TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Afternoon all, glad to hear we've all had some silver linings today (my DH pointed out we couldn't have just decided to go shopping today without hundreds of prep and bags etc if we had a child)! Talking to you all has defo made me feel more in control of the situation and that's a good feeling! Hadn't also considered dh's meds for eczema so will have a look at that and try and keep my mind occupied til my blood test results appt with GP tomorrow night...

Google the meds as my gp didn't have a clue. On nhs website there is quite a good guide. Had a 90 second chat with dh about it today...told him I've ordered opks and if no joy after 2 months we are going to Drs 'ok' and then said we need to dtd more around ov - 'yeah' end of conversation!!! And he wonders why I get frustrated with him!!!

Welcome MB and hi to everyone else!

Back to work today and sat on a train to London so made the most on catching up on here.

Had a lovely weekend but still don't think I've ov this month. Been temp charting for 6 months now and this looks like it may be my 2nd anov cycle in that time. Certainly would help to explain nearly two years of no success!

Started temp charting after a friend who also has fertility issues (has pcod) recommended a book called 'taking charge of your fertility) which has been great at helping to understand my cycles. It's not just about temp so if you haven't heard of it I would recommend a look.

MB as a depression sufferer as well I both understand how hard it is for your dh and for you. The meds may be a necessary evil for now but even if they are effecting his fertility they are unlikely to have made him totally infertile so just like everyone has said focus those one or two times around ov using opks and you should still very success over a few cycles.

Shame the bank holiday is over and we have to return to normality. It's been great having dh home even if I didn't ov as I'd hoped. Nothing worse than waving him goodbye at the start of the week.

Still is a nice short week!

Morning Ladies,

CD 6 for me to today and AF has buggered off looking forward to grabbing my darling boyfriend later lol.

Trying my best to be positive and relaxed this month.

Im also going to try opks and grapefruit juice.

Mam Glad your not spotting and feeling positive enjoying times with friends etc helps so much.

Vicky I to think holding off till AF is due is best I wish I had done that this month.

Laura It must be so annoying not to have a regular cycle but people still manage to get pg and the opks will help you narrow it down at least.

Non We white lied a little to get the ball rolling which was a good thing really because its taking sooo long (latest being a month until a could get a docs appointment to talk about blood test) if it helps to get your foot in the door why not everyone deserves to be seen.

Mb Im sorry I cant help either to much but as everyone else has said narrowing down your ovulation time and having well timed dtd is probably your best option just remember it only takes one well timed dtd and one sperm.
My DP is the same with talking about things im not sure why I bother sometimes lol

Imaginary good luck with the hour thing for SA my DP cycled to the hospital with it just the thought of that made me giggle.

May Bug Sorry it doesnt look like youve ovulated I had no idea until ttc that we dont always ovulate.

Fed up of being back at work already arghhh lol

Nice to see you back and raring to go blue!

Hubby's SA is a week yesterday! He's stressing about it big time. He's taken half day to 'prepare' and is panicking over where he's going to park and where he has to go. Surprised he's not asked me to get the time off too to help him with car park directions of course

Hi Girls! Hope everyone had a nice bank holiday. The weather was fabulous here! We had a great village Easter event on Saturday and a family dinner on Sunday. Both of these revolved very much around children and so at times, when the whole TTC thing crept into my mind, it felt a bit bittersweet.

I am travelling later this week til early next week. Part work and part social, to visit some friends who live in Spain over the weekend but should be back by a day or two before ovulation.. however I'm really not sure anymore to be honest. I ran out of AC yesterday and am really struggling to get time to go and buy some more before I go and so am considering canning it :-( It's probably a bit rash and dramatic, but after last month I'm a bit discouraged. I'll keep taking the B100 complex though.

Victoria I actually AM having to drop DH's sample off for him!!! It's easier for me, granted, as I work from home, but still hilarious!

Well I work AT the hospital! I guess I could pop out and meet him and we could drop it in together as I know the site better than him.

We have fetes too around here at the community centre, I actually live in the burbs of a city but they insist on calling our area a town! Its across the street so kinda have to go. Its always kid orientated, teddy tombola, bouncy castle. Me and hubby mooch for 10 mins and wander home. I want a kid! No fair!

