TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Morning all. Day 8 of stinking cold. At least I've slept reasonably well the last two nights. Just woken early to nose full of manky green snot. Yuck. DH tells me to go to the docs but honestly don't think its anything but a bloody awful cold.

Still not poas. Was too busy nose blowing and clearing my throat to think of it actually. Until after i'd peed so thats a good thing!

Is anyone else doe a bfp in the next few days?

Yes its in order left to right...im having to do them first thing and again when I get home but this morning it doesnt seem to be as dark.

I havent bought a digi dps already annoyed im spending money in things he doesnt believe lol.

Were still dtd as normal so wont miss it but was hoping for a more clear yes or no to when I ovulated but I know some people cant get a positive from them

Sorry AF got you lil and non as you say, onwards to the next go.

I can't have nutella in the house non. I just go at it with a spoon. but DH keeps buying it. In any case, half a jar of nutella is just the thing for when AF arrives.

I have done really well with the diet although am only starting day 4!! But still, getting into the swing.of it and not finding it too difficult.

Excellent approach mam I hope it works for you! Sadly just shagging usually means about three times a month for us. One of the reasons i am losing weight is to make me feel more confident of my body so i can initiate a bit more and to make DH not be able to keep his hands off me!

ginger we have had that feeling a few times, or at least i have! Its awful, i've just wanted him to get on with his bit without a care as to whether I've enjoyed it.

notta there's been a cold going round where I am that's lasting ages too, dh had it for 2 weeks not so long ago. Hope you feel better soon. good it's stopping you poas though!

blueif they're the same as the ones I use you're not meant to use them in the morning, the leaflet says it takes time for the lh which it is detecting to build up in your body. I usually test after work sometime between 4 and 8pm. Hope that helps x

Ugh. Glad i didn't poas. The spotting has just started. Ffs.

And I have the day off work today to wallow in self pity.

Ryan gosling time, notta x

Is there a time that ISN'T a Ryan Gosling time? lol

Sorry to hear lots of us entering yet another cycle :-( good news about all the sa's though. I really hope my dh is ok too! I'll get him to call the docs end of next week. Or should i?! Dilemma! Do we want to know just before our hol?! What if its bad news? It will ruin the hol of caravan rock n roll! Or if its good news could be an amazing hol! Argh!

Sorry you're still randomly spotting blue I've no idea what to suggest hun :-(

Me and Dh went out for dinner to harvester last night and there were loads of families there. He said to me very sincerely... "do you think we will ever have kids, baby?" It was so nice and so sad. He never really says a lot about it. I know he's worried about his results and that I won't love him anymore if they are bad :-(

Ah vic, I hate moments like that. You just want to fix it - not just cause you want a family but because DH does. I hope you are staying positive.

notta sorry the spotting had started! When I read back, I was hopeful for you til that post.

Hi all

Blue - I use the cheap sticks too and never get a line as dark as the control. It's why I temp chat too as between the two I can work out when I ov.

Vic - had a similar question of dh a couple of weeks ago. It was heartbreaking.

Last weekend we had his sister and get two kids over for the weekend. The youngest is 6 months and I caught a heartbreaking look on dh face whenever he was holding her. So much so I had to run to the loo for a few years on numerous occasions. Bet they thought I must have a UTI!

After months of 27 day cycles this month I didn't ov and it's not day 33 with no af. It's very unsettling as I just don't know where I am!

Evening ladies,

notta the main reason I want to loose weight is to be more comfortable with myself but no matter what I do the weight doesnt seem to go

imaginary ive been testing twice a day morning and after work at 6 ish but they definitely seem to be going pale again oh well

jesse mmmm Ryan Gosling

vicky awww its hard when they come out with stuff like that my dp does it rarely

may thats comforting to read

Im still bleeding today and everytime I wipe theres clots of blood (tmi) I actually have a bit of cramping today similar to ovulation pain I had last month.

still dtd as much as I can the use of dressing up to persuade the dp is working well lol plus its our 5 year anniversary on sunday so were getting into it this week.

hope everyone is ok

Who's Ryan Gosling???

Have you tested may? Just in case?

Thanks m33r i let myself be hopeful tok. Trying not to now although.....

Well, spotting has stopped. Had it once yesterday and twice this morning and thats is. Dare not hope that its IB.

Aw vic how sweet of DH. Mines being a total twunt.

anyone?

Notta - google him. Hot.

notta keep us posted. I daren't hope for you either BUT .... Xx

Good luck Notta, hopefully its not af playing silly buggers like with me last cycle.

