TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Hi lil. Work is crazy so I've not had the time to think really but I'm a little indifferent at the moment as I don't expect to be told anything. I'm expecting to just be put in the year long queue for ivf so from now on viewing baby making as a five year plan. A bit low about the prospect but trying really hard to focus on work and other pursuits.

Enjoyed not dtd ing to order this month or opk-ing but now I think I'm in the tww but have no idea where. Not quite sure how I feel about that really...

An exercise in cheering up: everyone needs to think of the best in their life (even better if it's something / someone beyond your wildest dreams that you never thought would be so great) and focus on that ALL day. For me it's me DH. He is funny, clever, gorgeous and spoils me rotten. He is patient and loves me exactly as I am. He works hard for us and does thoughtful little things for me all the time. I shall spend today daydreaming about that; not counting dpo!

Come on girls - chins up!!

Happy Thursday all!

M33R that is perfect! Exactly what this thread needs right now, you have made me :)

ok so here goes...I have 2 people and little dog who put a smile on my face every single day. DH, DS and LD(little dog lol). DH is the most loyal,hardworking, affectionate and loving person who let's me know how much he loves me every single day; he is my soul mate and best friend. DS is the sweetest, kindest, well mannered, funny (very funn), outgoing boy- he is a true blessing and I recognise that every day of my life (he is now 12). My little dog (this may seem funny) is truly a part of our family, I can not imagine life without him despite never being a dog person before getting him. Having him means we have great family walks together, he makes us all laugh and I do believe he brings us all together in a way we didn't have before we got him.

M33R you are right! Life is good and we are all very blessed in our own ways. So ladies let's spend the day counting our blessings on here.

Who's next?

m33r that is absolutely perfect. we do need to remember to appreciate what we have rather than what we don't. I too am nominating my dh for this. and my feelings for him echo yours and mamas posts. dh is my world. he looks after me in so many ways and when I look at him I feel entirely blessed. child or no child, with him I know I will always be happy.

Jesse I will dig out the bottles later and pm you.

Morning ladies,

I've not been on for a few days so loads to catch up on! M33r what a lovely post! Your dh is a lucky man

I am uber excited as it is a very good friends wedding tmrw and I am sooooooo looking forward to it. When she first sent the invites I thought I'd be sat thee with a huge bump (and spent ages stressing that we might not be able to make it at all if the 'baby' was due around that time, ha!) But here I am with no bump (other than a food baby one!) and I don't think I ov til Sat...... so my friends I am planning on lots of drinking and dancing tmrw!!!! Woop woop!!!! She's a girl after my own heart and loves a bit of fizz so I have high hopes for a fab day!!!!!

Cycle wise I'm on cd10, have 3 opk sticks left from last month, meant to do one this morn and completely forgot. Not sure if tmrws too late but we'll see. Not planning on buying anymore after this. Since I've seen the consultant I feel even less like trying things and more just like going with the flow. Cant remember who asked about the Cbfm - I've used it but obviously not worked so far but I have found it useful for pinpointing ov. Just can't be arsed with it all at the mo so going to leave it for a bit and see.

Sorry to lil for af

Victoria, glad the scan went ok. Sorry bout the spotting and cramping, hope it resolves soon.

Mama, hope af hurries the heck up for you, she does drag it out doesn't she. Hugs x

Jesse, my hubby's on wellmans, was hoping they'd retest his SA so we could see if they're making a difference but consultant doesn't want to! (I'm still making him take them though!!) glad you had nice break

Hello to everyone else! Hope you're all ok, almost the weekend!!

Onelife sounds like you have a blessing right there! A friend getting married and you with DH getting sloshed and dancing the night away! Perfect! :)

Feeling the positivity despite af arrival imminent....well tomorrow at the latest....its enroute....and has been for 5 days!!!!!!

Hi ladies!

Great idea for something positive, mine would be my lovely family who are just wonderful (and also why we want to add to it!)

I'm struggling to stay positive at the moment because this stomach cramping is ridiculous now and I just want AF to turn up (3 more days...not that I'm counting!) if it's coming because this month has been cruel to me so it's nice to have someone remind us all to find the joy in the small things, thank you!

Hi can I join, ive just spent 2 days of a couple hours reading the whole lot lol...
Weve been trying for over a year now.

