TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

M33R so glad your feeling positive after your appointment. It's good to have a timeline and to know that you are a step closer to getting a little one.

Martie good luck, I'm sure the worrying never stops but don't let that get in the way as it is a true blessing.

DH will be home from work soon, no dinner for him! There's a baby to be made!!!! Time to kickstart cycle 11!

Haha mama poor dh...

Ive asked for a massage tonight which always ends in dtd sly I know

Good to see some positivity today makes everything seem a little better

My dh is starting to freak out about money once we have a baby bless him at least hes thinking about it.

Although he thinks were crazy with all the pills and ideas to conceive

May, I'm 34 in less than 2 weeks, am sad about that. Didn't expect to be this old either!

Jesse I'm in Bristol. Well technically I live in South Gloucestershire. Any ideas?

Victoria - I am at the other end of the country from you, and I have just googled "south Gloucestershire fertility policy" and it does confirm 2 year referral policy in your area. Postcode lottery.
Seems utterly unfair.

hi all.

glad you got on well at your appt m33r, sorry you have such long waits though. my Dr told me 2 years for referral, and she checked the guidelines they are given too, but when I looked at clinic website it said 1 year so it may be worth investigating local clinics and if they advertise a tear showing the URL to your Dr. I was lucky as I didn't have to fight for day 21 and sa, she said we could do those now but if normal no referral until 2 years. not sure if I feel lucky the sa wasn't great! backwards isn't it!

cd9 here and haven't DTD yet, but dh has now done his neck in big time so fx for late ov this month!

Sorry for self indulgent post.....
Feeling really shit today. I am having a "this is so unfair, why did it have to happen to us?" Kind of day. I know we are only on cycle 11 and, I hae been using Martie as an example that it can happen when you least expect it.
Please someone give me shake and tell me to man up and get on with it.

Sorry to hear you're feeling down Jesse, can't cheer you up coz I'm down too! Was reading the April bus with people on cycle 4 or 5 saying "omg it'll never happen I cried myself to sleep last night" blah blah. I'm cycle 17, cd6 and still spotting. Been spotting with af in the middle since march 23rd. Worst 2 weeks of ttc so far. Especially finding out they'd "forgotten" to refer DH for the SA!

Does Bristol have the same policy as south Gloucester?Guessing it must. I live in s.glos but the hospital is Bristol and I work in Bristol. Where I live is still a suburb of Bristol but I'm outside the county boundary. We have different bins and don't get to vote for the mayor! Lol

Hey ladies.

We all have the highs and most certainly the lows. I've been swinging from one extreme to the next recently including blubbing in public on a train yesterday - so not my usual style.

Feeling better today although that may have something to do with the huge bag of chocolate next to me as I sit on the sofa working from home.

As I also suffer from spells of clinical depression I have learnt a number of ways to try to control my mood and the simplest are the best:

• List the goods things in your life; dh, family, pets, friends - without them life would be truly awful
• exercise: I know it's sometimes the last thing we want to do but I force myself to go for a 30 minute walk every morning whatever the weather and whatever time I get up. ..5am one day this week!
• put things into their real perspective: in real terms what really is the worst that can happen and how likely really is it
• treat yourself to something: anything you want that won't make you feel worse in the long run!

These aren't miracle cures and won't stop hitting lows but they really do help on the whole.

Chin up everyone. We're all fabulous and amazing and whatever happens we can be happy.

Hugs. X

Thanks may. 12 months ago I did the cognitive behavioral therapy 6 week course. I know what I'm meant to do and I was doing so well until the last cycle and a half ish? Since I started getting tests really I guess. Reflexology really helped for a while too. I had a 6 week course then several fortnightly sessions and I'm now down to a "monthly maintainence". The reflexologist is such a lovely caring person too and is like a counsellor at the same time. I can release my feelings to an impartial stranger and I like the release it gives me. I miss the weekly sessions but there is no way I can afford to have more than the monthly one now.

I'm sure than once this infuriating spotting finally stops I'll be back to my old self. I just feel bleurgh and unclean! I'm also confused coz yesterday and today I've been getting ov like pains even though its been cd5&6. Not started opks coz I was still bleeding. Reading up, you can't ov and still be on period. Just think my body must have gone wrong, yeah?

