TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

vic my heart is breaking for you. I thought this was it for you. Have some wine. We're all here for you and good luck for sa on Monday.

Thanks girls. I'll pick myself up and carry on. Next month I'm NOT symptom spotting! Oh to go back to those innocent days eh?

Everyone else enjoying their weekends? I shall stop hogging the thread now ;-) x

Oh victoria I'm so sorry, have just been reading the thread back and catching up with everyone and I was so hopeful for you, hope you have an amazing Sat night planned, and do give yourself the time to wallow away! Like Jesse said look towards the SA test on Mon now and hopefully get some answers soon.

Sorry I disappeared for a bit, had a lovely busy Easter with family and friends visiting and managed to put ttc to the back of my mind a bit! It's back into the full swing of things now though with my multitude of blood test appointments booked this month trying to catch the hormones on the right day! I am having a nightmare of a time trying to pinpoint my day21! Also not doing so well on the dtd front, so the vile tasting grapefruit juice guzzling was a waste of time

Don't think I have said hello to laura yet - welcome! I know just what you mean about fighting before potential dtd-ing! I have had an argument with DH a couple of times before I had 'planned' to dtd and was most annoyed at the fact it would now be strange to start trying to get his kit off rather than the fact we had had an argument!!

Notta it might only have been twice but it was the best possible timing, here's hoping a lack of effort works for you this month!

Hi Martie glad everything is going along smoothly for you!

Hope everyone is up to fun things this weekend.

Argh Victoria that's rubbish, so sorry she came. As others said make sure you look after yourself over the next few days and indulge in plenty of wine

Am I the only one that doesnt really like wine malibu or vodka does me well lol

Oooo wine is my tipple alright and I've had 2 glasses tonight :-D problem is I watched 'wanted-a family of my own' which I prob shouldn't have today! Was blubbing away on the sofa!

Hubby is worrying about his test tomorrow and wanted me to ask around in here. The sample has a lifespan of an hour right? (kept close to your body, down the pants or whatever you're meant to do!). He is wondering if he gets there earlier than his appointment will they take the sample early?! He frets about parking spaces and finding the place see? So to get somewhere we always leave stupidly early. So he's thinking if he gets there half hr early in a flap will his sample be ok? I think he should call the lab in the morning....

Mr Jesse did the sample at home, then drove to the hospital, parked and took it in. On the results sheet it says that it was analysed after 1hour, an we live close to the hospital. He just kept the sample in the pocket of his trousers.
We went to the hospital the day before, worked out where the lab building was, where the car park was, just so there was no flapping about on the day itself.
Hope that helps.

Question ladies

Would you keep trying for a baby even if you know your dp is only trying because it would make you happy?

Im so worried that itll happen and he'll freak out and leave

Vic our clinic fave a 30 min window to deliver sample in, but app time was stated as the start of that 30 mins

blueberry sounds like you need a serious conversation. I left my last partner because at 26yo he didn't know if he wanted kids. and dh and I discussed it a lot before we married. I needed to know we were on the same page. he's probably just scared of the unknown, and male ego may well be involved...its not manly to want kids is it!

Hes never really wanted any of it im his first serious relationship every other girl he left at 3 months on the dot.

He just says he wouldn't be doing it if he didnt want to but in the same breath says hes doing it for me

Darling blue my dh is only going along with ttc because its what I want too. Its probably not the best way to live but the difference is we are married and I know he won't leave that commitment. I've told him that we need a child in our relationship to keep it alive. We barely hang out and do things as a couple, but with a family he won't have a choice. I don't know what will happen if we can't/don't have kids. I'm not sure we have enough to keep us together.

I do think you need to have a serious talk with dp. Ask him outright if he is committed to a family. You're still young aren't you? How old is dp? Men take much longer to mature. A baby might be that step to manhood. My dh is still quite immature at nearly 36 with his computergames etc. When i first brought up a desire for a baby he said he was happy the way things were. Because he likes dossing about and having no responsibility. I take charge of the mortgage, bills and budget too. He plays games. My friends wonder what does keep us together!

Hi ladies. Sorry been awol getting over af, on to cycle 12 and ready for action! ;)

Just about caught up I think...

Blue, I do think a serious convo with DP would be useful. You might find that he is more in to ttc that you knew....but if not it may be important to weight things up as it is a huge decision and commitment. I put it off for years until we were both 100% certain...how ironic though that it's now taking so long, but I don't regret that really as we both feel the time is now right! (wish mother nature felt the same lol)

Victoria you must have the patience of a saint....if DH played games all the time we'd have a lot of trouble ttc, coz I'd chop his balls off!!!! lol that's a lot of responsibility on you!!! You must be superwoman!!