The other half had his sperm test and was told over the phone it was fine and couldnt get any more information and told he wouldnt need any more tests, so its all down to me.

Im waiting for my 3rd day 21 test previous havent shown ovulation and had to have one a few days later which I havent been told about yet.

Felling mega down recently and cant get myself out of feeling sorry for myself and eating lots of food because of it.

I was on the depo injection for 10 years and im sure its messed me up but no one will listen to my worries.

Im generally 28 days to 30 days long and just started AC and im going to to try grapefruit which I hate so this should be fun.

Welcome blueberry! You are in the right place. I am also on AC like a few others it will be good to compare notes and to see if/how it is working. The grapefruit juice gets easier once you get used to it.

My DH also had his SA recently but I'm hoping to get the results printed out so I can analyse them! I'm afraid being told they are fine wouldn't be good enough for me (I'm a control freak). It's good to know the exact results though, I think you can ask GP secretary to print them out.

Hi blueberry. has ur dh only had one sa? they are supposed to do 2. I'd fight tooth and nail for the detail and I'd be making a nuisance of myself. luckily I think my Dr realises that. also a self confessed control freak!

hope everyone's had a happier day

blueberry what lil and mama said. You should get two sa (results really vary) and ask for a print out. Welcome aboard!

Evening all and welcome blueberry.

Still not at my best but well done m33r on reminding us where we should all be.

I also dedicate 'the best' to my dh and in his absence each week my gorgeous labrador who keeps me sane and laughing. She's the closest I've found to baby replacement and tries her very best.

DH back home tomorrow. Feel like I live for Friday every week but boy are weekends Great!

Hi blueberry :-) welcome to the gang.

Sorry ladies but I'm still feeling down :-( This constant spotting all week has just made me feel grotty and useless. Work has been busy and shortstaffed and I'm so glad its Friday!

Apparently the weather is nice this weekend so that should perk my mood a bit and DH has promised to take me somewhere for the day, tho we've not decided where yet. He's been so sweet and supportive through this wks misery, love him. So also the day we are not gonna be out I'm going to blitz this house! That will make me feel better, not living in a dump!

Loved reading your pos stories, had me brimming tho, emotional wreck that I am! Happy weekend to you all and I'll try to be happier next week! X

Morning all how's things?

I'm really struggling with this positivitey thing at the moment but have made a conscious decision next week to see the doctor and press for further tests. I have a feeling they won't do any and I have a feeling it's DH that needs the tests...but these things need to be ruled out don't they.

Maybe I will get him to go and get a print out then he did press for more answers but couldnt get anything out of her. ...some of the receptionists are pretty crap and rude really.

Ive only been taking the AC for 3 days so I will keep you updated...although not sure if linked I did spot yesterday after period stopped 2 days before.

Had dinner out with my partner and my mother in law last night it was the first time but she asked where the babies were...we just made a joke of it but it always feels like someone's kicked me in the stomach

My mother in law is constantly asking about kids. She's the only one without grandchildren out of the uncles and aunts and is feeling left out. Diddums. Keep asking my DH to tell her what is going on but kinda leaving it til after all our tests are back and we know the score. My mum knows most of our story but is not greatly supportive. "if you can't you can't" is her favourite phrase.

Have "proper" af pains today so I'm expecting her any time. Work is mega busy and I'm just not in the mood. Roll on 5 o'clock!

My mum is the worst shes wants to much to be a grandparent...

I havent told her yet because I really dont want to disappoint her, the only people that know are my brother and my best friend.

I have my mum going on, my nan, my other halfs aunt and his friends because they have a baby its really hard not to burst into tears when they ask.

There is never a good time for af sadly sorry to hear its on her way Victoria.

My most fertile week is just starting from what my phone app tells me so lots of doing the deed this week.

I cant wait till 5 o'clock either but have to work tomorrow as well boooo

My mum is already a Nanny so I guess she doesn't mind if she doesn't have any from me. But I hate it when she tries pushing her ideas on me. Like the other day she said "you wouldn't go for ivf or anything would you, yuck, I wouldn't, apparently you have to stick needles in your own stomach, yuck". How do you reply to that?! I just said its a long way off before we will even get referred to a clinic let alone that. Be entering month 17 in April and its month 25 we go back to GP for referral. Unless something is wrong with DH (or me) and we might get referred sooner. Still not got a date for SA and its driving me nuts not knowing. He won't call to ask what hold up is. We were told 3 wk waiting list and its been 5!