Blue I'm getting quite worried for you with this mid cycle spotting/bleeding. It just doesnt sound normal hun. And you've still got another week til the docs haven't you? Think if it were me I'd have made a same day appointment last week.

A fb 'friend' who has just had a baby posted today about her 10 year struggle to conceive and she was waiting for ivf when it happened naturally. I love those stories. :-)

Me too vic (minus the ten years part!) sigggghhhhh!

notta I can't remember, have you done anything different this month - vits or anything?

Morning,

Notta Do you seriously not know who Ryan Gosling is im shocked lol
How annoying about the spotting but fingers crossed its a positive sign.

Vicky Im worried to now...docs appointment not till 15th (the day AF is due). I put a question up yesterday on a different post and one girl said she had this and it was an ectopic but i had AF as normal so im not sure its possible.

I have lower back pain today and stabby pains on left hand side (opposite side to ovulation pain from last month) and still bleeding having to wear a pad every morning now grrr.

On the upside it sunny today and I finish work at 1 (had to work extra day as boss still in hospital).

I don't want to scare you bluebut I think you can have AF and still have eptopic. I had issues years back and one of the things they suspected was ectopic even though I was on bcp and had had my pill bleed as usual. I think you should get checked out asap. its better to be safe than sorry and all that.

Vic and everyone else with the dhs showing their emotions, its hard isn't it. today dh said "that guy is smoking and the woman is huge and they have a baby, its not fair" I have to keep reminding him everyone's situation is different and everyone has their own issues and story. he suggested we take up recreational drugs and buy an Audi to invoke sods law! bless!

notta I hope the bleeding is ib for you, but he prepared for AF. my random spotting turned into AF and its such a heartbreak to get your hopes up.

If you have an ectopic pregnancy you will have a positive pregnancy test, so unless you have had that, I wouldn't worry x

I have done a test since a few days before AF was bfn then...

Mu doctors on holiday at the moment other wise id have made an appointment how annoying.

Off out to dinner for our anniversary hopefully bleeding stops for tomorrow so can celebrate properly lol

I think its rare Jesse but you can have eptopic and bfn

Hi everyone.
Blue what a weird situation for you, hope it all turns out to be ok, but I would also echo what the others have said and try and see someone on tuesday, especially if you are still bleeding, doesn't necessarily have to be your usual Dr?
Happy anniversary to you though!
notta exactly what you said about dieting to make you feel better! Your diet is certainly going better than mine, I just can't seem to get going, even though I know what a huge difference losing weight will make, and cutting back sugar too. I totally comfort eat though, especially chocolate, and with all this ttc going on and cutting back on caffeine and alcohol, chocolate is my biggest ally! Fingers crossed for you that this turns into something this month, what day are you on now? Is AF late yet? I had the teeniest tiniest squintiest bit of blood this morning when I wiped, and have now ridiculously got my hopes up and am furiously symptom spotting. Why do we do it to ourselves!? I might not even be bloody ovulating so how can I be convincing myself I am upduffed!!!
lil I think you should try out your plan and let us all know if it works! Might be onto a winning formula there, never mind acupuncture and vitamins!!!
A new complementary therapy clinic has just opened in my town, I might pop in and get some info on acupuncture and chinese herbal medicine, has anyone got any experience of these?

I'm never symptom spotting again! I was so bloody convinced I was pregnant last month as I spent most of the 2ww feeling so ill! Stupid me was revelling in the sick n dizzy feelings thinking this was what being preg felt like. I wish my head would go back to when we first started ttc and before I'd started googling! We just had sex around the middle of the month and I had a little p circled in my diary for 28 days and if period started in that week, great. I'd just cross out the p and move it a few days if it was different. So naive.

Dh is now worried about how obsessed I'm getting, and with each month its worse than the last. Its just not helping.

Evening all. Thanks for all yoir good wishes. This morning i had brown sort of sludgey looking stuff. Sorry - grim - and I really think AF is on the way. Due monday.

m33r No i didn't do anything different. In fact the last two cycles i have failed to take anything. I wa taking pregnacare but they were making me constipated so i got plain Folic Acid but am out of the habit so haven't remembered to start them..... And actually, while taking vitamins, i've had cycles of no spotting and a couple with spotting..... No reason to it.

blue No, no idea about Ryan Gosling. I've googled him and...... meh...... I don't watch much telly or films really.

So the diet is still going well. Soooooo pleased I am finally in the zone!! I have cut wine down to weekends only (a few months ago i was up to a bottle a night....every night! ) and having fruit/carrot sticks etc for snacks. And no dessert!! Which DH has every day.