Weve talked a million times he knew from the very beginning that I wanted a family and that was all I dreamt of. I suppose if he didnt want it he would have left years ago.

We've done all the travelling, we then bought a house last june and both have secure jobs so we've done it the sensible way.

Im just having a down day was looking forward to sunday sex lol but feeling crap and feel stupid because I cried.

I feel for you vicky I worked hard on dp to stop him playing games all the time used to drive me nuts.

Yes mama, I am a saint!

Blue I hope your feeling better soon. A chat with DH might help. And if you perk up, a shag might also help ;)

Lol Victoria you must be!

Good luck for SA tomorrow. It will be over before he knows it, hope the results come in quick as well. DH was told could take 6 weeks but he rang at 3 weeks and was able to get them.

Yes blue I would have a chat with your dp too. If hes known that's what you want from the start and he's still around and willing to try then I doubt he'd up and leave, but I'm sure having a conversation would help you feel more secure.

DH just got back from one of his (our) best friends house and told me they're expecting. Wasn't a surprise really, but im shocked at how much it upset me. I'm so so happy for them but having close friends preg as opposed to just people at work or old school (Facebook) friends is a different feeling that I wasn't prepared for.

Dh did his sa last Tuesday and they said he could ring his gp in 5-6 working days for the results so hoping to get them Wed or Thurs. 6 weeks is a nightmare mama! Got my 1st blood test on wed too and then a week later on 'day 21' so should find out soon whether there's anything more going on with us.

Hope you've all had good weekends.

I think it says 2-3 weeks for a result on the info sheet. I'll get dh to ask when he drops it off tho, I hope he remembers!

I'm still hanging about waiting for a 'proper' af. Had a bleed yesterday but nothing since! Not even brown stuff (ie spotting!) It would be too late for implant bleed as I ovd cd12 or 13 so latest for ib would have been cd24 and it was 28 yesterday. Even if I did ov later it couldn't be ib coz we stopped dtd very early! Got more crampy feeling today than I did yesterday too. Yesterday felt healthy and normal, today I feel crampy and shite (but I did have a few wines). Keep running to the loo to check my pad!

How strange for you victoria, what do you think is going on?

Sorry about your friend Imaginary, I have just found out some friends of ours are expecting any day now, we saw them last August and had the chat about babies and families with them, obviously spurred them on to have one of their own, how come they fell pg so quickly and we are still sat here waiting? They were drinking/smoking at the party last august while we have done everything 'right' and still nothing. Was already feeling shit this morning as I didn't get a +ve opk today and I always get a +ve two days in a row (got one yesterday morning), had a big rise in temp yesterday morning but a big drop this morning, so I'm beginning to wonder if maybe the blood test results were right in suggesting I'm not ovulating. Life is just bloody shit sometimes. I find it odd that I would be getting positive opks similar two days every month for 8 months if I'm not ovulating? Anyone have any ideas?

Blue will you have the chat with DP or just keep going at it?!

hi guys

Vic you are more than a saint!

blue hope you are feeling better

ginger +opk doesn't mean you are ov I'm afraid hun. you can get the surge but not ov, or you can ov but not have high enough prog levels to sustain a pg. keep going with the temp charting as that will tell you far more than opks. what app are you using? I use the paid version of fertility friend and I find it fantastic for charting/recording symptoms etc. hopefully its just an off month though. apparently its not uncommon for a healthy woman to have up to 2 annovulatory cycles a year. just to make ttc that bit harder, as if we weren't finding it hard enough.

Thanks lil, I have read that positive opks just suggest the rise in LH but not actual ovulation. Was feeling so hopeful when I got the big temp rise, but then felt shit this morning when it dropped. grasping at straws but it wasn't done at the same time each day so hopefully this could be the anomaly! I never get much ewcm either, which I never considered to be an issue until I started this bloody ttc journey. By the end of this cycle I will have had 4 blood tests done so hopefully I will find out a bit more. Can't believe after all this time and effort and forced sex I might not even be bloody ovulating.
I'm not using an app lil, just a temping chart on old fashioned paper, it's quite fun plotting the graph! I guess I'll be relying on clomid now then to get pg

you'd be surprised how much diff times can make! if I can't avoid a time change I compare by googling to find an average of what my temp may have been if I'd taken it at right time. I just Google but adjuster and think first one is something like "wheremybaby.com" or something. might be worth a look to see if normal time today could have been higher

bbt not but adjuster! lmao, I love auto correct sometimes!