TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Hi gnger. Same for me; when I got my 21day bloods, my cycle was 40 odd days. I told the gp that day 21 is too early (I knew all about it as best mate is about 6months ahead of me on sub fertilty journey). Anyway she insisted day 21. When I came and told the nurse taking the bloods she told me it simply wouldn't work. Alas! The next day, bloods came back no ov. Booked in for 7 days later and all was fine so definitely change / book extra days! It's not worth the worry!

I have read two books - can't remember the name of either but both quite contradictory and neither much use - mn is my best source of info.

I also gave up on all things that help - juices, foods, giving stuff up - because it got exhausting. Have tKen the scientific approach of opks and preseed ... Very clinical!

I have also started to think of life without kids which is not very positive thinking of me (and very unlike me as usually I'm a visualiser) but this is too scary to get my hopes up about... I wasn't always like this I have to say but 15 months can do that to you...

Btw, currently lying in bed holding in wee - to poas or not to poas. Cd 14 of a 16 day lp. All 'symptoms' gone ... Thoughts??

Sorry 14dpo - not cd 14....

Bfn and AF cramps arrived ... :-(

So sorry M33R, huge hugs to you. And I know that 15months is a long time and it would be difficult not to have negative thoughts...but please please never give up! and never stop believing it will happen.

Anyone who has not read the book "The Secret" needs to read it. It is not about fertility but is about positive thinking and how to make good things happen in your life. It is definately worth a read and would be great to stay positive and focused throughout this journey.

Think I had too much wine, feeling a bit grim.....

Hi mama. I've read it too. It's good.

Maybe I'll do a 'mood board' (is that what it's called?!) today...

And maybe this month I will try juice, vitamins, reflexology this month. I don't know...

Also feeling a bit sketchy this morning :-0

Good results Victoria! It's always nice to hear that :-) Happy for you!

Ginger- I went in for my 21 day blood on day 20 of what turned out to be a 25 day cycle. It should be 7 days before your expected period, mine were around 26/27 but this one was early. Progesterone came out at 21, which apparently shows ovulation but I think I read somewhere that above 30 was more "normal"? Anyway, my gut feeling is that I ovulate late with a short luteal phase (hence starting the AC and B100 complex) But without temping you can't be sure I guess.

Hope everyone had a nice Friday night! DH booked a hotel as a surprise last night so that was nice (apart from the fact I didn't even have a toothbrush or spare pair of knickers with me!! Haha!) Trying to be spontaneous, I think. He's alright, I guess. I think I'll keep him. ;-)

Morning all. Sorry for your bfn m33r thats rubbish.

Well, my optimism has waned. Af due 18th. We normally dtd on a saturday morning but didn't today but now I think we should have done just in case. We have dtd about twice as much as our usual poor effort which had me all optimistic but now the waiting game has started i'm convinced its not enough again. Boo.

Someone give me a kick up the backside please.

I thought i was doing ok but just found out a lady at work is expecting her second,her dc is 6months younger than my dd,and someone else is going on mat leave soon. Had to go and have a little cry in the toilets.... Well i am a bit miffed with my gp, i think she just booked me in for day21 tests to keep me happy,she didnt explain how they worked or what they would show, i have learnt all this from mn. She was totally dismissive of my concerns over irregular cycles and short lp. Anyway i did as i was told and booked for day 21,then when i got a positive opk i tried to rebook for 7days later and they said they didnt have any appt available for two weeks! Bloody ridiculous! So, do i just cancel and wait for next month or do i just go on monday and hope the nurse is sympathetic and lets me book for 3 days later. Also if the gp realises she has messed up maybe she will actually pay attention to me...gosh what would i do without all you lovely ladies on mn! My cycles on average are 26 days,but i dont ovulate til cd17 so have a very short LP. So sorry m33r, a mood board sounds like a lovely idea,maybe we should have a day once a week where we all have to think positively, bit cheesy!

I thought i was doing ok but just found out a lady at work is expecting her second,her dc is 6months younger than my dd,and someone else is going on mat leave soon. Had to go and have a little cry in the toilets.... Well i am a bit miffed with my gp, i think she just booked me in for day21 tests to keep me happy,she didnt explain how they worked or what they would show, i have learnt all this from mn. She was totally dismissive of my concerns over irregular cycles and short lp. Anyway i did as i was told and booked for day 21,then when i got a positive opk i tried to rebook for 7days later and they said they didnt have any appt available for two weeks! Bloody ridiculous! So, do i just cancel and wait for next month or do i just go on monday and hope the nurse is sympathetic and lets me book for 3 days later. Also if the gp realises she has messed up maybe she will actually pay attention to me...gosh what would i do without all you lovely ladies on mn! My cycles on average are 26 days,but i dont ovulate til cd17 so have a very short LP. So sorry m33r, a mood board sounds like a lovely idea,maybe we should have a day once a week where we all have to think positively, bit cheesy!

I thought i was doing ok but just found out a lady at work is expecting her second,her dc is 6months younger than my dd,and someone else is going on mat leave soon. Had to go and have a little cry in the toilets.... Well i am a bit miffed with my gp, i think she just booked me in for day21 tests to keep me happy,she didnt explain how they worked or what they would show, i have learnt all this from mn. She was totally dismissive of my concerns over irregular cycles and short lp. Anyway i did as i was told and booked for day 21,then when i got a positive opk i tried to rebook for 7days later and they said they didnt have any appt available for two weeks! Bloody ridiculous! So, do i just cancel and wait for next month or do i just go on monday and hope the nurse is sympathetic and lets me book for 3 days later. Also if the gp realises she has messed up maybe she will actually pay attention to me...gosh what would i do without all you lovely ladies on mn! My cycles on average are 26 days,but i dont ovulate til cd17 so have a very short LP. So sorry m33r, a mood board sounds like a lovely idea,maybe we should have a day once a week where we all have to think positively, bit cheesy!