Going to book hair appointment for next week and have eyebrows appointment on Saturday. Might feel better if I feel pretty again :-)

Hugs to all xoxo

Morning people feeling like shit today have had a couple of days with cramping, which for the first time i believed to be ovulation which I was happy about.

Today I have really bad pain on the right of my lower stomach and its really hurting. Its going from a dull ache to a horrible pain and back again.

Just want to cry loads today but im stuck at work

Victoria - I totally agree with you re treats and was thinking of a new hairstyle (but my hairdresser off on mat leave!)
Clothes shopping and buying make up a favourite of mine.

Going to a wedding at the weekend and for the first time, I really don't want to go. Lots of people there who are pregnant, and I remember last year thinking I probably wouldn't be at this wedding as I would be about to drop a sprog. I am so so stupid.
I will be about day 16 on Saturday, and I have no idea if I had ovulated this month, so not sure whether to drink. I just feel like I can't put my life on hold.
We must all remember to live our lives.

Hi everyone, don't want to be here too long, but just wanted to say hi to m33r, mama, and Onelife and a few others and say I'm lurking I'm afraid to see how you're all getting on! Hope that's not weird
And I saw m33r your news, and so happy for you that you are now in an Ivf queue. Although that is no easy option or journey I'm just so pleased you are heading forwards which is so important in the ttc lark!
Anyway off again now, but will continue to lurk if that's ok.
Best of luck to everyone on this thread x

blueberry I get really bad ov pains. What CD are u? Have you had ov pain before? I get pains in lower left only. Like a stabby pain which worsens and calms again. I usually get it at least 2 days and up to 4. It kind of affects my bladder too, like I have trouble peeing, but maybe coz my bladder is also on the left. If ov pain is on the right that wouldn't be an issue.

Its kind of reassuring that I am ovulating if I get these pains. If yours is unusual or lasts much longer I'd see a doc hun x just to make sure as appendix is lower right too x

Thanks Victoria. ..

My first time with pain like this lower right hand side if its still bad tomorrow will make an appointment

On day 14 I think now...hopefully it is ovulation although I wouldn't want it to hurt like this every month lol

Hi sazzle! Love that you are lurking, waiting on our good news, it will come I know :) hope your doing good lovely x

Hi sazzle lovely to see you! Hope all is well. Xx

Right ladies. Any exciting plans for the weekend? I love Fridays.
Out with my friends tonight for girls night. Can't wait!
X

Oh my gosh!!! I go away with work for a week and put thread has it's first BFP! Whoop! I should go away more often!

I see other good need and also frustrating stuff as well; ivf queues, stupid delays with test results... Everything is a wee step forward :-)

Glad to be home and planning a night out with DH tonight. It's been a long week. Cd16 today, still haven't succumbed to OPKs, more because I've been away (which has meant limited DTD so far). I've managed not to think about it too much this month... It's been nice in some ways but ofcourse easier as I've been busy and distracted.

I am wishing a relaxed and peaceful weekend for all of us, but especially if you're feeling a bit low!

Xoxo

Happy Friday indeed!!!

Sazzle, hello lovely, thanks for popping in! We're still here but we're getting closer!! Hope all's going well for you, saw on the bus you're 15 weeks now, WHERE has that gone?! Glad all's ok. And I like that you're lurking

Jesse, enjoy your girls night, sounds fun! Hope there's dancing around handbags involved I'm being whisked out for a meal by dh tonight, so no dancing but lots of scoffing!!

Lindsay, glad you're home and hope you have nice time with dh tonight. You're right, everything we're all going through is one step forward....we'll get there ladies, we will.

Maybug, thank you for your advice, all good tips for us, and v impressed by your 5am walk!!! Respect to you!!

Hope everyone else is good and enjoy your weekend ladies

Morning everyone. The weekend is almost here, hurrah!

Not been around for a bit, trying (and failing) another 'not thinking about ttc' month which involves no mumsnet obsessing! Only thing I've done is ic opk, which was strong positive on Wed. Dtd Mon, Tues and Thurs - might see if I can coax dh into one last effort tonight, but other than that I think were probably done for ttc this month, anything else will just be for fun!

Martie, if you're still lurking - massive congratulations! How lovely to have a bfp on this thread, like Sazzle's success, it shows that it can happen for all of us, even if it takes time (Hi Sazzle!). Well done lady!