Well we managed to get dh sa to the hospital in 30 mins successfully this morning, hurrah! I had to take him as he doesn't drive, plus I knew where it was from when I went to the epu last year so that took a bit of the stress out of the time limit. He took it all in his stride bless him. I bet he won't even mention it again now til he has to ring for the results, he's so laid back, but I will be so curious! Glad you're all geared up to go again for this cycle blue. Lindsay your trip sounds lovely, and all home in time for ov - perfect!

Ladies does it matter what kind of grapefruit juice I buy?

Well done imaginary half hour is pretty gd my dp was the same I had to remind him to call for results a few times

Hey all, been to my GP tonight for my blood test results - everything looks just about normal although my LH levels are a little high but not enough to cause concern...apparently I can still conceive even though my af isn't regular so that's good. He was a real stickler for us trying for a full year before he'll even entertain doing anything else but has said if still no af in 6 weeks i've got to go for more blood tests so we'll see...the good bit is that we've got so much going on over the next couple of months that I'm just going to try that good old 'forget about it and see what happens' tactic!

Imaginary - giggling at the thought of you trying to get your precious cargo delivered in time and glad to hear it went well!!

Glad to see you've all had good restful weekends!

Hmmm Laura, my LH levels came back a little high too. It must mean something surely? But I was given the all clear too.

Hi Victoria! I had to get the Dr to run me thru the biology twice - and I took notes!! I could feel him smirking a bit but I didn't feel fobbed off which was good! Sorry if you know all this already but for the benefit of anyone who doesn't he explained to me that it's the progesterone hormone which makes you get your af bleed (and that was normal), and it's LH which makes you ovulate so in theory you can have one and not the other...

He explained LH hormone works from the brain and sends signals to the ovaries to get them ready for ovulation...he said that it may be slightly raised if there's been no response and the brain then tries again (like if you knock on a door and no-one answers you knock a bit harder next time) so I suppose there's the possibility I'm not ovulating and something's awry there. But I'm just going to do the daily poas and have noted ewcm days in diary (which weirdly have been every month regularly so far) and see how I get on with all that. Defo could've been worse I think! I've posted on the other thread that I think you're on too that the most frustrating bit is dtd every other night continuously thru the cycle and not being able to pinpoint a best window! Luckily DH and I have come to a happy consensus and willing to put in the extra work...

hen I first came off the pill I had hormones all over the place. prog levels didn't sort themselves out and I had a 7week AF on month3 after stopping pill. anyway, at the time i was googling like mad snd I read soy isoflavones can regulate hormones so could be with a try Laura. you can buy it in the vitamin aisle in tesco for about 90p for 30p if I remember correctly.
shoot that reminds me, I haven't taken my folic acid for days! oops

had a fight with dh this morning. he is struggling with me looking after dn once a week as it reminds him of our struggles. so hard avoid all this ttc stuff in everyday life. can't ignore dn forever waiting until we have our own! luckily we made up fairly easily and talked. hopefully that will be his last melt down for a couple of months! men!

Ooh thanks that's worth checking out! That sounds so much like how mine has been - bit normal then one af a month long and then nothing, will defo have a look out for that - got to be worth a try! Glad you made up with your DH - I sometimes feel robbed of my mood swings as my DH seems to have more than me since we started all this! Men hey!

glad I'm not the only one, the problem is their PMS can hit any time, no cycle so no predictability!

Hi All,
I had an over the phone consultant appointment with my GP this morning who is lovely. I told her that I've been off the pill for over 3 years and have been having unprotected sex for coming up to two years. She was brilliant and had booked me in for cycle day 20/21 blood test tomorrow, day 1-5 to be done after AF. Tomorrow at the practice I will be picking up swabs for me to rule out chlamydia (which I had done in September but has to be done within 6 months of a referral, 'Stupid NHS policies' according to my GP!) and a sperm pot for my husband for him to do his SA. She wants us both back in a month to check results and go through forms to be sent off for the fertility referral! She was brilliant and said that she wants to get it moved on ASAP.

