nothing really happened , just a few cross words. She has done and said hurtful things to me but I'm willing to forgive and forgive so shy isn't she? Absolutely crushed. x

Oh no mrs I'm sorry! what did her response say?

Hi Better - She put that whilst she appreciates the text she doesn't think we will ever see eye to eye and that she is still very angry. She wishes me well but wants to leave things as they are. Is life not too short?

Oh mrs, that's shit of your sister. She should really be big enough to put it behind her now you've offered the olive branch.

You've could've stayed angry too, but you've been the bigger person. At least your parents know that you've tried and she's knocked you back. Will you tell them her response? hugs

Better, yes, generally babies grow out of lactose intolerance once they're 1 ish, and she's so much better than she was. The improvement is great. We've been testing her with products which include milk and gave her fromage frais last week. She still gets bunged and will go without pooing for a few days, but doesn't get the awful tummy pains she was getting.

Milk gets introduced VERY slowly over the course of a week or so, starting with a 1/4 teaspoon and working upwards towards 200ml on day 7, assuming no ill effects in the meantime. I'm glad DH took her yesterday so we know how to go about it, to be honest. Once she's ok with milk we can stop the formula and go over to cows' milk.

Your DD sounds fantastic! :-)

I have my consultant appt on 11th June, so can't wait for that. Just want a date!

Oh dear. We had a very very similar altercation with my in laws a few months ago. After 10 months estrangement (which was mainly us saying 'we wont put ourselves through it anymore) we decided to reach out to them when I was around 18 weeks pregnant, asking them if we could all try to work things out and move on so they could be part of ours & therefore their granchildrens lives, and were met with a less than kind response.

Over a few days, dh basically all but begged them to reconsider but they wouldnt. He eventually told them hed never forgive their lack of effort to be part of the kids lives, and I dont think he will.

Its desperately sad really, as is your situation. But you cant force her and you have to question the decency of the person concerned putting a heavily pregnant woman through this.

All I can say to help is that now, a few months on, my husband and I both feel the most positive re the situation that we've ever felt. We did our best, they didn't, they have to live with that. How they can not want to do everything possible to be involved with their lovely son & grandchild is beyond me and for that I feel disappointment in them, but not sad anymore and not angry, mainly indifference.

I think for you its important to try to let this go for now, although believe me I know thats easier said than done. But you need to think about this special time in your life, you dont want to look back and feel it was overshadowed. Think of your dh, ds and new baby, and enjoy it. Its her loss. Dont waste anymore energy on it for now. If in a few months you still feel you want to repair things, you'll have more emotional capacity to deal with it when baby is older. Hope youre ok x

Mrs im so sorry that your sister has responded is such a way! big hugs coming your way. I also think now is not the time to be thinking about any of this, just concentrate on your own little family! xx
hungry great news about the milk hope shes ok xx
I had my mw home visit this morning and baby is not only head down but 3/5ths palpable she told me to keep taking the rlt tablets and get on my bouncing ball. made me an apt for the 30th but hoping ill have had my baby by then!

Firstly, I wouldn't worry about the fall if you've had no ill effects. I slipped on a wooden patio area outside a restaurant when I was 36 weeks, it was quite a heavy blow to my side right down my bump & leg went purple and dd was fine. If he's moving and youre not in any pain I wouldn't bother with the mw.

Re dh, hes not sad at all. His parents, mainly his mum acted awfully towards us during dds first year, they ruined lots and were so selfish and rude so we've never felt we were missing out on much. We did get on well with them before dd and if theyd bloody behave theyd be good grandparents so as our anger wore off about all of this thats when we decided to try to reconcile but we were dubious as to whether that was a good idea. As they obviously weren't going to sort themselves out then we feel we dodged a bullet really.

We dont feel sad anymore just disappointed in them. But I think with time you accept that you cant waste your time on people who arent willing to out in effort to.

Its tough because not being like them its something you cant understand, its

Tricky as its severed dhs relationships with his whole family and from time to time things crop up which stir things up but on the whole we barely think about it now. You learn to live with it. Much easier that its their choice.

Hi Better - Thanks for sharing that with me. You may be right, if you know how something isn't your fault or that it's not you who has made things a certain way then it's not so bad but I just really am surprised that my own flesh and blood (and your DH's) could that easily not be part of my DS's life and your DD too in your case. I don't understand my sister at all or why she doesn't want to patch things up but I'm not going to beg her, and like you've said, I can't change the way she feels. But my poor DS will never know his auntie and I don't know what to do about him seeing his cousins because she obviously doesn't want my DS to see her kids and she doesn't care to see mine. It's very hurtful and probably because I'm 37 weeks on Friday I feel very emotional about it. When I first had my DS, I had a traumatic labour and I was able to call her days after the birth and she came round and looked after my DS and saw to him allowing me to have a bath and get something to eat etc. my DH had to go somewhere for a few hours one morning and I needed a hand (I was in a bad way for 8 weeks after the birth because my stitches had come undone so I could barely walk and was in a lot of pain) but she helped me and was there for me. Today she has wished me well like I'm a work colleague. Anyway I'm sorry I've gone on about this today, I don't mean to be self-centred or depressing. It's just that I feel nice got to know certain of you really well (Hungry, Better and Morerum in particular because we were all quite early into the thread) and I just needed to share it.
Morerum - have you got a date to be induced in case labour doesn't start? And the raspberry leaf tablets, when do you take those? Is it one a day? I am still taking Pregnacare once a day and I didn't know about raspberry leaf tablets, only the tea which I had last time. I wonder if the tea version is the same and if it's worth giving a go.