M33r fab to be in the IVF queue, I bet that definitely feels like progress. As you say, you're on the countdown to your baby now, which is amazing

Can't believe I'm reading ttc for 2 years in some areas before investigation?! I've not checked but really hope that's not the case where I am. Got my gp apt booked from mid April to discuss the spotting so I might make enquiries then. I did find out that I have a fibroid on my uterus when I had dildo-cam at the EPU back in November but they said it wouldn't be an issue for ttc. Definitely don't want to wait another year and then find out that it is!

Blueberry hope you're feeling ok, I think those pains could be ovulation too, CD14 sounds exactly right!

Jesse cd16 will be fine to have a drink - any potential bean wont be hooked up to your blood supply yet so personally I wouldn't worry about it -as you say, don't put things on hold and have fun!

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

Soooo glad its friday!!

Thanks imaginaryhat feeling better today backs a bit tender around kidney level.

I had the back pain last month but no stomach pain that was horrible.

Although blood tests last month seemed to not show any ovulation.

Last day 21 blood test next week and then doctors appt so fingers crossed either im pg this month or they know whats wrong.

Back from gp this morning and they are not going to Malee us wait any longer. If I'd lived here Back then they would have started tests after just one year. She was surprised I was at cycle 22 with no tests done.
Annoyingly they are going to insist dh does his tests before starting on me which means dh has to get registered immediately!!! I will not allow us to be cause of any delays now.

Have a fan weekend all. Mil coming to stay so no doubt a weekend of dodging baby talk and generally being annoyed ;-)

Hi everyone, I have also had a couple of weeks of trying not to think too much about ttc, having a busy social life has helped but it is back to reality now! It's been so refreshing just living life and not obsessing all the time, but I did have a few moments where I would see a baby or a family and think err when will it be my turn.
Lots going on on here, Martie if you are still reading, Amazing Congratulations to you! SO happy we finally got a BFP!
Maybug glad they are going ahead on tests for you, and definately keep pushing them to avoid any further delays. I hate the fact that so many have to fight with Drs and seem to know so much more than they do, why is it all such a battle!? I also suffer from bouts of depression, ttc doesn't help does it I think I need to learn to start managing mine a bit better, your tips sound really great!
Blueberry sorry you've been in pain, I hope you get some answers in the next couple of days and start to feel a bit brighter.
Imaginary that sounds like a good attempt at dtd, maybe go again tonight if you can, just to be sure!
I hope those of you going out tonight have a lovely time, and everyone else a lovely weekend, I can't keep up to reply to everyone!
Could I just ask for your opinion ladies on what you really think of supplements? I know some of you are taking them and some would swear by them, but I am in a bit of a quandry as to where to go from here, I am tempted to stock up on AC, VitB, Maca and EPO and get some zinc/magnesium for DH, but I don't want to self-medicate too much in case I make things worse, my cycles have been so all over the place recently I don't want to exacerbate things, am I better off just eating healthily/exercising and getting some prenatal vits for DH and I? Oh, and having lots of sex too of course!

Afternoon Ginger,

I think sex is very helpful when trying for a baby

Im taking just a normal multivitamin at the moment and so is the DH im also taking AC and folic acid tablets.

I have only started the AC this month and its also the first month of pain not sure if the AC caused this???

Im a the same as you worried about taking to much although if no BFP this month im going to try the grapefruit juice and pineapple juice and see that helps.

Ive also bought opks so will try this and see if i can work out my ovulations.

DH thinks im mad and shouldnt be doing anything, he doesnt understand how any of this might help including my desire to loose weight. men

Men just don't seem to get any of it! My DH won't talk about any of it at all, I can't tell if it's because it upsets him and he finds it all too emotional, or, most likely, he just get's on with his life and thinks what will be, will be. Maybe we should all aim to be a bit more like men! But then....nothing would ever get done!!
How much AC do you take Blueberry? I think grapefruit juice is a good idea, I will be stocking up on that, although I despise the taste of grapefruit! I have just started on 50mg of B6, but have been scaring myself reading stories of women whose cycles became even more messed up when they started supplementing. I feel like I just want to throw everything possible at it this month, might even try SMEP, just do what Martie did!! Did you get ICs or ClearBlue opks?