Can't tell you how relieved I am that we're taking the next step to what I know may be a long road. Thanks to all of you lovely ladies for your advice, support and knowing that I'm not the only one out there going through it all x

Nonconformist that's great your gp is being supportive and getting the ball rolling for you. Makes all the difference and given that the waiting lists are long it's best to get things moving asap! We have been referred but told not to expect an appointment until August due to waiting list- and that's just for further gynae tests, don't know what the wait is after that for fertility clinic but it's a long process I know that much! Hope you feel happier with things moving, I know it helped us.

Cd1 of cycle12 for me today. Feeling lethargic, and like I don't want to do much but that's pretty standard. Glad it's a short working week and have a date night planned with DH Friday night- nice to have something to look forward to. We also managed to sneak in a deed this morning before aunt flo made her arrival!

Not giving up!!! Will keep the wish, hope and belief that it's going to happen. And most importantly will keep shagging to make sure it happens!!!!! Hope it's soon though ;)

How is everyone else doing??? Any news?

Amazing news nonconformist! Good luck in all your upcoming tests x

Only news I have is that I was expecting af today or tomorrow and there is no sign of anything.... I might have got my dates wrong I guess. I've usually got spotting you see. Maybe I'm cured of it this month. and I'm not preg I took a test this morning :-(

Oh vic I was getting so excited until that last line. It is not over till its over etc.
Sorry mama. Gutted for you, but I love your upbeat nature when it comes to ttc.
Fab news re GP Nonconform - glad you had a good experience.
I told another friend last night. I hadn't planned to but she was really upset about another topic and we both ended up crying in my car! Always feels good to talk though.
Happy Wednesday everyone x

Wow non your doctors amazing its taken me 4 nearly 5 months just to get 3 days 21 tests, DP SA and a follow up appointment in may let alone what else doc will want to try.

Vicky Arghhhhhh stupid test stay away AF we dont want you here.

Mama Glad to see someones still so up beat...I am trying my best to be

Jesse I wish I could tell someone else but I really cant bring myself to tell anyone my bro and my best friend know but even they keep asking whats happening.

CD 6 today so AF gone celebrated with DP last night lol just awaiting ovulation and im going to try and persuade him every day that week with the help of some nice lingerie hopefully he wont notice why lol

Sorry, had a moment of self indulgence!

Sorry to hear about af mama, we all know that gloomy crapness of cd1 too well. Glad you've made a little date night with dh tho :-)

Jesse and blue, I'm telling more peole all the time. It feels better to be open sometimes than get the constant "when are you having a baby" question. Still need to tell MIL tho! She's the worst! DH has agreed after his SA we'll tell her. I don't have many friends but the ones I have all know and they don't pry unless I open up. Work is also pretty bad with the qquestions tho!

nonconformist your doc sounds ace, you've got a good one there, very pleased you're moving forward with it all.

mama sorry af got you, although i know you will have known it was coming once you got your spotting it doesn't make it any easier does it?! At least it was less again this month, your ac seems to be working and you have date night with your dh, so plenty of good things too.

Victoria you're not out til af shows her stupid face so hang in there! The absence of spotting is great and it could just be too early to detect a positive, you never know. Will be hoping for you!

jesse it must be nice to have someone to talk to about it. We've not told anyone at all other than my boss who I had to tell last year when I needed time out of the office for lots of blood tests. It would be nice to talk to a girlfriend about it but I can't face the thought of anyone constantly waiting for an announcement or feeling sorry for us - I guess that's why we have each other here to chat to, so I don't send dh insane!

blue glad you have a plan, and a fun one at that! I've just seen the back of af and wondering what approach to take this month. Was gonna try the vitex but with having day 21 bloods i don't think I'm gonna, I think I want to get a natural picture and don't want to risk a supplement masking or altering my results. So just plenty of dtd this month I think!

Non - sounds like you've got a fab GP there, brilliant for you :)

Victoria - not over til af so waiting for good news!!
Mam - argghhhh!!! But at least fresh chance very soon yay!!

Blueberry - bless them they're like sitting ducks sometimes and none the wiser haha! ;) you go get him!!

Everyone else - loving the positivity tonight girls!

Still in no af limbo.....

Having all sorts of pains and twinges going on though. Not allowing myself to feel hopeful. On constant crotch watch!

Also I've had another buying blip.... Bought some pictures perfect for the wall in the nursery :-( gonna have to sneak them past hubby and hide them in the attic or something. I'm so bad.