My mums always a bit imposing with her views and tries guilt trips but I do things my own way and she knows it.

I just wish they would realise what they are saying.

Males arent to good at following appointments etc up I had to keep pushing mine to call for his results.

Has anyone heard anything about vitamin d being the cause for not being able to conceive.

My mum has really low vitamin d levels and I was thinking maybe I do to and it might be causing problems.

Hi all and welcome blueberry!

Such a busy week at work, I have missed not checking in here! Hope everyone is doing ok. victoria- still spotting? Blaaahhhh! You've got a good hubby though- hope your day out is nice! Also, can you come blitz my house?! lol

AF gone here. CBFM not arrived from friend yet and I am travelling a bit with work the next 3 weeks. So I was thinking..... No OPKs, no charting etc this month. Can this control freak manage that?! What are your thoughts on "taking a month off" from actively trying? Can you, really?

Ouchy, I've been awake most of the night with the worst cramps for months. Was too tired to get up and find pills. Am up popping them now and have really heavy bleed. No Zumba class for me this morning :-(

Am glad to see her to be honest as I've had such a crap week with all this spotting. So today is cd27/1. Its earlier than I predicted. The longer I've been off contraception the less regular I've become. Nothing is predictable. The first 8 months I was 28/29 on the dot. From month 9 I've been 27-32 and my spotting days have increased.

Today I'm looking after myself and hopefully the docs will get in touch next week.

Hope everyone is ok and doing something nice this weekend x

Victoria - I think you should take this to your gp. NICE guidance suggests referral after 1 year for investigation, not necessarily treatment.
publications.nice.org.uk/fertility-cg156/key-priorities-for-implementation
I hope that gives you the right page but you can google it. I genuinely think you should be referred and not be told to wait until 2 years.
Xx

Not good Victoria hopefully its eases off a bit during the day.

Im sure I never used to have cramps before the depo injection but I do get them quite bad now apprently exercise is supposed to help but it really doesnt make you want to do anything at all.

Thanks Lindsay a month off cant hurt but can you really ignore everything lol id find it hard.

Told the DH that next week were having lots of sex his response was do I have a choice haha bless him.

Hi Jesse GP reluctantly aggreed to give us tests after 1 year, though I did have to beg! She said there was no point testing us now as she'd have to run the same lot of tests before the 2 year referral. However she did say if there was something wrong with either/both we could be referred earlier than 2 years.

Anyway I've had the bloods and the scan and DH waiting for his SA. I don't know if my elevated LH levels is wrong enough, as nothing came up on the scan. But we def need the SA before any next steps from GP. Trying to persuade him indoors to chase it up!

Balls, I just clicked on report by accident blueberry hope I dont get you in trouble!

Hi all, hope you are all getting through today ok. Have had a number of comments in the last couple of days which are getting to me, FIL commenting to me about 'when' I will be pregnant, dh also advises me that his dad has been telling him that we would need to 'get a move on', another friend of the family kept commenting on my non-drinking last night and I clearly caught her checking out my stomach. She then asked me was I having cravings! To top it off, my dh's lovely little 5 year old niece asked me this morning when we were talking about mother's day, if I thought I was a mother today? That just broke my heart, obviously a 5 year old means no harm.

I still have pain in both boobs all week. Keep hoping this is a good sign, as ive never had pain lasting this long before. Going to test on wednesday and I am not going to get my hopes up. Had a fairly horrible stomach last night too, just general abdominal pain, much like I would have pre-af but af is not due for at least another week.

victoria you must be relieved to have AF finally arrived instead of just torturing you and a legitimate excuse to get out of the gym! Im always looking for those, lol. Hi blueberry! Always good to have more join this group with new input. lindsay i'd love to take a month off, a month off from my head! good luck with that

so on the theme of best things in your life: my dh is truly wonderful, so supportive. I could not and would not want to imagine my life without him. And my mum is not only amazing but also a fantastic friend. I could only ever wish to be half the mother she had been to me.

Does anyone else thing ttc seems to slow everything down? I spend my time wishing my days away to my fertile time, then wishing away the two week wait- yet knowing there are a max of 11 times to get bfp per year, im not wishing time away either. This ttc is driving me nuts!!