Oops sorry, posting on my phone!

Oh my gosh, Ginger. The GPs drive me nuts with this stuff. I really feel they should know more. I asked mine about my luteal phase beibg a suspected 7/8 days and she said she thought that would have no effect at all on getting pregnant. I'm like, really?! Well then is everything I read a lie?! I said doesn't it take a certain amount of time for a fertilised egg to make it to the uterus and start making the hormones that prevent a period? There was a silence and then she said No, she didn't think it would be an issue. shrugs

I would just go on Monday anyway and raise your concerns with the nurse and see what she thinks?

Advice about going to docs. I said if no bfp this time i will go, as will be on C11. Should i approach before af due? What is likely the first course of action? I had a blood test after AF hadn't arrived 9 months after last depo jab, but apparently it was 'normal'. Shamefully i have no idea what it was for!

Lindsay they are just awful aren't they. I don't understand why they are so dismissive about it all, are we actually just being crazy and impatient about it all and they think we should sit around waiting until we're still not pregnant after 5 years!? Mine was just the same, totally ignored my questions about a short luteal phase. I think I will just go on monday anyway, and waste everyones time .

Will you be going for anymore tests or just see how you get on with bvit and AC? Hope you had a lovely night last night, and weren't too far from home this morning to get some clean undies!! Very sweet of your DH though.

Oh notta it's so hard to know what is the best approach to take, I think if you have done as much as you can this month you just have to focus on that, and hope this will be your month for success. Some people get pg dtd everyday, some from just a one off (lucky b*stards). If you would be happier getting back to the docs asap then I would go ahead and just book an appointment, I'm not sure what the next course of action would be though sorry, maybe another blood test? Did you only have the day 21 one?

Well Ginger, the plan is to try the AC etc for 3 months which is DH's timeline he has given himself for getting the SA done (He needs to work up to thinking about doing that apparently! LOL). I'm fine with that because I've heard people say it took a couple of months to see any effect from AC. At that point I think I'll ask the doctor to look at my charts and consider my progesterone results again.

What about you? Have you tried anything to help with a short LP?

Thanks ginger my worry is that i am 36, ttc #1 and on C10 this time. The prev blood test was before AF arrived. I had my last depo jab sept 2012. I went to GP may 2013 as still no af, and thats when the blood test ws. Luckily AF arrived soon after and has been a regular 25 day cycle ever since.

Is it just day 21 (which would be 18 in my case?) tests or are there others?

Good luck monday.

Hello, thank you for starting an excellent thread! I remember seeing some of you on other threads. I know this is for those who are on cycle 10 I'm currently on my 2ww cycle 9 Ttc#1 so can I join?

My story is quite a muddled one:went to see the doctor in September for another issue - extremely painful period pains that had retuned since coming off the pill. After explaining all my symptoms (including history of women in
My family having endo and fibroids) GP booked me a day 21 test and trans vaginal scan. Results came back fine for both. So in theory it was just a case of us carrying on ttc until we reach our 1 year (June) and if we haven't conceived by then return to our GP. Simple right? Only thing is in the meantime every single month since I've been off the pill has been a nightmare for me as I have such excruciating, crippling period pain. My GP is not really interested now all results have come back normal and just prescribed me with Mefenamic acid (which clearly states in the guidelines that it shouldn't be taken by women who are ttc!) But in the back of my mind, i think this pain may be related to our problems conceiving (my husband has had a SA test results came back fine). So tomorrow I'm seeing a gynaecologist-hopefully will get to the bottom of this.

Sorry for your bfn m33r some perhaps?

Hi ladies, I have missed quite a lot of chat in the last couple of days! (*quickly reads all entries in fear of missing out!)
How did the lunch go onelife? Did you end up telling your friend?
I think I ovulated on day 13 this month. A bit earlier than usual. Slightly annoying as last 2 cycles been a bit shorter than usual (25/26) which means that the romantic week in the scottish highlands this month will involve my period. Oops.
Fingers crossed AF will not show up at all!

Hi Pinkhat. Of course you can join. Your GP sounds very annoying, prescribing you something that shouldn't be taken when ttc. I know that my GP won't give me anything when ttc that is not meant to be given.

Sounds like your doing the right thing though and getting checked out by Gynae, I hope your appointment goes well and they should be able to give you more advice.

My GP also referred us early due to the big waiting list (5months) rather than waiting until we were ttc for a year, but she did put a year on the notes to the hospital (a wee white lie).

Let us know how your appointment goes.

Jesse hopefully you won't need to worry about that and instead will be telling DH about your bfp in the Highlands!

Hi all.

AF got me this morning. Knew it was coming last night and DH and I had planned a nice night in which resulted in me having a good cry mostly about how worried I was that I couldn't give him what he wanted so badly. He was great of course.

So mad with myself for getting my hopes up this month. I was so sure. Lessons learned: symptoms are not a thing. And this month if I feel Ill at work and I'm going home not sitting smugly tolerating it because I think it's all my dreams coming true ...

I am devastated... I have no idea what to do next. No idea. My appt is 2/4 so hopefully that will help (not sure how though!)

And from this thread I think we can all conclude that gps - for the most part - are absolutely hopeless and actually make things worse offering no reassurance. Lucky we have each other.

And likewise notta that it's a shame we meet again... FX for you this month. It's such a lottery x

m33r xoxo It's such a heartbreak every month. Usually I start to feel more positive by cd3ish so I hope you do too. Try to be kind to yourself today :-) A bath, some chocolate, maybe a wee glass of something.